Aw man Sherielle, that's awful! I hope that something good comes your guys' way and you can make it <3
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Aw man Sherielle, that's awful! I hope that something good comes your guys' way and you can make it <3
Oh Sherielle, I'm sorry! I'm sure something good will come along. My man lost his job about a month ago, but he's starting at his new job on Saturday. Hang in there! Bubbles of love to both of you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sherielle
Hmm... Come to think of it, she left me some pj shirts of hers, the previous times because they "were too big" She wore them when she was preggers. Which I've yet to wear because they are "Too big"! Hahaha!Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
And now that I've discovered weaving again, I think I'll make a potholder bag...
*snickers*
Well, anything fabric can be put to use- as drapes, dishcloth, cleaning rags... ;)
But I wouldn't accept a "gift" if you don't want/need it, simply because some people will come back at you and try to use it as leverage.
Like; pressing you into accepting something against your resistance, becoming more and more aggressive until you simply say yes to shut them up; and then later always mentioning "all those things I gave you...no gratitude" etc :P
She used to be a nice person to talk to and sometimes hang out with. Now she's exactly like you described. So bossy and bitchy when she doesn't get her way. Or she'll twist things around and use it against me, just like my brother does. I avoid as much hanging around them or going to their place which is just a short walk away. She told her 9years son, "You can't flush tissues in the toilet, you have to throw it in the bin." Then the boy got all uptight when I told him to flush his snotty tissues in the toilet, not just chuck it and have the germs hanging around.Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
My clown phobia came back. I dreamt a killer clown was on the loose and he made me sit down and watch a horror movie with a killer hairdresser who turned her victims into cha siu (red Chinese BBQ pork) ;-; think chinese sweeney todd.
And then that same woman pulled a samara/sadako on me and tried to kill me.
Sounds like some serious mother issues ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by SeaGlass Siren
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Don't cry! :hug:
So i finally went to the doctor on Monday.
He said i have allergies and prescribed me pills and a spray for.
I am still not happy with the results of that since my nose still gets stuffed so i may go back for the spray i had last year since that one actually helped.
Then i started to look around for houses somewhere and found nothing again.
Then started to write to 3 different building companies.
2 Replied quickly, one was too expensive the other said he would come by on Saturday (yesterday).
He came by yesterday as agreed and the meeting went well, the man was very nice and was helpfull in finding ways to budget more on the house.
After the meeting he wanted to go outside and see where the house would be build and look around. My dad said to him we were pressured for time since we had our first show of the season last night and had to leave at a certain time.
The man asked what kind of shows we did (i had very briefly told him on the phone since he wanted to come in a different time that would not work for any of us because of the shows so he adjusted to that). My dad so that question as an opportunity to start bragging about himself and then about...yes...off course....my brother and his wife!
He started bragging on how great they were, where they go on tour, how suucesfull they are bla bla bla while my hubby and i and my mom were standing there waiting to go outside since we were still pressured for time!
I was so upset....why bring up my brother and his wife again? The man was not even asking about that! He was only asking about the show we were doing that night.
Anyway after he left i had to hurry to get everything done before leaving for the show.
I quickly turned my music on in the car because i could not listen to more bragging done by my brother who was in the car with us, or the bragging of my dad.
At the show things went ok untill my dad decided to make a remark that was hurtful to me and was meant to be so as well.
I got upset, but held it in.
I talked to my hubby through fb since my hubby was home and all i got from him was to let it go, that i needed to stop letting things get to me and simply be happy with the live i have.
He simply does not get it and i told him i preferred not talking to him about it anymore.
We talked later on the phone and i told my hubby i really prefer not living at my parents.
It seems that when my hubby and i are alone with my parents we all seem to get along perfectly fine.
But as soon as other people are there, my parents change and only talk about my brother and his wife and sort of forget about us.
The other thing is that they will not stop treating me like a child!
The guy yesterday at the meeting asked when the house had to be done for us to move in to and my parents said they are not sure yet.
Either decembre 1st or decembre 31st.
I mean...that is a big difference in time and i have asked them many times now to please ask the realtor what the exact date is so we can plan accordingly.
Yesterday i asked if it was ok if i called the realtor and asked so we can plan accordingly and the answer was :" No way, we do NOT want you to talk to him. You can NOT call him, are we clear?!"
Needless to say i felt embarrassed in fron of the guy since they talked to me like a child.
i really don't get what the big deal is, why can i not call and ask what the exact planning is?
After that, the bragging about my brother and the things that happened at the show i was done.
One of the things happening at the show was my dad again saying how great my brother sang at his party.
That my dad's pop group from back in the day wants to start performing and touring again but since the lead singer can't come he wants my brother to be the lead singer.
So my brother did it....singing was the one thing i got just a little bit of attention with, the last bit of attention that i got in stead of him and he took that now as well.
I also told my parents last week that since i have Meniere disease my hearing has gotten worse and worse.
When there is a lot of noise going on i can't follow conversations anymore.
I told them that at the last show in August i believe it was, when i was talking to the mother of our collegue, my brother started to play guitar and sang loudly i could not follow the conversation anymore and that it is painful for me that i can't follow it anymore.
I really opened up to them about it.
I was hoping they would try to keep the guitar playing and singing down a bit in the dressing room for me.
But last night i talked to my hubby on the phone and when i wanted to hang up and go back in they were singing and playing guitar and being so loud in there that i could not go back in.
I knew i would be just sitting there, feeling awkward.
So i stayed on the phone with my hubby instead.
I told him all i wanted to do was tell my family;" I quit, this was my last show. My brother can take over my songs in the show since he is such a great singer."
And then also tell them i am moving away, not living there.
But my hubby said there are no other options for us. We can not afford anything else.
On the drive home last night from the show i sat in the back of the van listening to music with tears in my eyes.
When i saw my reflection in the window from the street lamp i got a shock.
I looked like a 90 year old woman with a hunch back, in stead of sitting up straight i sat there like i had taken a beating.
I was hoping to do some crafting today but i am so extremely tired...i had a minor Meniere attack earlier with dizzyness but feel one coming up again so i will have to lay down for a while and maybe sleep a bit.
To top it all off.....my hubby needs to renew is permit to stay in Holland.
Immigration told us 3 years ago that it had to be renewed in Septembre of this year and that we would be getting a letter from them 3 months prior with all the info of what needed to be filled out.
We never got that letter.
They told us it was our responsibility to make sure we got the letter.
I called in June, i called in July and i called in August and every single time i called i got the same answer:' the letter has not been send out yet."
The last time in August the woman told me i did not need the letter i could print out a certain form and fill that out.
She even told me which form exactly and we went through the form together.
In Septembre we got all the paperwork ready, also the papers from the book keepster and i called the immigration one more time to make sure we had everything....only to find out the woman gave us the wrong forms!!!
So we had to fill out other forms and the book keepster had to make new paperwork as well asap.
I called again and asked if it really was correct this time and he said:" Yes, you have everything you need right now."
We sent it in and got a letter yesterday stating we did not give all the information they wanted and they need other forms as well.....are you freaking kidding me?
From what i read they need 2 more forms (book keepster is working on one of them now, i have to print out the other) and then they will decide.
If they decide not to renew is permit, so deny him, we have to give a buckload of other information such as: Complete market analysis of our business to show what purpose our business serves, a complete business plan, reviews and referrences from customers and business partners, a bunch of tax papers, more papers from the book keepster and about 10 more points of things.
It is absolutly insane! I mean..the business is my business, started the business. My hubby came in as a co owner.
Why is a business that is still 50% mine, a woman from Holland, going to be looked into like that?
I have been writing a letter for the politicians and political parties in Holland which i will be sendind out next week.
Immigrants are coming in to Holland ten thousands at a time, they get a permit for 3 or 5 years for free! no questions asked. They get food and housing for free no questions asked, 99% don't learn Dutch and are not part of society. They are fighing amongst each other, discriminating against women in Holland etc.
My hubby came here wanting to work here and live with me, build a live with me.
We had to pay €600!!! for his first permit which only lasted 3 years and now had to pay €384 for the to look if he can stay another 3 to 5 years.
Our business is doing well and has grown a lot since he came here, he is learning Dutch and becoming an active member of society, obeying the laws and rules doing everything according to the rules and he will have to proof himself every 3 to 5 years to make sre he is good enough to live here? Seriously?
I am so done with everything right now....ugh....:mad:
I just got a message from a moderator that mers have been complaining about me since they feel i am offensive to immigrants and that i need to edit y post.
I told the moderator i will not edit my post since all i did was tell the truth.
There is nothing untruthfull about my post.
And i would hope that if any mer has a problem with what i wrote they would come to me directly and ask or talk to me about it
I a am adult and would have liked to talk to that mer in an adult manner.
I told the moderator he can ban me from mernetwork if that's what they want to do, but i will not be told not to tell the truth about what is going on in Holland and how absolutly stupid the rules are.
And guess what? Politicians feel the same as me and most of Holland because they are planning to change the rules for immigrants and are working on it as we speak because even they feel that it is absurd.
If anyone has proof of me not speaking the truth or anyone wants to say something about it, please do.
I am always open for a discussion or hearing an other side.
And if i do get banned then i want to thank the mers i have been talking with lately for their friendship, kindness and advice and wish you all the best :hug:
To be honest you can't confuse your experience and opinions with facts. Back up what you say with a credible source and you can then call it at fact.
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I will do that Aniar, but I will not post it in here. You will receive it all in a private message. It may be a lot but I feel you need all the info you can get to see that I am speaking the truth. I not confusing things, it saddens me to see you make so many assumptions about thing you clearly know nothing about even assumptions about me when you and I have never had a conversation together. But after the info I will send you I hope you understand what I am telling is what is in fact going on in the Netherlands. I am in the van still but will stay up extra late this night to give you what you are asking for.
Omg please just stop. I don't want a PM. I didn't report your posts. Don't take it so personally. It is a general way to do things. Don't accuse me of all this crap. If you don't want people getting upset, back it up and they won't. Cuts down on all the drama. Don't come in here and wine about a mod and make some big announcement. Keep THAT to pm. I really don't care, I am explaining to you why people are so bothered by your posts. Deal with it or don't.
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Actually, complaints were happening in the drama bubble thread, mostly against Echidna's rape comments.
Look. Just because people aren't from your country doesn't mean that they're bad people. Your husband is proof of this, he's just a more affluent example.
Among these people are rapists, yes, there are rapists amongst every population, including the normal Dutch population of Holland. Look at the statistics. I doubt you'll find a significant increase in violent crimes.
These people are fleeing a war, Adalira. They have had no notice, of course they haven't started learning Dutch. They've had no time and no money.
And no. I did not report you. Still. You're going through a rough time yourself right now and you aren't being displaced by a war. Show a little compassion.
Oh my,
I already explained that Sabrina.
I want the refugees to be helped but there are other ways then jamming then into Holland and Germany.
i have all the compassion in the world for these people. I wrote that all in the Drama thread.
I never said that people who are not from our country are bad people, why would you put words in my mouth like that? Why insinuate that i am discriminating?
i do not think you want me to give the statistics because they will shock you, trust me.
If you want them still, let me know and you will get them from me in a pm.
I was not talking about the people just coming here not knowing Dutch.
It is the people who have lived here for over 5 years and got a home and get an income from the government.
One requirement is to learn Dutch but a lot of them simply refuse and nothing is done against it.
The rotten apples are the ones i have no compassion for.
I even mentioned the radio announcement tonight where they wanted to place an extra 700 people into a village and the people from the village made a road block.
Why? Because there are only 150 Dutch people living in the village and already 700 refugees. They did not want 700 more.
I do not care what color skin people are.
If these were white people i would respond the exact same way.
I can see that the people from the USA are the once who are telling us to show more compassion, not to discriminate and giving us the "it's no so bad" talk when they know absolutly nothing about what is going on here. How Holland as well as Germany are on the edge of citizens starting their own war against what is happening.
The only reason i posted publically about the mod is that i honestly thought i was being banned and did not think i had time to write to everyone personally and did it through a general message.
What is wrong with that?
I don't care who reported me, i was not asking who did since i don't care.
All i hope is that next time people direct me personally in stead of having a mod speak up for them.
We are all adults here.
Yeah but given your replies since people have spoken up, hell of a lot less dramatic having a mod handle it.
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If you read further back in the bubble thread we discussed the mod alert thing. It's just a way to avoid public call out and further drama. Instead of starting a fight, just report comments you find offensive. That is a very adult thing to do.
And I do get your concerns about immigration policy and I'm sure you're not intentionally racist. You seem to be a very sweet person. But you do make subtle insinuations (I did read the drama bubble thread and post there too) that may just be translations errs, like the fugitives-refugees mishap, but some of it does seem to be ingrained in your speech pattern.
In my liberal suburb, everyone decries racists and fight for equality; the same white women who talks the equality talk pulls her bag and her small children to the other side of her body when she passes some of my POC friends in the street. She would never even consider herself racist, though. It's an ingrained behavior, and they can be hard to get rid of.
Those must be translation errors and like i said i do not see color.
A refugee can just as well be white, gay, lesbian or any color of the rainbow. I do not care.
All i care about is everyone being treated equally and obeying by the law that we have here.
I can not even believe all of this got so blown out of proportion into the drama that it is simply by me stating facts that we live with everyday and that can be found everywhere on the internet and saying that it is frustrating to me how things are handled.
All of a sudden i am being questioned wether or not i am a racist or discriminate when that has nothing to do with the matter.
Race nor discrimination are of a fact here.
It is about people obeying the law and being treated equal and not jamming more people into an already very full country.
They announced tonight that Dutch people who are on a waiting list for a rental house will have to wait several years more since the refugees get first dibs on those soon when they will be offered houses.
Is that fair?
How is asking to be adressed to personally, starting a fight?
I don't get that.
Talking to each other is the adult way in my opinion but that may be a difference in upbringing or even culture. I would not know what it is.
This is a reminder for everyone to be respectful. While you're welcome to share your opinion, please consider whether it could potentially be considered a violation of the rules. If it might be, I encourage you to simply keep it to yourself. This is a formal warning.
Yes, sorry, I get passionate and loud!
*sweatdrop*
I'll admit I probably got too heated.
I think you're fine Sabrina ;)
Well, thank you! :)
I find the people quick to apologize are usually the ones who almost never have reason to :p
Lol. Not really surprised by that. But I'm ridiculously assertive in my regular life, as well as having a ridiculous dead pan, so I have trouble telling when I cross a line. A few of my friendships have thusly suffered.
But I'm glad I wasn't ridiculous here!
Things got way out of hand yesterday simply because mers made assumptions and generalisations without asking the questions.
I decided to talk to several mers personally like momo and was happy to hear she did not see anything wrong with my posts:
Don't worry, your post was not the post I was referring to, I saw nothing wrong with your post besides sincere concern for your safety.
Other mers emailed me as well to let me know they also so nothing wrong with what i posted and i am thankful they were willing to look more closely at what really was said.
I am not angry at you Sabrina, not at all but i am dissapointed you jumped to conclusions very fast about me not being compassionate enough in your eyes and you put words in my mouth that i did not appreciate such as :
Just because people aren't from your country doesn't mean that they're bad people.
I really wish you would have actually talked to me and asked me some questions before jumping to conslusions and accusing me of things and i hope in the future you will do so.Raina i am also not angry at you, you were however very hurtful in your comments, i will pm you to make sure no more drama comes from it.
Lets all make a promise that we ask questions first and we open minded towards others to make sure we keep the outbursts of drama to a minimum.
I want all mers to know that they can always pm me and ask me questions about anything.
I am always open for a discussion, a talk or anything else.
Sabrina if you would like to talk more or say something lets pm about it ok?
The last thing i want is to be seen as unapproachable or anything else bad.
I just saw new naked pictures of Justin Bieber....... :doh: :doh: :doh:
My reaction :
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D: ^
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^ Pretty much D:
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Originally Posted by Aysun_the_Mermaid
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Originally Posted by SeaGlass Siren
Why does that boy keep taking nudes, man.... I don't wanna see that lol
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What I wanna know is who keeps hacking his phone and sharing them. :| and if no one hacked his phone and he shares them... Pourquoi....?
Same tbh
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Actually, a paparazzi took the pictures while he was wandering naked outside of his property during his trip in Bora-Bora...Quote:
Originally Posted by SeaGlass Siren
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Well. That's uncool of this paps but when have they respected privacy
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Ugh paparazzi should just die already.
If they followed US around they'd be in jail for stalking. But if it's famous people "oh my god gossip"
A lot of paparazzi use these weird mental gymnastics to justify doing this stuff, claiming that celebrities are ~*part of the public domain*~ or whatever. That was one of the biggest excuses I saw during that Kate Middleton topless pic scandal from a few years ago (the pic was take when a ridiculously high-tech zoom lense from literally miles away, through a balcony door or something??) As if celebrities aren't even real people.
It's creepy as hell, dude.
Also, mostly I'm just baffled because as a Canadian, who even cares about Justin Bieber anymore?
Thst must've been painful!