B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Alea]

x2 Lots of hugs! I am so sorry that your co-workers are being so mean but I am so proud of you for passionately doing your job! Instead of dissing you, they should feel more inspired to be more dedicated like you. Then maybe they too would get promoted. They certainly won't get promoted with the attitude they are having and having an attitude certainly won't make work better.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

^truth^

[Mermaid Mystery]

I have no money right now but I want to do some redecorating and research for my lizard. Ughhhhh I hate that we don't have pet insurance. Bub's treatment is costing us so much. She's sleeping on my bed right now. I love her so much http://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160225/1a83b3d37e2575a14c411c9dc6923c9e.jpg

[Sabrina the Selkie]

She is such a cute cat.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I know, it's gonna kill me when she's gone. Thankfully we have her now and she's not reacting negatively to chemo so far. she's just a bit cold as you can see haha.

[Mermaid Mystery]

just got an email that says I'm taking the SAT with the essay when I specifically waited for the new test to be out so I could have the essay as an option. cool now I'm going to stress myself out even more. just what I needed.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

See, the essay is one of the things that saved my grade on the ACT.

I got a full 36 (the highest score) on both reading and writing. So I got a thirty. Because I got like a 24 in math and a 26 in science. And I LIKE science. (I'm literally graduating high school with six years worth of it)

[Sherielle]

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My cat ran over my face last night at 3AM.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch.

[Mizuko]

I'm a bit lost and upset right now.
A photo taken of me years ago in my tail being wheeled in a wheelchair between gigs has surfaced again online. I was unaware the photo was being taken, so I have no idea who did it. But it was posted on Tumblr and someone tagged it as 'disabled princess'. A popular page found it last night and has shared it (Alternative Disney) and tagged my page.
I have gotten SO much hate mail from people saying I'm claiming to be disabled.
I never posted the picture in the first place, nor tagged it 'disabled princess'. That tag should belong to someone who is actually disabled, and even though I've tried contacting the page, reporting the photo, etc, they wont take it down or change it. I'm feeling rather helpless and seeing the darkest side of the internet. I've even made a post on my mermaid page urging people not to get mad, but people still are.
What can I do? My anxiety is through the roof regarding it.

[Lotus the Mermaid]

I'm a bit lost and upset right now.
A photo taken of me years ago in my tail being wheeled in a wheelchair between gigs has surfaced again online. I was unaware the photo was being taken, so I have no idea who did it. But it was posted on Tumblr and someone tagged it as 'disabled princess'. A popular page found it last night and has shared it (Alternative Disney) and tagged my page.
I have gotten SO much hate mail from people saying I'm claiming to be disabled.
I never posted the picture in the first place, nor tagged it 'disabled princess'. That tag should belong to someone who is actually disabled, and even though I've tried contacting the page, reporting the photo, etc, they wont take it down or change it. I'm feeling rather helpless and seeing the darkest side of the internet. I've even made a post on my mermaid page urging people not to get mad, but people still are.
What can I do? My anxiety is through the roof regarding it.

Take a break from the internet, remember that people have no power over you and the truth wins in the end. You've done all that you need to do. If you receive harassment after explaining yourself on your public Facebook page, report it and wash your hands of those responsible. Once you've taken a break from the internet, look at potential steps you can take. Comment on the photo and explain the situation and that the poster will not take the picture and false claim down. People will likely rally behind you. If not, then once again, you did your best. And remember this above all else: for every hater, you have at least ten fans that adore you. I hope that helps. Talk to me if it ever gets to be too much. I'll be praying for them to stop. <3

[Felicia]

I'm a bit lost and upset right now.
A photo taken of me years ago in my tail being wheeled in a wheelchair between gigs has surfaced again online. I was unaware the photo was being taken, so I have no idea who did it. But it was posted on Tumblr and someone tagged it as 'disabled princess'. A popular page found it last night and has shared it (Alternative Disney) and tagged my page.
I have gotten SO much hate mail from people saying I'm claiming to be disabled.
I never posted the picture in the first place, nor tagged it 'disabled princess'. That tag should belong to someone who is actually disabled, and even though I've tried contacting the page, reporting the photo, etc, they wont take it down or change it. I'm feeling rather helpless and seeing the darkest side of the internet. I've even made a post on my mermaid page urging people not to get mad, but people still are.
What can I do? My anxiety is through the roof regarding it.

I went through and read all the comments and let me just say HOLY SHIT, people are ridiculous! Its not your fault someone tagged you with that and you've apologized for it, besides wheelchairs were made for those unable to walk, be it permanent or temporary, and you can't walk in a tail so you have every right to use it, disabled or not! People just need to get off their high horses, I have wheelchair bound family and yet do I take offense to someone using a wheelchair, disabled or not, NO! I get why the tag could be considered offensive but thats not your doing and there's nothing that you can currently do about that. I'm so sorry you have to go through this and I really hope you can get the picture and tag removed so that you can end this hate! You really dont deserve to go through this crap and if you need any help or just wanna talk I'm here! As someone with severe anxiety I understand the stress this causes

[Merman Arion]

I'm a bit lost and upset right now.
A photo taken of me years ago in my tail being wheeled in a wheelchair between gigs has surfaced again online. I was unaware the photo was being taken, so I have no idea who did it. But it was posted on Tumblr and someone tagged it as 'disabled princess'. A popular page found it last night and has shared it (Alternative Disney) and tagged my page.
I have gotten SO much hate mail from people saying I'm claiming to be disabled.
I never posted the picture in the first place, nor tagged it 'disabled princess'. That tag should belong to someone who is actually disabled, and even though I've tried contacting the page, reporting the photo, etc, they wont take it down or change it. I'm feeling rather helpless and seeing the darkest side of the internet. I've even made a post on my mermaid page urging people not to get mad, but people still are.
What can I do? My anxiety is through the roof regarding it.

Where is this?? I just can't find the post you're talking about.

[AniaR]

It is weird, people do seem to have issues with Mermaids using wheelchairs.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

I wonder why. It's like people just want to see us on the floor flopping around like a fish getting nowhere.

[Mizuko]

Alternative Disney deleted the post eventually! Im very grateful they listened. But the biggest trouble maker on the subject screenshot the post and is still attacking me over it. Ive deleted/banned them from my mermaid page and I guess thats all i can do... i dont understand how people think its not ok for us to use wheelchairs? They are a mobility aid. Ive worked at pools that wouldn't let my mertender carry me due to slip hazards so put me in their wheelchair, and hospitals prefer us using their wheelchairs when visiting children... I'm really praying it all blows over because I'm terrible at handling the anxiety associated with this kind of drama! I left a statement on my mermaid page and so far its been viewed 3000+ times so I'm hoping that'll appease most of the anger from people. :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

So. I had a dream last night that basically put me into a terrible mood for the rest of the day.

I was at a freshman commencement ceremony at my second choice school. It wasn't really ceremonial but meh. I was sitting with a group of guys I'd met earlier in the day and we're talking lightly about our hobbies and politics and etc. Y'know the usual introductory discussion.

We notice there is an exorbitant amount of cake at the refreshment table that no one is allowed to touch yet. So we load up our plates and sit down.

Donald Trump gets on the stage to talk to the young people about how he's gonna make America great again.

It also happens to be his birthday. The cake gets cut and passed around.

So my table is entirely invested in a "what the hell?!" moment. Especially because our political discussion from earlier had been highly leftist.

The "what the hell?!" moment continues. I wake up, relieved to find that I'm not being forced to celebrate Trump's birthday but horrified to realize that I am still a second semester senior in high school still waiting to hear from my first choice school.


In the waking world, I meet a woman whose house was just burned out.

Then I go to work and find that the basement of my beloved library has been complete stripped out. The floor down there is being replaced, so while I knew it was coming it was still extremely jarring to see.

And all of this follows my grandfather going to the hospital again because of blood clots blocking his urinary tract. He has bladder cancer but refuses - and I agree with him here - to have it removed. So the best they can do is scrape the bladder free of cancer cells every few months. Every time he has it done, the surgeon bungles it and nicks the vein. So then the clotting blood blocks his urine.

He'd just come home after a valient attempt to flush out the blood on Wednesday. He left with a catheter but when the clots reaccumulated, they got so big even the catheter didn't help. So my mom brought him back to the hospital last night and I slept on my grandma's couch to just be there for her.

My mom and I go home at six a.m. and I get a few more hours of sleep. And that's when I had the Trump dream.

[Princess Pearl]

It is weird, people do seem to have issues with Mermaids using wheelchairs.

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I know! I did a three day event- day one and two I was in my chair, day three I wore my walking tail. People avoided me in the chair, but loved me as I waddled around in the skirt. Weird.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Alternative Disney deleted the post eventually! Im very grateful they listened. But the biggest trouble maker on the subject screenshot the post and is still attacking me over it. Ive deleted/banned them from my mermaid page and I guess thats all i can do... i dont understand how people think its not ok for us to use wheelchairs? They are a mobility aid. Ive worked at pools that wouldn't let my mertender carry me due to slip hazards so put me in their wheelchair, and hospitals prefer us using their wheelchairs when visiting children... I'm really praying it all blows over because I'm terrible at handling the anxiety associated with this kind of drama! I left a statement on my mermaid page and so far its been viewed 3000+ times so I'm hoping that'll appease most of the anger from people. :(


Honey the woman who's attacking you is a very angry soul. She is not emotionally well as a result of her condition and feels that EVERYONE ELSE needs to feel the same way.

take some breaths, it's not you it's her

[MermaidMerida]

So... why is it that it feels like theres no place in the mer community for those who just wanna swim in a tail and have fun and be social and be a mermaid? I keep coming up against people who wanna institute "training regimes" and stuff and its honestly really starting to break my heart because I've wanted to be a mer for YEARS but I have no interest in training or working out or anything.... ugh I just feel like theres no place for me here....

[Dancing Fish]

MermaidMerida, I get that feeling sometimes...but if I think of it this way, probably there's tons of us on mernet who aren't doing this professionally, who just want to have fun in tails. But there's not a lot for us to talk about on here, since we're not (at least in my case) instituting schools or doing mermaid gigs or worrying about underwater hair/makeup and photo shoots and pool bans affecting our livelihood. So the higher proportion of new threads go to those issues. And we're just in the background saying, "yay, I wore my tail again today!" and thinking that's not really worth a new post.

Maybe we need our own thread for just that? :D Nonprofessional mermaids just goofing off? "Show us your average daily swim!" :) Fortunately for us, I've never felt that there was any irritation over us "amateurs" hanging out here on mernetwork. Yes, I feel like the posting is done predominantly by professionals and up-and-coming professional mers, but I think there are far more lurkers who just hang out here without posting. Like me. If it weren't for the tailmaking threads, I doubt I'd have much to add at all!

[Ashe]

I completely understand. Sometimes I feel like the mer community has turned into one big competition. Like, who has the most expensive tail or who can become the most famous the fastest. I know that isn't always the case and we can usually tone that down here on MN, but I know that some people take it really far and it causes a lot of unneeded turmoil within the community :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I don't really get the sense that we're all that competitive. I think Dancing Fish hit the nail on the head.

Dancing Fish, you should make that thread. I think it will really help that portion of the community (which I am currently a member of, though I do hope to go pro eventually and I do work on my breath hold).

[PearlieMae]

Non-pro mers goofing off.

I'm down with that!

[Dancing Fish]

Done! :D

[Merman Dan]

So... why is it that it feels like theres no place in the mer community for those who just wanna swim in a tail and have fun and be social and be a mermaid?

How far are you from the Greensboro Aquatic Center (http://www.greensboroaquaticcenter.com)?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?t=12776

Here is the link to the thread Dancing Fish started! ♡

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Anyway, unrelated stream of sadness.

My great grandfather (well, my great grandmother's widower, really) is utterly convinced that he will be dead within the next few days.

My mother and I are a little more optimistic: we give him MAYBE a month and a half.

She works in a retirement home, and as a single working parent she took me to work with her. So we've both seen a lot of death and can generally tell how long someone's gonna hold on. Something in the eyes, really. The last few years of life (when dying of old age, or else long lasting illness) are all about will power.

It's his time to go, that isn't really the problem.

The point of contention is this: because he thinks he's gonna be dead within the week and he really wants to die at home, he refuses to go to the hospital.

My mom and I think if he doesn't go, he really won't last the week and it will be excruciating. Whereas if he DOES go, he'll make it home with greater care and lots of pain meds, still die at home, but at least die comfortably in about a month.

Ultimately, it is his death and his choice, but neither of us want him to die in pain. So we are attempting to strong-arm him. He is proving very stubborn about this.

He DOES seem to be on the verge of agreeing with us and going to the hospital, at least...

[Mer-Crazy]

I, personally anyway, don't feel any real sense of competition on the site (and I'm a rather competitive person who tends to find it when there is none) although I do feel casual mermaids can sometimes be a little under-represented simply because we don't have all that much to talk about. But some of the bigger names on here aren't professional, Arion for one. He's just chilling, doing his own thing but most people know who he is because he engages a lot. I'm also just a casual mer and I just don't have that much to post or talk about. I offer advice or answers when I know them, but usually I don't so I don't say much. I'm also a bit of an introvert so whilst I read the threads that interest me, most don't and those that do I don't feel like I have anything significant to add, so I'm a bit more of a lurker.

[Merman Arion]

Some of the bigger names on here aren't professional, Arion for one. He's just chilling, doing his own thing but most people know who he is because he engages a lot.

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[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm going crazy. That's not an exaggeration, my mental health has almost completely deteriorated and I've broken down twice. I'm probably about 20 pounds underweight. I should've been hospitalized weeks ago. I've fallen apart at this point. Insurance won't pay for any working treatment so hospitalization is the only option. My mom is absolutely refusing and I've told her countless fucking times that I need it. I'm being completely serious and she's acting like its a joke. My grades are terrible and she's blaming it all on me and I can't handle it anymore and every day I think about killing myself and rationally I know not to do that but because I'm insane I can't control how I feel. I need help and I recognize that but I'm being refused any help.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That. Sucks.

[PhaylennMurúch]

I'm going crazy. That's not an exaggeration, my mental health has almost completely deteriorated and I've broken down twice. I'm probably about 20 pounds underweight. I should've been hospitalized weeks ago. I've fallen apart at this point. Insurance won't pay for any working treatment so hospitalization is the only option. My mom is absolutely refusing and I've told her countless fucking times that I need it. I'm being completely serious and she's acting like its a joke. My grades are terrible and she's blaming it all on me and I can't handle it anymore and every day I think about killing myself and rationally I know not to do that but because I'm insane I can't control how I feel. I need help and I recognize that but I'm being refused any help.


oh hun *hugs* you need to call 911, you are having a psychiatric emergency. Call and tell them exactly what you posted here, they'll send someone out. Or walk into your closest hospital's ER for evaluation. You deserve care and if your mother won't get you the care you need then you need to go out and get it

[Imogen Finnly]

I agree with phaylenn, you need to seek out help. You shouldn't have to do this on your own

[Mermaid Mystery]

I've got a psychiatrist appointment tomorrow with someone I've never met before, so I'm hoping this one will actually listen to what I'm saying instead of suggesting some bs antidepressants that make everything worse. I also just discovered that Carrie Fisher will be at Silicon Valley Comic Con next month and I probably won't be able to meet her so I'll probably die a bit inside from that. Unles of course I got her attention somehow. But that's not my main concern right now, although it would be lovely. I'm just nervous to pour my heart out to yet another stranger.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

This one will listen, Mystery! You can force this one to listen!!!

[Mermaid Mystery]

I GOT: a pill. that's all. nothing. i asked her about everything and she just gave me a look. if this were MY psychiatrist I would be fine but this is not okay.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

What. A. Bitch.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Wat a day. Jesus.

so to start, my recurring dream came back and it was so traumatizing i woke up shaking. I'm beginning to wonder if I have ptsd because it's begun affecting my daily life.
Then at work today this bitch gets all up in my face after I apologized to her for sounding rude and malicious as it wasn't my intention. Then she goes on to critique how I work (which is stupid because my bosses have no problem with it) so I take it up with the boss and I relay the incident that happened because I'm not having this.
Then because I've been so emotionally distraught today I went on my period early and fucking stained my undies. (Tragic I know......)
then my friend of Australia gave me a call and she was on the verge of suicide and I have never been so fearful in my entire life. Just the thought of having someone over the phone threatening to kill themselves over a stupid boy who raped somebody, and knowing I may be the last person to have contacted her. Scariest thought ever. It got so bad my husband had to intervene and help me get through to her so that she wouldn't actually stab herself. It took me 3 hours. Now I'm a little traumatized over what happened.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh SeaGlass. *hugs*

[Nyx]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry SeaGlass.

[Mermaid Kelda]

Seaglass I'm so sorry you had to go through that :( trying to prevent suicide is very traumatic in itself. I'm glad you got through to her, mad props to you and your husband. I hope things get better for your friend, and I hope things are less stressful for you!

[SeaGlass Siren]

I gave her a call this morning to see if she was ok. She's a lot better now thankfully.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's good.

[Mermaid Clara]

I'm feeling at war with myself lately. I really want to make myself a nice tail but if I do it now I will have to completely remake it because I'm going on this special diet and I'm going to hopefully loose a lot of weight that's been holding me back my whole life. The other thing really bothering me is the whole loosing weight thing because I'm scared of not being able to loose the weight I need to loose. I'm doubting myself that I'm going to be stay on the diet and succeed. I'm also afraid of the change that will happen. My whole life I've seen myself as fat and ugly, I still cringe and feel disgusted when I see my reflection. My second semester of college I started to accept myself a little bit, but I'm still having a hard time. The diet is supposed to be a eating lifestyle change and I'm really feel like I'm ready to do this for myself and take control of my disgusting eating habits and lifestyle, I just can't seem to shake this feeling of uncertainty and fear.


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Change is always scary. But you'll do fine.

[Mermaid Alea]

I'm feeling at war with myself lately. I really want to make myself a nice tail but if I do it now I will have to completely remake it because I'm going on this special diet and I'm going to hopefully loose a lot of weight that's been holding me back my whole life. The other thing really bothering me is the whole loosing weight thing because I'm scared of not being able to loose the weight I need to loose. I'm doubting myself that I'm going to be stay on the diet and succeed. I'm also afraid of the change that will happen. My whole life I've seen myself as fat and ugly, I still cringe and feel disgusted when I see my reflection. My second semester of college I started to accept myself a little bit, but I'm still having a hard time. The diet is supposed to be a eating lifestyle change and I'm really feel like I'm ready to do this for myself and take control of my disgusting eating habits and lifestyle, I just can't seem to shake this feeling of uncertainty and fear.


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Do you know of anyone who would change their eating habits and lifestyle with you? It really helps when you have someone there to encourage you and change along with you. When one of you struggles, the other one will be there for support.

___________________________________

Last week my boyfriend and I celebrated being together for four years. We had a serious talk and he told me I don't open up to him a lot about my feelings. I realized I suck because it has been four years and I am still have issues about being more open with him. I guess I am so used to no one really listening to me or caring about what I say, that I just don't bother sharing with people. Actually now that I think about it, I have never really been super close to anyone. Even after all this time I am still worried that he will get tired of me or doesn't care about what I have to say or something. I don't know why I am still having trouble accepting that he really loves me and wants me to feel free to tell him anything (which he always tells me) and I don't know why I can't find the words. I don't know what is wrong with me...I guess I have come a long way since we first started dating. I still have a long way to go though...It is just so frustrating because he is the perfectest, nicest, sweetest boyfriend ever and I feel like I am letting him down. :(

[PearlieMae]

...
Last week my boyfriend and I celebrated being together for four years. We had a serious talk and he told me I don't open up to him a lot about my feelings. I realized I suck because it has been four years and I am still have issues about being more open with him. I guess I am so used to no one really listening to me or caring about what I say, that I just don't bother sharing with people. Actually now that I think about it, I have never really been super close to anyone. Even after all this time I am still worried that he will get tired of me or doesn't care about what I have to say or something. I don't know why I am still having trouble accepting that he really loves me and wants me to feel free to tell him anything (which he always tells me) and I don't know why I can't find the words. I don't know what is wrong with me...I guess I have come a long way since we first started dating. I still have a long way to go though...It is just so frustrating because he is the perfectest, nicest, sweetest boyfriend ever and I feel like I am letting him down. :(

Tell him exactly that. Tell him that you are trying, but it's difficult for you, and if he really cared for you, he will be patient and supportive, and that you will try, every day, to open up...just a little more.

It's a habit that you have to develop. You'll get there!

[Mermaid Alea]

Thanks Pearlie! :) I think I might call him right now.

[Mermaid Mystery]

kitten went in for chemo today. she was grumpy for about an hour but so far she's doing really well.
also someone please stop me before mermaid kylo ren becomes a thing

[Little_Orca]

I am at a loss for words in regards to something happening at my work. It has me so worked up, that I cannot think straight. I need a night to calm down before I bitch. It's all so unfair and so very un-like my work's philosophy.

[Little_Orca]

Can't sleep... here I go...

A while back, I wrote about how hostile my work environment is getting (here (http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?1913-B!TC-IT-OUT!&p=233992&viewfull=1#post233992)).

Things are so messed up at my work right now in relation to that and another issue that I am not even sure where to begin, how to properly process this, how to vent it, or anything. I am sitting at a computer, furiously typing away as my body shakes and my vision blurs while feeling dizzy. I feel so many emotions (anger, disappointment, disbelief, betrayal, sadness.)

As you know from the other post and my mentioning of it before, I work in mental health. Crisis unit, sub acute, yadda yadda. What makes my work so "awesome" is the philosophy of the facility. We believe that everyone who comes to us is still a person. It does not matter how broken you are when you come to us, if you are off medications because you were too poor to afford them or you just hated taking them or if you are homeless or if you are addicted to drugs or whatever. You are still a person. You are dealing with hard issues. We know, we understand, and we will help you. That said, we wont do things -for- you, but we will lead you to the water, it is up to you to drink.

We have AMAZING patience with the people we work with. We get yelled at, threatened, (rarely) hit, and we are still there to help. We have rules set up to follow to keep the place as safe as we can, and so far we have been fortunate to never have had to use the restraint room (where uncontrollable people would be strapped to a board; required by law to have for our facility) in the 4 years we've been running.

The facility hires people known as Peer Supports. A Peer Support is someone who has mental health issues themselves or has a family member who has mental health issues. Either way, they have first hand experience with mental illness, helping someone with mental illness, or at the very least a deeper (personal) understanding of how it can effect the person and their family. Peer Supports of all types are welcome to work at the company and we have some whose diagnosis ranges from depression to schizophrenia to borderline personality disorder and so on. We don't let the diagnosis define them as a person; it's part of them not all of them.

I am a Peer Support; probably the only one at the facility with an MA, but I am still one of them. At the facility, there is supposed to be no "us or them" culture, we are one... But I can see clearly that that isn't true. A lot of others consider Peer Supports valuable tools, but do not take what they think or say seriously; my degree I think is the only thing that breaks that barrier in my favor.

Wednesday night, another Peer Support had an issue. "Rita" began to act strangely right from the start. We do not know each other diagnosis (unless we tell one another, but we're not forced to, of course), but she was acting very paranoid and performing behaviors and stating things that were out of the ordinary. It triggered a few people and got to the point where the clinical director had to leave a meeting with the county in order to get Rita to calm down and agree to leave the facility on her own. She appeared (to me) to be in the middle of a psychotic episode, and I hoped that she got her medications (or however she copes in order to function 'normally') and that the next time I saw her she'd be better.

I learned tonight she may not be coming back. A report was filed on the event as a formality. The person filing it had no ill will towards Rita, it was just procedure. The clinical director was going to try to cover it up or down play the events (meanwhile, one coworker was in tears and trembling that night.) HR had to be notified of this, then Rita was looked into further and she was apparently let go. I was never a big fan of Rita, our personalities did not mesh, but she was a good worker for what she did and still part of our team. Now, she is just gone.

This bothers me. This bothers me a lot, and it's not because I liked Rita. It bothers me because Rita had one incident in a mental health profession, THE PROFESSION THAT SHOULD BE THE MOST UNDERSTANDING, and they let her go (granted I don't know all the details [did she refuse her meds? did she make threats? I don't know]). It bothers me because someone else who has made mistake after mistake after mistake is out on administrative leave and Rita is gone.

The mistake maker? Glenn. As you will recall from the other post I mentioned at the start of this one, Glen is the man who has made work very difficult. He is an older man, almost six foot (if not over,) and very imposing. He has a like-able charm to him that gets people to be super friendly with him right off the bat, but as I am more introverted and inspect people before I am chummy with them, we never hit it off which caused him to assume I hated him as a result and he cornered me at work and talked to me about it... basically "We don't have to like each other, but we need to be professional." I'd never once crossed him, just simply was not part of the EVERYONE LOVES GLENN boat, and I think that irked him.

He has made several mistakes in the facility that include (but not limited to): taking excessively longer breaks than permitted, leaving work early because he had a headache (preventing someone who was throwing up violently from being able to go home because then I'd be working the shift alone), spending his time in the nurses' office to avoid work, missing safety checks, looking at pornography on the computers, looking at bikini girls after the pornography reprimand, allowing contraband into the facility, passing out dangerous chemicals to residents, talking about his sex life at work with the nurses (bringing it up only to the 'attractive' nurses,) and bringing a knife (yes, a KNIFE) to work. What finally got him put on administrative leave was he walked into the nurse's office, and took off his shirt, THEN asked her to look at a rash on his underarm. The nurse reported him, and now she is facing flack for it and being told by a coworker who is a Glenn supporter "if you did not want to look at bodies, you should not have been a nurse" (patriarchy at it's finest, people.)

And he is on administrative leave. Why? I don't know. My supervisor has a stack of papers a mile high filled with complaints about Glenn and his lack of work. She has met with her boss (the clinical director[CD]) about it numerous times and the CD is not doing anything about it. Instead, the CD is telling my supervisor that it's her fault. She is not a good enough boss to get Glenn to do what he needs to do and she is now questioning her ability. The CD also said that the three of us (my boss, "Jack," and I) should be training Glenn. We've talked to him. We've had meetings, and he has been working at the facility for 2 YEARS. He should know the ropes by now and not be making mistakes of this level anymore. To make it worse, the CD has implied that if Glenn does not do his job properly, Jack or I should just step in and do it automatically. Considering Jack and I already do that and we have been asking for support for so long, we are both furious at this 'solution.'

And he gets administrative leave... While Rita is fired. Rita should be on leave getting help, then have a job to come back to when she is better. But no, Glenn with a list of offenses a mile long is the one with a job waiting for him because "We just don't fire people here." -CD.

Bull fucking shit.

I am so angry I am exhausted, and I don't even want to go to work tomorrow... technically later today...

I wish I had my design job now.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Ugh. White male privilege at its finest.... I'm so sorry you had to go through all that little orca. Just reading that made me so upset... I hope Rita is ok.

[Celaeno]

#MermaidLivesMatter? REALLY?

UGH. Well, I'm unfollowing this Instagram account, even though she does gorgeous hair color. Hair color discrimination in the workplace sucks, but it is in NO WAY the same thing as racism and murer. This is just gross. Talk about unchecked privilege. Public pool bitches for sure.

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow. That's really, really gross.

[Dancing Fish]

OMG Little_Orca, that's just awful. I have a sick stomach after reading that. I'm so sorry and I respect you so much for the kind of work you do. *hugs*

Celaeno-- glad you said something, and I hope she'll change her tune when she really gives it some thought. (Yes I am an eternal optimist...)

[Mermaid Danielle]

Stressful week overall. I just want to create; paint/sew/something, but the house and my room are absolute messes right now since the basement flooded. My priorities should be elsewhere.

Hope some of you are having a better week. I'm going to try an circumvent the creative mentality by editing pictures on DeviantArt. For a little. Then get back to work. Maybe. Probably. *sigh*

1st world problems, lol. I am grateful for the blessing that saved so many of our sentimental items, for the ability to create even though I shouldn't right now, the ability to complain (lol) with people that choose to listen, and a family strong enough to get through something so stressful.

Best wishes.

[Mermaid Momo]

http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/16/03/05/2bf75e79fda84c5bc25b43a32ace4b39.jpg

She deleted it and I would has left it alone but her description underneath was really petty and I could tell she didn't really learn anything


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[SeaGlass Siren]

Ah... More Unchecked white privledge...

[Little_Orca]

*Sigh*

This... Just this... I tried to ignore it, but as you can see I couldn't.

http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff176/Little_Orca/This_zpspzhr66vy.png

I added on to the last bit "... in other ways is not helping the ocean." as I realized I had forgotten to finish my sentence. Bleh, it's 3 am.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

And I mean, people's silicone tails DO mold, so I would assume that they break down eventually.

[Mermaid Clara]

Ugh I'm such a hopeless romantic! I'm crying because I just watched the proposal/ engagement video for my favorite YouTube daily vloggers, CTFxC aka Charles Trippy. I've been watching his vlogs 5 years. They seem so happy together and I'm so happy for them. I feel like such a stereotypical girl who cries at everything[emoji24]


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Gods. Me at Romeo and Juliet every single time.

[Mermaid Mystery]

if I had a dollar for every time my dad said I look like a prostitute today…
lmao it's just a crop top and leggings. yeah I'm wearing platform shoes, but they're jelly shoes. I don't think I've ever seen a sex worker in jelly shoes.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow.

[PearlieMae]

if I had a dollar for every time my dad said I look like a prostitute today…
lmao it's just a crop top and leggings. yeah I'm wearing platform shoes, but they're jelly shoes. I don't think I've ever seen a sex worker in jelly shoes.

Ask him how he's such an expert on what prostitutes look like.

:fallover:

[Mermaid Mystery]

SHIIIIIT lmao if he says it again i will

[PearlieMae]

Just trying to do my part! :mermaid kiss:

PS: if you have video on your phone, his reaction will be YouTube gold!

[Little_Orca]

The whole silicone tails thing being horrible is still going on on the thread of a person that I'm friends with on Facebook. It's starting to get to me and it has me wondering if I should be volunteering my time with somebody who sees something I have worked very hard to get and have researched how to take care of as something that now makes (soon to be) me and other silicone tail owners enemies of the ocean. I don't want to limit or even end my opportunities for volunteering, I have even agreed to continue to make my own fabric tails so I can participate (because their rules are no silicone tails) but with so much hatred kind of spilling out and makes me wonder how long I could just smile and try to ignore it without saying something and then being tossed out anyways.

[PearlieMae]

Where is this? If you read the silicone MSDS, you find that silicone breaks down to carbon. Period.

And I have NEVER heard of any mermaid throwing away a silicone tail! Retire, yes, but trash? NEVER!

[Little_Orca]

Its on my facebook its one of my friends. I was looking through the MSDS trying to find information on it but I just kept getting more aggravated so I stop for now and just continue to paint the tail I'm working on. And I've never heard of a mermaid just going "I'm done with this tail, going to throw it out put it in the trash!"

I figured that people who get silicone tails keep them around as momentos you know to a point whether it's boxed up and put in the attic when it's reached its age of retirement or hell you could hanging up on the wall like you like to see the splash tails in the bar.

People who assume that all mermaids who have silicone tails are suddenly against the ocean and against environmental safety, and people who make giant assumptions like that anyway,s just really get under my skin. It kind of just shows a lack of thought process and attempts at understanding.

[SeaGlass Siren]

With that kind of logic that must mean every person who eats any form of meat or animal and food that comes from animals (honey, milk, eggs) must not care about the environment at all. That must also mean anyone who owns a house and uses the computer and consumes energy must not care about the environment. What logic.
Orca I would just tell them off. :/

[Little_Orca]

To me, it almost comes off as like "well if you do it you're terrible horrible person but if I do something similar is fine because I did it and I know that I live environmentally responcible, but you because you do this you are horrible."

And I agree. Like on my post I pointed out several things that people that I know who are environmentally friendly and want to protect environment do that is counter environmental more so than just buying a silicone mermaid tail and its just like "well the Silicone blah blah blah blah blah" what about the plastic in your wigs what about the glitter what about the chemicals in your makeup its it's all related you can't just be like I'm going to hate this one thing but everything else is fine.

And I'm so glad I'm done with painting right now, so I can start sewing because I really really really want to jab a needle into something.

[Mermaid Mystery]

my voice sounds TERRIBLE. I have an audition in a week and I'm singing Kindergarten Boyfriend but oh my god I have so much snot in my system that it sounds so bad. I want to cry about it but I'm pretty sure that will just make it a thousand times worse. why is it that whenever I have an audition, this happens or my orthodontist decides to obstruct my mouth more? ughhhhh

[PearlieMae]

Little Orca, tell her to go piss up a rope. She's talking out her ass and is probably jealous that you are actually doing something while she has nothing better than to bitch on your Facebook feed.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I agree with Pearlie. She needs to get off her high horse.
I have 2 silicone tails sitting in my garage right now. One needs repairs, the other is retired. But I will never ever throw out my babies. But the whole "they must not care about the environment" thing is bs. Personally most of my job is related to the environment. I'm sure others can say the same. Those assumptions are ridiculous.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Silicone tails are nice if you can afford it and have the strength to swim in one. Myself personally, it will be years before I have this chance, because I'm still working on my core strength. And judging by the days that I DO use my merfin at the pool, I always end up with a sore painful back. Because on that very first merfin swim way back when, I did something or something happened, not sure which, which caused me to hurt my left side of body. So that whenever I use my merfin again, that part of me hurts too much. It does not happen when I swim with my Finis Foil though.

[AniaR]

Alternative Disney deleted the post eventually! Im very grateful they listened. But the biggest trouble maker on the subject screenshot the post and is still attacking me over it. Ive deleted/banned them from my mermaid page and I guess thats all i can do... i dont understand how people think its not ok for us to use wheelchairs? They are a mobility aid. Ive worked at pools that wouldn't let my mertender carry me due to slip hazards so put me in their wheelchair, and hospitals prefer us using their wheelchairs when visiting children... I'm really praying it all blows over because I'm terrible at handling the anxiety associated with this kind of drama! I left a statement on my mermaid page and so far its been viewed 3000+ times so I'm hoping that'll appease most of the anger from people. :(
Try not to let it get to you I know it is hard. Remember a few years ago that photo went viral of me when that 13 year old boy stole a kiss?? I was a teacher at the time and tosh.o called me a pedophile. Never mind the fact the kid kissed me and I am clearly trying to pull away in the photo and have no legs. Most people saw it for what it was and I tried hard to own the humor in it. But it made me feel sick for months.

You aren't doing anything wrong. Actual disabled people aren't offended. It is a mobility aid that is much safer than a cart or Dollie. Some people just wanna fight online.

I am proud of you for how you handled it. You've addressed it. Now ignore. Your page isn't their platform. Delete comments and block. Eventually they will give up and move on. And time will help you feel better.

You don't need to explain yourself.

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[Mermaid Mystery]

Ugh Raina that's awful. Daniel Tosh is a dick. I don't find him funny in the slightest. I agree with you 100%

[AniaR]

*Sigh*

This... Just this... I tried to ignore it, but as you can see I couldn't.

http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff176/Little_Orca/This_zpspzhr66vy.png

I added on to the last bit "... in other ways is not helping the ocean." as I realized I had forgotten to finish my sentence. Bleh, it's 3 am.
Omg shutup una. I don't mind calling her out since she lied about my company in her last rant about silicone tails.

I think her issue is deep down she really wants one. You should of see the last post she made on the topic. Incredibly hostile full of lies. And honestly super elitest and prejudice.

This is the woman who thinks mers with silicone need to go away from events and let fabric mers take over. We are harming the community according to her. She has zero experience with silicone and gets in a huff anytime people pay more attention to other mers than her, but blames it on tails.

Gee, I wonder if it could be her hostile attitude that turns people off???

I don't even care about her. I'm just mad because she tried to use my company as an example in her last crusade and totally lied about us. When I held her accountable she simply deflected.



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[AniaR]

And I mean, people's silicone tails DO mold, so I would assume that they break down eventually.
They mold due to mesh or neoprene bases, not the actual silicone. Actual silicone stiffens unlike latex which does break down.

I seem to be having great luck with the tail recycling on my end. I wonder if she lives a biodegradable life??? Lol

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[AniaR]

The whole silicone tails thing being horrible is still going on on the thread of a person that I'm friends with on Facebook. It's starting to get to me and it has me wondering if I should be volunteering my time with somebody who sees something I have worked very hard to get and have researched how to take care of as something that now makes (soon to be) me and other silicone tail owners enemies of the ocean. I don't want to limit or even end my opportunities for volunteering, I have even agreed to continue to make my own fabric tails so I can participate (because their rules are no silicone tails) but with so much hatred kind of spilling out and makes me wonder how long I could just smile and try to ignore it without saying something and then being tossed out anyways.
Personally based on my observations I feel she intentionally holds mers around her back, due to a complex
So many have complained to me but think what can you do because she has the market cornered they think. Um. No.

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[AniaR]

Sorry for the multiple replies. I blame the concussion. Which is my bitch!

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[Little_Orca]

Personally based on my observations I feel she intentionally holds mers around her back, due to a complex
So many have complained to me but think what can you do because she has the market cornered they think. Um. No.

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I kinda of thought that to a point. It's technically hear-say, but my fiancee reported to me that she has said that silicone tails of all kinds will be banned from any of her events. I understood about being the lagoon and the even playing field for all mermaids in there (as you don't want someone to feel bad for "just" having a cloth tail when the other one has a silicone tail next to them.) Heck, Iona and I worked in the lagoon together in 2014 in cloth tails and it was a shame since she has a lovely Merbella one that had to sit at home.

She is working on starting up the first Portland Mermaid Parade here in town, to be a west-coast Coney Island thing. She also wanted to do a convention... All I want to do now is show up to both in my own silicone tail but 1) I don't want to be a bitch and 2) still waiting for my tail to be finished.

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And look how figgen cute Iona and I were!


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[AniaR]

Her groups will never be as successful as she wants if she limits people

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[Mermaid Jaffa]

Where is she on fb so I can fin smash her into next week?

[Little_Orca]

Where is she on fb so I can fin smash her into next week?

Deep breath. :) I don't want to start a war. I needed a safe place to vent, to find people who support me still, and I did. Thank you though for the thought. *Giggle*

[Mermaid Lorelei]

I kinda of thought that to a point. It's technically hear-say, but my fiancee reported to me that she has said that silicone tails of all kinds will be banned from any of her events. I understood about being the lagoon and the even playing field for all mermaids in there (as you don't want someone to feel bad for "just" having a cloth tail when the other one has a silicone tail next to them.) Heck, Iona and I worked in the lagoon together in 2014 in cloth tails and it was a shame since she has a lovely Merbella one that had to sit at home.

She is working on starting up the first Portland Mermaid Parade here in town, to be a west-coast Coney Island thing. She also wanted to do a convention... All I want to do now is show up to both in my own silicone tail but 1) I don't want to be a bitch and 2) still waiting for my tail to be finished.

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And look how figgen cute Iona and I were!


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I worked for her lagoon for last year's Faerieworlds and I can attest to a bit of silicone tail hatred. I'm extremely thankful for Iona for letting me borrow one of her fabric tails so I could take part, but I'm not sure I'd want to work for Una again. She made it rather uncomfortable about owning a silicone tail, as if somehow we were trying to be above everyone else. Not really a comfortable atmosphere.

[Little_Orca]

Yup, I remember you there. Iona introduced us, but we had no time in the water at the same time.

[PearlieMae]

Here ya go, Little Orca...from the Dow-Corning horse's mouth... (one page of Silicones and Their Impact on the Environment and a paragraph of references)

https://www.dowcorning.com/content/publishedlit/Chapter21.pdf

[Little_Orca]

Thank you, Pearlie!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Where is she on fb so I can fin smash her into next week?
Forget next week, knocked her all the way across the ocean so I can knock her back to the Great Wall of China.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Forget next week, knocked her all the way across the ocean so I can knock her back to the Great Wall of China.
Hehe! We can be ping pong buddies!

[Mermaid Mystery]

some things are looking good for me. I'm on new meds. It's starting to look like I'll be getting a service dog, but my dad is being an ass saying we can't afford a third dog. I hate to say this, but by the time I get the dog we might only have one cat. Before I can get the dog I have to ask every single college I'm interested in if they allow the dogs in student housing. This is gonna be exhausting.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck

[Princess Kae-Leah]

I failed the Japanese Language Proficiency Test :(

[Mermaid Mystery]

Don't blame yourself! Japanese is a very difficult language! I know a few people that have taken it for over 4 years and still haven't picked up a whole lot. Just keep at it! You will get better!

[PhaylennMurúch]

some things are looking good for me. I'm on new meds. It's starting to look like I'll be getting a service dog, but my dad is being an ass saying we can't afford a third dog. I hate to say this, but by the time I get the dog we might only have one cat. Before I can get the dog I have to ask every single college I'm interested in if they allow the dogs in student housing. This is gonna be exhausting.

If it's an actual service dog that's fully trained and all then there are allowances for that at colleges. You'd probably have to provide all the paperwork to the school but I know a few people who did it and had their service dogs in dorms with them

[MerChemi]

I wasn't sure if it was worth posting here, cos my problem seems so trivial compared to everyone elses.
But PHYSICS IS KICKING MY ASS HERE
I'm so frustrated, I understand all the information given in lectures but I can't apply any of it! So I basically need someone to walk me through every step of every question cos I don't know what to do, and I feel so needy and useless aaaaaaa. I've literally never struggled so hard in school and I'm so scared I'm falling behind and I'll fail and everything is hard
//huffs
hopefully it'll all click into place soon

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ugh, gods. Literally failing statistics.

And I got my JLPT scores back too. A big fat "not passed"

Shoot me now because I'm going to college in Japan in the fall. Luckily I'm going as an English basis student, so my classes will be in English and I know more than enough Japanese for basic conversation with my roommate and friends and customers when I get a job but still.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Holy hell I think I have to take statistics and physics next year. rip.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

I had the best physics teacher EVER so then I followed it up with his Astronomy class.

This man is literally the reason why I'm graduating with six years worth of science credits.

But neither is so bad. I just have a terrible stats teacher. He has no control over the class.

[Mermaid Momo]

some things are looking good for me. I'm on new meds. It's starting to look like I'll be getting a service dog, but my dad is being an ass saying we can't afford a third dog. I hate to say this, but by the time I get the dog we might only have one cat. Before I can get the dog I have to ask every single college I'm interested in if they allow the dogs in student housing. This is gonna be exhausting.
All universities allow service dogs (and otger animals )in student housing as long as you provide information to the university and proof that your animal is a service animal

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[Mermaid Mystery]

Thank you!

[Merman Andrew]

I wasn't sure if it was worth posting here, cos my problem seems so trivial compared to everyone elses.
But PHYSICS IS KICKING MY ASS HERE
I'm so frustrated, I understand all the information given in lectures but I can't apply any of it! So I basically need someone to walk me through every step of every question cos I don't know what to do, and I feel so needy and useless aaaaaaa. I've literally never struggled so hard in school and I'm so scared I'm falling behind and I'll fail and everything is hard
//huffs
hopefully it'll all click into place soon

Can you get a tutor? If your college doesn't have any good ones you could try looking outside of your college.

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[Merman Andrew]

I'm going crazy. That's not an exaggeration, my mental health has almost completely deteriorated and I've broken down twice. I'm probably about 20 pounds underweight. I should've been hospitalized weeks ago. I've fallen apart at this point. Insurance won't pay for any working treatment so hospitalization is the only option. My mom is absolutely refusing and I've told her countless fucking times that I need it. I'm being completely serious and she's acting like its a joke. My grades are terrible and she's blaming it all on me and I can't handle it anymore and every day I think about killing myself and rationally I know not to do that but because I'm insane I can't control how I feel. I need help and I recognize that but I'm being refused any help.
So sorry to hear this, big hugs to you!! Have you tried contacting one of the free counseling lines in your area? Here in Australia we have one called Lifeline. It sounds like you really need to talk to someone who will listen, and these services will listen to you. Also if you are feeling really stressed and overwhelmed, I recommend trying meditation. If you search online for some free guided meditations you might find it will help make you feel better.

Hope that helps and I hope things get better for you soon!

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[Little_Orca]

This is good news, but since I did so much bitching about it on here, I thought that it was fitting to post it here versus on the happy thread.

"Glenn" was officially fired. No word yet on Rita.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Woot!

[PearlieMae]

This is good news, but since I did so much bitching about it on here, I thought that it was fitting to post it here versus on the happy thread.

"Glenn" was officially fired. No word yet on Rita.

GOOD. I was so mad when I read your rant! I hope Rita gets a second chance, if she wants it.

[Mermaid Momo]

Ugh, gods. Literally failing statistics.

And I got my JLPT scores back too. A big fat "not passed"

Shoot me now because I'm going to college in Japan in the fall. Luckily I'm going as an English basis student, so my classes will be in English and I know more than enough Japanese for basic conversation with my roommate and friends and customers when I get a job but still.
How'd you end up going to Japan for college? I really want to try but I don't even know how to do it.

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[Mermaid Momo]

I failed the Japanese Language Proficiency Test :(
Japanese Is hard so don't beat yourself up, I've never taken the JLPT but I hear it's super hard. (What level were you taking ) if u want someone to practice with, my Japanese is rusty after not using it for years but you can always message me

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

I'm going to Asia Pacific University Ritsumeikan. It's on Kyushu, Oita prefecture.

A few reps came to my Japanese class and then hosted a seminar in the city.

I... called out work and hopped on the train. I was the only one who came.

They have an online application system, and I went through that.

Their majors are very few, but they suited my interests well enough.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Sooo... apply if you like the look of it. It would be great to have another mer around!!!

[MermaidSandie]

Warning, wall of text bitching here :0

My chem teacher is stressing me out to the point where I'm having nervous breakdowns and don't even want to go near his classroom. I'll admit, it was partly my fault to let my grades slip in that class, but now he antagonizes me only a daily basis, and demands I come in every day during my school's "0 period" so I can't even avoid him on the days I don't have his class. I wouldn't mind it so much, if it actually helped me study and get my grades up, but I'm just super paranoid and nervous whenever I'm around him so it's doing more harm than good. I'm constantly uncomfortable and can't feel at ease when in class, since I know he'll publicly roast me, or just send me outside and talk to me out there. It's honestly kind of humiliating. The problem is that he just assigns way too much homework and I just can't keep up (I'm talking 14 worksheets a week plus notes that take 5 hours, and I only have class 3 out of the 5 school days), but he thinks that I just don't care and am not trying when in his class. I just can't learn the material fast enough! I'm constantly stressed out, and have been staying up late up to 2 hours past the time I normally go to sleep just to try to catch up in his class. Today was the final blow. My friend said hi and I just started sobbing into her arms from sheer stress. I can't handle his class and have to hold back tears whenever I'm around him. Never in my life has a teacher made me cry and it happened twice today.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wow. Biiiiiiiitch.

Tell your teacher this. Seriously. That sort of behaviour is unnecessary and unprofessional. If it continues, complain to the school. Seriously.

[Mermaid Arabella]

^What Sabrina said! Talk to your parents, a guidance counselor, the principle - SOMEBODY! This is not appropriate!

[Mermaid Momo]

So I'm a solo party princess entertainer and I've been getting requests to offer black versions of known princesses instead of generic princesses for parties (for example, on little girl wanted a black tinker bell party ) so I mention this in the party princess group om Facebook and they all loose their minds about me making about white princess black. Now this is about group that has men playing princesses and white Pocahontas and jasmine. And they all say I shouldn't do it for "character integrity ". Then when a few people say they don't even know why someone would request that and I explained to them that it was because black kids like more than just the 2 black characters they're alotted and that they want a princess that looks like them at their party they then started arguing with me about how race has nothing to do with how they relate to the character and that kids don't see race and that the fact that little girls white black don't think they can be a princess or beautiful because of their skin color isn't because they don't see themselves as princesses in media but because the parents didn't raise them right.
To say the least that made me mad and went in on em. The post was just deleted.
I'm sick and tired of these princess groups being filled with nothing but white people who praise men who can transform into a princess, or white people who play poc princesses but then once one of their white characters is turned brown they have a cow.

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[Saelyyia]

Momo that is awful! I think that having black versions for the little girls who want to see a princess like themselves. The reality is that while the majority of the little ones are color blind that does not stop those who don't get as much representation in mainstream media from feeling less than or not as beautiful and that is a horrible injustice our society and the adults making the decision have created. As a fellow independent princess performer I stand behind you if you decide to go for it and I am here anytime you need to talk. :hug:

[LouLouBelle]

...then started arguing with me about how race has nothing to do with how they relate to the character and that kids don't see race...



So... If kids don't see race... Why does it matter if the princess is black?? I think that's what I'd be asking the brainless wonders that are are arguing there...

(I really can't stand idiots like that.)



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[PearlieMae]

So I'm a solo party princess entertainer and I've been getting requests to offer black versions of known princesses instead of generic princesses for parties (for example, on little girl wanted a black tinker bell party ) so I mention this in the party princess group om Facebook and they all loose their minds about me making about white princess black. Now this is about group that has men playing princesses and white Pocahontas and jasmine. And they all say I shouldn't do it for "character integrity ". Then when a few people say they don't even know why someone would request that and I explained to them that it was because black kids like more than just the 2 black characters they're alotted and that they want a princess that looks like them at their party they then started arguing with me about how race has nothing to do with how they relate to the character and that kids don't see race and that the fact that little girls white black don't think they can be a princess or beautiful because of their skin color isn't because they don't see themselves as princesses in media but because the parents didn't raise them right.
To say the least that made me mad and went in on em. The post was just deleted.
I'm sick and tired of these princess groups being filled with nothing but white people who praise men who can transform into a princess, or white people who play poc princesses but then once one of their white characters is turned brown they have a cow.

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F**k them!

You do realize that most groups on Facebook are usually one thin sliver above the lot you'd find in youtube comments, right? Personally, I think you're amazing and if my daughter was of an age where I would hire a princess for her party, I would hire you in a heartbeat!

[Merman Arion]

BITCH PLEASE.

One of my FAVORITE songs. I'm just gonna leave it here :


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCKHKHz7lUU

SO MUCH FIERCENESS :hail: :hail: :hail:

I say fuck these people. Be any princess you wish to become to make this little girl happy.

[Keiris]

Momo, you'd be a gorgeous Princess if you're skin were Chartreuse!!! Things like this make me crazy because it is so STUPID! Those are all FICTIONAL characters. They can be whatever color a little girl can envision. What a tired bunch of dumbasses. I don't know how you have the patience for them.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wooooow. Some people need to be fin slapped and tangled in a kelp forest.

Momo, I salute you.

[Mermaid Alea]

Momo, you'd be a gorgeous Princess if you're skin were Chartreuse!!! Things like this make me crazy because it is so STUPID! Those are all FICTIONAL characters. They can be whatever color a little girl can envision. What a tired bunch of dumbasses. I don't know how you have the patience for them.

x2. Don't let them bother you Momo. They sound like a bunch of stuck up jerks. You have our support. :hug:

[SeaGlass Siren]

Bull fucking shit. As a kid who grew up with JuST white princesses I was STOKED when Mulan came out. Whatever idiots said that kids don't see race clearly need to check their privledge :/
one other thing: Asian people always cosplay white characters and no one seems to bat an eyelash but why make it a big deal when a black person does it? Cuz they're black? :/

[SeaGlass Siren]

This just happened this morning and it was relevant to what momo was saying.
my niece who loves superheroes just literally asked me why all the superheroes on TV are white. She's ten years old.

[PearlieMae]

There was a mer on here a while back, haven't seen her lately, so I'll not use her name, but she went to meet a mom to pre-plan a mermaid party, and once they met, the mom wouldn't hire her because she was convinced all mermaids had red hair.

People are stupid.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Woow.

[Little_Orca]

Taking care of a patient tonight who just got here, was starting to settle in, was getting dinner. Very polite and had spent the last hour in the intake talking about their dog and how much their dog meant to them and how it was their reason to be happy in life. Fast forward to dinner, and they get a phone call from an animal shelter where their dog has been dropped off. They wanted confirmation from the resident that it was okay to adopt the dog out.

What the ever living shit?

Person A takes the resident to the hospital to help them, they get sent to us, and in the process Person A just decides to take their dog and get rid of it? Not flipping cool at all. The resident was on the phone with the shelter, and I think they agreed to hold the dog for a while, and then they called Person A to figure out what is going on.

If that had been my dog or my cat, I would have discharged on the spot to go take care of my animal. It's completely unacceptable.

[PearlieMae]

It just boggles the mind how little regard people have for someone they supposedly care for. 'Let's lock them up in the booby hatch and take that stupid dog to the pound. I can't be bothered anymore.'

I really hate humans. I don't know how you do that job, hun. I salute you and your endless compassion!

[Mermaid Mystery]

slightly scared that my mom would do that to me if I got a snake and went to treatment again :/

[Mermaid Clara]

Oh help me lord! I'm getting to the end of being able to deal with customers. I had a customer on the phone threaten to complain to my boss about having her on hold for 5 minuets. I can't just stop in a middle of a transition with a huge line of people waiting to be checked out and look for a pair of suspenders for your kid. Which I told her that I think we didn't have any because I haven't seen any. I offered to double check in our inventory and told her it would be another minuet or two because I need to finish checking out my customer but she just got angrier.


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[Little_Orca]

Retail?

That life is terrible. My fiance works in retail and it's so terrible how sometimes he gets treated and how his coworkers are treated for things out of their control. :( Sorry that your customers are such brats at times.

[Mermaid Alea]

It just boggles the mind how little regard people have for someone they supposedly care for. 'Let's lock them up in the booby hatch and take that stupid dog to the pound. I can't be bothered anymore.'

I really hate humans. I don't know how you do that job, hun. I salute you and your endless compassion!

One year I hatched 2 peachicks and was raising them up to sell to a good home. I went on a week long trip and when I came home the peachicks were gone. I asked my parents what they did with them and they had GIVEN them away to some random guy. I was annoyed because my parents like to complain that the birds are not paying for themselves, yet they go and give away my extras I planned on selling. Also I had to put a spring on the aviary door because when I am gone and my Mom has to take care of my birds, she forgets to close the door and all the birds escape and have to be corralled back into the aviary.

I guess not everyone understands what someone's pet(s) mean to them, but to me my pets are my family and when I have a really cruddy day and feel like I don't want to be around anybody, my pets always make me happy. I don't know what I would do without animals.

[Imogen Finnly]

I work at the animal shelters a bit, and if a person is sick or in the hospital, the dogs are taken to the shelter for indefinite hold until otherwise said.
There was a dog where the owner died and they didn't know the person had a dog, and it was alone for 2 weeks starving and dehydrated until a neighbor went to check if the house was okay. The Dr's had to rehabilitate the dog from anorexia until he was adopted.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I'm really upset because we have to get my anxiety fixed before I go to treatment but restricting is getting pretty bad. And I bought a new tail that will fit me now but after treatment I'm so worried that I won't fit in it and my mom will be furious that I bought it and I'll have to attempt to sell it and I'll only have my crap tail and ugh. And I'm having a lot of obsessive issues and it's making me really anxious and I just don't know when this will all be done and fixed.

[Mermaid Mystery]

daylight saving time more like crippling anxiety, but sped up a little bit

[Sabrina the Selkie]

My mom's cousin A: "Wow, Sabrina, I'm so happy you got into your top school! That's so great!" She then looks at me wide eyed and fearful, says, "promise me you won't come back married before you graduate!"

My mom, and my mom's cousin J exchange eye-rolls.

Me: "Why on Earth would I do a thing like that?"

A: "Well, you ARE a woman of OUR family."

Me: "Exactly why I'll be running as fast as I can in the opposite direction."

Cousin J grins, laughs. Cousin A gives me a concerned smile, half-giggles, and nods.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

So I just got married, and we have a baby on the way, and apparently my step mother can't do basic math, and she made a snide comment the other night when we took my parents out to dinner, "you probably only got married because you were pregnant before hand. " then she just gave me that look, ya know?

I'm only 11 weeks along, and we were married before that even happened, but before I could even set her straight, my husband goes "nah, I've wanted to marry her for 6-7 years now. But go ahead and think that." and winked at her.

Needless to say, she didn't say anything else.

But she's been really cruddy towards me and my little sister ever since she found my dads cancer is growing.

Me and my sister think it has something to do with her not getting what she wants in his will when he passes away.
But that's just put guesses

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouuuuch.

[Merman Arion]

I kind of want to bitch right now but it might be too crude for people here :(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Naah, let out out Arion

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[SeaGlass Siren]

LET IT GO Arion. It's the bitch it out thread. :P

[SeaGlass Siren]

So I just got married, and we have a baby on the way, and apparently my step mother can't do basic math, and she made a snide comment the other night when we took my parents out to dinner, "you probably only got married because you were pregnant before hand. " then she just gave me that look, ya know?

I'm only 11 weeks along, and we were married before that even happened, but before I could even set her straight, my husband goes "nah, I've wanted to marry her for 6-7 years now. But go ahead and think that." and winked at her.

Needless to say, she didn't say anything else.

But she's been really cruddy towards me and my little sister ever since she found my dads cancer is growing.

Me and my sister think it has something to do with her not getting what she wants in his will when he passes away.
But that's just put guesses

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Ugh I hope you told your step mother to step off :/

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My Dad royally chewed her out for it after we took them home,
He said "that was inappropriate, and it wouldn't matter if they had or not, it's none of your business."
She responded with
"I was only trying to make friendly conversation!"

He said "that's horse sh#t. You never talk to her like that again-i don't say those kind of things to your family, so you dont say em to mine."



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[SeaGlass Siren]

Go dad!!!!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

In other news, this makes my 7th time falling in the toilet just within the past 3-4 days because my husband keeps forgetting to fix the seat. 😣

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[Mermaid Lily_Pad]

Soon I just got a promotion to a manager type position at work. Now I'm privy to all the bullshit that goes on behind the scenes with my coworkers and my manager. Those who work my normal position (pre promotion) get paid Far more then minimum wage. Those who work the front desk also get paid more then minimum wage. My boss (the boss of my store) is very nice, approachable, understanding, and great to work for. She tries to be as flexible as she can with people if an issue arises. That all being said...this generation coming up, are asshats.

I have never ever seen such a lazy, snobby, arrogant, uncompassionate group of people in my life. They do minimum effort and expect maximum rewards. They bring their mommy with them to interviews and to help fill out the job applications. They add coworkers to Facebook, then call in sick while posting pictures of themselves at bars. The "adults" go clubbing with our desk girls who tend to be much younger and get them trashed. They can't take ANY kind of reprimand. Another girl in my position tried to explain to one of her team that he needed to do something a different way and he got in her face and told her "you don't step up to me like this, you need to get out of my face, who are you to tell me what to do!" She's your manager!

They throw accusations left and right about others but don't have proof. They whine, bitch, and moan about every client they have. They cut the clients time when its not the clients fault they were late because they want a longer break.

Oh and best of all they quit via text or email because they dont have the balls to do it in person. If they get fired we get calls from their parents screaming at us and demanding a meeting...really? This isn't fucking school! It's a job and if you had taught your child about responsibility then maybe they would still have the job! I am mortified by the generation that is hitting the job scene right now. They are so ill prepared and clueless it's frightening.

[Merman Arion]

All right.

I'm thinking of buying and offering measuring tapes to every single guy who lie about the size of their penis. SINCE WHEN a size XL or XXL is the same as a size L or even a M?!?!

For real. I'm a "size queen" and I'm not ashamed of it. I know what I prefer and when it's about hooking up with a guy, I want to make sure I have a good time because it's honestly one of the things I like to do to relax. Best remedy ever when you feel stressed. But at the moment, I'm FED UP with these liars who waste my time.

It's NOT funny when you invit a guy in your place, you get to know him a bit, you're excited about what's coming and then when the guy drop his pants, you look at him like "REALLY BITCH??" and the next thing you have to do is to explain that it's not what you were expecting and that he has to go. It's really disappointing to see that the giant sausage they were all bragging about online with fake photos happen to be small like nems you eat in a sushi shop :doh: :doh: :doh:

I always feel like an asshole when it happens because they all look disappointed when I ask them to leave. And everytime I want to say "this would not happen if you didn't lie to me in the first place" but instead I shut my mouth. My issue is that it has happened WAY too many time lately. The gay community in Paris is already complaining that there are too many bottoms on dating applications like Grindr, it's REALLY diffficult to find a good real top to have fun with and we also have to deal with compulsive liars and guys with an ego about their d*cks??

We. Are. Fucked. And not even literally.

:headdesk:

Edit : I also wish to say that I'm aware my post sounds very shallow though. Sex is not about size and all. It's about chemistry and feeling comfortable with a partner. I would say it's just my own preference. We all enjoy sex in a different way and I guess hung men is mine. I hope reading this post didn't make anyone uncomfortable. I did hesitate before posting because I was unsure of how it would be received.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I love this post. Because it's becoming a problem everywhere. Being an easy to please girl isn't bad, but if someone lies to me about how they are, it's done, and I all but shove them out the door. I'm married now, but we are more adventurous and having people lie to is isn't something we tolerate. Luckily my husband is pretty *ehem* well endowed, but when women lie about what they like to me, or someone sends fake pictures, I become close to throwing things at them.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

hun, if they already lying about their NEM size, what else are they lying about :P

[SeaGlass Siren]

so jay i noticed you posted twice in the forum but you didn't post an introductory thread! why not introduce yourself?

[Echidna]

Funnily, I can relate.
Years ago, I tried dating for a short while because my family was whining about grandchildren and such.

It's not like I had a giant list of requirements for dates- be nice, be smart, and be taller than me.
That was it.
I stressed the height part before each date, and every single dude out there lied about it, adding 2+ inches on.
EVERY. SINGLE. ONE.

Why the eff would you lie and waste everybody's time?

I can only assume that most guys are so full of themselves, not only do they perceive themselves to be taller (and bigger) in every aspect than they are in reality, they also think that no matter what the requirement for dating was, they would overcome it by their awesomeness and surely a woman who says "be taller than me or get out" will change her mind as soon as she sees them.

That said, from my experience in the alien and terrifying world of dating, I also learned that women will lie about as often about their age and weight as men do about size.

[SeaGlass Siren]

there was an incident where my husbands aunt lied about her age because she wanted to find a husband. the guy divorced her for lying. he didnt care that she ended up being older but he didnt like the dishonestly.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My biological mother made a fake dating profile saying she was 20, my weight and height, and then proceeded to post pictures I had on my personal facebook.

She for several dates, and each one, the guys met her and left. One of them found my personal Facebook and filled me in. I was mortified. My own mother was catfishing with my photos.

Lets just say she's no longer involved in my life

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[SeaGlass Siren]

^i think there was an episode on LAW AND ORDER about that :P

[Merman Arion]

My biological mother made a fake dating profile saying she was 20, my weight and height, and then proceeded to post pictures I had on my personal facebook.

She for several dates, and each one, the guys met her and left. One of them found my personal Facebook and filled me in. I was mortified. My own mother was catfishing with my photos.

Lets just say she's no longer involved in my life

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WHAT THE EFF?!

That's messed up!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Heck thats probably where she got the idea from. It scared me. I got the account and pictures removed. Plus got her to admit to it, but it was my breaking point

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

That's awful.

[Starfrit]

Agreed with Arion, hooooooly crap. Why on earth would she even do that???!!!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Heck thats probably where she got the idea from. It scared me. I got the account and pictures removed. Plus got her to admit to it, but it was my breaking point

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Thats good you got them removed. dont u take shit from NOOOOOOBody

[Shimmer Mermaid]

She's done worse so it didn't surprise me As much

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[Merman Dan]

In other news, this makes my 7th time falling in the toilet just within the past 3-4 days because my husband keeps forgetting to fix the seat.

and yet men cannot complain about making a mess because the seat was down. Nope. That conversation never ends well. ;)

how about one of those toilet night lights? http://illumibowl.com

[Shimmer Mermaid]

He's free to complain, its just I am used to living alone. So I'm not used to having to even look. I wouldn't get bothered if I didnt get stuck 90% the time.

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[Mermaid Marius]

I was scheduled to tour my dream apartment and LESS THAN 24 HOURS before the tour, the landlord calls to say that someone else has signed for it. I'm so devastated, it was everything my partner and I were looking for and so much cheaper than we were expecting to find. Finding housing in Minneapolis has been such a chore for us so it felt like a literal dream come true :mad::mad::mad:
ON TOP OF THAT, I'm getting closer and closer to purchasing my tail and I'm so torn. I love Mertailor's fluke options but don't like his customer service or the visibility of his monofins. I love Merbella's attention to detail and beautiful paint jobs but can't wait a year+ for my first silicone tail. I love Mernation's turnaround time and think they're improving drastically as a company but their fluke options just aren't appealing to me. :(
If I could have a Mertailor/Mernation/Merbella chimera tail, all my problems would be solved. :cry:

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Good luck, Marius!

[Merman Arion]

I was scheduled to tour my dream apartment and LESS THAN 24 HOURS before the tour, the landlord calls to say that someone else has signed for it. I'm so devastated, it was everything my partner and I were looking for and so much cheaper than we were expecting to find. Finding housing in Minneapolis has been such a chore for us so it felt like a literal dream come true :mad::mad::mad:
ON TOP OF THAT, I'm getting closer and closer to purchasing my tail and I'm so torn. I love Mertailor's fluke options but don't like his customer service or the visibility of his monofins. I love Merbella's attention to detail and beautiful paint jobs but can't wait a year+ for my first silicone tail. I love Mernation's turnaround time and think they're improving drastically as a company but their fluke options just aren't appealing to me. :(
If I could have a Mertailor/Mernation/Merbella chimera tail, all my problems would be solved. :cry:

Why not asking the people behind Sirenalia ? They have a spot open for a silicone tail :)

http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?8257-Sirenalia-is-taking-ONE-order!/page4&highlight=sirenalia

[Mermaid Lunette]

I was scheduled to tour my dream apartment and LESS THAN 24 HOURS before the tour, the landlord calls to say that someone else has signed for it. I'm so devastated, it was everything my partner and I were looking for and so much cheaper than we were expecting to find. Finding housing in Minneapolis has been such a chore for us so it felt like a literal dream come true :mad::mad::mad:
ON TOP OF THAT, I'm getting closer and closer to purchasing my tail and I'm so torn. I love Mertailor's fluke options but don't like his customer service or the visibility of his monofins. I love Merbella's attention to detail and beautiful paint jobs but can't wait a year+ for my first silicone tail. I love Mernation's turnaround time and think they're improving drastically as a company but their fluke options just aren't appealing to me. :(
If I could have a Mertailor/Mernation/Merbella chimera tail, all my problems would be solved. :cry:


i think mernation can adjust fluke shapes for existing molds? (I dunno if they charge for this? but they also do custom flukes whihc you can probably look into.)

on this page user introverting has an example of an adjusted mernation fluke.
http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?7642-The-MerNation-Thread/page33

[Mermaid Momo]

Paul and I called off our engagement because we felt his mom was taking over something that should have been our day and she and my parents didn't seem to realize that you need a lot of money to feed and seat and get favors for 200+ people, and that's not even including the guests they'll bring, that's the amount of people they want us to send invites too with a card for them to reserve even more seats and plates.

I'm getting stressed because we haven't told anyone that we called it off because we don't want his mom or my mom to get pissy at us for telling them they took over. We may get engaged some other time but right now we dropped all wedding plans

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[PearlieMae]

I'm so sorry to read this, Momo! I hope you can get things figured out. It's your day, you should be able to do it your way.

Elope and run away to Tahiti and get married on a beautiful sunset beach, just the two of you.

The Hell with everyone else!

My heart goes out to you, hun! Let me know if I can be if ANY help! :mermaid kiss:

[Saren]

Momo I'm really sorry to hear that. When I got married my mother took over my wedding and I've regretted it ever since. She was really against my husband's family even though they've never been anything but nice to our entire family. I was forced to give invitations to people I didn't even know. It wasn't MY wedding more like a party where I was the main talking point. I hope and your partner will get the weddin of YOUR dreams

[SeaGlass Siren]

Hun ya'll better fight for your wedding like I did mine. Otherwise they'll walk all over you for the rest of your life.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Arion spoiled sushi.

I LOVE sushi!!!

And he went and made that reference, now I can never get the image out of my head whenever I eat sushi...

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Momo. Sending hugs.

[The Water Phoenix]

I realised at school today I left my lunch at home so I had to go through the day without eating anything. My school has a canteen but I had zero money so I couldn't get food. Even worse, I had to go to swimming training on an empty stomach. When I got home, I looked for my lunch bag and it wasn't on the table where I left it. So I looked through my sisters bag and guess where I found my lunch bag, in my sisters school bag! So SHE was the one who took MY lunch that I accidentally left at home! She didn't bother to let me know that I left it at home! It had the last slice of chocolate cake that I wanted badly and my sister ate it! I was looking forward to it... Rant over

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Agreed, our parents and families tried to control ours, and so we got the one person who wasn't trying- his dad- and we just went to a court house and had it done so they would all shut up, we have a big wedding planned for later this year

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

Been there. Aren't siblings the best?

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[Mermaid Arabella]

I'm so sorry, Momo! *merhugs*

If y'all don't want to elope (and I would totally support that decision, haha!) you might try what a friend did for her wedding: she and her husband decided who all they wanted to attend and budgeted for that. They told both their parents that if they wanted other family/friends, they could pay for them. I know part of the reason for this is that she has a really strained relationship with her mother (I ran interference a couple times leading up to the big day) but it seemed to work pretty well.

Remember that regardless of what your parents tell you, or your friends tell you, or we or anybody else tells you - you guys do what makes you two happy. You love each other, and that's what matters. <3

[Mermaid Marius]

i think mernation can adjust fluke shapes for existing molds? (I dunno if they charge for this? but they also do custom flukes whihc you can probably look into.)

on this page user introverting has an example of an adjusted mernation fluke.
http://mernetwork.com/index/showthread.php?7642-The-MerNation-Thread/page33
I remembered seeing this and being hopeful. The fluke I want is pretty elaborate but I think I'm gonna take a chance and ask them if they'll make it.

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[shimmygoddess]

This made me giggle, since I received my first ever Dick pic text yesterday. LOL. Lieing of any type is wrong, so I understand.


All right.

I'm thinking of buying and offering measuring tapes to every single guy who lie about the size of their penis. SINCE WHEN a size XL or XXL is the same as a size L or even a M?!?!

For real. I'm a "size queen" and I'm not ashamed of it. I know what I prefer and when it's about hooking up with a guy, I want to make sure I have a good time because it's honestly one of the things I like to do to relax. Best remedy ever when you feel stressed. But at the moment, I'm FED UP with these liars who waste my time.

It's NOT funny when you invit a guy in your place, you get to know him a bit, you're excited about what's coming and then when the guy drop his pants, you look at him like "REALLY BITCH??" and the next thing you have to do is to explain that it's not what you were expecting and that he has to go. It's really disappointing to see that the giant sausage they were all bragging about online with fake photos happen to be small like nems you eat in a sushi shop :doh: :doh: :doh:

I always feel like an asshole when it happens because they all look disappointed when I ask them to leave. And everytime I want to say "this would not happen if you didn't lie to me in the first place" but instead I shut my mouth. My issue is that it has happened WAY too many time lately. The gay community in Paris is already complaining that there are too many bottoms on dating applications like Grindr, it's REALLY diffficult to find a good real top to have fun with and we also have to deal with compulsive liars and guys with an ego about their d*cks??

We. Are. Fucked. And not even literally.

:headdesk:

Edit : I also wish to say that I'm aware my post sounds very shallow though. Sex is not about size and all. It's about chemistry and feeling comfortable with a partner. I would say it's just my own preference. We all enjoy sex in a different way and I guess hung men is mine. I hope reading this post didn't make anyone uncomfortable. I did hesitate before posting because I was unsure of how it would be received.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Sympathies to you Shimmy. I know that's traumatizing

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[shimmygoddess]

I have only recently starting texting and I had asked my husband and people if stuff like that happens and it has never happened to them. After doing some research on the # on FB I realized it was a pervert who sent it to numerous dancers who pages he stalks :(


Sympathies to you Shimmy. I know that's traumatizing

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[PearlieMae]

Ugh! That's super creepy! Get the number changed asap!

[Madison MerFaerie]

I got a text like that years ago...I was on the bus on my way home from work and I was texting my husband. All the sudden I got a dick pic from some random number! YUCK!

I halfway contemplated insulting the bastard and saying something like "GRADE: D-, WOULD NOT F*CK" but I thought that might cause them to lash out and flood me with more pics, or sign my number up for spammy text stuff.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

So, I have a few things to bitch about.

My eyes used to adjust so that I could see fairly clearly underwater without goggles.

Lately, I've been swimming a lot, and the chlorine started to bother me. So I finally gave in and bought a pair of goggles - something I hate. I hate the feeling of constriction, EVERYTHING.

Today, I was in a slightly less chlorinated pool, so in the last five minuets of my swim I took off my goggles just to revel.

And I couldn't see anymore. It was one of the most traumatizing experiences of my life and I've been hit by an SUV and dragged eighty feet by it when my jean jacket snagged on the underside.

I'm still extremely weepy about it. I guess my eyes got used to not having to adjust so they just stopped.



And on another note: a friend I used to tutor in Japanese asked me to prom. I've been debating my answer for weeks now, and he's been incredibly sweet and patient.

There's this other guy who has been extremely passive about relationships. He asked me out months ago, but aside from vague flirting we've done nothing. And he's too chicken shit to make a move. ON SOMEONE HE ALREADY ASKED OUT WHO SAID YES.

I know he isn't going to ask me to prom. I just do. He's the sort of gamer dude who probably thinks he's too nerdy/off beat/cool to go.

So. Today, I tried to tell him that someone asked me to prom and that I was going to say yes. But then I needed to educate the lunch table about feminism. So I couldn't, because he'd think I was just rejecting him because of some of the ignorance I've had to stomp out of him - and the entirety of the table.

That is not the issue. That was never the issue. He's smart, funny, and I never have to correct him twice. But he lacks cajones completely.

And I couldn't just keep stringing along the guy who asked me.

So I finally said I'd go with him.

So now the sentence has gone from "Someone's asked me to prom and I think I'm going to say yes," to "I'm going to prom with someone else."

And he's going to be hurt, and he's not going to understand, and I really did and DO like him, but I just can't keep waiting for him to grow a pair and stop being so damn passive.

So. I'm terrified about how to handle this. But I'm telling him tomorrow. I will. I won't be that bitch who unintentionally two-times because she's too awkward to say anything. I won't.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

And on another note: a friend I used to tutor in Japanese asked me to prom. I've been debating my answer for weeks now, and he's been incredibly sweet and patient.

There's this other guy who has been extremely passive about relationships. He asked me out months ago, but aside from vague flirting we've done nothing. And he's too chicken shit to make a move. ON SOMEONE HE ALREADY ASKED OUT WHO SAID YES.

I know he isn't going to ask me to prom. I just do. He's the sort of gamer dude who probably thinks he's too nerdy/off beat/cool to go.

So. Today, I tried to tell him that someone asked me to prom and that I was going to say yes. But then I needed to educate the lunch table about feminism. So I couldn't, because he'd think I was just rejecting him because of some of the ignorance I've had to stomp out of him - and the entirety of the table.

That is not the issue. That was never the issue. He's smart, funny, and I never have to correct him twice. But he lacks cajones completely.

And I couldn't just keep stringing along the guy who asked me.

So I finally said I'd go with him.

So now the sentence has gone from "Someone's asked me to prom and I think I'm going to say yes," to "I'm going to prom with someone else."

And he's going to be hurt, and he's not going to understand, and I really did and DO like him, but I just can't keep waiting for him to grow a pair and stop being so damn passive.

So. I'm terrified about how to handle this. But I'm telling him tomorrow. I will. I won't be that bitch who unintentionally two-times because she's too awkward to say anything. I won't.

Tell gamer guy that you really do like him. Alot. But decided to go with another guy because that guy had the balls to ask you. Explain if it were a situation where you needed help, would he have the guts then to stick up for you? Or continue hiding behind his shadow.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Lunette, you're completely right. And if he wasn't completely passive about EVERYTHING, I would totally ask him.

And I should talk to him. It's just annoyingly difficult to plan the time to have that sort of heart to heart.

And Jaffa, that is exactly what I'm going to do.

Hugs to both of you.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Be more proactive and less passive, cos he's gonna lose that special someone, You.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

More hugs.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I lost my betta fish. I can't find my pleco either but that's normal. how the hell do I lose a huge betta fish? he can't even jump out so he's probably not sitting all crispy on the floor. but he can't just disappear in the tank unless someone ate him, but the other fish are too small and non aggressive to do that. what the fuck?

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Wierd. I wonder where he went...?

[PearlieMae]

Lunette, you're completely right. And if he wasn't completely passive about EVERYTHING, I would totally ask him.

And I should talk to him. It's just annoyingly difficult to plan the time to have that sort of heart to heart.

And Jaffa, that is exactly what I'm going to do.

Hugs to both of you.

Why didn't you just ask the guy you wanted to go with yourself?

[Mermaid Mystery]

found him, he looks terrible and I fear this may be the end for him. I can't tell what it is just yet, if anything, but if it gets worse I'll have to set up an isolation tank or worse. Not fun.

[The Water Phoenix]

Been there. Aren't siblings the best?

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Why didn't you just ask the guy you wanted to go with yourself?
I would have, if he weren't so passive about everything. But this entire time he's been too nervous to do anything, say anything. He asks me to the movies with a light tone so he can pretend it was a joke if I brush him off. So of course, I do. That's just not how one should handle that sort of thing.

And then, yesterday he said "We're you at school yesterday?"

And I said, "For what little of it there was, yeah"

A pipe had burst, and the only way to stop it's gushing was to cut off water to the whole school, so they let us out at like 10:30.

"Oh," he said. "I waited outside the main entrance for you, thinking we could hang out, but I didn't see you, so I just left."

And he has a phone. He has my number. He could have texted me and then we could have spent time. If it had really gone well, I could have asked him to prom. But it's just another example of his damn passivity.

And maybe because my dad is super passive, and never pays child support and is generally unreliable, as much as I do love him, but I'm super cautious about relationships and this sort lf behavior just sets on my alarm bells and turns me waay off.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

My now husband was super passive in high school, I hated it, but loved him. I was kinda like you are about it. Finally I said enough with it and became kind of a bitch about it. I just walked up to him in the middle of the hallway, and told him "if you dont quit this 'i have no testicles thing' I'm going to just find a boyfriend, not an awkward 'its hard to say if we're dating' that's been going on for a year. "

That night he called me and FINALLY asked me out on a movie date, and said that he loved me telling him what's what and being assertive.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Thankfully even though my husband was shy, if he really liked a girl he'd be really assertive about it :p
Other little boys who would want to ask me out always went through their friend. Sorry I'm looking for a man, not a child.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Well, at least he fixed the behavior, Shimmer.

XD SeaGlass. But seriously, that's a huge part of the issue.

[PearlieMae]

Sometimes you just gotta bang on the door and say 'SHIT, OR GET OFF THE POT!'

[Merman Dan]

Sometimes you just gotta bang on the door and say 'SHIT, OR GET OFF THE POT!'

To which I reply "LEAVE ME ALONE!! I'VE ONLY BEEN IN HERE FOR HALF AN HOUR!!!"

wait... what?

[Mermaid Mystery]

Kitten is dying. She hasn't eaten in a few days and she's just not looking good. I don't want to say goodbye to her, but it's getting closer to time.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Kitten is dying. She hasn't eaten in a few days and she's just not looking good. I don't want to say goodbye to her, but it's getting closer to time.

Rest in peace my sweet angelhttp://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20160318/9d232e3daa9c784ace770f0d584247c9.jpg

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh hugs, Mystery! My deepest sympathies.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Oh no I'm so sorry for your loss mystery :(

[LouLouBelle]

I'm so sorry Mystery. Your kitty was well loved and believe me, she'll have known that. I hope you're ok.


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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm about ready to explode. I'm ticky about what I post about my relationship, especially when we argue, but seriously I need to get this off my chest before I explode.

😡😡😡
I was trying to find old pictures of me and my husband when we were in high school dating, I ended up finding most on his mothers fb page, so I kept digging because some weren't tagged or anything.

Mistake.

I instead found that a girl he claimed he dated for like a week and said she became very, well, crazy, he had instead proposed to and was A WEEK AWAY FROM MARRYING HER.

We promised to tell each other everything about our pasts, so no surprised popped up in the future. I told him everything about mine, and he claimed he told me all of his...

I brought it up, and he just said "I'm getting in the shower, I cant deal with this right now."

How the heck does he think I feel? I am not only upset, but because of me being 12 weeks pregnant, I am getting sick at everything.

If I could just punch him in the Moby right now I would.


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[Merman Dan]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AjGXn249Fc0

[Mermaid Mystery]

thank you all. I'm having a hard time. every time I look down I see old scars and it brings up so much.

on another note, I'm sick of people trying to start shit with me, especially on things I'm educated about. there's no winning there.

[Celaeno]

Yikes, Shimmer, what a nasty surprise. :( I hope he has the decency to sit down and talk about it with you.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

He finally came around last night, after he noticed I was crying. He apologized about it all, and explained everything that happened.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Why I ooughta.....

let me at him! Let me at him!

Guys. Hold my tail.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Well. At least he finally talked.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Well last night I had a rape dream :| I suspect it was because last night everyone was asking when I'm gonna have a baby and my mom also kept asking.
i #handledit by responding snarkily as follows.
- sorry dad your bloodline ends here LOL
- why don't you have babies mom? Why don't you ask my other sisters mom?
- I'll wait until my mom has another baby. "But she already had you" and she can have another one "I don't think she physically can" that's the idea :D
- sure we'll wait a few years. We'll see what happens after I'm rolling in cash and going on vacations :)

heck even my niece spoke up for me and she's only ten!!
- grandma when u had babies did it hurt?? "Yes" exactly why would you want that for her???

[Merman Arion]

Why I ooughta.....

let me at him! Let me at him!

Guys. Hold my tail.

Everyone, beware! ANGRY MERMAID ON THE LOOSE :eek:

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[Madison MerFaerie]

Well last night I had a rape dream :| I suspect it was because last night everyone was asking when I'm gonna have one and my mom also kept asking.

I am sincerely hoping you intended to type BABY dream, and not rape dream....

[SeaGlass Siren]

No it was a rape dream. 6 People kept coming at me with penises. :|

[SeaGlass Siren]

One (sorry kids reading this) ejaculated into me. I can honestly say I don't have any idea what that feels like but I felt it literally in my GUT and it was the most terrifying sensation ever. It was THAT vivid.

so I'm a bit traumatized this morning.

[PearlieMae]

thank you all. I'm having a hard time. every time I look down I see old scars and it brings up so much.

on another note, I'm sick of people trying to start shit with me, especially on things I'm educated about. there's no winning there.

Re: arguing: never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig.


One (sorry kids reading this) ejaculated into me. I can honestly say I don't have any idea what that feels like but I felt it literally in my GUT and it was the most terrifying sensation ever. It was THAT vivid.

so I'm a bit traumatized this morning.

Oh no, Sea Glass! I hope it was just from the pressure you were getting and perhaps a little gas. I know how unsettling dreams like that can be...

[Madison MerFaerie]

Well last night I had a rape dream :| I suspect it was because last night everyone was asking when I'm gonna have one and my mom also kept asking.

Sorry, I was confused by the way that you typed it. When you said people were asking when you'd "have one", the ambiguous "one" is BABY. Not that people were asking you when you were gonna have a rape dream. Because that would be terrible.

I'm sorry that you had a terrible dream like that.... hopefully that doesn't happen again....

[SeaGlass Siren]

Dammit! I thought I put baby 0-0 you are correct though. Everyone kept asking me for babies yesterday.

[PearlieMae]

Oh Mystery, I didn't see that you lost your kitty...I am SO sorry for your loss :hug:

[Loralei]

In Donegal last night a tragedy happened. A family of six ina csr that lost control, went off a pier. A bystander leaped in and swam over and the father handed the bystander his 4mo old baby. He went back into the car to save the rest, but the car dropped into the water. The father, the mother, a teenage girl, and two very young boys drowned.

I see horrific stories more often than I like. (Thank you Facebook, not)
But..
This shakes me. Like almost vomitting shakes me.

There is something about drowning in a vessle that literally can make me so scared, and Im not scared of anything else.

This is the same reason i havent watched the Titanic.

It is reason I spent countless hours studying the deck plans on that ship with scenario plans on how i would have survived with my fiance.

Its the reason i get too emotional to cut off my fiances hair. So we leave it long.

Its almost like i experienced something, like it was real, but havent.

I have no idea why this anxiety and panic is instilled in me.

But i am the first to jump off a boat to a bottomless void of ocean with great whites. I have no idea.

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[SeaGlass Siren]

That's terrible.... :(

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Ouch I'm so sorry.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I'm the same way! Finally someone that understands it.
Mines not being locked in underwater vessels, though that does give me a bit of anxiety and makes me really uncomfortable just thinking about it

Mine is weirder? I guess
I can swim in lakes, and only if I'm not the only one in the water. But when I play video games where you have to swim in deep water where you can't see the bottom, I have an anxiety attack.
Like crying, hyperventilating, shaking anxiety attack.
But like I said, in person, as long as I'm not the only one out in water I cant see the bottom in, I'm fine. If I can see the bottom, I'm fine and can swim by myself. But if I can't see and I'm the only one in the water, I am fine at first, and then I overthink, and have a panic attack in the water. So I always have to have someone go first, and stay realitively close.

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[MermaidCelesteFL]

I got into a heated debate with an old childhood friend of mine about my stance on SeaWorld. It triggered a manic depressive episode on my end.

[Mermaid Mystery]

That happens to me a lot. Only not about seaworld, other forms of captivity in general.

[Mermaid Marius]

My partner's mother told ME that I'm too flirty and I need to "cut that shit out".
This woman has literally been married three times and cheated in all three unions. And she's trying to tell me that the fact that I've managed to forge a platonic relationship with one of my exes who lives 600 miles away is "crossing a line"
I have never been so tempted to smack the absolute shit out of a woman in all of my goddamn life.

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[Shimmer Mermaid]

I would've lost it. Kudos to you for having the tolerance not to though

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[Sabrina the Selkie]

Woooow.

[PearlieMae]

My partner's mother told ME that I'm too flirty and I need to "cut that shit out".
This woman has literally been married three times and cheated in all three unions. And she's trying to tell me that the fact that I've managed to forge a platonic relationship with one of my exes who lives 600 miles away is "crossing a line"
I have never been so tempted to smack the absolute shit out of a woman in all of my goddamn life.

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Tell her:

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[Mermaid Marius]

Tell her:

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This is the absolute best thing I've seen in a long time. 😂😂😂😂

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[SeaGlass Siren]

Ugh... Trying to make a website on Wordpress for my business but it won't let show menu options. ARGH

[Mermaid Mystery]

cast list posted more like shit list

[PearlieMae]

Ugh.

I just spent the last four hours tearing apart the bathroom trying to find out why the carpet got wet. Yes, my bathroom is carpeted. ANYway...the house is ancient, not in the best shape, and I wouldn't be surprised that one of these pipes just gave out. I emptied out the bathroom cabinet behind the tub surround, about three grocery bags full of shampoos, old make up, curling iron and hot rollers...that kind of crap, only to find no evidence of a leak.

Grrrr! WTF?I have other things I need to work on!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Could it be leakage from under the tub?? Had the same issue and it was under the tub, it was all just leaking from under the tub.

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[PearlieMae]

I think it's the seal around the tub channeling shower water out onto the floor. Looks like my landlord used Alex Plus! YUK!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Oh no. 😣 will the land lord take care of it?

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[PearlieMae]

Yeah...eventually. Better if I just do it myself. Now I have to drag out the carpet cleaner to extract the water from the rug! :gah:

[Shimmer Mermaid]

If I could I'd totally come help you

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[PearlieMae]

Hahaha! Thanks for the offer, but my bathroom is so tiny, we'd never fit!

[Shimmer Mermaid]

So for all my fellow mermommas out there, you might get a kick out of this one;

I am pregnant, I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow. I'm getting a little bump, but I'm not showing yet.

I have lately been going out more often without a bra, which is common here in the south because it's warm. Especially if your small busted like me.
So I'm shopping, and a nice lady walks up to me, maybe in her 30s, she had a couple of kids with her, but she pulls me aside, and asks "Ma'am, are you pregnant?"

And I look at her funny and say "yeah, I didn't realize strangers could tell yet. I'm only 13 weeks."

She goes "well, I wouldn't be able to...but, you're lactating from your right side."

I didn't realize it would start so soon! But she said she had started at 8 weeks.

I felt so frustrated and embarrassed. I thanked her, and put my jacket on.

Its not so much that I'm mad about it, I'm very excited, but damn, I felt so dense!

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[PearlieMae]

Hahaha! I didn't lactate before I gave birth, but after, I was like one of those fire boats! Also, your milk will 'let down' at THE most inopportune times!

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[Hydra1337]

So for all my fellow mermommas out there, you might get a kick out of this one;

I am pregnant, I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow. I'm getting a little bump, but I'm not showing yet.

I have lately been going out more often without a bra, which is common here in the south because it's warm. Especially if your small busted like me.
So I'm shopping, and a nice lady walks up to me, maybe in her 30s, she had a couple of kids with her, but she pulls me aside, and asks "Ma'am, are you pregnant?"

And I look at her funny and say "yeah, I didn't realize strangers could tell yet. I'm only 13 weeks."

She goes "well, I wouldn't be able to...but, you're lactating from your right side."

I didn't realize it would start so soon! But she said she had started at 8 weeks.

I felt so frustrated and embarrassed. I thanked her, and put my jacket on.

Its not so much that I'm mad about it, I'm very excited, but damn, I felt so dense!

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Congrats!

I ended up lactating at the worst times too and I'm already self-conscious so I know how you feel. I didn't get anything until after giving birth but after that it was seriously like Niagara falls came out every two or three hours if I didn't breastfeed or use a pump. Then my body just randomly stopped making milk around Christmas time. Suddenly stopping like that has really screwed up my hormones. My hair has fallen out in clumps in addition to PMSing every day. It's awful. =(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Awe, I'm sorry about the hormone thing messing with your body! But I'm glad to know that I'm not alone with the whole random lactating thing.

[Dancing Fish]

Hahaha! I didn't lactate before I gave birth, but after, I was like one of those fire boats! Also, your milk will 'let down' at THE most inopportune times!

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BWAHAAHAHAHAHAAA!!! OMG, that pic is perfect. Yeah, I was a...vigorous lactator...myself. Such a strange sensation, too. Yay biology! Congrats, Shimmer Mermaid! :)

[Hydra1337]

Awe, I'm sorry about the hormone thing messing with your body! But I'm glad to know that I'm not alone with the whole random lactating thing.

That's appreciated, thank you. Honestly I'm shocked I don't have bald spots with how much I lose at one time. Not even joking I shed WAY worse than my cats. lol

[Loralei]

Let me make you laugh. So I have been told since I was 13 that I would never have babies. I only got my period once a year for 5 miserable days. I have PCOS and amenorrhea.

I changed my diet from vegetarian, but I was drinking a lot of soy milk.. and inhaling cucumbers, limited my broccoli intake.

So there came a time where I just felt so strange. I went to a Women's Health center... Everything checked out. Pregnancy test came out negative. Weeks later.... I still felt strange. My Mother-In-Law (Whom is like super superstitious) KNEW I was pregnant. She paid for 5 boxes of pregnancy tests. (Not all at once) She kept insisting. All negative.

Yet I had this MAD craving for new jersey tomatoes with salt and pepper. Thats it. I ate two a day.

So me and my fiance'are sitting on the bed. Im playing a game on either my phone or the playstation late at night. I look at my arm...Its wet. I didnt bother looking at my shirt.... You know what I did?

Looked at the celing. LMAO.

"YO, KEN! T'hell is this shit? Ectoplasm?!"

I MADE him sit where I was so he could experience this strange ghost drip. It was several minutes before we figured out I was LACTATING.

I went and got a blood test at my local clinic, even though the lady SWORE I wasnt pregnant from the Women's Health center... POSITIVE.

They wanted me to have an immediate ultrasound. I was 5 months along. I was SO scared.


Ta-dah! Little water baby Kiandra was born. Love that little guppy more than ANYTHING.


P.s. I am Pescetarian now, but the process of pregnancy cured me of my period disorder and I get it regularly with the aid of holistic methods. I dont know how you women do this, you're all amazon warriors.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Until I got pregnant, me and my doctor thought I was infertile.

During the time my reproductive organs were develpping, I was being starved, having to dive into dumpsters for food for me and my little sister to survive. On top of that, raped numerous times during my early child hood, up until I was 13. It caused me problems with my period, and the doctor said it was very unlikely for me to even have kids.
So it was quite a shock. Lol

[SeaGlass Siren]

Oh my god shimmer :( thank you for sharing. :hugs: