What Do You Do When You're Overly Attached?

[Usagi]

So. I'm very much an overly attached girlfriend. March 26 will will be our two year anniversary. The most we've ever been apart is a week, when he went on a medical trip to Panama. Other than that, I don't think we've ever been apart more than a day. Now I found out that it's very, VERY likely (like 95%) that he's going to Brazil over the summer to see his family...for two months. Which means he'll miss my birthday (meaning I'll be alone because I don't like being with my family). And he'll miss the family camping trip AGAIN if he goes in the second half of summer (meaning I would be with just my family again, and probably get put on child duty). And I have to find someone else to help me with mermaiding. And I won't have anyone else to hang out with. And I'm scared...what if he finds someone that he likes better while he's there? I know I'm no looker. Gah, thinking about it makes me wanna cry every time. I don't know how the girlfriend/boyfriends/spouses of people in the military do it...I know there's gonna be lots of tears this summer. ): I wish I wasn't so attached! He told me I can't be a male angler fish and attach myself to him and dissolve. Which was funny, but still made me sad. I just want to be sedated for the entirety of the summer. /: I know, I sound like a drama queen.

[SeaGlass Siren]

oh gosh. i feel that sometimes. you just gotta trust that he wont be doing anything. there will always be other people that look better than you, but it wont mean that he'll feel emotionally attached/sexually attracted to them yknow? two years is a heck of a long time to be in a relationship, but i mean it shows that he's committed to you at least IMO.

it's only a two month trip :P it's not like he's moving away forever lol you'll survive. my boy went on a 2 week business trip to the states and we're still perfectly fine ;)

[Mermaid Isabela]

I feel you. Whenever Summer and Winter vacations roll around I'm always dreading it. My family has overly attached-syndrome, and they always want me to visit for the duration of the break. Which means about two months in summer and one month in winter. I don't like being away from my partner that long, it's terrible. We manage by skyping a lot, maybe you could do the same? I know it's not the same as being with them, but it's better than nothing.

[Alveric]

I probably can't relate personally. We've been married 28 years and haven't been apart longer than a weekend.

My daughter, on the other hand, married a gentleman from Australia. They had to be apart for two months last year when he was taking care of immigration matters. She cried for a couple of days but held up very well after that. It helped that they communicated everyday using skype, email and so forth.

[SeaGlass Siren]

yeah, email/skype/msn/facebook always helps :P its not like the middle ages where it takes forever to deliver mail.

[Usagi]

-sigh- I think facebook and skype will be the only things we have...if his family even has them. Well, obviously they have facebook since you can access it from any computer lol but I don't know if they have skype. Like he would probably have to download it or something. Can iPhones connect to wifi in other countries? That probably sounds like a stupid question, but I really don't know lol

[Taniira]

By the time I see Scapey again, it'll have been about 6 months. It's hard, but you just have to trust the other person. We Skype nearly every day, even if we're still doing other stuff, but at least we're kind of hanging out. I'm always miserable for a few days to a couple of weeks, but eventually I'm OK again and I know I'll see him again. I also spent my birthday alone, and because I use all of my vacation time to see him I end up missing our family camping trips. You should try to have fun and focus on other things, maybe try to get into a new hobby if you find you spend too much time moping about and missing him, or try to hang out with your friends more.

[AptaMer]

Can iPhones connect to wifi in other countries?

Yes, they can.

You can get the Skype app on your phones and then talk without using up cellullar minutes as long as you both have a good wifi connection.