Wow I would think they would understand what it is like to be called hormonal and not want to call someone that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mer-gal
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Wow I would think they would understand what it is like to be called hormonal and not want to call someone that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mer-gal
Teenage years are hard. REAL fucking hard. Do your best to ignore the commentary of others (easier said than done), because they have no power over you unless you give them that power.
Suicidal thoughts and attempts are serious issues, trying to deal with taunting, bullying, and the trauma of illness is no easy task. Seek out help of counselors! School personnel should be able to at least direct you to someone who can help! KEEP ASKING FOR HELP.
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^^absolutely!
I know sometimes even the best counseling won't help (especially while you're still stuck in the shitty situation), but I always told myself back in high-school:
all these people are immature, drooling stupid kids.
Why would you want to harm yourself over their stupidity?
Don't give them that satisfaction.
Once you are out of there, it'll resolve itself.
Similar situations can and will arise later, but then you'll be able to deal with it because you trained yourself to not care when others are mean, stupid bullies.
^similar for me. High school... I hated it and I think it's basically, usually, like throwing young people into a battle royale with nothing to go on and only the weapons their own dysfunctional childhoods taught them to wield. The old adage is true that the people who throw insults and say horrible things are really doing it because they're miserable inside, no matter what they pretend to the outside world. It really is a reflection of them and has nothing to do with you. I know that's easy enough to say but if you're hurting, you're hurting.
High school was the worst time of my life, but I kept telling myself it was only four, then three, then two... years, I will get through this because these people are the least of my worries, these people are cruel and they're mean, but none of it actually has to do with me. I was very suicidal, I was dealing with a severe mental illnesses I didn't realize I had, and severe health issues, and my family had fallen apart in a most violent way overnight- but I knew, and I hope you will remind yourselves if you're going through High School Shit, those people are also going through so much crap and they are taking it out on you and YOU are the better person for not taking yours out on them. High school is a melee, such a chaotic pile of human crap, where we learn to deflect and learn to toughen our skins, and it really, truly does get better and you will be stronger when you get through it.
if you can't ask for help... and believe me I understand if you can't because I couldn't- then write about it. Journal it. Or do art, sew, or create anything you can to get the feelings out so they don't sit and fester in you. I turned to writing and theater. (But I hope you will ask for help anyway.)
Some kids I knew actually changed schools, because the teasing and cruelty were just incessant and they couldn't learn in that environment. They actually just wanted to prepare for college. That's all. And I think telling their parents that helped a lot.
Watch out, I'll hit you with my grumblestick! (Side note, I am totally in love with your excellent hat, sir.)Quote:
Originally Posted by flyer2002
In all seriousness, the only good thing about high school and those awful hormonal teenage years is that they're soon behind you. I was never so happy as to get done with all of that.
Thank you. I should get a few pictures of my other hats, people seem to like it so much.Quote:
Originally Posted by Theta
Unforchently for Mer-gril and Mermaid Jordyn, they both still have a few years of high school remaining and it seems short after the fact but when your living it it seems harsh. In high school my only friends were a group of other rejects that would sit infront of the library before school.
Mer-girl and Jordyn, being young doesn't make your problems any less legitimate, especially while you're stuck in what will likely be the most toxic social environment you will ever be in. Middle school and high school were VILE experiences for me, too. The classmates are the worst sacks of **** you may ever meet, the teachers can't do a **** thing about them, and the adults act like there's nothing wrong even when you're in tears. Top it off with serious health problems, which should never be taken lightly, and you've got a spectacular recipe for what may easily be the worst time of your life. You're basically in hell.
The thing to keep in mind about the worst time of your life? You just have to get through it once. You get through it just once, and you'll be tough as iron! Those worthless idiots who wasted so much of your time will be left choking on the dust you raise when you stride out of that ****hole place as a battle-hardened WARRIOR! People like the ones giving you a hard time don't usually get far in life. The captain of the football team will be pumping gas in his 40's and the prom queen will be a chain-smoker with an addiction to ordering tacky **** from catalogues and the credit history to prove it. People who learn to overcome adversity are the ones who make something of themselves. They are the ones who change the world.
It won't be easy, but it will leave you much, MUCH stronger, and then NOTHING can stop you. Hang in there, ladies.
We should seriously have a thread just for venting about high school crap.
I HATE MIDDLE SCHOOL ANS EVERYONE IN IT!!!!!!!!!!!
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Originally Posted by Mermaid_Jordyn
My middle school everyone hated me. A subsitue bus driver even let a kid beat up on me, and the usual bus driver was emotional and verbally abusive to me because she knew I wouldn't stand up for myself.
Thank god my town is too small for a bus
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How big is your town?
1 mile wide
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I agree, my middle school/early high school years were rough. After freshman year I stopped caring what other people wanted from me and started caring for what I wanted from myself. Junior and Senior year went by smoothly for me and they realized how careless I was of them
Thats fairly big from what I am use to, but still small enough it does make the number of potential friends limited.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid_Jordyn
You only get bussing if you live more than a mile away and that is riiiiiiiiiight on the edge of town where the rich kids live
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Ok, so I've been sick with one thing or another since about November... I've gotten 3 styes in 2 months, one of which took WEEKS to heal and made me feel like Quasimodo... I've had the biggest cold sores I've ever had (I get them in my nose, and all over my lips - thanks, Grandma :p), one right after another, back-to-back... I haven't been able to put makeup on to do my job for the past 2 months... I caught some flu/etc. bug back in December... And now I have yet another UTI (I'm particularly prone to them).
So I had to go to the Urgent Care doctor today, because it's been four days (and none of the regular home treatments worked this time because my immune system is poor right now) and now I have a kidney infection :( I'm in super-huge amounts of pain, and they put me on some antibiotic I've never been on before (ciproflaxin), and there's all these scary side effects like seizures and major nerve or tendon issues! :eyepop: So now I'm stuck in bed, not doing too much exercise, scared to even knit or crochet, lest it damage my nerves or tendons. I'm worried I'll be weak at the end of the week-long treatment, because I'm afraid my daily dancing will make me prone to damage. I hope I get to go swimming after I'm done with the antibiotics, so that I can massage my poor muscles back into shape :cry: I can't even take any painkillers like Aspirin or Ibuprofen, because NSAIDs can actually increase my risk of getting seizures/etc.!
My mertender had a scheduled doctor appointment next week; I'm going to talk to the doc about setting up an appointment for myself to see why I keep getting sick. I'm fairly convinced it's the shack of a house we live in :headwall:
Also, I feel terrible that I haven't been able to work on Michelle's mermaid shell top in months, because I've been afraid of spreading my germs to her through my crafting :sweat drop:
Awww Miyu! I hate to read this! Cipro saved my life when I had a severe kidney infection, and I've taken it once since for a bad UTI. Its side effects are pretty rare. I like Cipro, and I am not pro-antibiotic! I think needlework would be fine. Just nothing strenuous.
If I might, it sounds like many of your ailments are directly stress related! Cold sores, non-specific viral-like infections...Your living situation and everything else you've mentioned, sounds like it is manifesting by attacking your health.
Don't rush to get back to swimming or dancing! Your body is telling you it's maxed out! Stay in bed and do nothing but rest! Healing takes more energy than digging ditches eight hours a day! When you start feeling better, ease back into exercise...try and meditate, or just sit still and concentrate on your breathing. Maybe some tai chi?
I hope you feel better soon! The Mercury retrograde is over on February 11th, so lay low and gather your forces! :hug:
Yeah, I'm pretty sure it's a bad kidney infection, from the feel of things. I'm just gonna lay low for the next week or two, do some stretching, do some sketching and colour some pages, and maybe some light knitting or crocheting. This is a good time to watch lots of mermaid stuff and catch up on all the My Little Pony I've missed, LOL!
I'm pretty sure it's a combination of stress and environment - my mertender's been having a lot of mysterious, non-specific issues lately as well. I do know cold sores are common when under stress... And boy, are we under a lot of it. :/
Mercury is one of my ruling planets - things tend to go pretty crazy for me when it's doing unusual things!
Oh, Miyu, I'm sorry you've been hit with this. Do take care of yourself.
I've always been skeptical of astrology, but I gotta say, the past few weeks have been totally insane for me, too. First I got sudden sensorineural hearing loss (also from a herpes virus), then an incredibly stressful situation regarding some big ticket purchases, then I got prednisone-induced transient refractive myopia from the treatment for the SSHL, and this evening I learned that this form of myopia can be the first sign of prednisone-induced diabetes, which then may or may not become permanent. And I've been swimming in diabetes symptoms ever since I got on the Pred, withiut realizing that's what they might be. I'm starting with a glucose test kit tomorrow.
Can we get this Mercury character to just go home??? :O_o: