MermanJamie
02-14-2018, 01:10 AM
So yesterday was my birthday (the 13th), and about half an hour ago, (it's almost 1:00 am in NYC), I had a chat with my big brother. I'm not sure if I've mentioned it before, but I'm the youngest of three kids, and my brother and I have been very different my entire life. He's tough, strong and athletic, and behaves in a very masculine way, though he is somewhat nerdy. I am a sparkly little theater dork who has been bullied my whole life for being too much like the girls my age.
So I walk into a room, and see my brother sitting at the computer. I sit down and talk to him. The entire family had talked earlier about the woman I frequently am scared of disappointing, and her intense prejudices due to religion. I told him I was worried about her being mean about certain interests (I didn't specify) and calling me gay and feminine. Heck, the other day when I talked to her about trying dance, because I'll need to do it to be on Broadway, she called that gay. Every time I bring up a new interest to her, she tells me guys don't do whatever it is I want to do, and whenever I tell her they do, she rolls her eyes and says "Oh, you mean gay men."
He gave me quite a direct reply. He told me to simply learn to not care what she thinks due to her insane religious beliefs, if it's really something I'm passionate about. I don't need to share this with her, and just concentrate on myself and my family. He told me my mom wasn't so accepting of him when he got into certain nerdy card games that she didn't think were good for his social life. So he told me just to be true to myself. And lately I have been feeling that more and more, knowing that there are so many people out there who love what I love. I also told him I was going to talk to a girl I know, who has been one of my best friends since childhood. We tell each other a lot, and she's very outspoken on a lot of these conflicts, so I think it will help to have an understanding and supportive friend to back me up.
So that's pretty much where I am now.
And all my fishy friends out there, I'm so happy it's been almost a year now. And I'm so proud of this year in my life, joining the forum, making so many new friends, and discovering more and more about myself each day.
Hugs and lots of Birthday Wishes,
Love,
Merman Jamie :group hug:
So I walk into a room, and see my brother sitting at the computer. I sit down and talk to him. The entire family had talked earlier about the woman I frequently am scared of disappointing, and her intense prejudices due to religion. I told him I was worried about her being mean about certain interests (I didn't specify) and calling me gay and feminine. Heck, the other day when I talked to her about trying dance, because I'll need to do it to be on Broadway, she called that gay. Every time I bring up a new interest to her, she tells me guys don't do whatever it is I want to do, and whenever I tell her they do, she rolls her eyes and says "Oh, you mean gay men."
He gave me quite a direct reply. He told me to simply learn to not care what she thinks due to her insane religious beliefs, if it's really something I'm passionate about. I don't need to share this with her, and just concentrate on myself and my family. He told me my mom wasn't so accepting of him when he got into certain nerdy card games that she didn't think were good for his social life. So he told me just to be true to myself. And lately I have been feeling that more and more, knowing that there are so many people out there who love what I love. I also told him I was going to talk to a girl I know, who has been one of my best friends since childhood. We tell each other a lot, and she's very outspoken on a lot of these conflicts, so I think it will help to have an understanding and supportive friend to back me up.
So that's pretty much where I am now.
And all my fishy friends out there, I'm so happy it's been almost a year now. And I'm so proud of this year in my life, joining the forum, making so many new friends, and discovering more and more about myself each day.
Hugs and lots of Birthday Wishes,
Love,
Merman Jamie :group hug: