Can anyone help me out with figuring out a mermaid name? I know there's a thread on here for that but I'm bad at working this site >_< I'm supposed to have a name in the next few weeks and I'm so nervous I'll pick something dumb that I won't like forever...
Pick something you have a favourite for.Originally Posted by Rebekah.fish
A hint... I named myself after my fave choc coated orange candies!
Formerly known as ireneho
I picked mine from something that a kid said back when I worked at a daycare. It just stuck. I would say, something you like, or maybe an alteration of a nickname you have or have had?
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You can also find link on google if you type in "Mermaid names" or "fairy names" and see what pops up. That's how i found mine.
Hope it helps :-)
Yea I've done that.. do I think it'd be lame to just use my normal name and tag mermaid onto it?
Using your real name isn't lame at all! You could even use your real name but in a different language and even shorten it, that's how I got my mername
I wanna be where the mermaids are, I wanna see, wanna see them twirling
Swimming around with those, What do you call 'em?
Oh, fins.
I used even twice... vocabulary fail. I'd like to add that you can also look for name inspiration from your favourite story/book.
I wanna be where the mermaids are, I wanna see, wanna see them twirling
Swimming around with those, What do you call 'em?
Oh, fins.
Okay
I believe it would be. Maybe try different words that mean ocean and see if something jumps out at you? Like in greek Okeanos or Okeana means ocean
I wanna be where the mermaids are, I wanna see, wanna see them twirling
Swimming around with those, What do you call 'em?
Oh, fins.
So I am trying to make a friend here where I live and I have a bit of a dilemma.
Back in college I had this group of "friends" that would only invite me to do stuff if I asked (read nagged) just enough about hanging out. If I never asked I was never invited to do anything unless one of them had nothing else to do (my best friend said I was a friend of last resort). One night they invited me to come to hang out at a bar and so I joined. They met up with two others there and they spent most of their time talking about school and work stuff since they were all in the same field and same job*. I wound up being in the back alone and not able to join in on the conversation. A few times my best friend would leave that group and come over to play pool or darts with me so make me feel really included. I hated that because if I wasn't there she would be having a lot more fun instead of having to go out of her way to make me feel included. I have never liked doing group hangouts because I don't like large groups of people, but when trying to make friends one-on-one doesn't work, seems more datey than just friendship.
Right now i am attempting to be friends with someone in theater and I don't know if it is going well. We have hung out once, and sometimes she won't talk to me for days even when I try to send her a message. I know she's not completely turned off against being friends because during the last musical I really made a mess of things and after she forgave me and gave me a second chance. I am trying to do better then even my friendships in college but I don't know the line between trying to hard and not enough. I know if I try too hard people I turn people off and they leave me, but if I don't do anything I am forgotten (best friend even said that). In college I basically had to find the right amount of beggyness, which I felt was way too much.
So tonight I asked if everything was alright and if she wanted to talk because I knew she had a DR appointment today and it sounds like it didn't go well. Then she told me tomorrow night her and some others are going to a bar for karaoke and its open to all if I want to join. And thus dilemma. I know if I want to make friends with her and in general I need to do more group activities (and the one I do she can't because she is unable to dance do to physical conditions), but I worry that I will be uncomfortable there and not have fun, and she won't be like my friend in college and try and keep me company. And I am not sure if and what I should tell her before hand, because I am not sure how it would effect our friendship progress.
What should I do? Should I tell her about last time and just how much?
*You might be wondering how I became friends with this group. Well my best friend started sitting with me at meals when she saw me alone and crying during dinner one night, and out of pity became my friends. Everyone else was a friend of hers that I would get to know.
Last edited by Merman Chatfish; 03-10-2015 at 12:07 AM.
I am so sorry i have been online for such a long time.
Else i would have definitely replied sooner.
One thing that i have learned over the years is that true friendship is effordless.
That means, no begging for attention/hanging out/going out/ talking/emails etc.
With true friendship you talk when you talk, you meet when you meet.
I have a really good and close friend who i rarely see, we email and even emails are rare.
She has health issues and i know she will email me when she wants, or feels like it, or has the strength to do so. That means there can be months before i hear from her again and that is fine.
Because true friendship does not mean that you HAVE TO spend time together a lot.
I myself do not like being in crowds myself, or hang out with a lot of people. I was always the one left out myself so i simply stopped doing that.
Being able to talk to people online and have online friendships was a blessing for me!
I have learned never to force myself on anyone ever again.
One friend of mine is a very one sided friendship.
She messages me only when she has guy trouble.
If i message her she never has time or simply cuts the conversation short within a minute.
This is NOT true friendship.
I know that when she messages me there is guy trouble and it ALWAYS is.
She simply has me in her life for advice and a talk and i leave it at that.
I never try to attempt more than that either.
I have another friend who i can write to about anything, about any deep emotion and she will reply when she can.
If that means i don't hear back in a week, a month or whatever, i know she has not forgotten about me but simply has other things on her mind right now.
Do not be discouraged. If going out is not your thing, then simply don't do it.
Maybe you are more like me and the online friendships are more for you.
I find surrounding myself with so called friends not to be for me.
I prefer having 1 or 2 true friends i can contact when needed and i know they are and will always be there for me.
That is all i need.
In your case, you could bring up that you do not know what to do or how much to contact someone.
But i feel it should flow naturally.
I know it has been a long time since you have posted this so i would like to know how you are doing now.
Hope to hear from you!
The type of friend I would like is one that hang outs, going geocaching or watch a movie with that is willing to give a hug when I need it. I just see people on Facebook hanging out with other people and wish I could be like that. And how am I suppose a girlfriend and eventually get married?
Honestly, I would focus more on just being friends with people. Worry less about getting a girlfriend and eventually getting married down the road. Baby steps. It's hard being alone, it's hard having people telling you to get out there and "make friends". Making friends isn't easy. You're going to worry, you're going to overthink situations and stress yourself out needlessly. I've been there. I'd say go to the karaoke thing, if you're uncomfortable and not having a good time. I'm sure your friend will understand if you tell her you're just not comfortable but appreciated being invited.
Totally agree here.
Let me tell you something about myself that may be comforting for you and to show you are not alone in this.
My mom married my dad at 18, got kids in her early twenties so i was under pressure (by myself) when i did not find a guy to marry at 20 and felt i had failed.
From my 20's to when i was 25 my surroundings started pressuring me (not my parents or brother) but others, neighbours, friends of the family etc. Asking why i did not have a boyfriend yet, that i should be going out meeting people, that mister right was not going to pop up at my front door like magic, i had to work for it bla bla bla.
All bullsh*t.
Anyway, i did not get involved with a man until i was 26, just because it was not in the cards for me yet and i was fine with it. I had no idea how to act, what to do etc.
Anyway, after that ended i met 2 other guys over a time of 2 years who treated me horribly, one of who i knew from my real life and trusted. (so again, real life friends don't mean sh*t)
When i was i believe 28 i was on facebook talking to a friend of mine, she told me that a friend of hers would send me a friend request, she felt that him and i would hit it off and have lots to talk about.
She said he did not have many friends and she wanted him to make more friends.
So i accepted his request.
I live in Europe, the Netherlands, he lived in America PA.
We wrote everyday on facebook, played online games together which was fun and after 3 weeks or so we skyped for the first time.
We had both been hooked from the beginning but you never know what happens untill you skype and actually see each other and hear each others voice and laugh.
But we were in love instantly.
10 months after we had met on facebook he came over to visit me. He came over Decembre 3rd and was supposed to leave at January 6th i believe....well....he did come here but he never left
He left his family and his life in America behind for me.
Now we live together, have a business together, have a life together, something i thought was never going to happen for me.
What i am trying to say is, meeting people in real life is overrated, it really is.
People told me i could not meet mister right at my front door, but guess what? I met him in my living room! LOL
And the best thing? I did not have to dress up and go out for it but was in the comfort of my own home.
Have you ever thought of looking for friends online?
I mean, there are dating sites, but there may also be sites for people seeking friendships.
I know there are a lot of people who don;t like dating sites or anything like that but i have heard great stories about it.
A friend of mine was on one and he met girls that he did not want to be with, as in a relationship (after they met they did not hit it off that way) but they became great friends.
If meeting people in real life is not your thing like me (i was always to third/fifth wheel, not sure how the saying goes hahaha) and always feel left out or felt sorry for, then online may be the best option for you.
It's worth a try right?
You could try both dating sites and (if they exist) friendship sites.
Oh I know about just focusing on friends only.
I did do Karaoke, and she pounced on someone who was rude to me, which I thought was a good sign...now I am blocked on Facebook.
I have tried dating websites and even on tinder saying I am just looking for friends. I don't know if there are sites just for making friends. I do have a few close people on here at least. Sadly there arn't really any mers in Iowa.Totally agree here.
Let me tell you something about myself that may be comforting for you and to show you are not alone in this.
My mom married my dad at 18, got kids in her early twenties so i was under pressure (by myself) when i did not find a guy to marry at 20 and felt i had failed.
From my 20's to when i was 25 my surroundings started pressuring me (not my parents or brother) but others, neighbours, friends of the family etc. Asking why i did not have a boyfriend yet, that i should be going out meeting people, that mister right was not going to pop up at my front door like magic, i had to work for it bla bla bla.
All bullsh*t.
Anyway, i did not get involved with a man until i was 26, just because it was not in the cards for me yet and i was fine with it. I had no idea how to act, what to do etc.
Anyway, after that ended i met 2 other guys over a time of 2 years who treated me horribly, one of who i knew from my real life and trusted. (so again, real life friends don't mean sh*t)
When i was i believe 28 i was on facebook talking to a friend of mine, she told me that a friend of hers would send me a friend request, she felt that him and i would hit it off and have lots to talk about.
She said he did not have many friends and she wanted him to make more friends.
So i accepted his request.
I live in Europe, the Netherlands, he lived in America PA.
We wrote everyday on facebook, played online games together which was fun and after 3 weeks or so we skyped for the first time.
We had both been hooked from the beginning but you never know what happens untill you skype and actually see each other and hear each others voice and laugh.
But we were in love instantly.
10 months after we had met on facebook he came over to visit me. He came over Decembre 3rd and was supposed to leave at January 6th i believe....well....he did come here but he never left
He left his family and his life in America behind for me.
Now we live together, have a business together, have a life together, something i thought was never going to happen for me.
What i am trying to say is, meeting people in real life is overrated, it really is.
People told me i could not meet mister right at my front door, but guess what? I met him in my living room! LOL
And the best thing? I did not have to dress up and go out for it but was in the comfort of my own home.
Have you ever thought of looking for friends online?
I mean, there are dating sites, but there may also be sites for people seeking friendships.
I know there are a lot of people who don;t like dating sites or anything like that but i have heard great stories about it.
A friend of mine was on one and he met girls that he did not want to be with, as in a relationship (after they met they did not hit it off that way) but they became great friends.
If meeting people in real life is not your thing like me (i was always to third/fifth wheel, not sure how the saying goes hahaha) and always feel left out or felt sorry for, then online may be the best option for you.
It's worth a try right?
You could try both dating sites and (if they exist) friendship sites.
What do you mean you're blocked on Facebook?
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I sent her a message saying good luck that night for the musical she was doing (would have been doing tech but I am living 4 hours away this summer). I noticed the next day I am blocked, so I can't message her or view her profile. As far as Facebook is concerned when I am on she does not exist.
hmmm, have you been messaging her back and forth? would you be willing to show us the exact conversation or exactly what you said?
maybe you acciedntally mispoke somewhere that we can point out and explain to you?
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Mermaid Lunette, you took the words right out of my mouth. If we could see the text between you two we may be able to point out where it may have gone wrong.
yes^
people usually don't just block someone for no reason at all, it is very likely a misunderstanding happened.
User formerly known as "LittleBlue222".
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