Merman seeking advice

[NeverlandMerman]

Before starting this please be assured I am NOT asking for a handout I wanna earn my tail

the thing is I live on a fixed income due to a required weekly infusion I receive small SSI monthly with a rent bill. The drug is 70k a dose so the insurance with SSI and my parents insurance can’t be messed with as I’m not allowed to go more than three weeks without it.
what are some ways I can save up enough to buy myself a silicone tail? I know it won’t be cheap as these things are works of art. And I do wanna earn it I’ve grown up beating the odds by myself so I like to be self suffice to person, but I do know there’s no harm in asking ppl for advice or inisight to help get pushed on right direction
again this isn’t a pity me post just a sincere reaching out for advice from the pros and other ppl going through similar situations

I know I’d be happy with a basic bright yellow tail, if possible accented with some electric blue scales any ideas about how much something like that would run?

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Are you allowed to work? Maybe you can find a part time or casual job for a few hours a day.

[.MermaidSophia.]

Have you perhaps considered a latex tail? I've heard a little about them here and there, and they're not very common, but they are significantly cheaper than silicone.

There's also the option of making it yourself, which is like a tenth of the cost of buying one. But of course the tradeoff is you're not getting the masterful hand of somone who's been in the business for years, and you have to do everything yourself :lol: I've been doing my own and it's actually pretty fun!

Also, I think most tailmakers will set up a payment plan so you pay in weekly to monthly installments instead of the full price upfront. Don't take my word for that though, that's just a tidbit I picked up somewhere

[Merman Storm]

Saving money is all about spending less. I have a fully solar powered house and two Teslas. I did not get them by having a gigantic wage.

Look at every purchase and ask, is it needed? Can I get it for less somewhere else? Or by waiting for a sale? Or by buying in bulk? Or by fixing something I already have? Or by making it myself?

Drive slower on the freeway, save gas money.

Look for on-line jobs, or as suggested above, part time jobs.

[NeverlandMerman]

Are you allowed to work? Maybe you can find a part time or casual job for a few hours a day.
I’m not officially allowed to work, if I did and got caught they could cancel my SSI insurance based on the grounds that well if he can work he don’t need it. When like most things in life not so straight forward
will try to look into side jobs perhaps that pays cash

[NeverlandMerman]

Have you perhaps considered a latex tail? I've heard a little about them here and there, and they're not very common, but they are significantly cheaper than silicone.

There's also the option of making it yourself, which is like a tenth of the cost of buying one. But of course the tradeoff is you're not getting the masterful hand of somone who's been in the business for years, and you have to do everything yourself :lol: I've been doing my own and it's actually pretty fun!

Also, I think most tailmakers will set up a payment plan so you pay in weekly to monthly installments instead of the full price upfront. Don't take my word for that though, that's just a tidbit I picked up somewhere

i think I’m sold on silicone for the look and longer durability, though mine shouldn’t too active just lounging in mostly. I like the more solid look.
Lol I am not very good when it comes to do it yourself projects, creatively I’m good at writing, or taking photos, but that’s about it lol so I could see trying to make a tail turn bad quick haha I respect all people that can and do though!
hmm payment plan if offered could be very helpful I will definitely look into that! Thank you!

[NeverlandMerman]

Saving money is all about spending less. I have a fully solar powered house and two Teslas. I did not get them by having a gigantic wage.

Look at every purchase and ask, is it needed? Can I get it for less somewhere else? Or by waiting for a sale? Or by buying in bulk? Or by fixing something I already have? Or by making it myself?

Drive slower on the freeway, save gas money.

Look for on-line jobs, or as suggested above, part time jobs.
all great advice and for most part I’m pretty tight with my money, a least that’s what ppl tell me but I do know some areas I could skim the fat!
due to medical and insurance issues jobs are hard but I am gonna try to find side jobs
thanks man!

[Ransom]

Hope things work out for you, Neverland! I'm transitioning from self-employment back into full-time work, and freelance writing works well if you can secure a retainer client. Try posting on Upwork or finding a niche you can serve and pitching clients directly.

Were my wife in better health (long, sad story) I'd have been able to control my time and afford a silicone tail long ago.

[Echidna]

If money is that much of an issue, why not go for a fabric tail first?
There are many that look just as nice as silicone, I actually prefer fabric over silicone.

You can even get your exact dream tail if you send in your design to a manufacturer that offers custom tails, like magictail.
If you haven't swum in a tail before, I'd highly recommend that anyway.
I've seen many people with zero tail or even monofin experience get broke over their "dream tail", and then they couldn't swim in it.

[NeverlandMerman]

If money is that much of an issue, why not go for a fabric tail first?
There are many that look just as nice as silicone, I actually prefer fabric over silicone.

You can even get your exact dream tail if you send in your design to a manufacturer that offers custom tails, like magictail.
If you haven't swum in a tail before, I'd highly recommend that anyway.
I've seen many people with zero tail or even monofin experience get broke over their "dream tail", and then they couldn't swim in it.
I just don’t like the look of most fabric tails I’ve seen silicone is more detailed in my opinion and what my heart is set on, plus I’d rather go ahead and save up for what I want than a step in between ya know?
Also due to medical issues I may not ever actually five in my tail (I know that kinda makes my dream pointless in some people’s eyes) but I’d love to lounge in shallow pools, on swim floats, on the beach with waves washing up on me or even chilling at my home ha.
I have trouble swimming as it is (I’ve mentilned in a couple other threads) I may one day swim but my main goal is to get the tail :)
exact dream tail ? Design? Intrigued in this

[NeverlandMerman]

Hope things work out for you, Neverland! I'm transitioning from self-employment back into full-time work, and freelance writing works well if you can secure a retainer client. Try posting on Upwork or finding a niche you can serve and pitching clients directly.

Were my wife in better health (long, sad story) I'd have been able to control my time and afford a silicone tail long ago.
ransom I hope the transition goes smoothly for you, I’ve looked into writing jobs but I live in small town not many places hiring or needing writing work, it would need to be local so I could be paid cash so not to mess with insurance
I am sorry to hear about your wife, we can’t help when life throws those hurdles at us but it’s awesome you focused on her over yourself man! Definitely in my thoughts

[Keiris]

Not to dissuade you, Neverland, but Echidna is right. Have you seen the new line from Magictails? Very detailed and colorful with a large fluke and in the water they look very impressive! Full silicone tails usually weigh about 35 to 45 lbs depending on the fluke and the designer and are difficult to get into and maneuver without experience, not to mention the price. I have gotten to where I hate carting around that heavy thing and much prefer the ease of one of my lighter tails and in my beach pics they look just as good.

[AniaR]

I have some resources on how to save money for a mermaid tail :)

http://rainamermaid.tumblr.com/post/114092704290/tips-on-saving-money-or-fund-raising-for-a-mermaid

[NeverlandMerman]

Not to dissuade you, Neverland, but Echidna is right. Have you seen the new line from Magictails? Very detailed and colorful with a large fluke and in the water they look very impressive! Full silicone tails usually weigh about 35 to 45 lbs depending on the fluke and the designer and are difficult to get into and maneuver without experience, not to mention the price. I have gotten to where I hate carting around that heavy thing and much prefer the ease of one of my lighter tails and in my beach pics they look just as good.
Not dissuaded man I’ve looked at magictails, I’ve looked at mertailors eco tails even tried one on when they went on a deep sale and I’m just not a fan of fabric like tails forcwhst im wanting silly I know I
mine is mostly for photos and lounging, I do get it will be heavy though
and I do appreciate all the alternative ideas I know it’s a long shot for what what I’m wanting :/
ever since I was little I’ve lover mermen from the Disney channel move 13th year, h20 just add water, sabrina down under, I’ve always wanted a realistic tail
to me the fabric types just don’t give the shape and look I want for myself I can tell they are far more easily able to swim in, but as I may not ever actually swim or dive just sit in shallow waters idk seems like weight should not be the biggest factor

[NeverlandMerman]

I have some resources on how to save money for a mermaid tail :)

http://rainamermaid.tumblr.com/post/114092704290/tips-on-saving-money-or-fund-raising-for-a-mermaid
Thank you ill check it out!!

[Merman Storm]

I’m not officially allowed to work, if I did and got caught they could cancel my SSI insurance based on the grounds that well if he can work he don’t need it. When like most things in life not so straight forward
will try to look into side jobs perhaps that pays cash

Well, you can work a little, at least enough to pay for a tail:

Social Security work incentives at a glance

Trial work period —
The trial work
period allows you to test your ability to
work for at least nine months. During
your trial work period, you’ll receive your
full Social Security benefits regardless
of how much you’re earning as long as
you report your work, and you continue
to have a disability. In 2018, a trial work
month is any month your total earnings
are over $850. If you’re self-employed,
you have a trial work month when you
earn more than $850 (after business
expenses) or work more than 80 hours in
your own business. The trial work period
continues until you have used nine trial
work months within a 60-month period.

Extended period of eligibility —
After your trial work period, you have 36
months during which you can work and
still receive benefits for any month your
earnings aren’t “substantial.” In 2018, we
consider earnings over $1,180 ($1,970
if you’re blind) to be substantial. No new
application or disability decision is needed
for you to receive a Social Security
disability benefit during this period.

[deepblue]

Hi Neverland,
For side jobs: Have you checked your local Craigslist for labor wanted? Often times, people need someone to clear brush, or clean yards, etc. Depending on your physical ability, of course. Depending on your education level, there's tutoring, which is often paid under the table.

Since you're on SSI, do you already know about earned vs 'unearned' income rules? SSI and SSDI are different sometimes, but a lot of sites that give basic info don't know that.

Good luck!

[NeverlandMerman]

Well, you can work a little, at least enough to pay for a tail:

Social Security work incentives at a glance

Trial work period —
The trial work
period allows you to test your ability to
work for at least nine months. During
your trial work period, you’ll receive your
full Social Security benefits regardless
of how much you’re earning as long as
you report your work, and you continue
to have a disability. In 2018, a trial work
month is any month your total earnings
are over $850. If you’re self-employed,
you have a trial work month when you
earn more than $850 (after business
expenses) or work more than 80 hours in
your own business. The trial work period
continues until you have used nine trial
work months within a 60-month period.

Extended period of eligibility —
After your trial work period, you have 36
months during which you can work and
still receive benefits for any month your
earnings aren’t “substantial.” In 2018, we
consider earnings over $1,180 ($1,970
if you’re blind) to be substantial. No new
application or disability decision is needed
for you to receive a Social Security
disability benefit during this period.

we tried this went through all the forms and even placed me in a job few days later SS calls to let us know I had been in wrong category and I need to not accept any payment (which I didn’t) and I am on SSI not social security that was a year of paperwork and meetings wasted, told me had I accepted payment good chance I’d gave lost my ssi benefits including the insurance
was hopimg this would have been a win for us but supplemental security income is what I have and they filed me as social security income

[NeverlandMerman]

Hi Neverland,
For side jobs: Have you checked your local Craigslist for labor wanted? Often times, people need someone to clear brush, or clean yards, etc. Depending on your physical ability, of course. Depending on your education level, there's tutoring, which is often paid under the table.

Since you're on SSI, do you already know about earned vs 'unearned' income rules? SSI and SSDI are different sometimes, but a lot of sites that give basic info don't know that.

Good luck!
I’ve never quite trusted Craigslist my family once had a bad experience And I basically was told to avoid it, lol
ss for ssi I know what you make is deducted from payments to a point and only allowed so much
with all my medical appointments and random sickness at times I can’t commit to a full time job as it wouldn’t be fair to my employer, plus I’d have to do full time to continue making what I do now, and after trying the ticket to work and almost losing my insurance (treatment med is 70k a dose which I receive weekly) I just got scared to try messing with anything in that area
I have mentioned to friends and family I’m looking to earn a little extra money to start saving and they said they’d spread the word and look for little things I could do for them that they could spare some cash for

[deepblue]

It's very frustrating, isn't it? They make it really difficult to get designated for SSDI, it takes so long, and most still end up on SSI. 2/3 of applicants are turned down immediately. It's happened to three friends of mine who have debilitating illnesses. One of them actually passes out if she sits up too long, can't walk because of the same- she has a rare blood pressure disorder- but they put her through her through the ringer until it was too late to keep applying for SSDI.

I'm on SSDI and when it was just me and my child, here in So Cal, I saved in a manner a lot like was mentioned above.

The way I'd do it was to ration everything. I'm WW2 homefront history geek, and I admire greatly the way people of the time, esp in the UK, managed during rationing. So, I'd get paid, and take care of the priorities first- rent, phone/Internet, groceries for the month. Which I'd separate into boxes, one for each week. This allowed me to observe what was left over and not needed, and with a growing child it sometimes changed. Any remaining cash was then divided into even amounts for each week in the month, and I'd use it for fresh produce at the farmer's market (because prices were good and I could walk there, as I had no vehicle), and needs that might arise like crayons, extra Band-Aids, inhaler refills, etc. I rarely went out, but when I did it was easier for me than most because the DJs are usually people I know and would offer to guest-list me, and I didn't have to buy my own drinks pretty much ever. Over time, I didn't buy myself new clothes very often and when I did, they were from Target or second hand places, and I made my own basics sometimes, out of things like an unused duvet cover or disused pillowcases. At the end of the month, whatever tiny amount that was left could go into savings, but once in a great while I'd buy myself a small treat.

So I advise seeing where you can cut back, and if you can do it in an organized fashion, you'll get to some saving faster.

I understand wanting a silicone tail. And there's a lot good advice here about why they're not recommended (https://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?7106-Why-we-don-t-advise-full-silicone-tails-for-your-first-tail/page6) for first time tailswimmers. And I agree that most fabric tails don't have that look- until I saw Finfolk's fabric tails (https://www.finfolkproductions.com/collections/mermaid-tails). They are incredibly realistic, with flukes that take various standard monofins. Personally, I'm not a huge flukes gal, but I love the smaller flukes on their Mythic line (a neoprene base with resin scales). And I like that price. And that you can buy extra scales and add them to the tail to change the pattern.

But that's all I'm saying about that, before you tell us all to STOP RECOMMENDING FABRIC TAILS! :D It's because we care. But yeah. If your heart is set, it's set.

[NeverlandMerman]

It's very frustrating, isn't it? They make it really difficult to get designated for SSDI, it takes so long, and most still end up on SSI. 2/3 of applicants are turned down immediately. It's happened to three friends of mine who have debilitating illnesses. One of them actually passes out if she sits up too long, can't walk because of the same- she has a rare blood pressure disorder- but they put her through her through the ringer until it was too late to keep applying for SSDI.

I'm on SSDI and when it was just me and my child, here in So Cal, I saved in a manner a lot like was mentioned above.

The way I'd do it was to ration everything. I'm WW2 homefront history geek, and I admire greatly the way people of the time, esp in the UK, managed during rationing. So, I'd get paid, and take care of the priorities first- rent, phone/Internet, groceries for the month. Which I'd separate into boxes, one for each week. This allowed me to observe what was left over and not needed, and with a growing child it sometimes changed. Any remaining cash was then divided into even amounts for each week in the month, and I'd use it for fresh produce at the farmer's market (because prices were good and I could walk there, as I had no vehicle), and needs that might arise like crayons, extra Band-Aids, inhaler refills, etc. I rarely went out, but when I did it was easier for me than most because the DJs are usually people I know and would offer to guest-list me, and I didn't have to buy my own drinks pretty much ever. Over time, I didn't buy myself new clothes very often and when I did, they were from Target or second hand places, and I made my own basics sometimes, out of things like an unused duvet cover or disused pillowcases. At the end of the month, whatever tiny amount that was left could go into savings, but once in a great while I'd buy myself a small treat.

So I advise seeing where you can cut back, and if you can do it in an organized fashion, you'll get to some saving faster.

I understand wanting a silicone tail. And there's a lot good advice here about why they're not recommended (https://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?7106-Why-we-don-t-advise-full-silicone-tails-for-your-first-tail/page6) for first time tailswimmers. And I agree that most fabric tails don't have that look- until I saw Finfolk's fabric tails (https://www.finfolkproductions.com/collections/mermaid-tails). They are incredibly realistic, with flukes that take various standard monofins. Personally, I'm not a huge flukes gal, but I love the smaller flukes on their Mythic line (a neoprene base with resin scales). And I like that price. And that you can buy extra scales and add them to the tail to change the pattern.

But that's all I'm saying about that, before you tell us all to STOP RECOMMENDING FABRIC TAILS! :D It's because we care. But yeah. If your heart is set, it's set.

Heyy first off no I’m not getting frustrated with all the fabric suggestions as I mentioned I’ve tried a mertailer eco tail and it’s cool just not exactly what I was hoping for, but I sincerely love just being able to discuss this openly with ppl for a change and I welcome all advice thoughts and just general chat :) I can tell all the comments here are coming from a place of care, sorry if I’m coming off stubborn lol I really am taking it all to heart.

YEAH!!! They make it so freaking impossible thankfully we started applying 3 years prior and made it just in time for when my infusions required it when I came of 18 I believe. And with all the hoops and ppl who don’t know their job it’s easy to mess stuff up but this is ppls lives they are handling!

im going to focus on budgintinf more my family tells me I do a really good job compartiovely I do like you say factor in my payment and pay out all bills first save a little for gas and food and some goes into savings (gonna start another pocket savings with change and cash that I have easier acess to. And I have started keeping my change

going forward I know a few areas I can scrape in order to
Save more video games, frivolous purchases, (however I will keep the occasional book and manga purchases) lol
but definateltly need to buckle down a little tighter
my biggest issue is when medical problem blows up and my savings gets eat up ha
but im hopeful
and again I value everyone’s input and the time they took to respond to me:)

[Kathleen Everett]

Saving money is all about spending less. I have a fully solar powered house and two Teslas. I did not get them by having a gigantic wage.

Look at every purchase and ask, is it needed? Can I get it for less somewhere else? Or by waiting for a sale? Or by buying in bulk? Or by fixing something I already have? Or by making it myself?

Drive slower on the freeway, save gas money.

Look for on-line jobs, or as suggested above, part time jobs.

Yeah, I would totally in what you said. Its all up to someone to make tight expenses with that you can save a lot. Its true also that you can find work online that can help you earn.

[aurora85]

Sell stuff on Facebook. Sell your old stuff you no longer use. See a free dresser somewhere on the curb cause college kids are moving out -grab it and slap it up for a really good price online. Know of an item that people are always searching for? If u are out thrifting and see the same item, grab it and flip it on Facebook for a profit. Don’t go crazy trying to hoard a bunch of junk and don’t be a dink about your pricing. If u are smart about it you can make some decent cash and it’s no different than having a yard sale but with less hassles


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[BlueCorvidae]

creatively I’m good at writing, or taking photos, but that’s about it lol

This is probably the most uncomfortable suggestion I've ever made for somebody, but there is a market for writers that can make you some money to play with or save up if you're comfortable with it. People pay for writing commissions, usually if you're willing to write short stories that are uh... adult in nature.

I'm an artist myself, and I'd jump on the fetish commission cash cow if it wasn't for the fact that I'm not a fan of taking commissions. It is by far the easiest market to get into.

[Arking]

This is probably the most uncomfortable suggestion I've ever made for somebody, but there is a market for writers that can make you some money to play with or save up if you're comfortable with it. People pay for writing commissions, usually if you're willing to write short stories that are uh... adult in nature.

I'm an artist myself, and I'd jump on the fetish commission cash cow if it wasn't for the fact that I'm not a fan of taking commissions. It is by far the easiest market to get into.

Just to jump in here, if you're going this route use a pseudonym. A lot of writers use different names when they choose to go off brand in their writing and while yes it's traceable back to them eventually it's a good practice to get into to protect yourself and your brand.

As for other ventures you could pursue, Society6, Etsy etc those are all places you can start and start small with little to no investment or business experience but the reality is that it takes a great investment of time and dedication to make a profit and while making a profit is important, following your passions and having patience doing it helps a lot. I know too many artists that get caught up doing things they aren't passionate about and burning themselves out because they aren't invested in their own work or the money doesn't come in fast enough to seem worthwhile. It can take years to be financially successful, and while overnight sensations do happen they are rare and require almost perfect timing.

Good luck on your goals, perseverance pays.

[NeverlandMerman]

Just to jump in here, if you're going this route use a pseudonym. A lot of writers use different names when they choose to go off brand in their writing and while yes it's traceable back to them eventually it's a good practice to get into to protect yourself and your brand.

As for other ventures you could pursue, Society6, Etsy etc those are all places you can start and start small with little to no investment or business experience but the reality is that it takes a great investment of time and dedication to make a profit and while making a profit is important, following your passions and having patience doing it helps a lot. I know too many artists that get caught up doing things they aren't passionate about and burning themselves out because they aren't invested in their own work or the money doesn't come in fast enough to seem worthwhile. It can take years to be financially successful, and while overnight sensations do happen they are rare and require almost perfect timing.

Good luck on your goals, perseverance pays.

Not sure I could do the sexual writing as I’m kinda niaeve to that stuff lol, but good tip on using differ name. I just have a lot of roadblocks for making a profit anything online would require an account which would be connected to my infor and bank, and if I were to make a profit non cash and social security found out they could terminate my benefits an insurance
it’s fristrationg at times