Big, scary decision to make

[Mer-Crazy]

So some friends of mine are moving to the closest major city to us (which is about an hour and thirty minutes away) and at first I was really, super sad because I was going to miss them like a lot, but then the people they were going to be moving with canceled so now I have the opportunity to move with them which is great and an amazing opportunity since I'd need to move there anyway if I want to pursue my studies. As well as the fact that most of my friends live up there and so do a lot of the mermaids.

However as someone who's never really lived away from relatives before I won't lie and say I'm not absolutely terrified about the idea. I'm worried that I won't be able to support myself financially, or that I may fail at being an adult I suppose. I've never really been fond of change in life and although I keep saying I want to move every time the opportunity has presented itself I've made excuses not to go. So does that mean I don't really want to move or does that just mean I'm afraid?

I feel so torn because I believe I want to move, but I'm also very comfortable where I'm living now and I'm not sure what to do or how to handle this. Any advice, etc would be greatly appreciated :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

You're afraid and that's totally normal.
It'll be such an amazing experience for you if you do go. if it doesn't work out, then you can always move back.
I've never been away from my family for a long period of time before until i married but we're always in contact with each other when we miss each other. and if anthing you can always contact them if youre feeling a little lost.

[ShyMer]

When I first moved out, I feel like some of the main things that personally gave me trouble were the things I didn't know that I didn't know.
Embarrassingly, it was stuff like roommates weren't going to wash an odd dish I left at the sink because I didn't think I had time to do it myself. Things like who buys the paper towels and toilet paper. Who's supposed to vacuum the common area and empty the trash? It was all stuff I should have known how to deal with already, but for whatever reason, I didn't. I was kinda a sucky roommate at first.
I guess what I was missing was just knowing what the expectations were. You probably won't make the same mistakes I did (I hope), but I would suggest making sure you know what you expect going in and what they expect from you. I guess communication is a big part of that too. Do you know that passive aggressive notes site? That was us. Moving on...

I was also thinking about what you said about failing as an adult etc., and I want to encourage you in that even when you make dumb mistakes, you're gonna figure it out and do better next time. It might be embarrassing and frustrating, but you'll learn as you go.

I go to visit my parents a lot, actually. I think I've been lucky that I haven't ever been too far away from them, so I can go visit whenever I get lonely or need to hug a poodle or two. It's definitely nice to be on my own though. I think you'll like having the freedom of being on your own, but being able to go back when you want to.

So there's a bunch of random thoughts to sort through. I hope they're at least a little helpful :)

I hope that if you choose to go, that you have a fantastic experience! Good luck with everything!

[Aisling]

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I support the idea of taking the plunge. At the end of the day, take some time to evaluate your fears more deeply, understand them, and if you feel like they're ones you can take a chance with? Do it. Prepare, but remember:

“A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.”
-- Albert Einstein.

Best wishes! <3

[Merman Jamie]

I say go for it. I think you will enjoy it.

As others have said you can always call or go home and visit because its not far.