MY FAMILY IS DRIVING ME TO DRINK/JAB MY EYES OUT...

[Seatan]

So I've been both ill and stuck at a lake cabin with my family for several days, and I have noticed (as my parents fight with each other, I--the grown child--fight with my parents, and we all fight with the annoying grandmother) that situations that would be treated with humor or a shrugged shoulder end up with huge fighting and taking offense when it's just the fam. Like my dad and I just had a screaming blow out over my pet bird jumping onto the chip bag. Does anybody else have this problem with family? It's like they're just more annoying--except they are really not. It's just like these people have an exceptional ability to get on my LAST NERVE. We just react to each other in ways we would never react to other people (mostly with anger and annoyance). I AM READY TO JAB MY EYES OUT and EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS HAS ME ON EDGE. I need a freaking psychiatrist. This does NOT make me look forward to time with the family. Anyone else have this problem with just the relatives?

[Mer-Crazy]

I often find I don't fit in with my family. They're all very loud and social and short tempered. Whereas I am more quiet, reserved and very patient and calm. So whilst I'm not in your exact situation I often watch my family get into huge screaming matches over things I think are stupid. Sometimes it's a lot easier to just sit there quietly and let them fight, rather than getting into it. If the aggression is aimed at you, even if you think you're in the right, sometimes it's just easier to say sorry in recognition that something something to do with you has annoyed them and then leave it. Don't respond or walk away. At least that's how I survive a family of hot heads.

[Merman Dan]

Keep in mind that if you jab your eyes out it will be harder to find the booze! ;)

[Seatan]

Keep in mind that if you jab your eyes out it will be harder to find the booze! ;)

Yeah, especially since I already have the smell all over me... *teeters*

[SeaGlass Siren]

I had this exact same problem with my parents. after i moved out things got really wierd. we became a lot closer. not sure what happened. but one time when i moved back in we all started arguing again. I dunno.

maybe people need to be apart in order to stay together.

[Seatan]

I had this exact same problem with my parents. after i moved out things got really wierd. we became a lot closer. not sure what happened. but one time when i moved back in we all started arguing again. I dunno.

maybe people need to be apart in order to stay together.

Yeah, I'm an only child so we are close, but we would KILL each other if we had to live together. I haven't lived with them in eleven years, and definitely need to keep it that way!!! I think it's the whole "used to be a child, now an adult" thing that throws us off if we spend too much time together. Like my parents don't remember that I'm thirty years old and an official Grown Up Person now. Of course, they were fighting like toddlers today about who threw away an old, broken alarm clock, so maybe it's just being stuck at the lake with little to do!

[SeaGlass Siren]

honey i feel you. v_v

my dad still treats me like i'm a baby. HIS baby. which i mean in theory doesn't sound so bad because i'm his child and he loves me but... then he starts thinking i can't function without him and he starts actually babying me. =.= like stahhp.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Are you sure its not cabin fever? Being all stuck together in one place for a long time, can do that...

[malinghi]

If they get freaked out over little things you can't really change that. I agree with mer-crazy that the best approach is to not engage. I've been in situations like that and it's not easy to just shut up when the things they say or do make you want to give them a piece of your mind, but when you remember that it will just lead to a fight and there won't be a satisfying resolution of mutual understanding, you're better off just doing whatever it takes to ignore them.

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[Aziara]

It must be contagious... My mom and I have been at each other's throats for the past several months.
She claims to have been struck by lightning. Now everything ISN'T her fault. Forgetful? Lightning. Irritable? Lightning. Batsh*t crazy and repeating the same crap over and over(And I mean that literally. She gets stuck on one topic and won't let it go even when it is explained away)? Oh, that'd be the lightning. Two days ago I tried to explain something to her and she rolled her eyes at me like a sassy teenager. If I did something like that? You mers in Michigan would have heard her screaming at me. As it was, I told her to get the hell out of my house. Yes, she comes to my house and tells me everything I do wrong. As in, I buy the wrong brand of toilet paper!! Seriously? Why is that a big deal?
Talk about a tense and awkward 4th of July celebration. We ignored each other mostly.
She keeps insisting that I have post partum depression. Nope. Just don't want to deal with your BS, thank you. I am perfectly happy when I'm not dealing with nutjobs.
I sometimes want to disappear off her radar. Like, move and get a new cell phone number without telling her. Good luck hassling me when you can't find me!

[Fun123joker]

i feel ya. ever since one of my older sisters came back she's been on a cleaning craze which made my mom to go on a cleaning craze and cleaning is good and all but it feels like thier forcing it. then her and my other older sister fight over who did the most work and how they barley did anything and god i never thought i would ever hate cleaning more then i did

[Mermaid Alea]

Oh man I don't understand why family seems to bring the worst out in me. :doh:

[Meronica]

My mother and I get along pretty well, but my father is going through a midlife crisis and bought himself a new sports car. He traded in the family's SUV for it, so whenever we all go somewhere my sister and I have to squeeze into the awkward backseat. He's made a lot of really bad financial decisions lately as well, and I find myself constantly covering bills/lending them money even though I'm in college and have a pretty crappy part-time job outside of mermaiding.

I see so many "adults" acting immature and making stupid decisions and it just really irritates me. I guess some of us never really "grow up" in the sense of being responsible or level-headed. I hope you all stay strong and don't let your family members' crappy behavior upset you too much.


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