Dating People Who Work Places Where You Pay

[Seatan]

Okay, so I finally got asked out by a really cute guy who--get this--loves horses! *dances happily* The only downside? He WORKS at the stable I just started riding at (as a groom). We've gone out three times now, and I am a little worried about how our relationship is going to go over to my trainer and the barn owner and, well, *everybody* when they find out the new girl is dating the young, sexy groom. (Hopefully this is not a normal occurrence--I like to think I'm a little special here.) What do you guys think about relationships with people who work at establishments where you are a client? Should I try and hide it? That would be tough considering he literally lives at my fancy ass new barn. I really like him; I am a little bit worried! Suggestions? Comments?

[Meronica]

I wouldn't try hiding it. The more you act secretive, the most 'scandal' people see in it, and the more they may want to pry/make up rumors to fill in for what they don't know. I would just be casual about it if anyone asks. Three dates in isn't exactly a ton of commitment, either, you may find out you aren't that into him in a few weeks' time, so playing it cool is really all you can do.

Congrats on finding a horse guy though! I was "that crazy horse girl" growing up and have a boyfriend who loves cars and snowboarding, but I'm slowly turning him into a horse person as well. (;

[Seatan]

It IS handy to have a significant other who understands what you mean when you say you have to clean out your gelding's sheathe. ESPECIALLY if you can get him to do it for you....

LMAO.

[Meronica]

LOL. I'm picturing Cameron's face if I ever asked him to do that for me.

As long as I can get him to trail ride with me and carry my scaley butt around for mermaid stuff, I guess he gets a pass on the sheath cleaning. For real though, your man sounds like a catch. (;

[Mermaid Wesley]

Don't worry about it. It happens and that's it :)


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[AniaR]

If there's no policy against it I wouldnt worry :)

[Ayla of Duluth]

You are one lucky lady! All my life I've wanted to take horseback riding lessons, but my parents couldn't afford it. Now I found a stable near me that offers lessons just outside the city, but now that I'm out on my own, I still can't afford it. :(

[Shimmer Mermaid]

Have horses, am 19 now, had them all of my life, and always wanted to have a cute relationship where at our wedding we'd ride away bareback into the sunset. lol But I have a movie nerd as a boyfriend, and while I do love him to pieces in our 2 years time, he's gotten on Stormy twice, and said he'd never do it again. It broke my heart to know someone who I care so much for can't share my one true passion with me. If I were you, I'd act like it wasn't a big deal. If someone asks, be casual. Lucky duck. Hope all goes well :)

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Perhaps we are all romantics here, but honestly, I agree with just about everyone else... if there's no formal policy, and he's a groom (not an instructor or authority figure or owner or someone who considers you an authority figure), I don't see an issue. It's kinda the equivalent of having a boyfriend who works in a coffee shop you attend, or who works at a store you enjoy shopping at. There doesn't seem to be a conflict of interest here (except for the horses, who will likely want both of your attentions).

[Mermaid Kelda]

except for the horses, who will likely want both of your attentions
"Here I am, a thoroughbred, in from the trail, saddle still on, bridle still buckled, stall un-mucked, and this bit driving me mad, and all those two can do is lock tongues! I never!"

(...sorry, I know you'd never let romance come in the way of your or his jobs ;))

[PearlieMae]

If there's no policy, see where it may go! If there is, see where it may go...on the downlow!

The heart wants what the heart wants.

[MarkF]

Seavanna, my inner Dad is concerned he can't afford to keep up with your interests if your relationship becomes more serious. Guard your heart.
It's true guys are rare in the equestrian area. I am the only guy I know of in SoCal who had a horse, even the vets didn't have horses.
Any guy would like and be lucky to date a Mermaid!

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Hmmm... if you think about it, both horses and mermaids are associated with Poseidon... of course, so are earthquakes. I figure if all you have to worry about is some teasing from the other people who work there, you've got nothing to worry about.

[AptaMer]

I'm slowly turning him into a horse person as well.

Mwaa ha ha . . . Resistance is futile. You will be assimilated . . .

Sorry, LOL I just couldn't get the image of the Borg out of my mind when I read that :)

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