B!TC# IT OUT!

[Echidna]

Does non-boring porn exist? :O

[Celaeno]

Does non-boring porn exist? :O

I've seen some really funny parody porn films.

[Celaeno]

Just need to vent, feeling irritated because I asked husband to get baby settled in his crib so husband and I could get ready for bed and have some time to chat without wrangling kiddos, and instead he leaves me holding baby while he gets ready for bed and leisurely puts his left-over dinner away, so I finally just put baby down myself and when husband sees baby is already down, he just goes up to bed without so much as a "good night". :S
So now I'm staying up later to have some time to myself and try to de-irritate so I can go to bed.:mad:

[SeaGlass Siren]

Wen you make him breakfast in the morning... Remember to piss in it. =_=

[Naufra]

Wen you make him breakfast in the morning... Remember to piss in it. =_=

SeaGlass, have I mentioned how much I adore you?

[SeaGlass Siren]

:P

[Merman Dan]

Don't bother with breakfast.. his leftovers are in the fridge... waiting for you. ;)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

SeaGlass and Dan are both wonderful, brilliant people. Just gonna let my opinion on that matter be known. Again. :D

[Celaeno]

Wen you make him breakfast in the morning... Remember to piss in it. =_=

Eh, he's gone in the mornings before the rest of us wake up. I still got plenty of sleep.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Then put urine in his dinner :P

[Celaeno]

Then put urine in his dinner :P

I'm not angry enough for that, plus the toddler likes to sneak food from Poppa's plate.

[PearlieMae]

A little baby poop on the manifold of his car engine is always a treat once the car warms up on his way to work. ;)

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Just need to vent, feeling irritated because I asked husband to get baby settled in his crib so husband and I could get ready for bed and have some time to chat without wrangling kiddos, and instead he leaves me holding baby while he gets ready for bed and leisurely puts his left-over dinner away, so I finally just put baby down myself and when husband sees baby is already down, he just goes up to bed without so much as a "good night". :S
So now I'm staying up later to have some time to myself and try to de-irritate so I can go to bed.:mad:

That's intensely aggrevating. Knowing how men can be, he truly may not have been paying attention. I'm hoping that's the case at least... :'>

[Sabrina the Selkie]

A little baby poop on the manifold of his car engine is always a treat once the car warms up on his way to work. ;)
Pfffft. Ha.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

On an unrelated note, I used to play roller derby.
In an unprecedented moment of hubris, I decided it was a good idea to rollerskate to my school.
With a lighter weight pair of skates than I'm used to.
Fitted with indoor wheels.
With the worst toe stops known to man.
After not skating for a year.

And of course I thought "well, with no one actively trying to knock me over, I probably won't fall! So I can totally get away without wearing knee pads!"

The result: my indoor wheels faltered when going over some pebbles. I automatically went into a controlled one knee fall, realized what I was doing, turned it into a basterdized front-first version of the baseball slide at the last moment to preserve my knee-cap, and ended up with a nicely road-rashed shin. I managed only a glancing blow to my knee proper, thank the gods.

[Mer-Crazy]

Outh >.< I used to play Roller derby too and skates, no matter how good they are, are the WORST for outdoor skating. So rough and bumpy. Inline skates are much nicer on roads and such :) I hope you're okay though, luckily it doesn't sound too bad. We did an outdoor skate once and one of our girls stacked it, had to get like 12 stitches in her knee.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I am pretty okay. Just irritated. :)

[Merman Chatfish]

I want to make a body mold of my legs so I have a reference to make alterations for my tail and stuff, but I don't have any friend I can ask to help me.

[-Annwyn-]

Errruuughhhh, stupid shift work.
I'm having to stop my TKD classes because work has me working all sort of crazy shifts that I can't swap and I am missing out on so many classes that it's going to me impossible to maintain any kind of fitness I'm TRYING to build.

On the flip side, I did sign up for the gym today because I got no excuses not to work out.

[Mermaid Clara]

so i just started working at jcpenney a week or two ago. A girl in my department is leaving and i'm covering two of her shifts. She told the guy who makes out the schedules, but going onto the online thing for the work schedule and i only see that he added the Monday shift. Friday is completely blank, so i don't know if i go in and cover her shift or if someone else took it. I'm trying to reach someone in the store but nobody is answering!!!! Just being new to the job i have no idea who to call because i don't have any of the department heads' numbers or the managers numbers, i'm just stuck calling the different departments until someone picks up so they can forward me to a manager.
sorry if this isn't a big problem, but i'm just frustrated and need to bitch.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That is a decidedly appropriate bitch for this thread, Kelly.
I send sympathy~~~

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm too blind to drive apparently. I swear if my prescription doesn't perform miracles when I go back to the DMV on Monday (I forgot my glasses) I will personally throw myself off a cliff ~sarcasm~

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Glasses do. I'm too blind to drive, also, but my glasses make it possible.

[Mermaid Mystery]

the thing is, my eyesight doesn't significantly improve with my glasses on.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

What's your prescription, Lab?

[Imogen Finnly]

I want to make a body mold of my legs so I have a reference to make alterations for my tail and stuff, but I don't have any friend I can ask to help me.
Try doing that duct tape dummy thing.

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[Celaeno]

That's intensely aggrevating. Knowing how men can be, he truly may not have been paying attention. I'm hoping that's the case at least... :'>

He redeemed himself. My back seized up twice last week(lingering effects from my fall down the stairs mid-August) and he took the toddler to work with him so I could self-medicate and rest up in bed with the baby, then took both kids when he was home so I could sleep all night.

[Mermaid Mystery]

tfw someone's a grown ass adult but can't act like one

[Lotus the Mermaid]

He redeemed himself. My back seized up twice last week(lingering effects from my fall down the stairs mid-August) and he took the toddler to work with him so I could self-medicate and rest up in bed with the baby, then took both kids when he was home so I could sleep all night.
Yay! Haha I'm really glad he did! I would have been upset, too. <3

[Naufra]

Sometimes I just have to remember what Thumper says: If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

. . . Even if the asshole is being incredibly offensive.

[Azurin Luna]

Grah! Why can't cyclist not use normal lights on their bikes?! I had to stop abruptly because a cyclist showed up at the roundabout, and because of that and the moist road I slipped and fell over with my motorbike :( Now parts are broken on the bike, but luckily the rest is still running like normal, so only the cosmetic parts are broken. Luckily I got nothing then a painful ankle, because my bike landed on it. The cyclist is fine too, he helped me getting up and two other people from a car picked up my bike. Now I'm just going to hope that my fear isn't going to take over and never let me drive again.

So please cyclist, get a normal light on your bike that is visible from a greater distance then 50cm!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I just threw up :( I don't know why. my cat also threw up on my bed at 3am so I wonder if that has anything to do with it.

[Mermaid Momo]

I didn't make it into the nursing program, I knew I wasn't because my GPA was much lower than almost everyone else's (I had a 3.0 and almost everyone else had a 4)

[IllynReaver]

I didn't make it into the nursing program, I knew I wasn't because my GPA was much lower than almost everyone else's (I had a 3.0 and almost everyone else had a 4)
That's awful Momo :(

[Mermaid Lilium]

I didn't make it into the nursing program, I knew I wasn't because my GPA was much lower than almost everyone else's (I had a 3.0 and almost everyone else had a 4)
I'm sorry momo :( is there some other way of making it happen? Like doing a top-up year to boost your GPA or something?

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Oh no momo I'm sorry :(

[Merman Arion]

I'm PROUD to be French but I'm definitely NOT PROUD of my country. Here is the latest bullshit from our dear government :


"First, blood donation will be open to homosexuals who did not had sex with another man for twelve months. Homosexuals can give plasma if they are in a stable relationship for four months or if they didn't had sex in the same period."


In France, the permanent exclusion from blood donations of men having sex with other men was instituted in 1983 because of the risk of AIDS. Italy and Spain are now both authorizing blood donations from homosexuals and there is no problem...I'm suspecting an attempt to make chastity belts the new upcoming trend. WHO in his right mind would be ready to stop having sex for a year to be able to donate blood??!


33895

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ which is so stupid brecause straight people can get AIDS Too. Smh. Smh all over

[Ashe]

Alright alright here we go. Last year my school had a blood drive but excluded homosexuals literally because they thought that their blood would make others gay. Let me repeat: they thought homosexual blood would make other people gay.

The lgbt+ club had this huge protest but I don't know what the effects were...

[Mermaid Mystery]

me and my blood on our way to make everyone gayhttp://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/11/04/f2d3e7772de884a2b498b6f39a33ef23.jpg

[Sherielle]

Seriously embarrassed to live in Houston right now.

[Starfrit]

.... Huh. Me and one of my friends did that "Blood Sisters" thing back in Junior High where we cut our hands and pressed the wounds together when we were going through our ~*edgy dark angsty*~ teen phase.

She came out as a lesbian after highschool and I'm bisexual.

Did I catch a little of her gayness, or did she take most of my gayness?

I have so many questions.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I've only ever drawn blood for tests. I'm a universal receiver. Lay the gay on meh!

[Ashe]

.... Huh. Me and one of my friends did that "Blood Sisters" thing back in Junior High where we cut our hands and pressed the wounds together when we were going through our ~*edgy dark angsty*~ teen phase.

She came out as a lesbian after highschool and I'm bisexual.

Did I catch a little of her gayness, or did she take most of my gayness?

I have so many questions.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I think I'm finally ready to post this

I'm still reeling from what happened with my father on Tuesday. I got into the car with him thinking he was going to help me that day, as he offered to do, since my husband needed me to bring him the jack in my car because he had gotten a flat tire right as I was about to go to school, and my dad was on his way to pick up my license to bring to our attorney in order to get rid of a small traffic charge (expired registration). Little did I know, I was going to end up being verbally abused for the next half hour until I was almost late for class. He accused me of stealing money from my mom (which I would never dream of doing), wanting to fail in school (I wasn't even failing), being irresponsible as an adult because of my pursuing mermaiding, and disrespectful as a daughter. He kept me in the car, almost got in three wrecks, and wouldn't take me home when I insisted for that twenty to thirty minutes. He pushed me to cursing, which I never do. I called him a bastard and an asshole. I actually ended up rebuking his lies in the name of Jesus (I promise that's not a typical reaction, but I was sure something spiritual was at play) during the points at which he almost wrecked the car because he was so busy throwing accusations at me. Finally, after that half hour was over, I convinced him to take me home. It took him a while to find my house again because he was still verbally assailing me. When I told him I wasn't listening to him any longer, he just kept insisting over and over, "The truth hurts! The truth hurts, Ash, but you need to hear it! Is that how you respond to the truth!?" I told him firmly that I wouldn't be talking to him for a year. Finally, when he managed to find my house and dropped me off, I got out of the car and said, "Fuck you!" And I slammed the car door on him. I called my husband immediately afterward in tears because I needed to vent and have someone help me pull myself together before getting to class. It didn't take long for my dad to call and apologize, but I didn't pick up or listen to the message. I saw that he had left me one. He evidently went straight to fix my husband's tire, because when my husband got home, he brought leftovers from the free lunch my dad got for him and for me as an apology. He told Brendon (my husband) that he's really sorry for what he did. Brendon agrees with me not talking to him for a year, and so does my mom (who got a very different story from my dad, but she knew all along that he was lying. He's very manipulative).

Anyway, since that day, I've elected to drop out of school and get a full-time job doing something that can help me save up to go back on my own terms. I was going to school supported by my parents (who offered, though that was evidently why my dad accused me of stealing money from my mom). So now, I've dropped out and have started applying to places within a few miles of my house that I know pay fairly well, but I'm applying for minimum wage as well. I don't want him to have ammunition against me if that makes sense, and after talking to my mom, I found that they really can't afford to help me, but she has always had a tough time admitting that to her kids, so I never really knew. I wish he would have just told me that. My heart is aching. I didn't take anything he said to heart, because I know it was b.s., but it hurt so much that he did that. He himself comes from an abusive family in every sense of the word, so it comes out in small ways occasionally, but it's never come out so badly as this. I understand that he recently was essentially forced to retire early, so that was a blow to his confidence or whatever, but I'm left floored. On my worst days, I've said things I don't mean, and I've raised my voice, but I've never trapped someone so I can interrogate them for half an hour and shatter their confidence in return. I'm working on forgiving him, but still keeping my distance. I feel really awful for what I said to him, and I don't want to regret it later in life. I'm praying really hard about when to talk to him, but to be honest, it might take a year for me to heal from what happened.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'm not a very religious person. I'll agree though that both of you need some time apart. It took my parents and I a year before we started talking again. (Mom was manipulative and bipolar and a guilt tripper, dad was enabler and always took her side.)

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm not a very religious person. I'll agree though that both of you need some time apart. It took my parents and I a year before we started talking again. (Mom was manipulative and bipolar and a guilt tripper, dad was enabler and always took her side.)

Thanks so much. Yeah, that sounds a lot like what I've been experiencing with mine, only it's my mom that's the enabler. It's tough dealing with parents, but I'm glad you were able to reconcile. That's hopeful. :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Good luck lotus !!!

[Starfrit]

The last few days haven't been great for me. Self-esteem is at a low point, again, depression is kicking my ass, again, and I'm losing motivation to do even the simplest tasks, again.

Yesterday was an emotional roller coaster. I woke up sick, went to work anyway, and then everything went to shit and I spent all day getting yelled at by customers and bitched out by coworkers. Anxiety got the better of me and I had to lock myself in the bathroom twice because of panic attacks brought on by douchebags. By the time I got home, I was physically and emotionally drained.

My boyfriend helped cheer me up, though, and talked me into soaking in the tub for a while with some Celtic music on to relax while he cleaned up around the house and ordered pizza for supper. He even put my towels and my housecoat in the dryer so they'd be warm and fluffy for me when I got out of the bath. <3

And then later last night, Dave gets a phonecall, and finds out that his dad and stepmom are bringing him and his brother to the Dominican Republic on vacation in March.

Which... Kind of brought my mood down again, purely out of envy. I've been clawing at the walls for years wanting to get off this stupid island, since I haven't been able to leave it in about a decade. I'd kill to go somewhere tropical like the Dominican, especially with my tail, but... Nothing ever works out. Meanwhile, Dave goes on these trips to Toronto and gets trips to the fucking Dominican just handed to him. I mean, I know it's stupid to be envious like this— he's just as shocked as I am— but I still can't help feeling a little bitter about it, you know?

Saving up to tag along isn't an option. A trip like that from where I live is expensive shit, and I don't make nearly enough to be able to save up that much in less than four months. Besides, it's a family thing, and I don't want to intrude on that uninvited.

On the upside, I guess, is that Dave wants to take me to Halifax with him after Christmas while he and his YuGiOh team go compete in a tournament there. Which could be fun.... But if he's gonna be in tournament mode, that means I'll be left by myself all weekend, for the most part. I'm not a competitive player so I won't be taking part in the tournament and I'll likely just end up camping out in the hotel room alone the whole time... Not really my idea of a vacation.

I think I'm also bummed about it out of sheer nervousness; my boyfriend and his brother are my only roommates, which means it'll just be me in the house by myself all the time. And I really don't do well being left alone. Especially since the last time I was alone in the house a few weeks ago, I caught someone on my back porch casing the place. :/ The thought of that happening again, or worse, scares the shit out of me.

So yeah... That's kind of where my life is right now. Just a clusterfuck of conflicting emotions all over the place. :I Whee.

Worst. Roller coaster. Ever.

[Echidna]

At least you have a nice bf.


I've been clawing at the walls for years wanting to get off this stupid island, since I haven't been able to leave it in about a decade. I'd kill to go somewhere tropical like the Dominican, especially with my tail, but... Nothing ever works out.

let me know if you want a long list of deadly parasites and diseases you can easily catch in any tropic and subtropic country, I'm happy to send it to you ;)

DISCLAIMER: may result in never wanting or daring to set foot in any climate warmer than subpolar.

[Starfrit]

At least you have a nice bf.

let me know if you want a long list of deadly parasites and diseases you can easily catch in any tropic and subtropic country, I'm happy to send it to you ;)

DISCLAIMER: may result in never wanting or daring to set foot in any climate warmer than subpolar.

Haha, good point! :P Though admittedly, I'm so desperate to get off the island that coming down with a case of "Tropical Plague #2877589754893543" even sounds like more fun. It'd be the most exciting thing going on in my life... >-> /sigh

[Celaeno]

Ugh, Lotus, that is so awful!
It's fine that he apologized, but an apology doesn't change the fact that he said all those things and put you both in danger with his reckless driving! A lot of people don't understand how damaging verbal abuse can be. I haven't spoken to my father in years and years and it was the best thing for me. My mother and I have always had a tense relationship and it got really bad there for several years, but we've managed to reach a good place recently. You have to protect yourself, even against parents sometimes. And there's nothing wrong with taking time away from school so you can go back on your own terms. It's really really awful of him to throw their monetary support back in your face like that.
:hug:

[Mermaid Momo]

It's traditional for my fiance's family to make their own food for weddings (he's mexican) so we've decided to go with tradition and have both of our family bring in dishes, his will bring mexican food, mine will bring soul food. But the problem is, every single venue we find wants to charge us an extra $800 for not using their caterers!

[Mermaid Lilium]

The amazing guy I mentioned in the happy thread? Randomly dissappeared on me with no explanation and not even a hint that anything was wrong.

Right when I'd finally gotten to the point where I was just beginning to hope and trust again.

Never again.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh, Lilium. That's awful. :(

And yeah, venues like to kick one in the butt that way, Momo. (My dad and his wife used to work at a historical mansion/museum that also served as an event venue)

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Ugh, Lotus, that is so awful!
It's fine that he apologized, but an apology doesn't change the fact that he said all those things and put you both in danger with his reckless driving! A lot of people don't understand how damaging verbal abuse can be. I haven't spoken to my father in years and years and it was the best thing for me. My mother and I have always had a tense relationship and it got really bad there for several years, but we've managed to reach a good place recently. You have to protect yourself, even against parents sometimes. And there's nothing wrong with taking time away from school so you can go back on your own terms. It's really really awful of him to throw their monetary support back in your face like that.
:hug:

Thank you, Cel. You're awesome. I'm really glad I was able to post it here since I don't really like talking about it out loud much. It really helps. :) :hug:

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's traditional for my fiance's family to make their own food for weddings (he's mexican) so we've decided to go with tradition and have both of our family bring in dishes, his will bring mexican food, mine will bring soul food. But the problem is, every single venue we find wants to charge us an extra $800 for not using their caterers!

Well that's not right... It anything there shouldn't even be an extra fee... are you having a small intimate wedding or a large gathering ?

[Adalira]

It's traditional for my fiance's family to make their own food for weddings (he's mexican) so we've decided to go with tradition and have both of our family bring in dishes, his will bring mexican food, mine will bring soul food. But the problem is, every single venue we find wants to charge us an extra $800 for not using their caterers!

That is just plain wrong! Why would you have to pay $800 for NOT using a service? :confused:
Are there any other places you could check out besides the venues you have looked at so far? Sometimes the most unexpected places can bbe used for a wedding, like a library, a museum, a community centre, sometimes even people with big houses and back yards are open to have their house used for a wedding, just throwing out ideas here.
I love the idea btw of having family and friends make the food. My brother had the same at his wedding. Me and my mom made the wedding cake and the cupcakes for desert and they had friends make all the other foods, saved them a lot of money as well.
Could you explain further what soul food is?

[PhaylennMurúch]

So I can't really bitch about this on my Facebook because it directly impacts my husband but I know how fast things spread in our community and am kinda hoping that others could spread the words that I am about to say. And this in no way is pointed at anyone on MN

Dear people who are mad about Starbucks cups.
Starbucks employees have NO control over the cups they serve your coffee in, unless you are served coffee by one of the suits in marketing and upper management. They found out about the cups less than 24 hours before the rest of the world and while a plain red cup seems to be offensive to some people I think that berating, yelling at and generally making the lives of the store employees miserable is more offensive and in no way being 'Christlike'. They are paid minimum wage to sling caffeine at you for 8 hours a day and they really don't need you freaking out over the festiveness of the cup you're going to be throwing away in 10 minutes. Starbucks employees come in all Faith Flavors, you don't know upon arrival and I'm 99% sure that you won't know upon departure what, if any, faith the 3-15 different people in aprons follow.
Just because they wear the Siren doesn't mean that they are somehow lesser people than you. Just because the guy at the espresso machine is handing you a red cup does not make him any less of a Christian than you.
If you want your coffee served in a Christmas cup then bring your own. Not only can the cup be as Faith filled or as over the top as you want but you will also get a discount.
Do whatever, but please PLEASE, leave those poor overworked baristas alone. Let them sling Christmas blend (single origin this year and is amazing in a Flat White) and the most minty peppermint mocha frappucinos in peace.
What Would Jesus Do? Jesus would tip

[Azurin Luna]

I totally agree with you on this one. It's just a paper cup in a different colour then normal. There are enough other things in the world to worry about then a paper cup.
I saw on FB also a nice post about this, that if they wanted a Christmas cup, they should bring their own markers and make it festive.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

So I can't really bitch about this on my Facebook because it directly impacts my husband but I know how fast things spread in our community and am kinda hoping that others could spread the words that I am about to say. And this in no way is pointed at anyone on MN

Dear people who are mad about Starbucks cups.
Starbucks employees have NO control over the cups they serve your coffee in, unless you are served coffee by one of the suits in marketing and upper management. They found out about the cups less than 24 hours before the rest of the world and while a plain red cup seems to be offensive to some people I think that berating, yelling at and generally making the lives of the store employees miserable is more offensive and in no way being 'Christlike'. They are paid minimum wage to sling caffeine at you for 8 hours a day and they really don't need you freaking out over the festiveness of the cup you're going to be throwing away in 10 minutes. Starbucks employees come in all Faith Flavors, you don't know upon arrival and I'm 99% sure that you won't know upon departure what, if any, faith the 3-15 different people in aprons follow.
Just because they wear the Siren doesn't mean that they are somehow lesser people than you. Just because the guy at the espresso machine is handing you a red cup does not make him any less of a Christian than you.
If you want your coffee served in a Christmas cup then bring your own. Not only can the cup be as Faith filled or as over the top as you want but you will also get a discount.
Do whatever, but please PLEASE, leave those poor overworked baristas alone. Let them sling Christmas blend (single origin this year and is amazing in a Flat White) and the most minty peppermint mocha frappucinos in peace.
What Would Jesus Do? Jesus would tip

I posted a video response to this ridiculousness on my Facebook page to start a counter movement. I saw so many posts about this and heard so many stories from my friends who work at Sbux being harassed that it made me sick. The guy who started the movement is a real jerk. I'm surprised he has so many followers. Ugh. :1

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'd love to see the video so I could share it everywhere.
theyre angry about a red cup but they aren't angry about the pagan siren on the cup ? Uhhhhhh

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'd love to see the video so I could share it everywhere.
theyre angry about a red cup but they aren't angry about the pagan siren on the cup ? Uhhhhhh
Here it be! I hope it helps. It's been shared quite a bit on Facebook. I haven't posted it anywhere from YouTube yet.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ekLjSovopj0

[Celaeno]

I don't understand this red cup controversy at all. What do snowflakes have to do with Christianity?

[SiaTheMermaid]

I dont get it either, its just the colour of a cup that your going to throw away. Why does it matter?

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[Lotus the Mermaid]

I don't understand this red cup controversy at all. What do snowflakes have to do with Christianity?
Nothing, absolutely nothing. And Starbucks has nothing to do with Christianity either. They're not a Christian company, and have never claimed to be one.

http://mernetwork.com/index/attachment.php?attachmentid=34023&stc=1

[Adalira]

Wow, some people simply have too much time on their hands to be able to start a movement against a red cup :lol:
Well said PhaylennMurúch (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?1702-PhaylennMur%FAch) !
And great video and well said as well Lotus.
By the way Lotus....your have probably the most beautiful eyes i have ever seen!
I have a hubby so please don't take it the wrong way, you truly have beautiful eyes! Kinda jealous over here.... :blush:

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Wow, some people simply have too much time on their hands to be able to start a movement against a red cup :lol:
Well said PhaylennMurúch (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?1702-PhaylennMur%FAch) !
And great video and well said as well Lotus.
By the way Lotus....your have probably the most beautiful eyes i have ever seen!
I have a hubby so please don't take it the wrong way, you truly have beautiful eyes! Kinda jealous over here.... :blush:
I only hope it helps to start a counter movement of loving people! It's sad that a few angry people with too much time on their hands can start so much ruckus.

Omg, thank you!! You're super sweet. :'D <3
By the way, I LOVE your shop! Just saw it and favorited it as soon as I saw all of your beautiful creations. <3

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

Am I crazy that when I saw the red cup with a white lid I thought, "well that is pleasantly christmas-y/holiday-y/festive"?

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[Mermaid Lilium]

I'm the same aysun, I immediately thought of santa with the colours

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[SiaTheMermaid]

Guys I dont know where to put this but I just found this video on YouTube http://youtu.be/aK6Our08bg and it has me concerned. Not only does it feature videos of mermaids without their consent, but it also has children in it. The channel is called 'Funny Sexy' and its other posts are of a sexual nature. Ive reported it, but i thought i should bring it to the attention of the community

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[SiaTheMermaid]

https://youtu.be/a-K6Our08bg repost of the link to see if i can get it to work

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[Mermaid Lunette]

https://youtu.be/a-K6Our08bg repost of the link to see if i can get it to work

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oh no :( creeeps. i am afraid to click on it.

(although this might be better suited in the merverts thread?)

[Mermaid Momo]

oh no :( creeeps. i am afraid to click on it.

(although this might be better suited in the merverts thread?)

The video's been deleted anyway

[Starfrit]

Clicked on it. The video itself is harmless enough, just clips of mermaids swimming around put to music, but jeeeeeesus that whole channel. Someone commented on the video saying "so cute" and the channel owner replied with "and sexy :)"

Like, no

Half of that 10-minute video is little children

If you think that's sexy, you should be locked up IMO

[Starfrit]

The video's been deleted anyway

The video's still there, it works in the reposted link. It's just the first link that gives a 400 error, for some reason.

[SiaTheMermaid]

I have no idea why the link doesnt work in the first post, probably something to do with the fact that im doing this via mobile.

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[SiaTheMermaid]

Clicked on it. The video itself is harmless enough, just clips of mermaids swimming around put to music, but jeeeeeesus that whole channel. Someone commented on the video saying "so cute" and the channel owner replied with "and sexy :)"

Like, no

Half of that 10-minute video is little children

If you think that's sexy, you should be locked up IMO
The channels reply was what sent the alarm bells ringing so i checked the other content.

That is NOT okay.

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[Mermaid Momo]

Well that's not right... It anything there shouldn't even be an extra fee... are you having a small intimate wedding or a large gathering ?

We're planning on a small gathering (around 70 people we're guessing) but more and more people are demanding to be put on the guest list on both sides of our family being we're the first in both families to have an actual wedding (and we're guessing people want to see how we're going to combine Mexican and African-American traditions in the wedding)

That is just plain wrong! Why would you have to pay $800 for NOT using a service? :confused:
Are there any other places you could check out besides the venues you have looked at so far? Sometimes the most unexpected places can bbe used for a wedding, like a library, a museum, a community centre, sometimes even people with big houses and back yards are open to have their house used for a wedding, just throwing out ideas here.
I love the idea btw of having family and friends make the food. My brother had the same at his wedding. Me and my mom made the wedding cake and the cupcakes for desert and they had friends make all the other foods, saved them a lot of money as well.
Could you explain further what soul food is?

I've started looking at other places, but none of them really seem to fit. Our theme is woodland fairy tale and with both of us loving greenery we want a place with lots of plants (so a garden) and an outdoor canopy (is that what the pretty thing with the round top is called?). And a lot of the places allowing for outside food are where quinceanera are held and I don't want his family to think it's tacky to have a wedding where girls usually have their sweet 15 parties at (and a lot of them are very industrial and not very cozy for a small gathering because they're meant to fit 400 people in them)

and I'd love to explain soul food! (the best I can anyway)
Okay so black people (African- Americans in particular because I don't think black people in other parts of the world have soul food) during the era of slavery, were given the parts of food that was usually thrown away, and from that grew a whole food culture of foods that would be eaten for generations. Soul food is usually found in the southern states (since that's where most slaves were held) and as such is a staple of southern cultures and something southern people are really proud of. With my family being from the south originally (fun fact, my great grandma was a direct descendant of a slave! she could even tell us stories from her mom, she died at the ripe age of 105 about 15 years ago) but any way, soul food is somewhat of a comfort food. Soul food includes things like cornbread, chitlins (pig intestines) collared greens, gumbo, fried foods, seafood, etc.
My family usually save eating fast food to big celebrations because it's getting more expensive to buy the needed ingredients (as it's becoming more mainstream, people with higher incomes are now buying it, so companies raised prices because they could and the food is now not just a "poor man's" food now since the poor man can't really afford it any more) so we have soul food on Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Family reunions, Baby showers, and when family visit from out of state
http://archives.quarrygirl.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/vegan-village-soul-plate-570x344.jpg

[SeaGlass Siren]

We're planning on a small gathering (around 70 people we're guessing) but more and more people are demanding to be put on the guest list on both sides of our family being we're the first in both families to have an actual wedding (and we're guessing people want to see how we're going to combine Mexican and African-American traditions in the wedding)

oh god. i've been there. girl stand your ground. i seriously HATE. HAATE. HAAAAAAAATE. people who invite themselves to any event. like excuse me. no.

[Starfrit]

oh god. i've been there. girl stand your ground. i seriously HATE. HAATE. HAAAAAAAATE. people who invite themselves to any event. like excuse me. no.

I fantasize a lot about my wedding and this is literally my biggest anxiety. I have a HUGE family, on both my parents' sides, and I'd rather have a smaller wedding but I'm worried that more and more of my family members are gonna want in, and I love my family and I won't be able to say no. ;~;

Even my made-up fantasy dream wedding is an anxiety trigger, aauuggh

[SeaGlass Siren]

i wanted a small wedding. but his parents insisted we invite the entire family on his side :\ my parents were only able to invite 20 friends at the most because we dont have any family but their family was like 200 people? and some said they weren't coming but then 10 of them decided the day of to show up and we had to pay extra fee for their seats set up and food as opposed to just saying yes from the beginning =_= in the end after they all ate they just left. didnt even stay and party. fucking cheapo asian people....

my wedding was beautiful and my friends made up for it though, but i wish i had just eloped on the beach in peace instead.

[PearlieMae]

Elope, Momo and have the wedding of your dreams.

Then hold a potluck reception for anyone who wants to come, but they have to bring a dish and charge $20 a head to cover the cost of your venue.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I like Pearlie's idea. maybe on top of that, specify on the invite that immediate family is already taking care of the registry, and that monetary gifts are preferred.

[Mermaid Kerenza Sapphire]

Mermaid Kelda, I've just sent you a PM which I really hope might help :) I think you might be a scanner (multipod, multi potentiality, Renaissance woman/man - pick your favourite name) and that could be why you're feeling so frustrated. Hope it helps!


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[PhaylennMurúch]

Clicked on it. The video itself is harmless enough, just clips of mermaids swimming around put to music, but jeeeeeesus that whole channel. Someone commented on the video saying "so cute" and the channel owner replied with "and sexy :)"

Like, no

Half of that 10-minute video is little children

If you think that's sexy, you should be locked up IMO

7:06 is Jazz so if she reports it as infringing on her rights it'll get taken down

[Mermaid Clara]

Don't know if this is a stupid bitch or makes me seem like I'm spoiled or something but I just need to bitch!
Found a 10 gallon tank kit on Craig's List in Sacramento. The person didn't put any contact information! Even though I emailed twice to their Craig's List email, I still haven't received a reply. So I found a 30 gallon tank with a lighted hood here in Rancho Cordova,they had a number to call or text. I texted them asking if they still had it around 3:30 today but they haven't replied. So not much of a bitch so far but here is what makes me upset. My dad and I have been throwing around the idea of getting a big fish tank. But I decided to get a tank that wasn't super expensive or big so I could experiment with live plants. This is where the first part comes in, my dad agreed to letting me get the 10 gallon from Craig's List, then after not getting any replies from the person and no real way to contact them besides Craig's list email, I decided to see if there was anything else on Craig's List and found the 30 gallon tank for $15 with a number to text or call, I told my dad and asked him if I could text them and see if they still had it. My dad said yes so I texted them. Then he says that I would have to get a stand for it, I start looking for a stand that would work. After I found a stand I told him that I found a stand that would work for the 30 gallon, he tells me I'm not getting a tank unless I have B's in both of my classes. WTF!!! I'm f-ing 19 years old! I don't need you to tell me I can't buy something if my grades aren't what you want them to be. I know how to be responsible and sh!t. He always does this, he says one thing making me think that I can do/get something then he changes his mind and denies that he ever said that in the first place. This happen every f-ing time I want to start a new project or get something that's part of my hobbies or that cost more than $5.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Do you have a job, Kelly?
Having even just a little of your own money to do projects with really takes that sort of strain out of a parent-child relationship.

My mom's quite a bit like that, saying one thing, then "forgetting" she said that whenever she decides to change her mind, but I have whatever of my paycheck my mom doesn't use on bills to do whatever with. It ends up being 20 - 40 dollars a pay cycle, the other hundred and twenty we need to keep the household going, usually, but it does help ease the tension.

Of course she DOES have veto power over long-term projects involving pets, because if I get into Ritsumeikan, I'll be going to college in Japan in the fall and she doesn't want to be stuck taking care of an animal that was originally my responsibility but other than that, I have quite a bit of reign.

[Ashe]

Ugh... Just got my first taste of people stealing my photos and not giving credit. Someone took a photo that I have only posted here on MN and reposted it without crediting me despite me saying that you are not allowed to use the picture under any circumstance without my consent in the caption box. Luckily Janele (introverting) had alerted me to it. When I asked where he got the photo and why he didn't credit me, all he did was comment back saying "Hey, I hope you don't mind me using your photo" Gr... whatever...

[SeaGlass Siren]

^ cuss him the fuck out.

[Mermaid Kerenza Sapphire]

:( that sucks - have you asked him to take it down?

[Mermaid Clara]

Do you have a job, Kelly?
Having even just a little of your own money to do projects with really takes that sort of strain out of a parent-child relationship.

My mom's quite a bit like that, saying one thing, then "forgetting" she said that whenever she decides to change her mind
.
I have a job, I actually just got a new job that actually gives me more than 2 hours a week.
What makes me upset about the thing he does is he does it all of the time! When I confront him on it he gets angry and starts yelling at me.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gotcha. Sorry, in retrospect that question may have seemed condescending and snobbish. Not the intent there!

I do get your frustration.

[Adalira]

We're planning on a small gathering (around 70 people we're guessing) but more and more people are demanding to be put on the guest list on both sides of our family being we're the first in both families to have an actual wedding (and we're guessing people want to see how we're going to combine Mexican and African-American traditions in the wedding)

I like PearlieMae's idea of the eloping. I have heard sooo many times that newlyweds afterwards say they would have preffered eloping so they would not have had to deal with all the drama.
When you are back from eloping do a family dinner with only the closest people, the people who you really love and who you truly want there with you.

I've started looking at other places, but none of them really seem to fit. Our theme is woodland fairy tale and with both of us loving greenery we want a place with lots of plants (so a garden) and an outdoor canopy (is that what the pretty thing with the round top is called?). And a lot of the places allowing for outside food are where quinceanera are held and I don't want his family to think it's tacky to have a wedding where girls usually have their sweet 15 parties at (and a lot of them are very industrial and not very cozy for a small gathering because they're meant to fit 400 people in them)

and I'd love to explain soul food! (the best I can anyway)
Okay so black people (African- Americans in particular because I don't think black people in other parts of the world have soul food) during the era of slavery, were given the parts of food that was usually thrown away, and from that grew a whole food culture of foods that would be eaten for generations. Soul food is usually found in the southern states (since that's where most slaves were held) and as such is a staple of southern cultures and something southern people are really proud of. With my family being from the south originally (fun fact, my great grandma was a direct descendant of a slave! she could even tell us stories from her mom, she died at the ripe age of 105 about 15 years ago) but any way, soul food is somewhat of a comfort food. Soul food includes things like cornbread, chitlins (pig intestines) collared greens, gumbo, fried foods, seafood, etc.
My family usually save eating fast food to big celebrations because it's getting more expensive to buy the needed ingredients (as it's becoming more mainstream, people with higher incomes are now buying it, so companies raised prices because they could and the food is now not just a "poor man's" food now since the poor man can't really afford it any more) so we have soul food on Easter, Christmas, Thanksgiving, Family reunions, Baby showers, and when family visit from out of state
http://archives.quarrygirl.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/vegan-village-soul-plate-570x344.jpg

Omg omg omg....i love your wedding theme!!!!
Now i am just soooo curious to see your dress and whole ensemble!!
What kind of a dress are you wearing, and what color?
I sure hope you will have photos made and maybe share some with us?
I am truly sorry to hear you can't find a perfect place though, i still feel it is absolutely ridiculous that they charge you $800 for a not used service. Completly insane to me :confused:

I have heard about soul food from movies or when i hear people talk on tv but never really knew what it exactly was.
Thank you for explaining!
When my hubby and I go for a tour through the United States (hopefully in the next few years somewhere) i would love to go somewhere where they make soul food and taste it. Not sure about the pig intestins but even that could be tasty. I eat liver worst and blood worst over here, so why not try it?
I have heard of gumbo and cornbread but once again, never was able to taste it.
Wow, your great grandmother was 105? That is so amazing, she must have had great stories to tell! I wish i had met my great grandmother and was able to get some of her knowledge and wisdom, you were very lucky to have been able to meet your great grandmother :)

[SeaGlass Siren]

GUMBO IS GODLY. GUMBO IS LOVE. GUMBO IS LIFE.

[Adalira]

OMG i just looked up Gumbo and it is a stew?? I LOVE STEWS!!!!! :drool:

[PhaylennMurúch]

OMG i just looked up Gumbo and it is a stew?? I LOVE STEWS!!!!! :drool:

it's not just a stew, it is the KING of stew

[Mermaid Alea]

GUMBO IS GODLY. GUMBO IS LOVE. GUMBO IS LIFE.
Yes I agree! If anyone has never had gumbo before you need to put that on your list of things to do in life. It is sooooo good! Just the smell alone will make your mouth water. My family mainly makes chicken gumbo, but there are also seafood gumbos that a lot of places on the water serve around here. That gives me an idea...Maybe I could request that for Thanksgiving we could have turkey gumbo haha.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Never had gumbo... Does grits count as soul food? Tried it at merfest and hated it. *takes cover*

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wait wait what. Hating grits??? How is that possible????
:)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ugh. Ugh. I hate people who claim that I'm intolerant of others religion. I couldn't care less.
So Michelle, being the biggest sweetheart ever explains that "God is Everything and Everybody" as opposed to "God is He". And we were have peaceful conversation when this person claims we are bordering on heresy. HERESY. I tell this person "heresy is for the Middle Ages" because if you claim someone is a heretic, they're basically calling you crazy, Cuckoo, a lunatic for having a different belief about God, and about anything! (Edit: not to mention they would burn you alive)

then this guy tells me that they're catholic and that I should stuff it because it's part of catholicism. Uh I'm sorry but you live in a modern world where trans women can become nuns, and before that was seen as blasphemy. Did he try to claim heresy then against Michelle? Ugh. Ugh.
I cant. Literally, I can't.

[Echidna]

You're pretty laid-back, Seaglass.

It's not worth getting upset over people who are fanatical believers of -anything-, religious or otherwise, because they cannot be reasoned with.

Sometimes people who make false accusations or namecall are just being trolls, but either way, they're not worth your time. ;)

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ah but if you only knew echidna D: when I get passionate about something, it is ON.
but I told him to stuff it because like it or not he lives in a modern world where anything goes, and to claim I was being intolerant of Michelle's religion is rude. And then I blocked him.

[SeaGlass Siren]

In short I gave him a polite "FUCK YOU."

[MermaidShannon]

Sea glass siren you are so cute I want to cuddle you


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Muh. Mhmuhmuh. Shannon :'( :hugs:

[MermaidShannon]

Daww. Big sis will crush them. Lemme at em. I'm on top of my game see http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/11/13/1d9f4d021e45f3e08e30358e50160579.jpg


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[SeaGlass Siren]

And then earlier this morning I noticed Xianne like liked my page and I did a public call out. But the details are on the merverts thread

[MermaidShannon]

That person is still kicking ?? Wow.


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[SeaGlass Siren]

I know. :s like how. I can't even.

[Merman Arion]

Here a new bitch..

I'm getting sick of the updates from mermaid groups. No offence to the people who make them but it's invading my Facebook feed and because of that. I'm missing posts from people who matter to me. I keep on scrolling and scrolling, always the same stuff who keeps on coming, until I see something new from my Facebook friends. It's annoying me to the point I wanted to throw my phone out of the window so many times I lost count...

Gaaaaaaah!!!! :headwall:

I'm tempted to quit my job as an admin and leave both groups. I love mermaid stuff but there is a limit.

*sighs*

[Sherielle]

It's just great when the co-worker who likes to throw you under the bus does it YET AGAIN!!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Throw HIM under the bus.

[Starfrit]

Throw HIM under the an actual, literal, speeding bus.

Fixed that for you. ;D

[Starfrit]

And then earlier this morning I noticed Xianne like liked my page and I did a public call out. But the details are on the merverts thread

I actually disabled the "Follow" option and changed my settings to Friends Only on my mermaid page because Xianne was, like, the first person to follow my page after I made it. :T Which was SUPER CREEPY because it was within the first 24 hours after I made my page, too, and before I'd actually publically posted about it anywhere. I blocked them, too, but I got really paranoid and worried that they might start following me on alt accounts (Xianne and people like them are also why I haven't logged into my mermaid page in weeks, either >->).

SHIT'S CREEPY, YO.

[Sherielle]

Throw HIM under the bus.Her. And I'm about to. :cool:

[Mermaid Momo]

Omg omg omg....i love your wedding theme!!!!
Now i am just soooo curious to see your dress and whole ensemble!!
What kind of a dress are you wearing, and what color?
I sure hope you will have photos made and maybe share some with us?
I am truly sorry to hear you can't find a perfect place though, i still feel it is absolutely ridiculous that they charge you $800 for a not used service. Completly insane to me :confused:

I have heard about soul food from movies or when i hear people talk on tv but never really knew what it exactly was.
Thank you for explaining!
When my hubby and I go for a tour through the United States (hopefully in the next few years somewhere) i would love to go somewhere where they make soul food and taste it. Not sure about the pig intestins but even that could be tasty. I eat liver worst and blood worst over here, so why not try it?
I have heard of gumbo and cornbread but once again, never was able to taste it.
Wow, your great grandmother was 105? That is so amazing, she must have had great stories to tell! I wish i had met my great grandmother and was able to get some of her knowledge and wisdom, you were very lucky to have been able to meet your great grandmother :)

I haven't gone dress shopping yet, I'm planning on doing that next year, but I'm thinking of a fit and flair or mermaid gown (I originally wanted a ballgown, but my aunts and cousins told me that being petite a ball gown will probably just eat me alive) We have found 3 places that will allow outside food, be they don't allow hard liquor (so nothing but wine, champagne and beer, and we all hate beer, I've never had the other two though) So we're probably just going to sacrifice our ideas of having mixed drinks around the theme (we wanted to find some drinks we could make with horchata haha) and just have different mexican and American beers for those who might like beer.

I love love love gumbo! Last time we made it, we made a giant pot of it with crabs, shrimp, spicy sausage, and crawdads. it was glorious.

And yep, grits are soul food too :) I have a love hate relationship with Grits, depending on who makes it, how watery they are, and how long ago they've been made. my fiance loves grits with a passion, he ate them when he had no idea what they even were and ever since then he keeps asking me for grits.

[PhaylennMurúch]

don't write off ballgowns just yet, there are some that aren't full blown cupcakes

[Adalira]

I haven't gone dress shopping yet, I'm planning on doing that next year, but I'm thinking of a fit and flair or mermaid gown (I originally wanted a ballgown, but my aunts and cousins told me that being petite a ball gown will probably just eat me alive) We have found 3 places that will allow outside food, be they don't allow hard liquor (so nothing but wine, champagne and beer, and we all hate beer, I've never had the other two though) So we're probably just going to sacrifice our ideas of having mixed drinks around the theme (we wanted to find some drinks we could make with horchata haha) and just have different mexican and American beers for those who might like beer.

I love love love gumbo! Last time we made it, we made a giant pot of it with crabs, shrimp, spicy sausage, and crawdads. it was glorious.

And yep, grits are soul food too :) I have a love hate relationship with Grits, depending on who makes it, how watery they are, and how long ago they've been made. my fiance loves grits with a passion, he ate them when he had no idea what they even were and ever since then he keeps asking me for grits.

Do you maybe have a good GUMBO recipe for me that i can try to make myself?
My hubby may not like it since he is not into shellfish i believe but i am sure i will love it and so will my parents so i could make a big pot full and share the joy :-)

About the wedding dress, i agree with PhaylennMurúch (http://mernetwork.com/index/member.php?1702-PhaylennMur%FAch)
Do not right ball gowns off just yet, i would suggest trying on every type of dress that you like (which must be so fun to do!), if you go to a dress shop that knows what they are doing i am sure they will find you the perfect dress for your body type and size.
My god....i love watching shows on TLC like Say Yes To The Dress and the one where bridesmaids go shopping and the wedding gown rescue thing with Randy, love it love it love it!
I am not married yet, i call my boyfriend my hubby since we feel and act married, he calls me his wife everywhere as well, we just did not get married officially yet.
Since i did not meet his family in person yet (only talk on skype and facebook) it would not feel right to me to get married. But we are husband and wife in our hearts already :-)
I can't wait to go dress shopping one day!
To tell you the truth it may be even better not to have liquour at your wedding, it may prevent some people to become annoyingly drunk.
You could always create some fabulous none alcoholic cocktails or mixed drinks.
As a kid i had a mixed none alcoholic drink on a cruise ship and i swear i still think of how delicious that drink was till this day!
If only i knew how they made it!

By the way, i have been wondering, the gif you gave Momo says Thenamlessdoll, is it a cartoon?
I watch a lot of fantasy movies, series and cartoons lately while i work.
Last weekend i watched some Tinkerbell movies and Barbie as a fairy/mermaid in a movie and loved them, also watched a German movie from Cinderellas which was awesome as well.
I love watching them while working on fantasy items for my shop or when i do other work :-)

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Didn't know where to put this, so, here it is: our Parisian mers, ARE YOU OKAY????

I know you probably won't check this until things calm down, but please be okay. Please.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

So, good luck. Stay safe. Sending wishes your way.

[Adalira]

My thoughts go out to all the people in Paris, all the people (most likely 60 or more) that have been killed, the many wounded and the 100 people still being held hostage, and everyone else who is fearing for their lives right now!
What is becoming of this world? :cry:

[Lotus the Mermaid]

My thoughts go out to all the people in Paris, all the people (most likely 60 or more) that have been killed, the many wounded and the 100 people still being held hostage, and everyone else who is fearing for their lives right now!
What is becoming of this world? :cry:

I just heard about this!! How terrifying! I'm praying, as well. It's awful seeing so many horrors happening at once! I hope they get help and the terrorists are found and brought to justice soon!!

[Mermaid Lilium]

I spoke to kitty and I know she is safe, as for any others I don't know.

They just announced that around 100 died in the theatre...

I can't even find the words right now...

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[Adalira]

They announced on the news here that they stopped the hostage situation, killed the terrorist and about 10 of the hostages were killed, not all 100 i believe and hope!

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I spoke to kitty and I know she is safe, as for any others I don't know.

They just announced that around 100 died in the theatre...

I can't even find the words right now...

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I checked with Arion and he's fine!

[Adalira]

That's great to hear Lotus!
I heard a friend of mine who lives there as well is fine too.
The numbers of people killed are all over the place right now. I don't think we will hear the real numbers untill tomorrow or so.
At least not everyone was killed in the concert hall, some people were able to escape but most were not that lucky :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh thank the gods Kitty and Arion are safe.

Sending love to all!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I checked with Arion and he's fine!

Claire is safe too!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

As well as your friend, Adalira. ♥

[Starfrit]

Jesus Christ, I step away from the internet for dinner and when I come back, Hell's descended on Paris. Reading the live updates now and the count's up to 158. Unbelievable.

I hope all of our French mers are safe! I've got my fingers crossed not just for them but everyone else over there right now, too. Hopefully the terrorists are caught and justice is served before anymore people are hurt.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Pearlie and Lilium have confirmations on Arion and Kitty. They're both okay. Not sure how many other Parisian mers we have.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Fingers crossed.

[Echidna]

I'm surprised people are suddenly appearing all sympathetic who previously were all so OFFENDED and kicking up a fuss when I mentioned the current situation in Europe :doh:

and the very politicians who brought this down on us have the guts to do the same.
This was just the beginning.

[Starfrit]

I'm so glad you're taking this opportunity to make it all about you, Echidna. :) You just keep on doin' you.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Yeah, people are fearing for their lives right now, people have lost loved ones. not the time to bring this up.

[Starfrit]

Really though. 150+ people are dead, countless more injured, and even more people are grieving the loss of their friends and loved ones.

But clearly, the real issue here is that someone disagreed with Echidna on the internet.

http://media2.giphy.com/media/Fml0fgAxVx1eM/giphy.gif

Tasteful, really.

[Mermaid Momo]

I was going to post a sarcastic response but you all beat me to it, I will still post this gif tho.
http://i.giphy.com/BEC6XrBojxQ1a.gif

I do hope all the mers are safe in Paris right now, I've already checked on all my FB friends. My heart goes out to those affected by this :(

EDIT: Didn't want to make a second post: Nope, my signature isn't from a cartoon, it's a gif of Princess Tiana. The name at the top (Namelessdoll) is the person who made it, they made a series of gifs of Disney princesses as mermaids: http://thenamelessdoll.tumblr.com/post/119372655091/mermaids-in-the-jungle-o-3-if-that-is-not-a)

[Mermaid Cascada]

Sending prayers and condolences to everyone in Paris. I hope no one else is hurt and that who ever did this is caught and held responsible. :(

[TritonsGuard]

My thoughts and prayers are with the victims and their families. May those that were wounded heal well, and those who lost loved ones, may God give them peace.

[Mermaid Alea]

I agree I hope everyone is okay and didn't lose any family, friends, etc. For those that did lose someone I hope that they will have people surrounding them to help them through this tough time. Everyone be safe and keep in mind a plan for what you would do if something bad happens such as good places to hide, silencing your phone, etc.

[TritonsGuard]

Sorry if this sounds sadistic, but I also want to give praise and thanks to the brave men who went in there and killed two monsters and caged the third. May they get medals for that.

[SeaMansa]

I just found out about what happened. I can't believe how crazy this world is getting and I hope anyone here in France or anyone who knows anyone there is okay. I cannot imagine what they must be going through right now but this is completely devastating. Even here in America, I'm feeling fear and anger about this.
@TritonsGuard they managed to get the people who did it?

[Keiris]

Pearlie and Lilium have confirmations on Arion and Kitty. They're both okay. Not sure how many other Parisian mers we have.

Still waiting to hear from Anceos.....

[TritonsGuard]

Yes. Two dead, one in custody.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh no. I hope you hear soon, Keiris.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Two things though:

First Im sorry for all the victims of the terrorists.
second, I'm sorry for all the islamophobes claiming all Muslim people are terrorists.

literally nothing good has come from this.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Like right, SeaGlass!

[TritonsGuard]

Two things though:

First Im sorry for all the victims of the terrorists.
second, I'm sorry for all the islamophobes claiming all Muslim people are terrorists.

literally nothing good has come from this.

Not saying that you were speaking of me, but I do not have a hatred of Muslims. I judge on an individual basis for most people. The reason I expressed a bit of satisfaction with the demise of those vile savages is that they showed themselves to be monsters, and the fact that they are no longer able to hurt innocent people brings me relief.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Bad people deserve to be punished, I can agree with you there. I was more of less thinking about more fear mongering of the entire group as opposed to a few terrorists who make the entire group look bad.

[Mermaid Momo]

Aaaaand, guess who's making her wedding cake now!
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c158/CommanderGS/headbuttya.gif

[Calizaire]

Not gonna bitch about my hard day at work as it was much harder for my students. I'm exhausted but hopeful.
I'm a Counselor for International students for UCs (University of California) in lower So CA. Spent my day getting emergency crisis centers prepared for my 163 French students and notifying them.
Here's a silver lining: Within an hour over 100 French students showed to the crisis center to get support; but with them were other students from over a dozen countries and from 6 different religions arm in arm to support their French classmates. I saw this evening a Muslim young woman covered all but for her eyes locked in an embrace with a young French woman. They are all sitting vigil together now; supporting each other. I saw many acts of love and kindness between young people of differing religion and cultures and I loved it and felt hope. This is why I love my job.
I stayed till I I knew our crisis intervention team was set to keep open all weekend then came home to my family. I needed a hug.
We sat in the crisis center as they tried to reach friends and family...and here's what I want to say and here's my bitch:
I came home and saw some very anti Muslim sentiments across the interwebz...and it broke my heart. I ended my relationship with my mertender tonight over his anti-Muslim views. And wow, did that break my heart. But I can't continue to ignore that his anti-Muslim beliefs fly completely in the face of people I have worked my whole career to protect and advocate for. When the Boston bombing happened there was an attack upon our school campus. I remember hearing the lock down order and locking my office door and pulling the 2 young Saudi girls under my desk with me. We were quiet but this young lady said, "We didn't do anything..." the look in her eyes...of fear...
I don't understand why people can't differentiate Muslims from extreme fundamentalists.
My heart is broken tonight but thank you for providing me the place to vent it.

[Calizaire]

Also, I just want to say, the nasty sarcastic comments and gifs above really turned my stomach and kind of made me feel like perhaps this wasn't an ok place to voice my "bitch".

[Lotus the Mermaid]

Calizaire: You have such a sweet heart! I'm sure it was difficult ending things with your mertender, but I'm glad you made it clear that prejudice will bit be tolerated. That's an important step in moving forward. I was about to echo what SeaGlass said earlier. I feel so bad for Muslims and how the media so often lumps them together with extremists. Every group has extremists. It's unfortunate that they're the ones that get the press. I am so glad that so many understand that there's a difference and that you got to witness such beautiful human fellowship in the midst of such a tragedy.

Also no need to worry about the sarcastic comments made prior. After reading them, I believe that both Tieri and Momo were trying to make sure the conversation stayed on track to honor the victims. This is a safe place for certain. :)

[Adalira]

Well spoken Calizaire! I agree with all that you said!

What pisses me off is that there are actually people on tv saying that we need to look at this from the terrorists point of view and that the only reason they did this is because we don't listen to what they have to say.
Are you kidding me?
I don't care who you are or what religion you have or what color your skin is.....murdering people is never ok and never ever the answer to get others attention, that makes you a monster plain and simple :mad:

[Adalira]

Aaaaand, guess who's making her wedding cake now!
http://i27.photobucket.com/albums/c158/CommanderGS/headbuttya.gif

What is wrong with your wedding cake? Do you mean you have to bake it yourself?
My dream wedding cake is from Choccywoccydoodah in England, it will most likely stay a dream though.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I had a fake wedding cake :| didn't even have a cake.

back on the Paris topic, agreeing with adalira. If you want your voice heard, don't kill the people you want to hear in the first place. There are other more effective ways of being heard. This will only make people hate you and ignore you. A durr!
Love always wins out in the end.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Definitely a safe space, Calizaire.
I think many of us worry for those innocents that are going to get heat for this.

[MermaidShannon]

Skip the wedding and go to the islands. I had a ridiculous expensive fairy wedding and all I did was build a shit list when people who rsvp yes didn't show up and I still had to pay for their meal.

This Paris thing is so upsetting. My son said "all his islands crashed" to explain how he felt. It's a heartbreaking reference to the movie inside out.

I am so sad my kids are seeing the world we seem to be devolving into and not shocked when another college campus gets shot up.

And there are still people on fb upset over a coffee cup.

These are dark dark times and dark dark hearts. It's very scary. So glad our friends and family are ok


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[SeaGlass Siren]

I read your status to my husband. And his heart broke and he got really upset because we both know how he's feeling. Very numb.

[MermaidShannon]

:-(


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[Mermaid Momo]

There have also been attacks in Syria, Nigeria, Yemen, Lebanon, Somalia,Libya, South Sudan, Iraq, Palestine, and Kenya, but the media isn't covering any of those. My heart goes out to all of those affected by the attacks.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Yeah, Shannon, Momo.

It's just going all to hell, isn't it?

[PhaylennMurúch]

Actually I think that Echidna is in the right here, yes it was an 'I told you so' and it could have waited. But seriously, the group that has claimed responsibility SAID months ago that they were sending attackers in with the refugees. They were ballsy enough to say it because countries that were opening their borders to any and all comers had NO way to screen all of the refugees without risking being labeled as Islamaphobes. People who voiced concerns were labeled as intolerant, even here on Mernetwork, and they were just talking about being worried that something like this MIGHT happen.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I'm not going to argue border laws right now.

People need to be protected.

The people of the West AND the people of the Middle-East.

[Adalira]

Actually I think that Echidna is in the right here, yes it was an 'I told you so' and it could have waited. But seriously, the group that has claimed responsibility SAID months ago that they were sending attackers in with the refugees. They were ballsy enough to say it because countries that were opening their borders to any and all comers had NO way to screen all of the refugees without risking being labeled as Islamaphobes. People who voiced concerns were labeled as intolerant, even here on Mernetwork, and they were just talking about being worried that something like this MIGHT happen.

I could not agree with you more about this.
I too shared my concerns and i think i literally even said that we feared that members of isis were coming in Europe amongst the refugees to start an attack.
These terrorist were staying in Belgium, they came into Europe from Syria through Greece where they got let in as refugees.
Exactly what we feared happened and this will not be the last horrible thing that will happen.
Luckily the governments have started to do more check ups the past few weeks, they were able to arrest a man who came in as a refugee in Germany, murdered his wife in the refugee camp and then tried to get into Holland. A man from Africa was arrested with a pile of passports in his room, turned out a warrent for his arrest was out for murdering at least 13 people in various countries in Africa.
If only they keep up a good screening process we can prevent these rotten apples from coming in so we can actually give help to the people who truly need it.

[Adalira]

There have also been attacks in Syria, Nigeria, Yemen, Lebanon, Somalia,Libya, South Sudan, Iraq, Palestine, and Kenya, but the media isn't covering any of those. My heart goes out to all of those affected by the attacks.

It is awfull to see how little of the news we actually get to see, not to mention how so called journalists don't even give the actual truth or facts of what is going on.
This afternoon i told my parents some things i heard about the Paris attack and even though they had just watched the news, the information i gave them from last night was completly new to them and not told on the news. Just like the eartquake in Japan was not mentioned anywhere.
We had a group of young people sent in a video to the tv stations a while back to get themselves into publicity, what the video showed was a muslim woman in a burka walking in the mall and her grocery bags ripped and her food was all over the floor and it appeared that no one tried to help her. The video was meant to show how awfull Dutch people were that they would not help a muslim woman.
Little did these filmers know that bystanders were filming THEM with their phones to show how they made the video. The video's of the bystanders showed people wanted to help her but the filmers (outside of the camera's reach off course) blocked them and told them not to help (blocking their way) saying that they were making a movie. Why on earth would you make a video like that just to cause drama that is invalid?
I have no idea what is becoming of the world we are living in today :(

[ShyKaiju]

I'm sorry this is so less severe than whats going on in Paris, My heart goes out to them. I just needed a safe space to vent my frustration today.

I recently moved back home after living out of state for two years, thinking it would be a good reunion with my family. I've very liberal, and they are not, so we hardly ever see eye to eye on a lot of topics. Living away from them was the best years ive had with my family relationship wise.
My entire family views me as the black sheep, and ive suffered through emotional abuse most of my life. It has grown really severe in the last few years when I started gaining my own opinions about the world. I'm constantly called lazy, worthless. I'm overweight, so my family often accuses me of eating all the food in the house, but in reality its my alcoholic father who gets into the kitchen very late at night.

My brother and I got into a spat this morning about his pot smoking, in a rage he tore apart my room and then kicked me down and beat on me.
I had to convince my mother to take me to the ER, because she didn't believe me when I said I think my foot was broken. It is. Fifth metatarsal bone fracture. I wanted to press assault charges against him, but my mother threaten to kick me out of the house if I do..Because she doesn't want to lose her grandchild(His kid). So she sat in the ER with me, telling the nurse that I fell, because im clumsy.. My mom keeps telling me that if I just 'didn't start shit' None of this would have happened. And I'm just sitting here.. dumfounded. I feel like it will only be a matter of time before he hits my niece or his girlfriend.

I'm not really looking for advice because I'm working on plans to leave very soon. I just needed a place to vent that isn't facebook.
I'm so mad I can't swim for two months

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh, Kaiju.
:(
Won't give any advice, as requested, just: good luck. Good luck. Good luck. My heart goes out to to you.

(Or, as I'm more liable to actually say, GIVE THOSE BASTARDS HELL)

I'll be thinking about you for sure!

[Adalira]

Oh my god Kaiju.....i am soooo sorry to hear about this!
I wont give any advice either like you requested.
Know that we are all here for you if you need to vent or need to talk.
If you prefer talking in private or vent privately feel free to pm me anytime!
Sending you lots of warm gentle hugs!
Please be safe! :hug:

[PearlieMae]

Kaiju, I know you say you aren't looking for advice, just want to let you know that if you feel you are in danger and don't have the means to go elsewhere, contact the local department of family services and ask for accommodation, because technically, you are a victim of domestic violence.

Your family sounds like a nightmare. I'm so sorry!

[Grey Gambit]

Kaiju, I hope you're able to get away from them soon and that you heal up quickly. D: *offers hugs*

[Naufra]

This is rather inconsequential compared to the other things being discussed in this thread right now, but it pissed me off so badly.

Some coworkers and I were discussing the attacks in Paris in the break room yesterday, and one of them outright blamed the attack in the concert hall on the band that was playing that night, claiming that it was devil music and the band had demons inside them and that was why the concert was attacked. I was absolutely outraged. Normally, I try to hold my tongue when someone is being stupid, just to avoid unnecessary conflict, but that just stripped my gears and I couldn't keep it in. I'm a damned good actress, so my coworkers had never seen me so angry, but I made clear that the attack had nothing to do with what band was playing, only that it was a ton of people crammed in one room which makes a prime target, and that there was more satanic about blues music (remember that story about how blues music was invented? Yeah, the one about Robert Johnson meeting the devil at a crossroads and selling his soul to learn to play the guitar) than what Eagles of Death Metal was playing. She saw my point and took it well, but I lost a LOT of respect for that coworker and I don't think she can ever gain it back.

[ShyKaiju]

thank you everybody ;_;
I'll check into that Pearlie. Thanks



Naufra- Perhaps she grew up in a very religious household who sprouts the same stuff. If She took your point well, maybe she's willing to be open minded and not just stick to her narrow mindset. I think that if she's willing to hear out other people's points on issues, and possily gain insight from them then you shouldn't say you'll never gain respect for her again, thinking outside the ways you were taught is pretty respectable... Esp in Texas. I know Texans, they're crazy!

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

I managed to get locked out of the trailer at faire.
For 7 hours.

At least my week has to get better.

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[Naufra]

thank you everybody ;_;
I'll check into that Pearlie. Thanks



Naufra- Perhaps she grew up in a very religious household who sprouts the same stuff. If She took your point well, maybe she's willing to be open minded and not just stick to her narrow mindset. I think that if she's willing to hear out other people's points on issues, and possily gain insight from them then you shouldn't say you'll never gain respect for her again, thinking outside the ways you were taught is pretty respectable... Esp in Texas. I know Texans, they're crazy!

That's very true, Kaiju. I was probably far too hasty in saying she could never regain my respect, but at the time I was absolutely appalled that she would even think such a thing. Especially when the band's name, Eagles of Death Metal, is entirely ironic. They make hipster pop music. It's not reasonable, however, to assume she would know that and it's entirely likely that she had never even heard of them before. It shouldn't matter what type of music it was though, because any band playing that venue that night would have faced the same disaster. To hear someone who I know considers themselves a good Christian justify mass slaughter by terrorists based on the type of band she thought they were disgusted me.

If that's how a Texan thinks, I'll never be a Texan. If that's how a good Christian responds to a situation like that, she needs to review that book of hers one more time, because last I checked there was a thing in there about not judging people.

[Keiris]

Has ANYONE heard from Anceos yet? I sent Arion and him a PM checking to see if everything was ok but never received an answer from either of them. I see Arion has posted so he must be ok but nothing from Anceos.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I think I saw Anceos checked in on Facebook, Iona said he's okay.

[Merman Arion]

Has ANYONE heard from Anceos yet? I sent Arion and him a PM checking to see if everything was ok but never received an answer from either of them. I see Arion has posted so he must be ok but nothing from Anceos.

Anceos is okay, I checked with him.
So sorry, Keiris. A PM is waiting for you in your box :$

[SeaGlass Siren]

Not appropriate to say this during this time but I need to get this out of my system.

aww!! Keirion !! <D

[Sabrina the Selkie]

SeaGlass...
XD

[Mermaid Lilium]

Lmao oh seaglass xD

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[Keiris]

:p SeaGlass...lol

[Sherielle]

I've had it with drama.
People.....GROW THE FUCK UP!!!!
I'm pretty sure most of us are all adults now. That means you have to do adult things, like thinking through things logically and considering both sides of an argument. Not everyone thinks like you.
DEAL WITH IT!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

I'M SORRY I HAD TO GUYS

[Adalira]

You had to what? I don't even see anything posted from you.......

[Adalira]

OK, my brain is super slow today, i think i just got it lol

[Sherielle]

I'M SORRY I HAD TO GUYSWell of course you had too. It's Kerion!!!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Lol. We ALL ship Keirion.

[Mermaid Alea]

This week is when my college has us register for the next semester. As always there are issues making a seemingly simple process extremely stressful for just about everyone. One year I wasn't able to register because the program decided I owed like $5.00 (which I didn't and it was a program error) but I had to pay it anyways just to register and it caused me to have to take some things I wasn't planning on taking because classes filled up while I was rushing to pay the fake fee. My friend registered today and he is having issues with getting some of his classes due to a special administrative permission that he needs.

While I am grateful that there have been good improvements in the registration process, there seems to always be a big issue with it every year and so I dread registering. Hopefully tomorrow morning I won't have issues when I go to register.

[Merman Arion]

Meanwhile I just found out today that I got kicked out of the NC-Merfest group. Just like that. With no reason :doh:

Oh wait... On second thoughts, must be because I didn't acknowledge some people who claimed to be mer royalty and because I didn't take their side on some drama. Well, they can still suck it. I don't care the slightest and I'm not gonna bother coming back. *snap*

After what happened in my country, I find all that shit pretty irrelevant and not worth my time and energy. I'm gonna focus on work, gym and the preparations of my upcoming trip to MerMania.

[SeaGlass Siren]

^WTF? thats random.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Understandable, Arion. Some people are just not worth dealing with.

On a completely unrelated note, I have a school field trip today, so there was no threat to MY saftey, but my school went on soft lockdown today (no one could leave or come in, but people could move around the school and go to classes like usual)

They gave us no info until it was over so, I'm sitting in a sewage treatment plant with my environmental class worried out of my mind.

Turned out to be nothing. Social media just blew out of proportion.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Meanwhile I just found out today that I got kicked out of the NC-Merfest group. Just like that. With no reason :doh:

Oh wait... On second thoughts, must be because I didn't acknowledge some people who claimed to be mer royalty and because I didn't take their side on some drama. Well, they can still suck it. I don't care the slightest and I'm not gonna bother coming back. *snap*

After what happened in my country, I find all that shit pretty irrelevant and not worth my time and energy. I'm gonna focus on work, gym and the preparations of my upcoming trip to MerMania.

Witch please! If they mer-royalty, then I am Raina's Uncle.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Meanwhile I just found out today that I got kicked out of the NC-Merfest group. Just like that. With no reason :doh:

Oh wait... On second thoughts, must be because I didn't acknowledge some people who claimed to be mer royalty and because I didn't take their side on some drama. Well, they can still suck it. I don't care the slightest and I'm not gonna bother coming back. *snap*

After what happened in my country, I find all that shit pretty irrelevant and not worth my time and energy. I'm gonna focus on work, gym and the preparations of my upcoming trip to MerMania.

Ahh, then you missed the big "stop bullying" post from this morning where it is stated that anyone reported to be harassing other mers will be prosecuted because the reached out to the state and federal authorities.

[Starfrit]

Oh yeah lol, the post where Christomer went on an angry rant about how anyone caught "bullying" (read: calling his girlfriend out for her bullshit / criticizing her shitty behavior / not taking her side in her stupid drama) will be SENT TO JAIL.

I'm shaking in my fins. The Internet Police are gonna come knocking on my door any minute, I'm sure.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Quick, hide yo kids, hide yo wives, and hide yo husbands cuz they policing errbody up here.

[SeaGlass Siren]

ANYWAY.

The entire weekend (my niece's baptism and my housewarming) the inlaws kept asking about when im having kids. when. not even asking if i want any or what my plas are. like they demand i pop a bun in my oven when i literally just bought a house.

i could go on another rant about finances, being psychologically and mentally not ready but i feel like an overplayed record player.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That sucks, SeaGlass. :(

I hate it when people pull that stuff. I literally turned eighteen today, and because I'm so young EVERYONE I know refuses to believe me when I say I'm not having my own. I plan on adopting toddlers and fostering teens WHEN I'M OLDER. Like really. So many of my family suffers from "I had kids too young, had to grow up too fast, and never got a chance to learn about myself in consequence"

And now they want me to repeat the behavior. *headwall. Repeatedly*

[Adalira]

Tieri and Seaglass :lol:

I am sorry to hear though SeaGlass about your inlaws pushing for grand kids...ugh....families who interefere and try to control your life is never a fun situation
You could always reply though with:" As soon as you pay for their education, food, diapers, baby sitters, day care etc etc etc and give me 1 million on the side, as soon as that happens i am willing to give you even 2 grand kids, see how reasonable i am?"

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah it's been a total strain on me. sorry about your family. ugh. stupid people need to stop breeding.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Tieri and Seaglass :lol:

I am sorry to hear though SeaGlass about your inlaws pushing for grand kids...ugh....families who interefere and try to control your life is never a fun situation
You could always reply though with:" As soon as you pay for their education, food, diapers, baby sitters, day care etc etc etc and give me 1 million on the side, as soon as that happens i am willing to give you even 2 grand kids, see how reasonable i am?"
here's the thing though, THEY WOULD DO ALL. AAAAAALL of that.

it wasnt just them though, it was literally my mother in law's sister, my brother in law, my sister in law, and my brother in law's wife's friend.

i can't. i can't. literally, i can't.

[Merman Dan]

Meanwhile I just found out today that I got kicked out of the NC-Merfest group. Just like that. With no reason

You are in good company. Maybe we'll have t-shirts made for the occasion. ;)

[Adalira]

here's the thing though, THEY WOULD DO ALL. AAAAAALL of that.

it wasnt just them though, it was literally my mother in law's sister, my brother in law, my sister in law, and my brother in law's wife's friend.

i can't. i can't. literally, i can't.

Ow shit? They would? I was just bluffing!:lol:
I don't want kids myself, maybe adopt one day in the far far future but most likely not even that.
I thought you could bluff your way out of the discussion, if you don't want kids do not use my bluff then lol.
Just stand your ground and dont do it.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah i definitley dont want their money. they have a track record of "but i did this for you"

no. im not taking that leverage money.

[Merman Arion]

You are in good company. Maybe we'll have t-shirts made for the occasion. ;)

Hell yes! :highfive:

[Adalira]

I would not either with my family. They would have something to throw in your face any time it suits them, something to hold over your head.
It seems to be in the secret book of parenting, the secret book that you only get when you give birth ;-) the book that says:" Make sure to do a lot for your child so you can make them feel guilty later on and throw it in their face ones they get opinions of their own or try to live their own life."
My brother keeps asking my hubby and me/I when we will get official married since it is "really time to do so" and we just keep saying nope, we will get married when it suits us.

[shimmygoddess]

Oh yeah lol, the post where Christomer went on an angry rant about how anyone caught "bullying" (read: calling his girlfriend out for her bullshit / criticizing her shitty behavior / not taking her side in her stupid drama) will be SENT TO JAIL.

I'm shaking in my fins. The Internet Police are gonna come knocking on my door any minute, I'm sure.

I am not in that group anymore....but heard about that rant....You cannot report people for 'bullying' when they speak the truth. Such crap!

[shimmygoddess]

You are in good company. Maybe we'll have t-shirts made for the occasion. ;)


oooohh..I want a shirt too! :lol:

[Amphitrite]

I can really only take so much. And today was just too much. I haven't had a shower for weeks because I can't handle the stimulation of a shower. And I can't handle a lot of things. I'm just feeling above and beyond not enough. Not enough for myself and certainly not enough by anyone else's standards. So I can either stay here and sob and shake every damn night or I can work on moving out. There's really no reason to have a mock-conversation about this with anyone. I just... it is SO HARD to maintain a facade of 'I can actually put up with your shit' on a regular basis. So I am looking on my government's website to try to see if there are any options for a person with my needs and I found this 'findmyroommate' thing. But the link doesn't lead anywhere so I'm a bit stumped. But I will keep looking. Meanwhile I'm going to splurge and finally by myself a frikkin monofin. And I figure I will throw in a pair of goggles and a snorkel for fun. It'll be interesting (isn't it always for us? :p ) but it'll work out. I get paid every Friday and that'll do. Anyways, fishies, hug your family and friends if you can and take a breath of fresh air for me. <3

[Mermaid Wesley]

When people can't own up to their mistakes. [emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4]


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[shimmygoddess]

When people can't own up to their mistakes. [emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4][emoji4]


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YES x1000!!!

[IllynReaver]

Lost my job, filling out all the job applications I can so hoping I find something.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I've been through the loss of two animal friends this week, and now my lizard has a few (easily fixable) health problems. if I don't fix them it could be fatal eventually. not an amazing start to my week.

[Merman Arion]

New shootings last night at Saint-Denis, in the suburbs of Paris. 7 people arrested including 3 terrorists and 4 suspects. One kamikaze who was a woman exploded. 2 other terrorists killed. 5 policemen hurt. Operation still ongoing in direct live tv...

Edit : the people who got arrested were targeting La Defense which is the area where I work..! [emoji26]

[Mermaid Lilium]

From what I've read it was the police going in to raid and arrest them, I still don't think they caught everyone yet.

The nearest to another attack is that an ambulance full of explosives was found at a stadium in Germany or something, my brother told me about it last night.

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[Echidna]

There's big uproar in Germany all of a sudden because the soccer arena in Hannover had to be evacuated and the game couldn't take place.

Mass shootings and war-like incidents?
"oh yea bad zzzzzzzzzzzZZZZZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzzzz btw all is fine"

aborted soccer game?
"NOOOOOOOOOOOOO THIS IS WAR"

:headdesk:

[SeaGlass Siren]

Not really a bitch out but something that was on my mind.

The hardest part about being a woman isn't actually deciding what to wear.
It's actually bleeding from your vagina, being pressured into birthing babies, not having the same opportunities as male counterparts in the workplace, being ridiculed when you say feminism is still needed, hearing things like "I'm gonna rape and beat you" "get back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich", being called a bitch when she sticks up for herself when being cat called, being told by men "no you cannot have an abortion even if you were raped", being told you are not a good mother for feeding formula milk as opposed to breastfeeding or being a working mother as opposed to staying at home full time... And hearing shit from Caitlyn Jenner's mouth like "picking your outfit is the hardest part about being a women" making it seem like all women are shallow and that all other problems I've mentioned are trivial.
Wtf. No. Just no.
Like congrats for identifying as a female and coming out, but I don't think you fully grasp what it is actually like.

[PearlieMae]

Not really a bitch out but something that was on my mind.

The hardest part about being a woman isn't actually deciding what to wear.
It's actually bleeding from your vagina, being pressured into birthing babies, not having the same opportunities as male counterparts in the workplace, being ridiculed when you say feminism is still needed, hearing things like "I'm gonna rape and beat you" "get back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich", being called a bitch when she sticks up for herself when being cat called, being told by men "no you cannot have an abortion even if you were raped", being told you are not a good mother for feeding formula milk as opposed to breastfeeding or being a working mother as opposed to staying at home full time... And hearing shit from Caitlyn Jenner's mouth like "picking your outfit is the hardest part about being a women" making it seem like all women are shallow and that all other problems I've mentioned are trivial.
Wtf. No. Just no.
Like congrats for identifying as a female and coming out, but I don't think you fully grasp what it is actually like.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

I can't. Literally, I can't.

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[PearlieMae]

I can't. Literally, I can't.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

I know I tried to put a Regina mills gif but my phone hates me. :(

[Merman Dan]

"get back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich",

I used an aquatic half-slaad beach-dwelling sorcerer in a D&D game once. Yep. A tuna-slaad sand witch.

[SummerRogue]

My mum and I run a foodbank and yesterday I had to walk out to stop myself from punching one of our 'clients' in her stupid face. We serve tea and coffee in the winter so people sit in the warmth and talk with us for a while. I could talk for hours with some of the people we have. So this woman I talk to all the time (every week) suddenly started a Racist rant about 'all these filthy refugees, look at their clothes, they even have phones they just want to come here and blow us all up' I calmly started to tell her why they need to come to Scotland, that we need to help them because they are in such desperate need and she just says 'yeah I get that but i'm just a big racist' she started laughing. I asked her if she would throw her phone and clothes away if something happened here' 'of course not, I paid for these' Ugh I told her that the drone attacks the government are sending to 'wipe out ISIS' are dropping bombs of civilian areas she laughed again and
said 'Serves them right, we had to teach them a lesson after what they've done to Paris, they killed all those people.' I had to walk away then. Every terrorist identified in Paris( to my knowledge) has been European, not that if they were Syrian I would turn away any refugees. We of course still have to give her what she needs from the food bank but honestly I just wish we could turn awful people like her away. And oh my god If her 'friend' that comes into the foodbank calls her son (the friends) a 'Mongo' in front of my little brother one more time the owner of the hall has told us he doesn't want them anywhere near. We will be referring them to Another foodbank. I'm making signs because we have to give everyone a warning they are entering a hate and judgment free building. I would never dream of judging someone by their circumstances especially in a Foodbank so I don't see how it could be hard for someone to hold their tongue for half an hour while they collect what they need.

[Mermaid Momo]

Not really a bitch out but something that was on my mind.

The hardest part about being a woman isn't actually deciding what to wear.
It's actually bleeding from your vagina, being pressured into birthing babies, not having the same opportunities as male counterparts in the workplace, being ridiculed when you say feminism is still needed, hearing things like "I'm gonna rape and beat you" "get back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich", being called a bitch when she sticks up for herself when being cat called, being told by men "no you cannot have an abortion even if you were raped", being told you are not a good mother for feeding formula milk as opposed to breastfeeding or being a working mother as opposed to staying at home full time... And hearing shit from Caitlyn Jenner's mouth like "picking your outfit is the hardest part about being a women" making it seem like all women are shallow and that all other problems I've mentioned are trivial.
Wtf. No. Just no.
Like congrats for identifying as a female and coming out, but I don't think you fully grasp what it is actually like.
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This is what I've been saying! and I totally think she didn't even deserve that woman of the year award. What did she do to deserve that? She's a homophobe and a racist, I hope those aren't the qualifications for winning that award. I can think of so many more transwomen who deserved that award if they wanted to pick a transwoman.

[Mermaid Momo]

Oh yeah lol, the post where Christomer went on an angry rant about how anyone caught "bullying" (read: calling his girlfriend out for her bullshit / criticizing her shitty behavior / not taking her side in her stupid drama) will be SENT TO JAIL.

I'm shaking in my fins. The Internet Police are gonna come knocking on my door any minute, I'm sure.

I'm in that group, but I don't participate and turned off notifications so I missed everything leading up to the bully rant (I did see the bully rant tho, mostly just scrolled past it :P)
What were they calling her out on before hand that made him post that?

[Mermaid Wesley]

Friendly reminder that childbirth and menstruation suck but are not woman-exclusive. And they aren't woman-identifiers. There are cis women who don't menstruate or have children.
Other than that yeah.
She's not a good representation of the trans community, mogai community, or of women, and yet is being treated as such. *shrug* will just continue ignoring her now


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[SeaGlass Siren]

^ yes there's definitely that -- thank you for clarifying. I'm as cis as cis can be and forget the others ._. Oops.


What irks me too is that anyone who spoke up about how she didn't deserve to win (well no shit if anyone gave that speech I don't think they would've won either) was labeled as transphobic. Wtf why

[Sabrina the Selkie]

It's just because bandwagon liberals can just say "The only reason you don't like it is 'cause she's transgender!"

[SeaGlass Siren]

Please if any woman said that id call them out.

to be fair on Caitlyn though she was surrounded by the kardashians who aren't really the best role models so....

[Mermaid Clara]

Gah! I checked my schedule today and they are making me work at 2:45pm to 6:45pm on thanksgiving. I guess that even though I set my availably to not being able to work on Thursdays doesn't count for holidays, hopefully I'll still get to see my family and get holiday bonus. I guess that since I'm new I'll have to work more on holidays[emoji53]


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[Mer-Crazy]

Dude that sucks. We don't have thanksgiving here but I know the rules where I work is that they can't make you work a public holiday if you don't want to. Even if they roster you on you can say no. But we have a great union.

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[Mermaid Alea]

Oh SeaGlass you are awesome. :hug:

I will probably end up marrying my boyfriend, and his Mom is a stay at home Mom with 7 children. I foresee his Mom being the type that will pressure me to have kids. I won't be swayed though because I don't want kids and can't be convinced otherwise. With so many kids of her own she is bound to have many grandchildren without me. If I wanted a kid I could just mentor one of her younger kids. I just want a bunch of animals. I already have a good amount of birdie babies.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Alea she sounds difficult to live with. The thing j don't understand is though is that all of her children (my brother in law and sister in law) all have children and she still demands I have one. The fuck

[Mermaid Alea]

What? That IS weird. :confused:
My boyfriend's Mom talks very quietly so I am imagining it being kind of funny hearing her quietly/awkwardly asking if I will give her a grandchild. I have already made it fairly well known that I don't like kids though. When she had her latest baby, my boyfriend asked if I wanted to hold the baby and I said no and then went back into his room. Some people really flip out about wanting to hold and stare at babies, but I am totally opposite.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

What? That IS weird. :confused:
My boyfriend's Mom talks very quietly so I am imagining it being kind of funny hearing her quietly/awkwardly asking if I will give her a grandchild. I have already made it fairly well known that I don't like kids though. When she had her latest baby, my boyfriend asked if I wanted to hold the baby and I said no and then went back into his room. Some people really flip out about wanting to hold and stare at babies, but I am totally opposite.
I remember when we were at the hospital after my nephew was born. They were passing round the baby and it came to my turn, I said, "What are you giving it to me for? I don't want it"
The looks I got that day... They now know better to lump their kids onto me!

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow Jaffa, Alea!
Although I think I mainly want to hold babies when they're family. Just connecting with a family member the same way I'd hug a cousin when meeting them for the same time.

But me, if and when I decide I'm emotionally and financially ready for kids (not for awhile yet, just turned eighteen, lol) I'm skipping the baby years altogether and adopting toddlers.

[Adalira]

Not really a bitch out but something that was on my mind.

The hardest part about being a woman isn't actually deciding what to wear.
It's actually bleeding from your vagina, being pressured into birthing babies, not having the same opportunities as male counterparts in the workplace, being ridiculed when you say feminism is still needed, hearing things like "I'm gonna rape and beat you" "get back to the kitchen and make me a sandwich", being called a bitch when she sticks up for herself when being cat called, being told by men "no you cannot have an abortion even if you were raped", being told you are not a good mother for feeding formula milk as opposed to breastfeeding or being a working mother as opposed to staying at home full time... And hearing shit from Caitlyn Jenner's mouth like "picking your outfit is the hardest part about being a women" making it seem like all women are shallow and that all other problems I've mentioned are trivial.
Wtf. No. Just no.
Like congrats for identifying as a female and coming out, but I don't think you fully grasp what it is actually like.

Wow, well spoken! I could not have agreed with you more on this! :thumbs-up:

[RastaMer]

:gah:I'm so frustrated with myself! I keep procrastinating on projects I should be staying on top of but I can't get myself motivated. Does anyone have any tips for beating procrastination?

[Starfrit]

I'm in that group, but I don't participate and turned off notifications so I missed everything leading up to the bully rant (I did see the bully rant tho, mostly just scrolled past it :P)
What were they calling her out on before hand that made him post that?

No idea, to be honest! I haven't seen much of anything either, but I get the feeling that it's connected to the callouts Christomer and Eden got here a while ago (http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?11825-MERFEST-vs-MERMANIA-RAAAAAANT!!), both of them have kind of been extra-defensive since then. Neither of them gave a shit about anyone being "bullied" (can I just say that I absolutely despise that word?) in the mercommunity until suddenly people weren't scared anymore of speaking up and criticizing their own shitty behavior. They're only threatening to send "bullies" to jail now (which isn't even how that works, lol, but I digress) because their own reputations as "mer-royalty" have been damaged and more people are seeing them for how sleazy they really are. That's how I see it, anyway.

[Mermaid Lilium]

Pomodoro timer saved me from failing my degree. It's an app you can get on Apple and Android. It times your work periods and alerts you to take breaks at certain intervals which is all customisable :)

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[shimmygoddess]

Neither of them gave a shit about anyone being "bullied" (can I just say that I absolutely despise that word?) in the mercommunity until suddenly people weren't scared anymore of speaking up and criticizing their own shitty behavior.

That is it exactly! Years ago, when my local pod member and I removed ourselves from Ncmerfolk, b/c we did not agree with the things that Chris wanted to do, we were accused of 'causing trouble for the group' and 'not playing nice', and we were talked about badly. All of our problems started when we would not blindly follow along and questioned things. Glad others are seeing this for themselves now. We were bullied too bc of it, wonder if I can file a report ....LOL. Then again, I could care less anymore, Its been years b/c we were the first ones to have to deal with this and have moved on since then. Just distance yourself from anyone who causes you negativity and focus on yourself and your loyal friends.

[SeaGlass Siren]

"Could care less" - that means you do care. At least a little. I hate these WORD CRIIMES!!!

:cough: sorry, weird al yankovic moment. Moving on.

this whole drama with these llamas are just... Ugh. :eye roll:

[shimmygoddess]

"Could care less" - that means you do care. At least a little. I hate these WORD CRIIMES!!!

:cough: sorry, weird al yankovic moment. Moving on.

this whole drama with these llamas are just... Ugh. :eye roll:


LOL, yes you are right. I am still sleepy and dealing with a migraine today, so my head is foggy :lol:

[SeaGlass Siren]

It's ok it gave me an excuse to use weird al :P

[TheMerthropologist]

34131
I really need this and I thought maybe some other mer do too. I'm just very stressed with family, school, everything. Semester is almost over but it's getting a bit difficult to hang in there. I too need a cure for procrastination and getting my head to focus

[Merman Arion]

Since we are talking about bullying, I for instance is being harassed by Eden. She just won't leave me alone. I blocked her on FB, on MerNetwork and on Instagram to move on from the drama that happened back in September and she just can't let it go. I want to be left alone but she keeps on contacting me through my merman page *sighs*

I'm trying to keep calm and ignore.

[Starfrit]

ILU, SeaGlass. <3 ILU so much.


@TheMerthropologist - I've been there, so I totally know how you're feeling. I hope things get better for you, I'm rooting for you! <3


::EDIT:: Arion, have you considered reporting her to FB for harassment? I mean, it might not do much because FB's reporting system is almost totally useless, but it might help to some extent. Otherwise, ignoring her is probably your best option. She's bound to get bored eventually.


Also, I just went to the Merfest page and noticed the "I'LL SEND ALL BULLIES TO JAIL" post that Chris made is deleted. Wonder when he backtracked on that? :P

[Adalira]

34131
I really need this and I thought maybe some other mer do too. I'm just very stressed with family, school, everything. Semester is almost over but it's getting a bit difficult to hang in there. I too need a cure for procrastination and getting my head to focus

I am so sorry to hear you go through this. I am going through a lot of stress myself with my family, work and not having a roof over our heads yet when we need to move out the end of Decembre.
What i do is simply sit down and do my work, i know it is not much help but there is nothing else i can do but do the work that needs to be done.
And when it is done the end of the day? I reward myself with some warm coco with whipped cream or something else that is a real treat for me.
Maybe what can help is making "to-do" lists for each day and try to do all on the list, make sure your list is realistic though.
You can start of with a few small things and build it up each day from there, reward yourself the end of the day by watching a dvd or something fun on tv or do something else to relax and get your mind on whatever is stressing you out.
Also what i have done is i have bought some natural relaxer pills and natural sleeping pills all from the health store. I opened up to the sales woman and answered all her questions honestly so she could give me the best advice and recommend natural pills accordingly.
I also have chamomille tea and other teas to help out.
What may also help is putting on some relaxing music, here are 2 of my favorite youtube channels with relaxing music, meditation relaxclub also has music especially for studying or sleeping:

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuT1A-049nlBLK7xGNCBxkw

https://www.youtube.com/user/meditationrelaxclub/videos

Hope it helps :hug:

[Mermaid Alea]

I feel the same as RastaMer and TheMerthropologist.

This semester has been busy from the start and I have had little time do things other than homework. Now that it is getting near the end I am dwindling on motivation. Last week I had a few days where I just didn't do any homework and it was so awesome and relaxing that I am having trouble motivating myself to get back to work. I know that this semester being almost over should motivate me to finish my work because it is almost over, but I am just getting really tired of my classes.

What seems to be working well for me is doing homework at my boyfriend's house. That way I have someone to talk to while I do my homework. I am horrible at giving myself breaks when I am working on homework so my boyfriend will tell me to take a break every now and then and watch videos or play videogames with him. I really like Lilium's recommendation of using an app to tell you when to take breaks.