B!TC# IT OUT!

Just a little bit of bitching here, I really need to get it out of my system. Aslo the man pill would be a great idea if men would actually put it to use

Going through my first breakup [woooo I was late to the dating game] and I honestly have no idea what to do. He just said that he felt that he rushed into dating too fast [which I understand] and that he wants to be friends a little more first. I get that, but it's also totally screwing with my mind. I heard that he had a really good relationship with his ex so maybe he still has feelings for her and I'm just the rebound girlfriend and he doesn't want to be flat-out mean to me, or he maybe still likes me and just can't handle the relationship right now. I'm kind of just scared that I did something wrong or that I'm the rebound relationship. I don't want to ignore him, so I'll probably try and act like nothing's wrong or just give him space. He also told me "there's still prom" which really mind fucked me. what does that mean???

also he's in my 6th period class tomorrow and I really don't want to look at his face.

okay I'm done bitching

On the birth control for men thing, http://motherboard.vice.com/read/the...cant-we-use-it it's simply an injection that's completely reversible. Also some other options http://mentalfloss.com/article/67816...ontrol-methods.

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Originally Posted by MermaidSandie

Just a little bit of bitching here, I really need to get it out of my system. Aslo the man pill would be a great idea if men would actually put it to use

Going through my first breakup [woooo I was late to the dating game] and I honestly have no idea what to do. He just said that he felt that he rushed into dating too fast [which I understand] and that he wants to be friends a little more first. I get that, but it's also totally screwing with my mind. I heard that he had a really good relationship with his ex so maybe he still has feelings for her and I'm just the rebound girlfriend and he doesn't want to be flat-out mean to me, or he maybe still likes me and just can't handle the relationship right now. I'm kind of just scared that I did something wrong or that I'm the rebound relationship. I don't want to ignore him, so I'll probably try and act like nothing's wrong or just give him space. He also told me "there's still prom" which really mind fucked me. what does that mean???

also he's in my 6th period class tomorrow and I really don't want to look at his face.

okay I'm done bitching

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As someone who didn't start dating till after High School, and who has had two partners in her lifetime. You are not late to the dating game. If you don't want to look at his stupid face then don't. Pretend that he's not there. You did nothing wrong and he's a jerk for stringing you along. He said "there's always prom" because he probably thinks that he now has a backup date.
Don't hold out for him, he's a shrimp in this big ocean and you are worth more than an itty bitty shrimp

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Originally Posted by MermaidSandie

Just a little bit of bitching here, I really need to get it out of my system. Aslo the man pill would be a great idea if men would actually put it to use

Going through my first breakup [woooo I was late to the dating game] and I honestly have no idea what to do. He just said that he felt that he rushed into dating too fast [which I understand] and that he wants to be friends a little more first. I get that, but it's also totally screwing with my mind. I heard that he had a really good relationship with his ex so maybe he still has feelings for her and I'm just the rebound girlfriend and he doesn't want to be flat-out mean to me, or he maybe still likes me and just can't handle the relationship right now. I'm kind of just scared that I did something wrong or that I'm the rebound relationship. I don't want to ignore him, so I'll probably try and act like nothing's wrong or just give him space. He also told me "there's still prom" which really mind fucked me. what does that mean???

also he's in my 6th period class tomorrow and I really don't want to look at his face.

okay I'm done bitching

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Im sorry you're in this situation :/ I've actually been the other person in that situation, I started dating a guy soon after a break up and I broke up with the new guy because I wasn't emotionally ready. I still wanted to be friends with the guy to see if it could work out later, but I needed to be comfortable with being single first. If I were you, I'd give him some space but also make sure to explain to him how you're feeling about everything. I know it sounds cliche, but communication really is extremely helpful. It'll be awkward seeing him at first, but that'll go away with time :)

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Originally Posted by Keiris

...and all the guys in here just crossed their legs.

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Aww :P sorry merdudes!!!

@phaylennMuruch and @Mermaid Cecelia

Thank you for the support <333 I [kind of???] worked things out with him today, which kind of helped. It may or may not have involved me hiding under a table, but we communicated through the passing of notes [although we were less than 5 feet apart lmao] and confirmed that he's not mad, I don't hate him, and we're both sorry so I guess things are fine for now. He drew a picture of me in my tail lmao

That's great sandie :)

My iron levels are getting low again[emoji35] Low iron runs in the women in my mom's side of my family. When my iron levels get low I get super tired easily. Back on the iron supplements I go!


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F**king hiccups! I've had them for like almost 20 minutes[emoji35]


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F**king hiccups! I've had them for like almost 20 minutes[emoji35]


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Can we get an award over here for Most Adorably Innocent Complaint in the B!tc# It Out Thread?

I totally get you, though. I rarely get the actual hiccups (I have a weird issue with my diaphragm where I'll hiccup once every hour or so), but when I do that shit hurts. D:

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F**king hiccups! I've had them for like almost 20 minutes

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Next time try drinking water slowly through a straw while holding your fingers in your ears. If that doesn't do the trick at least you'll amuse everyone standing nearby. ;)

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo

sending hugs pearlie! and I thought male birth control was an injection of a liquid that turns into a gel and blocks the ductus deferens?

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I still wouldn't trust anyone saying they've done that, or have had a vasectomy. Truth is, the onus is upon women to control our reproduction, and the war on women's control over their bodies is very real. Conservatives know that if they can control one aspect that is particular to a certain group, then they have a toehold of doubt within that group's mindset.

Are you going to let some group tell you what you can and cannot do with your own body?

(And a vasectomy just snips out a section of the hose that carries the baby-making juice. ;-) )

Oh gods. Japanese Language Proficiency Test starting in an hour.

*hyperventilates in abject terror*

Hiccup cure: to stop the esophageal spasms -aka hiccups - take a deep breath and hold it with pressure. One way to do that is to put the top of your thumb in your mouth and pretend to blow it out. Do that for as long as you can maintain pressure, then try to slowly exhale. You'll hiccup while you're doing it, but keep trying.

Works every time. :)

Tightening the diaphragm muscle ^ it's a spasm so if you try to tense all those muscles in there it can stop em! I usually just flex all the muscles I can in my torso lol


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F**king hiccups! I've had them for like almost 20 minutes[emoji35]


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Drinking water upside-down cures them for me every time.

(Basically I get a sip of water in the mouth, then lean over and hang my head upside-down to swallow. xD)

I drink a sizeable amount of water, hold my breath until I can't, and swallow.

so here is my bitch. December hates me. Yesterday my husband showed up to pick me up and he tells me the dinner for my friends party is at 8. Ok fine I can watch the Christmas wish video at 7:30. I end up missing he video because it got moved until 5:20-6 when he wanted to kill time in the mall. So we head over to the keg at 8 when... Everyone is near finished their meal. Because the dinner was supposed to be at 6. Wtf. I'm upset (still) because I literally missed everything so I didn't even get to eat a proper dinner (just a small app was all I had) and now I'm worried ouat didn't record properly because of the speech so I might have missed a huge chunk of that too. Now I'm
Now I'm worried i will be late for work because even though I showed Up early I nearly started my shift late because I misread my schedule that day.
This upsets me because I'm a stickler for being punctual.

im so upset that I'm only running on 4 hours of sleep

Oh great now my birth control is missing. What else do I need to miss?? PHANtOM OF YHE oPerA?????!'dks

Oh, SeaGlass. :c On the upside, Phantom of the Opera is gonna be AMAZING and you're gonna have such a great time, and everything will start looking up for you! <3

I find December is always crazy and awful. Christmas is one of my fave holidays but December is one of my LEAST favorite months because things are always just pure chaos. :(

(PS I'm still insanely jealous you get to see POTO, I wanna sneak to Toronto and like, smuggle myself into the theatre in your purse of something.)

It's not even the fact that it's Christmas and everything is chaotic. My life is usually pretty stable but for some reason yesterday and today is like :wtf:

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(PS I'm still insanely jealous you get to see POTO, I wanna sneak to Toronto and like, smuggle myself into the theatre in your purse of something.)

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Come visit in January :3 you can stay at my new place

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Lorelei

So, I try to keep pretty quiet about this sort of thing, but I'm seriously just pissed right now and there's nothing I can do. I'm on a birth control device called Nexplanon that is inserted under the skin of the arm. It is the most effective type of birth control out there, but it's basically been hell for me. I have a literal laundry list of side effects that get worse daily and nothing works to stem the tide. I don't look, feel, or act like the same person anymore and it's awful. My poor husband has had to watch my anxiety and depression sky rocket, deal with my daily mood swings, and watch me basically spiral out of control. I've gained 65 pounds with MORE diet and exercise than before the stupid device went in, I've developed cystic acne, I have daily debilitating migraines, and I have the equivalent of morning sickness at least twice a week.

Honestly, the thing that pissed me off the most is that they don't warn people about these side effects. Sure, they half-heartedly list a few things, but nothing like what a great majority of users actually go through. If I had known that this was going to be my experience, I never would have gotten the little fucker put in to begin with!

I'm scheduled to get my implant removed in a few days, but I've been warned that it could be months before I'm back to my old self and that some of the effects, like the anxiety, could stick around for good. So, yeah, there's my little rant. Thanks for reading.

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I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

Years ago a coworker of mine ended up in hospital due to suicidal thoughts and nearly lost custody of her kids. She had been happy and healthy until she got the depo shots. It was an absolute mess. Once the shots were out of her system she was fine, but it was really scary for a while.

I had a bad reaction to the birth control pill, something changed in my body chemistry after having my daughter and I was so angry all the time. And I had zero sex drive topped with any time my husband came near me I accused him of treating me like a concubine. It was awful. We only clued in that it was the pill when I thought I had run out and couldn't get into my dr's office right away. Suddenly it was like fog lifted. Never again.

I agree that they do not do enough to explain the potential side effects. When I told my dr how I had been feeling she was completely unsurprised and was all "yeah that's pretty common."

I hope you feel better soon.

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I don't get it.

As a guy, I feel it's totally normal to share responsibility. Like Sea Glass said, it takes two to tango. I'm gay so I might not be concerned but if I were straight, I would take it. To say that it's a "woman" thing is bullshit and a pathetic excuse.

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In North America men are supposed to be free and enjoy sex and not have consequences because they are studly.

Women are not supposed to enjoy sex and only do it for procreation and doing it for fun means they are slutty slutty sluts and deserve to be punished with babies.

Awesome patriarchy we have here.

I just found out today that my best good friend Robin died suddenly last night of a heart attack. We were the bestest friends for years and years before I moved to New Jersey 33 years ago. We painted our faces like tigers and crashed into the Kentucky Derby Parade on our sneaker skates, blowing bubbles and skating around and everyone thought we were part of the parade. We sat on my front porch summer after summer, teaching ourselves "The Beatles Made Easy for Guitar". We cruised through the park every weekend like thousands of other kids, looking for our crushes, yelling at cute guys, generally acting like asshole teenagers.

We grew apart, as distance and family raising will do, but chatted on Facebook, planned to get together over and over, assuming we would always be around.

Last night, she asked for prayers and good thoughts for her mom, in the hospital with the flu and pneumonia, and this morning, her sister texted me to tell me she was gone! I assumed it was her mother, but NO!

I can't believe she's gone.

Seems like everyone is dropping dead, left right and center, lately.

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I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.

Years ago a coworker of mine ended up in hospital due to suicidal thoughts and nearly lost custody of her kids. She had been happy and healthy until she got the depo shots. It was an absolute mess. Once the shots were out of her system she was fine, but it was really scary for a while.

I had a bad reaction to the birth control pill, something changed in my body chemistry after having my daughter and I was so angry all the time. And I had zero sex drive topped with any time my husband came near me I accused him of treating me like a concubine. It was awful. We only clued in that it was the pill when I thought I had run out and couldn't get into my dr's office right away. Suddenly it was like fog lifted. Never again.

I agree that they do not do enough to explain the potential side effects. When I told my dr how I had been feeling she was completely unsurprised and was all "yeah that's pretty common."

I hope you feel better soon.

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Unfortunately that doesn't sound very different from what I've been dealing with. The last few days have been especially bad, but I get my implant removed Thursday, so it'll be okay. I honestly just want to feel like a normal human being again.

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Originally Posted by PearlieMae

I just found out today that my best good friend Robin died suddenly last night of a heart attack. We were the bestest friends for years and years before I moved to New Jersey 33 years ago. We painted our faces like tigers and crashed into the Kentucky Derby Parade on our sneaker skates, blowing bubbles and skating around and everyone thought we were part of the parade. We sat on my front porch summer after summer, teaching ourselves "The Beatles Made Easy for Guitar". We cruised through the park every weekend like thousands of other kids, looking for our crushes, yelling at cute guys, generally acting like asshole teenagers.

We grew apart, as distance and family raising will do, but chatted on Facebook, planned to get together over and over, assuming we would always be around.

Last night, she asked for prayers and good thoughts for her mom, in the hospital with the flu and pneumonia, and this morning, her sister texted me to tell me she was gone! I assumed it was her mother, but NO!

I can't believe she's gone.

Seems like everyone is dropping dead, left right and center, lately.

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Oh Pearlie, I'm so sorry. *hugs*

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Originally Posted by PearlieMae

I just found out today that my best good friend Robin died suddenly last night of a heart attack. We were the bestest friends for years and years before I moved to New Jersey 33 years ago. We painted our faces like tigers and crashed into the Kentucky Derby Parade on our sneaker skates, blowing bubbles and skating around and everyone thought we were part of the parade. We sat on my front porch summer after summer, teaching ourselves "The Beatles Made Easy for Guitar". We cruised through the park every weekend like thousands of other kids, looking for our crushes, yelling at cute guys, generally acting like asshole teenagers.

We grew apart, as distance and family raising will do, but chatted on Facebook, planned to get together over and over, assuming we would always be around.

Last night, she asked for prayers and good thoughts for her mom, in the hospital with the flu and pneumonia, and this morning, her sister texted me to tell me she was gone! I assumed it was her mother, but NO!

I can't believe she's gone.

Seems like everyone is dropping dead, left right and center, lately.

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Oh Pearlie, how awful. My condolences...

Pearlie!!
That's awful. As Lorelei said: *hugs*

Dealing with that sort of loss is so, so, hard.

Oh no pearlie.. :(

sending love and condolences

I'm so very sorry Pearlie. It's been a bad month. We have had a few losses as well.

I'm so sorry for your loss pearlie. I know what it feels like to lose a best friend. My condolences.

I think I'm going to be sick. Two of my friends are hospitalized and another one killed herself. I can't believe this.

Oh my gods, Mystery!

I hate that my whole family resents me for not allowing my mother in the delivery room when I had my daughter (her first grandchild) in September. She said the experience was supposed to be for the mother and daughter not just the parents to be. She may be my mother but she caused so much stress and depression when my husband and I were forced to live with her that having her in the room would cause too kuch stress for me to handle her AND delivering my first baby. Her resentment and our refusal to go to church with her (we are atheists) caused events to snowball into getting kicked out not even two weeks after Evelyn was born. Also, she said because we wouldn't get Evelyn baptised something bad was going to happen to her and it would be our fault.

I actually had to change my phone number because she kept harassing us every day. At first she said she was sorry she kicked us out and didn't mean what she said. Then she changed her story to say that my husband said we were leaving before she shouted for us to get out. Because of her I now have no contact with my family and now that I've seen how shallow they really are I'm a lot happier with my life here in Florida.

Mystery, I am so sorry! That's terrible news!

Hydra, I'm glad you found that you are happier without toxic people in your life.

Wow, Hydra. That's insane. Well, at least her kicking you out had a nice byproduct: you're out and away from that source of stress.

I may have to murder my cat.

I woke up this morning to discover that apparently he decided the cactus pot was a bathroom, perched on the edge of the pot, AND SHAT ON THE FLOOR

>:|

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Oh damn! Are you sure he's not ill?

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I may have to murder my cat.

I woke up this morning to discover that apparently he decided the cactus pot was a bathroom, perched on the edge of the pot, AND SHAT ON THE FLOOR

>:|

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I've got one of those stupid little furballs. He's lucky he's so sweet and cuddly. I just discovered (this morning, at work, too late to change) that he peed on my shirt. :mad: