Paid Gig at my coffee stand (Washington State mers)

[Meilyn]

Good afternoon everyone!

I've been really busy with my coffee stand business that I sold my tail for last year and business has been really picking up as of lately :D Just talked to my landlord and he approves so let's get the ball rolling!


In 1-3 month or so's time, date undetermined because I want to be able to work out the details with qualified individuals, I'm looking to hire 2 mermaids with realistic tails to take pictures with the customers and to swim/splash around in a medium sized shallow portable pool about 2-3 feet deep with children in front of my coffee stand in Black Diamond, Washington for a customer appreciation day of sorts. :)

The pay will be hourly and it's too be determined/negotiated. I'll also pay for travel/gas as well.

I'm looking for a possible commitment of 4-6 hours on a Saturday afternoon from something like 11am-4pm .
Food and drinks will be provided as well as the amenities needed for a mermaid to transform. (Small tent, pool, audience ;) There will be a food truck at the event as well that you would be able to eat at for free.

Please contact me in my personal facebook as I don't usually check mernetwork messages if you're interested. :) ^_^

[SeaGlass Siren]

Yay! I'm so happy you're doing so well :D

[Mermaid Jaffa]

That would be an awesome job! You get to sit around all day in your tail, splash kids with your fluke, get free coffee. GL to whoever gets it!

[Little_Orca]

Ug, if I was closer and had a better tail I'd be all over that.

[Meilyn]

Due to the nature of what had happened in the North Pacific pod and how my account is now blocked by facebook because of the false reports that this picture is considered a harassment because I had posted asking for proof that what I was accused of was true, which it is and was proven to be entirely false and that the statement of what I said was all made up and no proof can be made that I had said such things about anyone :

This casting call is closed and I'm canceling the event.

I guess I should have known better to even think that this might have had the possibility of a good outcome instead of false accusations and getting my personal accounts blocked by multiple false reports that I was harassing anyone when that person approached me with bad intent to begin with.

This is also why I don't come on here anymore as well as why I've stopped associating myself with this forum and most mermaids altogether except for the ones that I talk to on a regular basis.

No matter what you do or how you try to provide for the mercommunity in ways others than sheer advice, this happens. Over. And over again. It happens to tail makers as well I've seen. And that is why besides Raina and her ladies, rarely anyone who knows mermaids and the community that are professionals considers even putting large events, casting calls, and/or asking for hiring help with paid events and gigs.

I had 2k put aside for what I had hoped for to be 2 mermaids along with the hope of possibly providing more opportunities throughout my line of connections to other businesses.

Mer-people : Don't ever falsely accuse others of saying or doing merely in an attempt to make yourself feel or look better after contacting them with an intent to argue or cause harm because you did not agree with what someone else has for a preference or what their opinions are. That's the exact same reason as to why tailmakers don't actively hang around and interact with the community anymore. I've seen it time and time again but I didn't expect it to happen to me with a mere casting call; the accusations and being told that someone did this or that when there's no proof because it was false to begin with.

And with this, I shall retire from Mernetwork and all the facebook groups. Good luck in all your mer-ventures everyone. I can't keep dealing with having my accounts blocked because I didn't pick this or that person or when this person doesn't like my tail preferences when it comes to corporate events and hiring for corporate events.

Good luck and good bye.


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Sorry to hear :( ugh. If there's anything I hate more it's the people who defend her after we repeatedly called her out for lying.

Guys. Just stop enabling that kind of behaviour. Lying isn't ok. Looking for drama isn't ok. It is never ok.

[Calizaire]

I remember you starting up this venture and I found myself wondering a while back how it was going! So glad it's working out well for you!!
I'm sorry your event didn't go as you'd hoped and I'm sorry to see you leave here for good, I hope you will change your mind.
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[kellygracee]

This is so sad :( so sorry. If I lived close by I would of brought my team of performing mermaids and high performance tails for people you know and trust. I too own a business and feel awful that happened to you.


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Even though Meilyn didn't bully or harass anyone, because of the amount of reports from a lie, she's blocked from Facebook. she didn't even instigate the messages and she was the one who got messaged first in bad intent.

[Calizaire]

Not to take a side, only cause I've been dying to use this one all day.
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[AniaR]

I am so sorry you had to go through this, it's a perfect example of what I've been talking about in some of the other threads about how we need to think of people's motives before we instantly believe, as our community is full of people who want to manipulate and take from each other.

You were trying to do something kind for the community by extending this invitation, and they've twisted that around for their own personal gain.


This is also why I don't come on here anymore as well as why I've stopped associating myself with this forum and most mermaids altogether except for the ones that I talk to on a regular basis.

No matter what you do or how you try to provide for the mercommunity in ways others than sheer advice, this happens. Over. And over again. It happens to tail makers as well I've seen. And that is why besides Raina and her ladies, rarely anyone who knows mermaids and the community that are professionals considers even putting large events, casting calls, and/or asking for hiring help with paid events and gigs.

You are so right, and even I struggle because so many people are just OK with the bad things that happen and even rationalize it so they don't have to feel guilty. I feel it's very important to share information with the community but I have to take frequent breaks. I had someone today tell me I don't care about other mermaids - why the heck would I make my vlogs, my free tutorials, and help people? I don't get money from that, lol. Then there's the arguments I call people names- which I actually strive not to do because hey it gets you banned, lol. They never have any proof of that, or really anything, beyond the fact they get mad when I present facts.


Mer-people : Don't ever falsely accuse others of saying or doing merely in an attempt to make yourself feel or look better after contacting them with an intent to argue or cause harm because you did not agree with what someone else has for a preference or what their opinions are. That's the exact same reason as to why tailmakers don't actively hang around and interact with the community anymore. I've seen it time and time again but I didn't expect it to happen to me with a mere casting call; the accusations and being told that someone did this or that when there's no proof because it was false to begin with.

This is what happens time and time again. They have no proof. And when you challenge them, they call you a bully. So everyone attacks your character, instead of looking at the fact the person is lying and intentionally creating drama.

It's ironic, because I don't even know you. I'm not sure if we've exchanged two words on here. BUt there will be people on this forum who will think all kinds of things simply because I'm validating your post.


PS who the hell is Valerie anyway? H20 profile picture? People "know" her? Sorry I look on her FB and it looks like 6 people in the mer world know her. I observe she has done work for Mermaid Una, who has gone on many the rant about silicone tails. I guess that level of defensiveness just breeds?


I am so so so sorry you feel like you can't be on this website anymore or FB groups. It's exactly the type of situation I am talking about in many threads this week that people seem to rather fall for the "bully" line then look at actual truth and proof. It will be the community's downfall for sure.

[PearlieMae]

WHAT THE F###ING HELL IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE???

[SeaGlass Siren]

Here's the thing though, people actively chose to not look at Valerie lying, instead blamed Mei for calling her out and all sang "why can't we support each other?"
Uhh because it's not ok to enable a liar???

[Madison MerFaerie]

Meilyn I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this BS... I really hope to see you on Facebook and the forum again in the future, but I understand your decision to leave.

I really hate that there's people in this community who have nothing better to do than cook up drama...

[AniaR]

Here's the thing though, people actively chose to not look at Valerie lying, instead blamed Mei for calling her out and all sang "why can't we support each other?"
Uhh because it's not ok to enable a liar???

Literally the entire mer-community right now. You just summed up the biggest issue.

[SeaGlass Siren]

RIGHT??

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Don't close the casting call, it means she won. Open it up again, suck it in for a little while, find the two merfolk, be successful and stick it in her face.

:cthulhu: I was looking for the middle finger emoticon but there isn't, and this is closest to how I can describe it.

[Theobromine]

Uhh...wow, clearly I missed something big. I reaponded to the casting call but then never saw what happened after (I'm overseas atm so not checking stuff much). Sounds like there was some super uncalled-for behaviour :( so sorry that happened to you Meilyn, if you see this...

[Meilyn]

Because of the below, I feel like everyone should get to know this person and my side of the story. I'll be damned if they come here and pretend to play innocent without others knowing this. I wouldn't give 2 poops about this had it not affected my life outside of the mercommunity/facebook as I'm hiring for 3 positions within my company and I can't send a god dam message to anyone of the potential hires/future trainees because of this. If it needs to be moved to the drama thread, then someone move it, but originally, I created this post in excitement and with the hopes to help other mers get their name out and make money for themselves as well as to show some of my customers how much they mean with a themed customer appreciation day in one of my favorite themes: mermaids
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Every post I make keeps getting deleted on Facebook no matter what, the girl that Valerie had claim to have messaged her these things actually spoke up and admitted that she never messaged me, I had never said these things, and that we never even contacted eachother outside of what has been publicly posted here in this group.

Valerie had contacted me in a private message that she had sent, with ill intent to begin with as she states in the highlighted part that she had messaged me in regards to defending others HOWEVER her first responses to me were of feined friendship by recommending me a girl so I felt the need to explained to her my reason to why I set my requirements the way that I do. As well as why someone with a fabric tail won't work out.

In which she starts assuming what I was looking for (barbie mermaid type as she had called it even though I hadn't ever made any speciation in terms of a physical appearance for the casting call, only for the quality/type of tail) so I felt the need to correct her as I took that to be insulting that I wouldn't consider hiring due to weight as I'm sensitive to weight issues, especially regarding myself in any way, even this way. Then without me bringing anything up about her, she decides to start talking about herself so I laid it out for her that nothing was personal. Nothing I had written in explanation was directly directed towards her. Then she admitted that she had contacted me, not to truly recommend others as I was led to believe, but to instigate negativity out of me I presume. Why else would you contact someone you didn't already like, pretend to be possible friend, and then bring up stuff to them with straight up rude comments except to anger them?

In which, when the girl had spoken up in the now deleted thread, she had said that she never told Valerie that I had said any of those things, so it was actually Valerie that must have thought those negative things about her tail and the girl as, to reiterate - the girl Valerie was talking about and myself, we had never contacted each other outside of this group and it had been clarified. The girl was upset as well from the tone of her "WHY WAS THIS BROUGHT UP? I NEVER SAID THAT SHE SAID THOSE THINGS ABOUT ME!" - not exact quotes, but close enough.

But Valerie clearly states, in the blue, that she had been contacted but she couldn't provide proof of any sorts and throughout the now deleted post, and her conveniently deleted messages, she began to trip over her lies as her now obvious friend, Yyulia, after some facebook digging, defended her and called me a bully for trying to find someone to apologize/make up to for if I had made them feel bad by any means. The girl whom I assume Valerie was referring to, had actually written out that she understood my reasoning and the purpose behind it and that she wasn't upset after it had been clarified that I was leaning more towards silicone/sequined tails. Herself, (I've forgotten her name altogether) and myself in our brief conversations from my point of view, we've both mutually agreed upon the fact that both of our perceptions of tails are completely different and that's okay.

Why am I posting this? Because due to the mass reports by Valerie, my main account is blocked from all facebook communications from doing anything and everything except reading as I was reported, over and over again all day, as harassing her JUST BECAUSE I tried to get her to either pull proof or fess up to her lies upon lies and deceptive behavior.

In which, I deal my business through some of the messages and now I can't even contact the girls I was interested in or anyone through my Facebook. So yes, I'm angry. What do I want out of it? To expose the compulsive lies, deceptive nature, and victim role playing of someone, Valerie, who has actually physically affected my life outside of the internet AND my business communications of which, I even have the rights to sue at this point.

You can clearly see and tell that in no way, was I harassing Valerie when I posted that in the group in an attempt to pull the truth out of her, in which, one of the suppose 2 girls that contacted her spoke up and clarified that I had never said any of this to her and that she didn't need defending by Valerie.

I can't believe that someone would have gotten so angry with my personal preference and seeing that my preference would not allow them a chance to qualify for an event to the extent that they would create slander and spin a web of lies to make themselves look as if they were the victim of a harassment when they were the first ones to contact me in the first place.

Thank you to all who have supported me and who do see the problems.

The entire point of the post I had made was to either find a person whom I unknowingly hurt to make up for it, or to expose what I felt to be a lie. In which case, after even looking through my own messages and reading what was written over time of that entire post, I felt the need to continue until she admitted that she made it up because she didn't like my preferences for the casting call.

I am debating at this point whether or not to contact a few mers whom I see to fit the bill even though they have no clue I've been lurking every so often and I know one of them probably haven't even seen the posts.

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So a little bit about myself and my business. Some of you probably remember a part of random parts of my life as I had talked of it before on the forums.

I lurked, then finally decided to make an account after the down payment to my old Finfolk dragon flower tail.

After getting it, my health just plummeted and I still can't really find a reason why except that maybe it just wasn't meant to be at that moment in time.

I lost my job, snapped a bone in my foot swimming in my tail, and magically developed tumorous cancers that I didn't know I had for months. All within a 4 month time period. Then cancer tumor #2 grew, same spot, different side of my body. I didn't know what they were at the time but by 8am in the morning (i got up at 5 for work), I would feel so sick and tired like I needed a nap. All the time. Until I finally went to the doctors to check out why these bumps kept getting bigger and why every time they flared up, which was becoming closer and closer in time frame rapidly, I wouldn't be able to walk or live. She sent me to a dermatologist. Derm diagnosed me with tumorous cancers that acted severely fast as it had already started eating through my leg. ..
The day after I had them cut out of me in both legs, I went upstairs in the hospital to check out my eye cause it had been irritating me for a while. The day after that, I had my eyeballs literally cut open to remove splinters. 3 surgeries in 3 days.

Got better, wanted to try swimming again but because of poor health, I had gained 40lbs. Broke my foot again. Did a shoot in my tail with broken foot. Photographer still hasn't released or responded back or given me the photos with nothing but excuses. Opportunity arised with bills.

Sold my tail to pay for both.

I've now been in business for a few days over 4 months with my coffee stand. We're doing better than our competitors down the street who have been there for over 4 years. I've accomplished the equivalent of what it usually takes others an average of 1.5 to 3 years time in terms of business in 4 months. Some weeks I work from 4am up to 1am the next morning for days on end. Because if that though, I'm already in the process of expanding and I'm ALSO working out an offer that was given to me by a local restaurant to expand my business into their space and to provide my products through their menu as well. I have many who've told me that they want to invest in my company already and 2 who are helping me as well as guiding me business wise.

I did ALL of this working on minimum wage before I bought my own coffee stand. Right now I'm barely breaking even still but because of the standards I set for myself and others under me, the customers appreciate it. And still, I'm not in the red, I'm breaking even, even before being in business for less than 6 months. It typically takes a regular business anywhere from 3-7 years before they can see any profit. I'm doing it in 4 months because of the quality output and the standard that my customers and their friends and family know me by.

So yes, that's what's going on right now and that's why this little thing means so much to me. Anyone under me by any means will have to live up to the standard I set for myself and my employees even though you'll only be contracted for 1 day at a time.

You will almost never hear of a business created by a homeless highschool drop out who joined the military for a family then got out due to injuries while even unable to walk daily, still found a job working minimum wage without possibility of advancement (all small businesses) at the same type of job for 3-4 years before owning their own business of the same nature and already breaking even before being in business not even for 6 months in a town that she had never even heard of or knew about before buying a failing business and reinventing it quadruple the sales within just a month's time.

That's my story. That's what's currently going on since I stopped mermaiding. That's my reasoning to my standards. Thanks for reading my angry fat rant. I want to so badly reply to some of your fb messages but I can't push any communication buttons without being told that I'm blocked from ALL facebook communications. I can't even like shit or react to it. That's how fucked up toys situation is right now and it's supposed to last for a while because of some stupid girl in her 40's that I'm assuming to be angry at me because she wouldn't be able to meet my casting call qualifications even if she was an adult and not just a grown compulsive lying child who likes to instigate things by telling people that she's privately messaging them to get out of the drama while creating more for that person who thought they might have potentiality been a decent person in the beginning.

-end rant-

[Meilyn]

Pictures that kept getting deleted on fb.

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And the picture/post that was sent into facebook that lead me to having my communications disabled.
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Like, I report porn when I see it every once a month it so from a fake fb trying to get likes and rarely any of them ever get taken down. But this? Can't help but wonder if she spent over an hour with her friends just mass reporting me for this.

[Mer-Crazy]

Just a small thing, I can't read the screen capped messages you sent to her (not sure if we're supposed to or if it's integral to the post) just thought I'd let you know.

[AniaR]

let's lay down some facts here

1) she works for UNA who is so incredibly hateful toward silicone tails that her posts would be considered racist if silicone and fabric were races lol. that kind of hate just breeds hate.

2) Guess what, in the performing world, it wouldnt matter if you asked for a super skinny silicone mermaid only. IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. if I were to hire someone and put them in one of my tails, they would need to fit the same measurements as me.

3)She refuses to provide proof to anyone who approaches her about this. That makes her participating in slander/libel.

You rock girl, dont let an obvious troll get you down.

[AniaR]

Just a small thing, I can't read the screen capped messages you sent to her (not sure if we're supposed to or if it's integral to the post) just thought I'd let you know.

if you're viewing from tapatalk it shrinks them, I can see them fine on my pc

[Meilyn]

Than you Raina -le sigh-

:/ Can't post my morning Facebook greeting. I . R. Sad. I've sent in a request for them to look into the situation as well but I haven't gotten any notification about it. My ban is still apparent for the next few days.

[AniaR]

karma comes around for all those types of people.

[Meilyn]

You know, for these types of people though, karma doesn't even have to touch them in my opinion. They'll end up unhappy by ruining their own lives around them themselves. People who pretend to befriend others for the sake of self validation and pride preservation with bad intentions while beginning that attempt of a link to friendship have tendencies that are toxic to themselves and their own lives. Just looking at her face and what it shows along with the things she's said and posted: I feel bad for her for having such a horrible life that she feels the need to try to find outlets for her inner frustration with herself, her image, her weight, and her professional life.

Everyone can fit into some type of stereotype and generalization and from my inference, she's one of those will be single forever moms who hates herself, her own image, and the situations she puts herself in. She's toxic to herself, she doesn't need karma to even glance at her because she'll unintentionally do it to herself then play victim.

[Echidna]

:jawdrop:
that's really awful. I'm sorry you had to go through all this.

The reporting system on FB (and YT) is dumb. You just need a certain number of reports to shut someone down.
But you'll get it back once they've sifted through and realize you did nothing wrong.

I wish you all the best for your health and speedy recovery.
(And holy crab, how did you put splinters in your eye?)

[Meilyn]

Oh I've already recovered from last year's health issues :D mostly. .. I think? I hope o.O

I got eye splinters from either this thing:
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Or this thing
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The melons that I grew last year evolved :eye twitch: if you get too close to them, they shoot their little white hairs onto you and it itches and irritates like a mofo. That's a fuzzy caterpillar. It's supposed to be brown but their color tells you how winter is going to be. I looked too close at either one of them without my glasses/eye protection on.

Fuzzy nasty caterpillars and winter correlation:
The darker the color and the closer the stripes are will typically mean that it's going to be a cold, longer, and harsh winter.

Lighter color + stripes farther apart means that it'll be a mild to no winter with warm winter temps and that it'll be quick to pass.

This year we had literally almost no winter but a ton of rain so I guess it works lol. Using nature to forsee the seasons

[shimmygoddess]

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. It is hard to deal with people like this and I have learn to screen cap everything as proof, so I am glad you have been doing that. Dont let one person discourage you. perhaps take a day or two to let the drama sink in, figure out what you need to do to mentally let it go, then come back stronger and kick ass..LOL


Than you Raina -le sigh-

:/ Can't post my morning Facebook greeting. I . R. Sad. I've sent in a request for them to look into the situation as well but I haven't gotten any notification about it. My ban is still apparent for the next few days.