thanks for the support, I'm going to work on the whole thing when I get home because I'm at school and only have my phone so it's hard to alternate between links and such. also on a completely unrelated note, sign language is hard thanks to boobs
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thanks for the support, I'm going to work on the whole thing when I get home because I'm at school and only have my phone so it's hard to alternate between links and such. also on a completely unrelated note, sign language is hard thanks to boobs
Okay, so first of all I am in no way qualified to give medical advice, I can only share my experiences. I was on meds for depression for most of my teenage years, but I had it pretty bad. It took a good deal of trial and error to find the right medication and some of them actually made it worse or made it even harder to feel happy. Eventually I found one that worked and it was extremely helpful at the time, but when I felt like I no longer needed it I gradually stopped taking it and am very reluctant to go down that path again unless I absolutely need to. These days I only have very mild depression and I try to favor alternatives to medication, but that is my personal choice.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Cascada
If you do choose to take medicine for it, the best advice I can give is to have a trustworthy friend or family member keep an eye on your condition. I would have been an emotionless lump for years if my parents hadn't caught that one of my prescriptions had made me incapable of any strong emotions, good or bad. Having someone who knows you observing for changes and telling you honestly if they think there is a problem can save you a lot of trouble. And if taking it doesn't help, do not hesitate to let your doctor know. They might want you to try a different one or adjust the dosage. It is common that the first try won't be the right fit for you.
Work changed my hours to working at 10pm to 12am and I've been working 4 hours a week but they cut me back to 2hours a week.[emoji35] hopefully I can get a new job where they will give me more hours!
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I don't want the medicine to have negative affects. That's my main concern but, I think I'll try the medicine and at least see if there is a difference in the way I feel. Thankyou for sharing your experiences!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ciriun
Finding one with absolutely no side affects is difficult, but you might be able to find one with minimal affects. In contrast to my experience, I have a friend who on the first try ended up with a medication that works wonderfully and makes significant improvements to her mood and anxiety levels and the only downside is it makes her a bit more sleepy, especially around the middle of the day. It all comes down to individual body chemistry. Best of luck to you!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Cascada
Thank-you so much!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ciriun
I second this, the only side effects mine have on me is that I get a bit sleepy (usually in the middle of the day too) or if I take it and don't eat anything the whole day I get upset stomach until I eat something.Quote:
Originally Posted by Ciriun
Okay, so now I'm really between a rock and a hard place.
My FMLA at work allowed me to be late and call in without any repurcussions so that I can take care of myself and my parents without getting fired for attendance. However, it expired last March and nobody told me. So since then, all of my call ins to take care of myself and my parents have counted against me. I have a ton of "points" on my record card at work that triggered a "reprimand". Four reprimands and I get fired. But here's the catch. My department is special. Instead of how every other department works, after your first reprimand, each additional point after your first reprimand counts as another reprimand for the first 120 days after the first reprimand. In other words, you aren't allowed to be sick EVER.
At this point, I am at three reprimands from the amount of points I've gotten from my migraine attacks. My work has also scheduled me a sixth day on a day they weren't supposed to schedule me (on my day off). I've tried to give away this shift, but all of my co-workers are already working, and my department is STILL understaffed. To make matters worse, I have been booked for a kid's birthday party for several weeks for this day and the client already put a deposit down. I'm contractually obligated to attend.
If I call in, I lose my day job. If I cancel my gig, I get sued.
I'm screwed.
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Originally Posted by MermaidCelesteFL
oh no! is there anyway you could call the person throwing the party and see if they will be willing to let you make up for it differently? maybe if u still have the deposit you could offer it back and that can cancel it out? maybe they are reasonable and will let it go?
or call your work and tell them how you have a legal matter that you HAVE to attend? maybe knowing it is a legal issue technically they might change the schedule?
oh dear god, my cat isn't pregnant but he tested positive for FIV.
So, Facebook.
Yes, I'm obviously a social media nub, but why is it that anyone can add me to a random group, and if I don't want to be in it, I have to manually look it up and leave?
And if it strikes the fancy of a dozen guys to add me to some lewd adult groups, I have to manually select and do stuff just to leave again?
(I only found out about this now LOL.)
Yeah thtats the worst.
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There is an option to not be invited to groups. I forgot what its called exactly, but that's what I have. And am invisible on fb.Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
Gotta love when you share an honest opinion on a facebook group and it takes only ONE person to twiste your words and make you look like an asshole to the members...
I explained myself twice and they still missed my point.
I will be moving on to avoid drama but before that, I'm just gonna...
:headwall::anger explode::soap box::shark:
There. I feel better now.
thanks!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Jaffa
as I said, FB nub here. I didn't poke around looking for such an option because I didn't know it worked this way in the first place lol.
hehe.Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Arion
Some people just don't want to understand.
Even if you explain in very simple, easy-to-grasp-words.
:fallover:
Money. That is all.
Try them for a month or two and see if you feel different. As long as they are not something you get hooked to quickly then you can stop them if they do not feel better. When I was at my most depressed I had no idea that I was so depressed until I took antideoressants. Just don't feel like trying one means that you are stuck with it forever. Psychiatric medicines are basically trial and error so if it doesn't work then no harm no foul! And if you get side effects that are worse than the depression then tell your doc and stop taking them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Cascada
Cascada, one thing to keep in mind with psychiatric meds is that they can sometimes take weeks to work fully. It's not unheard of for them to reach full therapeutic effect within days, but it's uncommon. It really depends on the medicine. Like Seavanna said, tell your doctor right away if things go badly, but don't just drop psychiatric meds cold-turkey unless your doctor says that's what you should do. Sudden withdrawls of any maintenance medication can make the condition you're being treated for much worse temporarily as a simple matter of backlash. Your doctor will probably walk you off the drug in lower and lower doses, even if you're going straight into a different drug of the same kind right after. Seavanna's right, there's a lot of trial and error in psych meds because everyone's brain is different, even within the same family. Expect lots of meds changes at first, but know that things will be much, much better for you once you find the right combination. ^_^
Cascada, I've been on Celexa for depression/anxiety for about two years now. I'm on the lowest dose, but I did need it. My symptoms had gotten so bad that I wasn't just depressed, I was angry. And that's just not me. I was snapping at the slightest offenses, and that was my wake-up call. I refused to let my boyfriend at the time (husband now!) suffer, so I made the choice to take meds and see if it would help. Turns out, it did! It wasn't easy. A lot of psychiatric issues run through both sides of my family, so just about everyone I'm related to is on meds. I never wanted that to be me. I'm a very independent person. My man talked me through the first time I took the medication, and I was crying the whole time. But it really was worth it, and I don't regret it one bit. I'm myself again. Everyone's story is different, but that one's mine and I hope it helps.
There are a few side-effects, but I will say that you have to remember that depression often couples with anxiety. And when you treat one, the symptoms of the other increases. That's why doctors will usually advise treating depression first and foremost, if you have to choose between the two. I'd rather be jittery than suicidal (which I was on and off for years). I'm a little fidgety, but that's a small price to pay.
Praying that, if you decide to start meds, you find the medication that works for you without having to go through a whole bunch of different medications. I was blessed that I had my mom tell me which one worked best for her and since we're related, it makes sense that it works for me, too. Hope that your journey is just as quickly rewarding. :)
I know this is supposed to be a ranting thread, but can I off-topic for a sec just to say how awesome you guys are all? I've been on a fair number of forums, and I have never before seen this much helpful advice, support, and honest sharing regarding a mental health issue. :group hug: To keep this at least slightly on topic, where the heck was this place back when I had severe depression instead of just persistent ennui? :p
It's good to see people well , hope you find happiness here as I found
I'm pissed at usps. They haven't updated my tracking on my tail since 2:19 am June 22.
Fuck you USPS.
Ouch.
Got a rant this time, sort of. I feel a bit silly getting so worked up over this, but since my local pool banned all toys including swim fins, I haven't been able to shake this feeling that I'm not a proper mermaid and never will be one.
Again, ouch!
Well. Tail or no, you're a mermaid. Maybe you could beg the life guard?
What Sabrina said, you don't need a tail to be a mermaid. I'm sorry about that, though. You will definitely have your dreams come true! They just may take time, but don't let anyone get you down! :) <3Quote:
Originally Posted by Ciriun
Lotus_Blooming is right. Patience and perseverance, find a way out, maybe you 'll need some time until make it, but make it. Life is too short to give up your dreams.
Being a mermaid is a state of mind. There's more water in the world than your local pool! Gabriel is right, life is too short not to make your dreams come true!Quote:
Originally Posted by Ciriun
Thanks everyone. I am still trying and looking into alternatives. And it really helps to know that regardless of fins or tails, I'm still a mermaid on the internet!
Yeah. Your desire for mermaid-ness is more than enough to make you a mermaid.
And really, try asking the life
guard. They can be more lenient than pool policy dictates, and truly it is up to them.
:hug:
I can try, but I wouldn't blame them if they don't want to risk their job over it. Maybe if there aren't many people they'll let it slide, but I don't think our lifeguards have much authority.
They don't, but people can be railroaded. Try letter writing?
I talked to someone at the office who said she would ask her boss. I followed up a couple of days ago and will do so again if after another week I haven't heard anything. If that fails I think I have the contact info for the person in charge of the whole place. And worst case scenario, I am looking into other pools in the area. There is a very promising one currently under construction, but since it is indoors it doesn't matter if it isn't done this summer. The only issue there is the membership fee for the place where it is.
Wriggle your booty and shake your tail at them. Might change their minds after that.
Lol. So true, Jaffa.
And membership fees can actually wind up being less expensive than daily admission if you swim frequently enough.
Disclaimer: May not work for mermen. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Jaffa
Lol, I don't think that would work on most of the gals we've got lifeguarding, but you never know.:mermaid kiss: And any fees for my current pool are included in rent, so I'm paying for it whether or not I use it. That's a big part of why I really don't want to have to look elsewhere. Having it just down the street is a nice perk, too. (On the downside it is right outside of the main office, which is why I suspect lifeguards would be hesitant to break a brand new rule.)
You have obviously not seen DAT ASS on Arion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Dan
Yeah, we just need to fly Arion in to shake it for ya! I bet all the lady lifeguards will do as he pleases. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by PhaylennMurúch
:lol: I like that plan! Heck, with a bod like his he could probably get them to revoke the rule entirely since the office is basically all women, too.