B!TC# IT OUT!

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Originally Posted by Vrindavana Starfish

I live in an area where people basically worship their dogs and humans can go to hell. In my apartment complex, dogs live here and humans get to stay too. Every place in this area is like that. Most of these apartments have at least 2 dogs, and their owners are away during the day and just leave the dogs. I work from home, and it sounds like a freaking kennel. Dogs barking and/or howling non-stop all frigging day. And the dog fights. Constantly. I find dog hair everywhere—in my car, all over my front walkway—I DON'T HAVE A DOG!! There's a dog park, and then another park. People take their dogs to the "human" park to shit there so there's nowhere I can go without stepping in dog shit. And their attitude is if you don't bow down to the dogs than you're a horrible heartless, soulless person. I'd just like a day where I don't hear people's pets going mad in their apartments alone all day. I'd like to walk down the sidewalk without being lunged at by neighbor's pets, in front of my own place, and then get dirty looks from the owners like I did something wrong.

I love animals, but their owners are another story. And the next dog that lunges at me will get reported. If one more person says, "oh no he's friendly!" while their Kujo is snapping and growling at me, I'm going to lose it.

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I have a dog myself and am a dog lover....BUT....there are limits and boundaries that everyone needs to live by.
If these dogs are making your life miserable and unpleasant i say, report them.
It is up to the owners to make sure the dogs are doing well when they leave the appartment and leave the dogs all alone.
If their dogs are the kind that can't be left alone...they need to find a dog sitter for the day to entertain them or place them in a doggy daycare.
We live in the middle of a forest. The road iin our street is a dirt road, a private road, yet every weekend en even during the week people walk their dogs here....not even having them on a leash! And having them shit everywhere.
I have opened my mouth a few times telling them their dogs need to be on a leash. My god....they are in a forest with wild animals like deers, rabbits etc. They are obligated to have them on a leash....and don't even get me started on the dog poop!
I think i will invest some money in an official sign saying that this is a private road and another sign that says dogs need to be on a leash and dog poop has to be picked up.
It is unbelievable how ignorant dog owners can be!
So once again....i would say either talk to the dog owners and share your concern and see if it helps.
If it does not help, you have given them a fair warning and it is time to report them.
Good luck!

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Originally Posted by Naufra

@ Cascada: I propose a similar, but alternate strategy that I doubt you'll get in trouble for: laugh at her. Mock her pathetic attempts to insult you as cruelly as you possibly can. At first, she'll question your sanity and maybe your intelligence, and might redouble her efforts initially, but when she sees her insults continually failing to bother you she'll start to wonder if they have any effect. If you can keep it up long enough, and it does get easier as you go, she'll eventually give up, and may even lose a lot of self-esteem. I can tell you from personal experience that this method works, it has worked for me many times and I still use it when suitable. This strategy not only shows bullies that they have no power over you and blocks their attempts at manipulating your emotions, it also manipulates their emotions and allows you power over them. It's a double-header that you can't really get in trouble for as long as you only use it as a direct response to her bullying.

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thankyou for the advice :) I have been exceptionally kind to her and I laugh at her attempt to hurt me. Recently while we were in church, she was being extremely rude and she even ended up shoving me. She has had a horrid attitude and because of this my mom is removing her from my room until she's nicer. Seems like she caused her own self destruction. AND my mom and I have set some money out to see if she takes it. That is pretty much the deal breaker. If she takes the money she is out of a room. ^.^

That's fantastic! Glad to hear your mum is seeing her behaviour and acting on it. Hopefully this will be the start of an attitude change for her.

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Melaina

That's fantastic! Glad to hear your mum is seeing her behaviour and acting on it. Hopefully this will be the start of an attitude change for her.

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Hopefully! When my mom told her that she was no longer allowed in my room, she replied with, "Good, I don't care". It's pretty obvious she does care.

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Originally Posted by Adalira

I have a dog myself and am a dog lover....BUT....there are limits and boundaries that everyone needs to live by.
If these dogs are making your life miserable and unpleasant i say, report them.
It is up to the owners to make sure the dogs are doing well when they leave the appartment and leave the dogs all alone.
If their dogs are the kind that can't be left alone...they need to find a dog sitter for the day to entertain them or place them in a doggy daycare.
We live in the middle of a forest. The road iin our street is a dirt road, a private road, yet every weekend en even during the week people walk their dogs here....not even having them on a leash! And having them shit everywhere.
I have opened my mouth a few times telling them their dogs need to be on a leash. My god....they are in a forest with wild animals like deers, rabbits etc. They are obligated to have them on a leash....and don't even get me started on the dog poop!
I think i will invest some money in an official sign saying that this is a private road and another sign that says dogs need to be on a leash and dog poop has to be picked up.
It is unbelievable how ignorant dog owners can be!
So once again....i would say either talk to the dog owners and share your concern and see if it helps.
If it does not help, you have given them a fair warning and it is time to report them.
Good luck!

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Thanks! There are a few dog owners who are really awesome with their dogs. But having a dog here is like the fashion accessary that is most necessary, and having multiple is like some kind of status symbol, and so many people aren't responsible with these living beings that require a lot of care and attention. It's awful.

wasted and hour and my phone battery trying to post a vine. its so frustrating i could of spent that time working on my cosplay :mad:

Well, I guess I am back at square one... My dad told my mom that it's cold on the back porch (where Kayla now has to sleep) and he basically convinced her to let Kayla back into my room. o now I feel like my parents are both against me. My mother told me that I should ignore Kayla and kill her with kindness... I am sick and tired of this. You know what's cold? It's not the back porch, it's the way Kayla treats me. I get so stressed that I begin having chest pains (I have a heart condition it's not relevant but it's not random lol) over this. I handle stress well too. I'm known for keeping a cool head and I don't get stressed easily like this. It hurts :( It really does. Even after protesting to my mother she turned around and told Kayla that she could sleep in the room again. Not only that but Kayla is now calling it "my" room or "our" room. We were not supposed to share at all. The plan was for her to only sleep in there. But now her clothes are coming in and slowly so are her belongings. This isn't fair. I know life is not fair but this is just cruel.... My youngest sister gets her own room and I am forced to share a room with a horrible fiend of a sister. The worst part is, is that my own parents are putting me in this situation even they know it hurts me. It has gotten to the point where I don't want to be here, I want to run away or something. *sigh* I'd wait two more years until I can move but I seriously cannot handle her for two more years. She is a vile person. The only place I could get away from her was my room and now I can't even go there for peace. This sucks...

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Cascada

Well, I guess I am back at square one... My dad told my mom that it's cold on the back porch (where Kayla now has to sleep) and he basically convinced her to let Kayla back into my room. o now I feel like my parents are both against me. My mother told me that I should ignore Kayla and kill her with kindness... I am sick and tired of this. You know what's cold? It's not the back porch, it's the way Kayla treats me. I get so stressed that I begin having chest pains (I have a heart condition it's not relevant but it's not random lol) over this. I handle stress well too. I'm known for keeping a cool head and I don't get stressed easily like this. It hurts :( It really does. Even after protesting to my mother she turned around and told Kayla that she could sleep in the room again. Not only that but Kayla is now calling it "my" room or "our" room. We were not supposed to share at all. The plan was for her to only sleep in there. But now her clothes are coming in and slowly so are her belongings. This isn't fair. I know life is not fair but this is just cruel.... My youngest sister gets her own room and I am forced to share a room with a horrible fiend of a sister. The worst part is, is that my own parents are putting me in this situation even they know it hurts me. It has gotten to the point where I don't want to be here, I want to run away or something. *sigh* I'd wait two more years until I can move but I seriously cannot handle her for two more years. She is a vile person. The only place I could get away from her was my room and now I can't even go there for peace. This sucks...

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Well now that she is moving in, you need to lay out clear boundaries and rules, Let her know what's her side and what's yours, set rules for when she can be loud and when she can't, and if she attacks you, I say ignore her the first 2 times but let her have that back hand on the third. If she doesn't want to stay in her place, put her in it.

Okay, now time for me to vent haha,
I am tired of being broke! I'm in my first year of university and I know I could expect to be broke, but I don't like it and it's nearly impossible finding a job in the tiny town that my school is located in! I know there are a few options for me to make some cash but there are some hold ups: option 1 is sell art and sewing commissions but commissions are very slow during school season. 2nd option is make premade lolita dresses and the holdup there is that I need money to spend on the materials for said dresses. 3rd option is to sell night wear and lingerie that I make but the same hold up as option 2. Option 4 is being a party fairy/princess... but I need money to make the costumes, and get off the ground. I need to spend money to make money and I don't have any money to spend. The 5th option was to start camming. I thought about doing it to help pay off my loans and nursing school and I know I would enjoy it but I talked to my bf about it and he wants me to keep that as a very last resort as in, I'm drowning in debt and I can't get food last resort and I want to respect his wishes (and not to mention I'd need privacy to make material to sell and when you share a room with a very conservative girl who never seems to leave even when you ask her.. that's nearly impossible)

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Originally Posted by draggersprez

Well now that she is moving in, you need to lay out clear boundaries and rules, Let her know what's her side and what's yours, set rules for when she can be loud and when she can't, and if she attacks you, I say ignore her the first 2 times but let her have that back hand on the third. If she doesn't want to stay in her place, put her in it.

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I can't even do that. If she moves in my parents will most likely scold me for trying to put down rules, when "it's her room too". This is the worst thing about it. I have no control over the situation. I feel like nothing I say or do will change anything and I will continue on this downward spiral. Honestly she could probably break my arm and my parents would place blame on me or not take the appropriate actions. I don't want to disrespect my parents but Kayla does not dude serve a room at all. If she wants to share a room with me her attitude should change. I don't understand why my parents have the physiology of: If Kayla is mean to you, even though your in the same room, even though she steals from you, ignore her for the next two years until you move out. Even thoug Kayla is undeserving of a room and even though she is mean, you can suffer so she can sleep in a room.
It's not even garunteed that I will move out in two years -.- Unfortunatley, I'd move out now if I could. I'm pretty sure that at this point. Even if she stole from me, in two hours she'd be allowed back in. I feel like saying: You know what mom and dad? If you want Kayla to sleep in a room other than the back porch because its cold, let her sleep in your room lol.

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Originally Posted by draggersprez

Okay, now time for me to vent haha,
I am tired of being broke! I'm in my first year of university and I know I could expect to be broke, but I don't like it and it's nearly impossible finding a job in the tiny town that my school is located in! I know there are a few options for me to make some cash but there are some hold ups: option 1 is sell art and sewing commissions but commissions are very slow during school season. 2nd option is make premade lolita dresses and the holdup there is that I need money to spend on the materials for said dresses. 3rd option is to sell night wear and lingerie that I make but the same hold up as option 2. Option 4 is being a party fairy/princess... but I need money to make the costumes, and get off the ground. I need to spend money to make money and I don't have any money to spend. The 5th option was to start camming. I thought about doing it to help pay off my loans and nursing school and I know I would enjoy it but I talked to my bf about it and he wants me to keep that as a very last resort as in, I'm drowning in debt and I can't get food last resort and I want to respect his wishes (and not to mention I'd need privacy to make material to sell and when you share a room with a very conservative girl who never seems to leave even when you ask her.. that's nearly impossible)

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That really sucks :( It seems that you are skilled in sewing? Maybe instead of making full Lolita dresses, start out with accessories, or cute animals with mini Lolita dresses? Perhaps that wouldn't be so stressing on your schedule and schooling?
You could even make gift baskets and sell them around your campus (?) or start selling candy grams.

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Cascada

Well, I guess I am back at square one... My dad told my mom that it's cold on the back porch (where Kayla now has to sleep) and he basically convinced her to let Kayla back into my room. o now I feel like my parents are both against me. My mother told me that I should ignore Kayla and kill her with kindness... I am sick and tired of this. You know what's cold? It's not the back porch, it's the way Kayla treats me. I get so stressed that I begin having chest pains (I have a heart condition it's not relevant but it's not random lol) over this. I handle stress well too. I'm known for keeping a cool head and I don't get stressed easily like this. It hurts :( It really does. Even after protesting to my mother she turned around and told Kayla that she could sleep in the room again. Not only that but Kayla is now calling it "my" room or "our" room. We were not supposed to share at all. The plan was for her to only sleep in there. But now her clothes are coming in and slowly so are her belongings. This isn't fair. I know life is not fair but this is just cruel.... My youngest sister gets her own room and I am forced to share a room with a horrible fiend of a sister. The worst part is, is that my own parents are putting me in this situation even they know it hurts me. It has gotten to the point where I don't want to be here, I want to run away or something. *sigh* I'd wait two more years until I can move but I seriously cannot handle her for two more years. She is a vile person. The only place I could get away from her was my room and now I can't even go there for peace. This sucks...

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I hope this isn't odd but have you thought about talking to a school guidence counselor? I mean, if your living situation is so bad you feel like you would rather run away then maybe you need to bring in some sort of third party? There are probably a number of people you could call? It might take someone from the outside to help fix it. You are both teens and honestly, you shouldn't have to deal with this, ADULTS should. You are not yet an adult and should not have adult responsibilities dumped on you (I am refering to trying to deal with your misbehaving sister.) So if your parents won't do anything, maybe someone from school or some kind of social services could? If it is so bad it hurts you I think it would be appropriate.

(Sorry for wall of text ^^; )

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Lunette

I hope this isn't odd but have you thought about talking to a school guidence counselor? I mean, if your living situation is so bad you feel like you would rather run away then maybe you need to bring in some sort of third party? There are probably a number of people you could call? It might take someone from the outside to help fix it. You are both teens and honestly, you shouldn't have to deal with this, ADULTS should. You are not yet an adult and should not have adult responsibilities dumped on you (I am refering to trying to deal with your misbehaving sister.) So if your parents won't do anything, maybe someone from school or some kind of social services could? If it is so bad it hurts you I think it would be appropriate.

(Sorry for wall of text ^^; )

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Hmmm I haven't considered that... I was hoping my parents would be parents lol. However, I am home bound do to my health conditions so I don't really have access to my counsler. Maybe I could call? I mean seriously, Kayla has only been in my room for two or three days and I'm already to this point. At the end of the week I will be a nervous wreck. I am going to have a serious talk with my mom tomorrow... It's ridiculous that my parents are disregarding me so Kayla can be comfortable -.- I certainly don't feel comfortable lol.

This may sound cruel to you at first but why don't you move on to the porch? Use some of your money to make it more habitable/comfortable for you. I know this time of year it will be freezing but I feel that if you do that it may show your parents how desperate you are to be rid of the psycho bitch sister? I had to do something similar when my YOUNGER sister terrorized me.....though eventually we reconciled and are like besties now.

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Originally Posted by JessieMermaid

This may sound cruel to you at first but why don't you move on to the porch? Use some of your money to make it more habitable/comfortable for you. I know this time of year it will be freezing but I feel that if you do that it may show your parents how desperate you are to be rid of the psycho bitch sister? I had to do something similar when my YOUNGER sister terrorized me.....though eventually we reconciled and are like besties now.

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I've been consider this. There'd be absolutely no privacy but it's better than being in a room with her. Sadly I don't think my parents care, I'm starting to think they are doing this to avoid confrontation with Kayla, and they don't care enough about me to do something -.-

It definately sounds like you should bring in a third party to deal with it. In a way your parents are neglecting you so they can favor her. You should look up the local social/child services number and see if there is something they can do. Just make sure to be even more detailed about your sis and parents then you were here, so they can full access the bad situation.

Talk to a counselor, my armchair psychology degree (dr Google, and years of dealing with a narcissist parent) suspects that you may be living in a Golden Child/ scapegoat dynamic. This definitely needs to be discussed with a real professional


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I make 7$ an hour before taxes and have been saving my money and have 7K in my checking account and 9K in CDs. I found out today that this coming year I am not covered under county health insurance because I have so much money in my accounts. My primary insurance company sucks* and its now going to cost me 400$ a year for psyotheropy. I know its not that much but still grr. You would think insurance companies would want to encourage you to go.

*before anyone starts with "well Obama said if you liked your insurance company you can keep it", I got off my parent's one this last summer when I turned 26.

so dump all your savings into an IRA, and then sign up for the Affordable Care Insurance. 400 dollars a year is a little more than a buck a day. That's nothing! it cost me over 1,600 dollars to get one tooth fixed, and that was with insurance!

insurance companies don't care if you get better, all they care about is their bottom line and the money they can get to their shareholders.

I agree with pearlie,
We pay nearly $300 out of every paycheck DH gets and healthcare still costs us nearly 1,000 a year


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