AniaR
11-06-2012, 06:44 PM
Not the ones in the water, the type of people. I need to vent and maybe some opinions and advice.
First, I want to acknowledge a lot of people have helped me become who I am as a mermaid. I am constantly trying to put that forward to help others. You may know I fundraised for both of my tails and had some people make quite the large donations. I've been lucky to know the right people to get me media attention, help me get into neat gigs, and generally help put me out there. I try very hard to stay humble. I don't think I am the be all end all mermaid or anything lame like that. I do think I've got experience and ideas that are worth sharing though to help others get going.
I try to do a lot of good things to balance out the good things people have done for me. As soon as I got my merbellas tail I gave my old one away for free to a local girl so she could start her own mermaid career. After all, if someone hadn't have helped me I wouldn't be where I was. I work my @$$ off on tail flip, I write lots of articles and track down the info people want to know. I do lots on here too. In my community I volunteer a lot, to the point it's even becoming a problem for me. And yeah, as soon as I got multiple tails I started turning girls I knew who always wanted to be mermaids, into mermaids. Trying to make their dreams come true.
Right now I feel like I'm being online assaulted by local strangers. They suck up to me and beg me to take them mer-swimming, do photoshoots, etc. They have NO idea what's involved in these things, and really they're only nice to me because they want me to do it. As soon as I show that it's not something I can do right now they turn nasty. I've been called named etc and now some girl is telling people I don't want others to be mermaids in the city! Which is the lamest thing ever, I support all the other local mermaids, we make sure none of us undercuts each other, I send them gigs when I'm over booked and they do the same, and I book us things TOGETHER. Just because I don't want to put a STRANGER in one of my tails, parade them around in a pool and send them photos of it, does not mean I am not supportive. Mermaids in my area are all ridiculously kind, there is no gossiping or undercutting or any crap.
And Honestly, I am EXHAUSTED right now. I'm trying so hard to find new work in my field, I've been battling some private health issues, working hard on the next issue of tail flip, volunteering, and preparing for some big things in my life. How am I suddenly selfish because I can't do everything a stranger wants?
Anyway, I could really use some validation on the notice I put on my FB https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=494853450549403&id=183327321702019 I know these girls are reading it constantly, so if you think it's unreasonable for people to expect that of me all the time it be really great if you'd like or say something. It's just really not okay the way they're treating me, I just needed to vent and get it off my chest.
I've had this tail from Jesse for 2 months and I've already had 3 different people in it, done up for swimming and shoots. I got a monofin for my old practice tail and had someone in it too. (this doesn't involve ANY of those ladies, they're all wonderful) considering it's freezing here it's not like I can easily arrange a trip to the beach or an outdoor pool.
First, I want to acknowledge a lot of people have helped me become who I am as a mermaid. I am constantly trying to put that forward to help others. You may know I fundraised for both of my tails and had some people make quite the large donations. I've been lucky to know the right people to get me media attention, help me get into neat gigs, and generally help put me out there. I try very hard to stay humble. I don't think I am the be all end all mermaid or anything lame like that. I do think I've got experience and ideas that are worth sharing though to help others get going.
I try to do a lot of good things to balance out the good things people have done for me. As soon as I got my merbellas tail I gave my old one away for free to a local girl so she could start her own mermaid career. After all, if someone hadn't have helped me I wouldn't be where I was. I work my @$$ off on tail flip, I write lots of articles and track down the info people want to know. I do lots on here too. In my community I volunteer a lot, to the point it's even becoming a problem for me. And yeah, as soon as I got multiple tails I started turning girls I knew who always wanted to be mermaids, into mermaids. Trying to make their dreams come true.
Right now I feel like I'm being online assaulted by local strangers. They suck up to me and beg me to take them mer-swimming, do photoshoots, etc. They have NO idea what's involved in these things, and really they're only nice to me because they want me to do it. As soon as I show that it's not something I can do right now they turn nasty. I've been called named etc and now some girl is telling people I don't want others to be mermaids in the city! Which is the lamest thing ever, I support all the other local mermaids, we make sure none of us undercuts each other, I send them gigs when I'm over booked and they do the same, and I book us things TOGETHER. Just because I don't want to put a STRANGER in one of my tails, parade them around in a pool and send them photos of it, does not mean I am not supportive. Mermaids in my area are all ridiculously kind, there is no gossiping or undercutting or any crap.
And Honestly, I am EXHAUSTED right now. I'm trying so hard to find new work in my field, I've been battling some private health issues, working hard on the next issue of tail flip, volunteering, and preparing for some big things in my life. How am I suddenly selfish because I can't do everything a stranger wants?
Anyway, I could really use some validation on the notice I put on my FB https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=494853450549403&id=183327321702019 I know these girls are reading it constantly, so if you think it's unreasonable for people to expect that of me all the time it be really great if you'd like or say something. It's just really not okay the way they're treating me, I just needed to vent and get it off my chest.
I've had this tail from Jesse for 2 months and I've already had 3 different people in it, done up for swimming and shoots. I got a monofin for my old practice tail and had someone in it too. (this doesn't involve ANY of those ladies, they're all wonderful) considering it's freezing here it's not like I can easily arrange a trip to the beach or an outdoor pool.