I am at a lost right now, how do I help him?

[Mermaid Summer]

My husband was laid off back in Sep, he got a job temp job for October and December. He got a interview at Hot topic and made it to the second round of interviews. He got a interview with Bed Bath and Beyond, made it to the second round then was told that they hired everyone they needed and in a week they may call back. He got 2 phone interviews and a second interview with HEB.



I know this is hard for him and me. I've had to pull double shifts, we've been fighting a lot more. I just know this is hurting him.

[Tasha Mermaid]

This is a really hard issue, alot of the times a Man's ego is linked to the ability to being able to provide and now he is without a job, i could only imagine how hard that is on him. Men dont take well to their pride being hurt like this :(
I am sorry you both are going through such a hard time, Is he qualified in any particular field that he could try to get back into ????
Perhaps he should apply for all kinds of jobs, no matter what they may be (within reason of cause, not asking him to be a stripper lol)

[roamingmer]

What qualifications does he have and what are his skill set. Although very hard to accept lunali is correct and perhaps life is trying to tell him to chill n re-evaluate. No one likes to be unemployed. But focusing on his strengths n 5 year goals; and breaking them down step by step might help him get there. And to allow him to realise he is not alone

[New York Mermaid]

aww oh my, :/

As I know your at a loss, sometimes sitting down and talking to him would help. try to keep it positive.
if your fighting try to pinpoint what your actually fighting about and ask is it worth fighting about- Sometimes you need to take the initiative and walk out the room to cool down. Or take this to a game which you can work together or get your anger out on (call of duty) either working together or against each other. I know it sounds very strange but it has worked for me and my husband for 8 soon to be 9 years. Remember you know who he is, he might feel useless right now. Maybe take a day together and go out together do something that you both like, or just a nice dinner or something. He's under alot of stress and sometimes they just need a wind down, just like you would especially if your working double shifts.

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

I was not getting paid for a year (technically not unemployed, since I helped out at my dad's office with some filing in exchange for having health insurance paid for, and because I worked part of that time as a volunteer at a nature preserve) and it was extremely stressful. I've still only got a part time retail job as well, so I'm in the process of doing the same sort of job hunting for something better.

One of the things I found most annoying about applying for jobs is because it was so much repetition. Maybe offer to help him with filling out the details on applications or filing notes about what jobs he's already applied for in the area, mock interviewing him so he can practice his interview skills, and keeping your eyes open for ads and signs about people hiring would help? Or looking for educational opportunities for him to improve his skills and gain certifications necessary for the job?

[Mermaid Summer]

HE GOT THE JOB!!!!!! All they are waiting on is the background check!

[Ashe]

Aw, yay! Good for you guys :)

[AniaR]

we're going through the opposite, I've been unemployed since September (though I do mermaid stuff). My partner has been working non stop at a job he hates to make ends meet. I thankfully start a new job on Monday

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Congrats to your husband, Elaina-Wednesday, and to you, Raina :)