So glad I moved out. I'd been plotting the move out since the 10th grade. Only came to fruition this year.
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So glad I moved out. I'd been plotting the move out since the 10th grade. Only came to fruition this year.
Yea, I'd love to, but health and money problems together can be a bitch.
Yeah your situation is a bit complicated ._.
I'm so glad I live alone. It's no accident that my father lives in Hawaii and I live in New Jersey.
There are always Hangover Island or that parcel at Cockroach Caye to consider. Mermaid Retreat, anyone? ;)
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The night went as well as could truly be expected, I suppose.
Good luck with the apartment hunt. I hope you can avoid moving in with them!
there are ALWAYS other options than living with your family. Even extended stay hotels are an option.
Do you know what they say when friends ask what you're up to? Bet you it's a variant of "nothing much"
They embarrassed you in front of everybody on purpose, to punish you for not wanting to lay flatter like a good little doormat.
I am so proud of how you did the evening! I know it hurts, disentangling yourself from the situation, removing yourself from the dynamic is so hard but once all the toxicity falls away you will feel SO good!
LOVE living alone! So great not to put up with anyone's BS.Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
boo at the zoo is a WEEK early, which means my plans of working on Halloween were a waste. I guess I'll beg to work those days, hopefully my bomb costume will be done by then. but seriously, it's a week early and a few days after my birthday, so I'm not sure if I can do it.
I'm losing my goddamn mind lately.
>Got let go from work a couple of weeks ago (store went out of business), and finding a job is a nightmare right now. EVERYWHERE here has signs up looking for applicants, but I've only gotten one call back about an interview... And I thought I nailed that interview, but I haven't heard back yet. It's got me nervous and my confidence is at an all-time low right now. With any luck I'll hear back about an interview at another spot tomorrow, but I'm kinda worried...
>I filed for Employment Insurance over a week ago, did all of it online. Now I'm stuck in limbo while my useless ex-boss slacks off on doing up everyone's ROEs... Legally she has until Wednesday to get them done, but even still. I'm just tired of all this dicking around, especially since I haven't been able to afford my own groceries in weeks as it is.
>I'm going to be nearly $300 short on rent this month and that's scaring the shit out of me. There's nothing I can really do about it at this point. My boyfriend can't afford to cover it for me, which means I'll likely have to ask my parents for help... And I hate doing that. They're always cool about helping out with anything, but when it comes to money... I just feel like some kind of parasite. $300 is a LOT of money to me. The conversation is gonna have to happen at some point though, I know, it's just... Awkward.
>I'm turning 25 next month. I'm supposed to be excited about it but honestly I'm just kind of depressed. People are expecting me to do some big thing for it, but... I don't know. Part of me wants to, because I want to do something fun and awesome with my friends ("Treat yo self," right?), but at the same time... Money's a huge problem right now, I don't even know what I'd do because there's not really a whole lot to do here, and I have a pretty long history of my birthday plans turning into disappointing flops anyway, so mostly I just think I'm gonna hide at home with my cellphone off and just kind of avoid people and watch Netflix, or something.
>Ultimately, all I want for my birthday is a ticket off this miserable fucking rock but I know it isn't going to happen. I haven't been off this thing in over a decade. Never been farther than Toronto. I'm sick of feeling caged here where the only thing anyone ever wants to do is get drunk, get high, and get knocked up when they're 17. There's no opportunity here for me to get into the careers I want to and it's killing me. I can't even go swimming in my tail anywhere because it's too cold outdoors, tails are banned indoors, I'm the only one around here with a tail and it's really fucking with my self-consciousness, so my tail's likely going to have to sit in storage for 6-8 months until next year, I guess.
>My creative projects aren't working out the way I want them to and it's only making my low confidence problem worse. I've been wanting to save up for a matching top and some accessories for my tail pretty much ever since I ordered the dang thing, but nothing I can find online fits the style I want, when I try to sit down and design it it doesn't look right on paper, either, so I'm basically stuck. Even if I decided to try making my own stuff, I can't afford it anyway; 90% of what I'd need is impossible to find here, half of it can't be ordered onto the island because of stupid customs crap and what little I CAN order will end up costing over double by the time I've calculated currency conversion, shipping and customs fees (to give an idea, I bought my older sister a pair of Lady and the Tramp dolls from the Disney Store a few years back for her birthday... The dolls were on 2 for $30. Came to just over $40 CAD after the conversion... By the time it got here and I paid the shipping and customs, it was almost $90 CAD. Never again.)
TL;DR — Job hunting sucks, money is the stupidest thing on the fucking planet, this island sucks, self-worth is at an all-time low, birthday is coming up and I hate it, and I can't even do anything right artistically so I'm basically going out of my mind.
*massive Mer-hugs*
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First of all, as promised here is the link to the youtube video of me and my brother.
This is the video that was shown at the party Saturday:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MxLW...ature=youtu.be
Thank you everyone again for your words of support!
I was super tired yesterday from the party and actually fell asleep for a bit in the afternoon.
I was a wreck.
Since i slept so poorly i wanted to sleep in his morning to feel a bit more fresh and energetic but then we got woken up by a delivery guy bringing a package.
For some reason my brother keeps having packages delivered here, the kind you need to sign for.
My mother says she has told me many times now to change to adress to their home in stead of ours since everytime we get woken up early and then i have to hear an entire speech on how the house number was impossible to find.
I agree with the delivery man that it is impossible to fine, yet at the same time it is not my fault or wrong doing here.
I called my mom this morning and asked her to please have the adress number/ house number changed since we are tired of being woken up for packages and having the same speech over and over again.
She said she asked my brother mulitple times already but he has not done it yet.
What does my brother expect when we move and the new owners are here in 2 months? Do they need to handle his packages for him?
So i messaged my brother and asked him to please change it.
He wrote me back with a whole lot of excuses on how it was not his fault. I told him that he can still change it today to have the situation prevented next time.
Plus his business is still on this adress as well so he needs to give an adress change to all companies he does business with asap.
I already made the adress change a while ago to prevent misstakes from happening.
He did not reply to my last email in which i told him he needs to change his adress asap and go to the chamber of commerce as well to have it changed.
I told my mom that next time i will simply not accept the package anymore and have it returned to the sender, maybe then he will learn.
But my mom told me not to do that since she needs the packages.
Honestly i will refuse it next time, i don't care what will happen.
I deserve a good sleep just like anyone else and i do not want others work dumped on me anymore because others are too lazy to step up and make simple changes.
Screw them. Refuse the packages. It's just another way to manipulate you.
Why do customers think that screaming at staff is going to get them anywhere except nowhere OR escorted off the property?
If you're nice to us we're going to be more likely to go out of our way to be nice and do stuff as a good will gesture.
Being a totally aggressive ass because you can't take being told 'no' is not okay.
Calling back hoping to get a different staff member who is unaware of your previous threatening behavior, in the hope of getting a different answer is also not going to get you anywhere cause guess what we were all in, and yes we COULD infact hear you in the next room over the noise of the crowds and music.
Arghghghghhhhh
*rant over*
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THIS, you are not his secretary (which is what he is treating you as). Send one last message, "from this moment on I will not be accepting any packages that I did not order. All other packages will be refused"Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
Then post a note on your door, ATTN Delivery persons, *brother name*, *brother business* is not located at this address. Ring bell only for packages being delivered to *Adalira* or *Mr. Adalira*. All other packages will be refused
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Originally Posted by PhaylennMurúch
Exactly what pearlie said. I lived in an apartment loaded with them. We had to wash all the dishes every time we wanted to use them. They come out of drains, pipes, electric sockets, holes in walls etc. and you can bleach, scrub and wash all damn day and they will not go away. If your apartment has them, that means the wntirw building is loaded with them. They have to tent the place. And if you move, you have to check everything you own for nests. And irs expensive rebuying furniture. Say bye bye to your fridge.Quote:
Originally Posted by MermaidKinsie
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Be careful if you have posion out though! It might make cats sick if they ingest the roaches with poison.Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
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After reading the current topics, my bitch about having to get blood drawn at the doctor's tomorrow seems less important, even if I am a fainter. Damn, guys. :\
Ouch, that's never good :( Good luck, all the advice I can give is to take big breaths and let your mind travel elsewhere!
Thanks, Kalani. I'll probably just nervous-babble like I normally do and they'll worry when I stop talking, lol!
someone pointed out my sweaty hands today and I know it doesn't seem like a big deal but I'm gross. something is wrong with me and it causes me to sweat at least twice as much as an average person my age and it's my biggest insecurity besides body hair and I still can't get over it
I have that too. Whoever pointed it out to you was a dickhead.
Good luck! Having blood drawn is never fun :hug:Quote:
Originally Posted by Naufra
I have no idea why someone would be an ass and point out to you that you sweat.Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaidofthelabyrinth
Like you would not realize that yourself?
I have the same issue though, i sweat a lot! My hands, armpits and feet are the worst at the moment but at night i sweat everywhere like a pig.
It has been going on for months now.
I have always had sweaty hands and armpits, my feet being this sweaty is new to me though.
If someone would point that out to me i would really be upset since why on earth would you point that out?
The person is sweating...how would they not realize that themselves?
The body hair i can relate to as well....it sucks.
Please don't feel discouraged because some dickhead made a stupid remark :hug:
I have really sweaty hands/armpits too!! It gets even worse when I get anxious/nervous which is usually when I need to not be sweaty the most so it's just a bad cycle ugh. I wouldn't jump to saying that something was wrong with you, some people sweat more than others, it is what it is. Whoever pointed it out was a jerk; don't give him/her the satisfaction of letting it bother you. Instead I would almost laugh at them - (sarcasm) "Gee, thanks, Captain Obvious! No one else had noticed that!" (/sarcasm) It'll be okay. One day, that person will have a day when THEY're really sweaty, and maybe someone else will comment on it and the person will know how awkward it is to have it pointed out.Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaidofthelabyrinth
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thanks for all the support everyone! I feel so much better. The person who pointed it out grabbed my hand in class which is like my biggest fear and that's why I don't like holding hands. I haven't talked to them much since.
I realised I had an assignment due yesterday which I had not even looked at so I've been reading about fireflies for the last 9 hours and I have not slept and did you know sometimes fireflies flash all in unison and no one actually knows why also one species of female will eat the male firefly after they mate and we use the algorithm of flashing patterns to model the synchronisation of wireless networks
Fireflies are rad
I live in a ground floor unit, there are a lot of roaches here too, whereas my brother who lives on the 3rd floor in another block, rarely have roaches. I think its because we are closer to the ground, that roaches don't have to travel far to find food and cosy places to sleep.
I once had a friend visiting from Ireland, and one evening, bringing in the dishes from the afternoon's barbecue, she came running into the kitchen, desperately whispering, trying not to scream "THE GARDEN IS FULL OF FAIRIES!"Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Kelda
She'd never seen fireflies before. :D
I've never actually seen a firefly in the flesh (I'm not even sure we have them in Australia? Too lazy to google) but I've seen enough Disney movies!
Fireflies, faeries.... same same. :) I live on 20 acres in a rural area. When the fireflies are out in force, there are thousands in every tree. It looks like Christmas! But yeah, I know the difference between the two.. we have loads of faeries here in my neck of the woods. They seem just as surprised that I can see them as I am when I manage to "almost see them out of the corner of my eye".Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
Fireflies live in Australia, that was the first place I ever saw them! I saw zillions of them when I lived in Townsville!
I also saw zillions of roaches, for that matter :P
First time I've ever gone out of my way to smash anything with a shoe (I'm the type that catches spiders and puts them outside).
I've never seen a firefly in person either, I'd probably cry at how pretty they are if I did see them lol
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I live in what is technically considered rural Tennessee and grew up in Oklahoma. They.Are.EVERYWHERE.
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Same here, never seen them but i can only imagine how beautiful it must look!
Well, if anyone ever wants to come up to Tennessee, or trek out to Oklahoma, my family looks at it as 'eh, the more the merrier'. We take our last name very seriously, in that we truly attempt to fill the world with joy.
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Fireflies ARE gorgeous. I live in Illinois, and in the summers I catch them and they just sit in the palm of my had for awhile before zipping off.
i went on a midnight stroll with my friends one night and we got to see a HUGE FIELD OF FIREFLIES. it was like being among a sea of stars. it was quite magical.
While they don't catch the magic of being there...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCWkzQqO7Ro
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y4pWAxnfL8w
I know just what you mean about seeing them out of the corner your eye!Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Dan
When I first moved to New Jersey, my wooded yard was so thick with them, you could practically read by their light. Then we had the threat of West Nile Virus and the mosquito eradication program of trucks driving around spraying massive amounts of malathion virtually wiped out the entire firefly (I grew up calling them lightning bugs) population.
Since then, I doubt I see even a hundred in an entire season. :sad eyes: