Who has Roommates?

[spottedcatfish]

Hey all,

So my current living situation is now with roommates. Ive never had roommates before, or lived with anyone else but my family. So far it's going fine. I'm just wondering who here lives with roommates? How do they take your mer identity? Or do they know?

[Jadestone]

I live with a roommate while I'm in college. As I've only come into mermaiding this summer, she hasn't seen just how into it I've gotten (I move back in two weeks), but she seems fine with it! She's excited for me to finish my tail so we can use her underwater camera to take pictures in our college's pool.

She also had to say, "Where are we going to keep you when you are a mermaid? We can't put you in the carr pool*, because the divers would dive on you and the swimmers would swim on you. And the pond water is too dirty. Maybe we can install an ocean in our room. "
(*the name of our school's pool, for whatever reason).

:lol: She's a wonderful friend. I think installing an ocean is probably the best plan. But she seems absolutely fine with it, and a little excited herself! Do you know your roommates very well? If you're friends with them, I don't see why they'd have any problems with it.

[Lyna]

haha of course they know. this isn't fight club.
my roommate is actually now my mertender. she's travleing yet again with me to coney island for the meetup. she's also my shop girl at work. she's basically my all around personal assistant actually...

[spottedcatfish]

Do you know your roommates very well? If you're friends with them, I don't see why they'd have any problems with it.

Well I have three roommates, one other girl and two guys. The girl I've gotten to know a bit, and the guys, I haven't really talked to them much. I plan to get to know them all better as the semester progresses. I may tell the female roommate, but much later when we've gotten to know each other better. This week has been really busy for us all, so we haven't really gotten to talk to each other much... plus we all have different schedules. I may feel more comfortable starting with some people whom know and trust, better, before telling my roommates.


haha of course they know. this isn't fight club.
my roommate is actually now my mertender. she's travleing yet again with me to coney island for the meetup. she's also my shop girl at work. she's basically my all around personal assistant actually...

That's really cool!

[Spindrift]

You know, I've been thinking about some things that have happened in college for a while and this thread sort of makes me want to post about it, so here goes:

A bit about me: Well-meaning, geeky, introverted but talkative around friends, have traveled the world a lot, never lived in the continental USA until freshman year of college (unless you want to count a summer where I lived in Los Angeles alone).

Anyway: I had roommates for a while, but this year I have a single apartment all to my own and it's pretty sweet. My scholarships are also paying for it so I'm pretty happy.
I've had both good and bad experiences with roommates. I hope that if you guys read these experiences though, you don't assume that this was like, my entire life at college. I did a ton of really cool other stuff. And the things I'm writing about below - they were all pretty minor events really, but it didn't really seem that way while experiencing them. I hope I'm way above the bad experiences now.

Last year I had a roommate and we understood each other pretty well although we left each other to do our own thing, which I really appreciated. We did hang out from time to time, and even though I wouldn't call her a friend, she was probably my favorite roommate. We both had experience with living in other countries so it was a great thing to connect on. And we both believed in the same value/moral system (we're both a little conservative) so there were like, zero problems.

The year before that I had two roommates, and both were really fun, although the three of us were from completely different social groups. If we were back in high school one would have been a jock/popular (girl's hockey team) and the other would have been a stoner/slacker (she hid it well though, and it was never an issue). It was pretty great because we could still joke about things to each other. They both know about me mermaiding and think it's awesome, I even let them try out my monofins in the pool and we sometimes ate together despite having completely different groups of friends.

I also had two roommates for my first year of college. I really got along well with one of them - she was outdoorsy and on cross country, but was studying medical stuff so I never really saw her that often. She was really cool to talk to when I had the chance though - we bonded over talking about adventures we wanted to go on and places we would love to travel to. The other though, was a nightmare. The way she first introduced herself to me? "Hi, I'm Rebecca, I may dress like a slut, but I'm totally not one". Apparently for the last day of her high school she showed up to class wearing a "sexy school girl outfit" and hit on all the teachers. And like, this girl was... I don't want to be mean or anything, but she wasn't exactly er... attractive. She just acted like she was, and then when an actually pretty girl walked by, would bitch about her without even knowing her. It was super bitchy. Anyway, that isn't even why I don't like her. She and I started off really well since we're both nerds and into geek culture. We hung out with the same people. But she got really jealous because well... I'm smarter than her. By a lot. So I could keep up with the conversation that the engineering guys were discussing pretty easily and quip in, while she was always trying to turn the conversation to be about her, and why we should worship her. Which is not to say that the guys we hung out with didn't. I think most of them probably didn't talk to girls in high school or something so when she gave them attention they really paid her attention. Anyway, things got really weird pretty fast. She cheated on her high school boyfriend with a guy I had introduced her to. Then near the end of freshman year she cheated on him with one of our mutual guy friends. And the entire time? She called me a slut because I had two guys fighting over me... and they sometimes visited me in my room to watch movies and sometimes slept over (1. nothing happened between us and 2. she herself wasn't sleeping in the room, and 3. the other roommate didn't mind since she got along with them and I had her permission). Like, what? Eventually she accused me of stealing food from her (the entire dorm was having this problem, actually - I think she was just eating everything in her sleep since she did sleepwalk). Also and like, I know this is a natural thing or whatever so I tried to not fault her for it, but my other roommate and I usually woke up gagging the next day when she did sleep in her own bed because Rebecca farted a lot in her sleep. We slept a lot easier when she started sleeping in the guy's room (although his roommate started complaining about it, as well as walking in on her in just a bra a lot). She also had all these scars on her thighs because she cut herself in high school, and she was Wiccan. I recognize the first thing to be like, a serious issue, but the story she told me about it made me think she only did it because she wanted to be "goth" and "dark". Oh and she hated -me- because the guy I ended up dating (for 2-3 years) called her fat and she somehow thought that I was in control of everything he did, or something. He also called her disrespectful, since she tried to "flirt" with him by taking photos of him sleeping in the cafeteria and posting it on Facebook even after he explicitly stated he hated photos of him and she said a lot of bad stuff about people she didn't even really know behind their back. I mean, to be fair, my guy was a little intense and intimidating at first sight... he is one of America's youngest chess champions and the high school cross country star of his state. Extremely introverted as well, and didn't like talking to people much, unless it was me.

Anyway, final straw: she told one of my close friends that I should just "go back to where I came from" because I was too "culturally different" (I don't look white and I've lived in many countries). Like. Are you serious? So I stopped talking to her and she moved out (she told the school it was a security issue, but she later said it was because she didn't want to be near me). And when I was living with newer roommates later on I realized she had a lot of pictures of me still on Facebook so I asked her politely to take them down. They weren't of anything bad, just hanging out in freshman year. And she had said when she took them that she would remove any photo that anyone talked to her about. But I kid you not, I still have all the emails, and I'll post them with the names censored but otherwise unabridged, if people are actually interested (this girl was insane), but she refused to take the photos down because "she only reserved that right for friends". I actually started laughing. It got into this thing where she and her new friends were trying to attack me about me being a bitch, when I clearly pointed out and even linked her to the student handbook that pictures count under the right to privacy rule for our campus and if I told her to take it down she had to. It escalated into this big thing. I stayed polite the entire time but her arguments are just... well, hilarious and idiotic. Anyway, that's my one bad roommate experience. I still hate that girl, but it doesn't bother me anymore since she'll never get anywhere, ever.

TLDR: Freshman year roommate sucked, messed up the year a bit, got over it and rocked the next 3 years.

[Mermaid Annariea]

wow, spindrift. you seemed to have kept your cool really REALLY well.
im not a voilent person... but i probably wouldve punched her in her bitchy face, lol.

[Spindrift]

@Brianna: Hah thanks. I mean, I definitely complained about her when things got really bad. Not gonna lie about it, but I had a lot of reasons to. I'm not a very confrontational person, but when we were emailing maybe 1-2 years later (?) I finally just showed her up and she's left me alone since.

[spottedcatfish]

Wow spindrift, that's quite a story! Well fortunately for me, I have my own room, and so far I haven't really seen my housemates (I should say), very often. So it's been going good so far.