Please help. I need advice!

[Hollydell]

Hello Mers!
I don't really know how to start this but here it goes.
I moved from Kelowna to Surrey (close to Vancouver) a couple months ago with a friend!
Being only 18 people said it was a bad decision. But being me, a stubborn girl, I didn't listen. I am honestly loving my life and living away from home, but with current job problems I'm really thinking about college or university.
Checking out prices and places my best move at this point in time is to move back home to Kelowna and go to school.
So with everything set in stone my best friend ( and roommate) is pissed off.
I understand I really do! I know if the rolls were reversed I would be mad too.
But she's really making me feel shitty.
We are renting a 3 bedroom place from her parents and we just got a roommate coming in on the first. So when I move out they can look for another roommate. But now my friend believes she has to move out too because she can't find anyone to move in.
She's making it seem like I'm destroying her life. I just don't know what to do because I'm stuck here until the 15th.
Does anyone have any advice?

[Mermaid Kassandra]

Well she has to understand also that if the best option for you is go back to study she only can accept it!

She can't force you to do a life where you'll have difficulties going on with money and the rest!

In this way she will destroy your life!



Try to talk with her and explain that you can't live anymore the way you used to and that she can easily find someone else to live with (if you're leaving it doesn't me she has to do the same thing), if she still don't want to understand it's her problem.



If she wants she can find lots of people who can take your place in the house, here in Italy at university lots of people rent houses to avoid go up and down with the train and you don't even imagine how many people leave the house rented and for less important things than your problem!

But the others roommate doesn't make a tragedy just for this (usually the houses are rented by 4-5 people at once what do you think would happen if one have to leave and the other 4 do the same thing that your friend is doing? A war! XD ), they make advertisement on local newspaper, spread the voice with other friends and friends of friends, put printed advertisement in the university's classes, around the city and everything else comes up to their mind.

Your friend just need organization, she's wasting her time pointing her finger on you because you need to leave for obvious reasons!

She had to step out and do whatever she can to find another roommate if she doesn't want it's not your problem so don't feel guilty you have to do what is the best for you!

[Hollydell]

Thanks Mermaid Kassandra, I needed that <3

[Mermaid Kassandra]

You're welcome! :)
If I can I always love to help other mermaids here on the forum :)

[maressa]

She's just inexperienced and being silly, and is probably a little sad that you're leaving and showing it in a bad way.

It is usually pretty to find roommates, especially looking on Craigslist and advertising for the space. She will have to be careful in choosing a new roommate, but it's not impossible. Both of my roommates answered my ad on Craigslist, and we met for an appointment first and I showed them the space and asked about them and what they do, and why they are looking for housing. They had to pass an application and background check with my apartment complex, so I knew they were reliable. She might want to ask her parents for a similar screening- there are companies that can provide a background and credit check for a price.

[PearlieMae]

If she's renting from her parents, I doubt they'll kick her out.

If you have to move, you have to move. Don't let her manipulate your emotions. Life's tough. She'll find another roommate. You have to take care of yourself, first. Just keep moving forward.

[Hollydell]

Maressa - exactly we found a roommate for the third bedroom on Craigslist!!

PearlieMae - OMG ITS PEARLIEMAE AND SHE COMMENTED ON MY POST!!!!!!!!!!!
Okay, I'm alright now :P
Just a big fan :D
That's what I was thinking too, we have been renting the place for super cheap from her parents, with the other roommate coming in her parents are getting more money with those two roommates compared to me and her. If worst comes to worst her parents would let her stay in the house for a few months without roommates.

[PearlieMae]

Hahaha! You are too cute!