B!TC# IT OUT!

Mom and dad are fighting again... It started because mom didn't checked the washing machine water level when she started a load of laundry. It's been going on for almost 30 minuets now. My day is now ruined. She's an bipolar alcoholic and starting to stop taking her medicine. Last time when she stopped taking her medicine she got a dui and totaled her car and spent a night in jail. She threatening to kick my dad out if he get my grandparents involved. She is starting to drink again too. She is a compulsive liar so she denies everything when it come to being confronted about her medicine and drinking problem. She refuses to go to a doctor to get better medicine, she lies to every doctor. She always claims that the meds don't work, but she refuses to go to a doctor to get new meds. She doesn't care about what her actions cause, she doesn't care that her actions hurt me and my dad. The only good thing about living with an alcoholic is that you'll never want to look, touch, or drink alcohol. I'm so paranoid that I'm going to be an addict.


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My best friend's dad has issues with cocaine. He lost his job over it, and nearly died of an overdose coupled with multiple strokes in quick succession last year.. be went from being head chef at a fancy restaurant to making crepes at the local pizza place and covertly fiddling with their recipes. On the bright side, the food there has seen a subtle but drastic increase in quality.

My family hasn't been directly affected by drugs (although some of my mom's half siblings we just met have - her brother lost his daughter - my cousin? - to quote "demons") so I can't say I really understand what you're going through, but I have immense sympathy.

*hug*

And that goes to Tieri too.

And on another matter. My mom's half brother on her mom's end (she has eleven on her father's end) is being the megadick he is and decided to come to Chicago with no notice and just pretend nothing's wrong. My grandmother and my mother are both refusing to see him, so guess who gets to play diplomat with that asshole who's just gonna rub his wealth in everyone's face.

It just bothers him that my mom's the love child and he's the marriage child. Bastard. Or. Well. I suppose my mom's the bastard, but you get what I mean.

Momo I feel your pain. My husbands parents wanted me to do a tea ceremony which threw off the entire itinerary for the day of. I don't want to be a complete bitch about it because it's your decision in the end but if i were you ;bitchiness on: I'd rather have the wedding you always wanted and cut them out if the picture because at least they won't bother you during holidays. :bitchiness turned off:

Agree with SeaGlass there. I can't imagine your fiance is happy with this. Could he speak against it to his family?

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Agree with SeaGlass there. I can't imagine your fiance is happy with this. Could he speak against it to his family?

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He said he wants to do it for his family (note his family, not himself) I'm trying not to make a big deal out of it since it is just one day, but all I can think of is that it's one very very very long day which will now be wasted by prayer, and other stuff that I couldn't care less about. (and not to mention that we have to attend counseling in the church before the wedding which I know the dang priest or whatever will question me about why I'm not catholic and if I'll consider converting to catholic for the sake of the marriage because one whole session is devoted to "god and your marriage" )

Whatever you decide to do you can always bitchc it out here <3

the whole point of a marriage in a church is to devote the marriage to the church. Ask your DF if he feels comfortable lying during your wedding.

As a married woman myself, I say don't change your wedding to please your future in-laws because once you let them be a third party in your marriage means that they (MIL mostly from what I read) will feel like they (she) have a say in your entire life as a couple and Neptune help you if you ever have kids because that won't be about you either, it'll be about what the In-laws want.

^ zsnaps. All over that.

Preach it, Phaylenn.

So I went to work today for a six hour shift and when I got in I was told that I was on lobby. First of all, lobby was already fucking done when I got their and second of all YOU CAN NOT SPEND A WHOLE SIX HOURS DOING NOTHING BUT LOBBY!
So my manager had me clean the insides of the trash cans, which was the most disgusting thing I've ever had to do in my life. So I'm cleaning one of the trash cans and I have to spray it with degreaser because its so gross but some asshole didn't close the bottle all the way so the bottom fell off and it splashed in my eyes and mouth which ended in the worst panic attack I've had in probably three years. The two managers didn't do a fucking thing so i had to call my mom to come get me because i lost my contacts. And I had to go to the hospital to get my fucking stomach pumped.

That's awful. Oh gods. I'm so sorry Roze.

Gah! Sorry to hear that, I hope you're recovering well, Roze.

Thanks guys��
Feeling much better now. Took all my pain med and antibiotics and stuff. Still really hate my job. I can't wait till summer when I can start at the aquarium again.

Agree with everything Phaylenn and Seaglass said, very well said both of you!

@ Rydian Rose, i am so sorry to hear about that. That must have been awfull for you! Glad to hear you are recovering well though, sending a big hug to you :hug:

Thank you guys so much:p:)

Hey Momo I know how you feel. And trust me as someone who caved just to make her MIL happy I'm telling you don't. DONT. Do what YOU want to do, because in the end it's you and your fiancé. Go with what you and him want to do. Does he want to get married in the Catholic Church, being an atheist? Does he want you to attend the bible study classes? As a Defected Christian who got married in a Morman church and had my wedding planned by my mother, I'm telling you do what YOU and YOUR PARTNER wants. It's your marriage. Come together and celebrate as a newly created family the way YOU want to.


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Hey Momo, so I understand this a lot because my family is made of eclectic witches but. Ex fiancé's family was Catholic. He was an atheist but wanted to marry in a church for his parents however I just needed to point out to him the our wedding was for us. It was about starting our lives together and joining our hearts and souls not about pleasing his parents. I hope it all work out all right. Good luck.

Good luck. The Catholic church can be really difficult to deal with when you're not Catholic.

It's a great system for Catholics, but...

Just try to find some middle ground with the MIL. They're her traditions, not yours, and maybe she can see that with some hard work and patience.

Momo, you are a better person than I.
I am not saying to take my advice, because even as a Christian, I am not a fan of weddings, nor do I plan on having a "Traditional" one should I ever get married at all. But if it were me, I'd have laid it out as soon as it became a discussion. "This is who I am, this is who I'm not. This isn't the way I, or my fiancé, want our wedding to be. Sorry, and with all due respect, I want you all to accept me into your family, and you all into mine, but it won't be by forcing your beliefs onto me or vice versa. You can come to the wedding. Or not. But I won't be converting to anything or doing anything in general that neither me or my fiancé are cool with. I won't do any of this to even entertain you or make you feel more comfortable. This day has to be a positive memory for me, not one I felt I was forced to do. Now, I think you all should be apart of this, and I hope I can have your help, guidance, and blessing in this wedding and this relationship. But let's not get things twisted."
I can be a bit of a bitch (on the inside) but that is basically how I feel about it.
You and your fiancé are starting a new life together. And families are important. But, again, don't let things gets twisted trying to please someone else. This is YOUR day. This has to be one of the these you look back on and smile, not groan.

I just fucking got kicked out of community college because I a D in one of my classes. I was on my second semester of academic probation and because I got one failing grade I'm kicked out of school. I'm such a fucking joke as a human being, I can't even function as an independent young adult/teenager. To make it even worse I insisted to take the same teacher again and refused to take a different teacher for Spanish. Maybe if I just took a different teacher I would still be in college right now. My life is over, I'm probably going to be kicked out of my parents house unless I find a way to get back into school or find a second job. I'm surprised that I haven't been beaten or stabbed to death by my father. Anyway my life is shit now. I feel like such a fucking idiot.


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Oh Kelly. I'm so sorry.

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I just fucking got kicked out of community college because I a D in one of my classes. I was on my second semester of academic probation and because I got one failing grade I'm kicked out of school. I'm such a fucking joke as a human being, I can't even function as an independent young adult/teenager. To make it even worse I insisted to take the same teacher again and refused to take a different teacher for Spanish. Maybe if I just took a different teacher I would still be in college right now. My life is over, I'm probably going to be kicked out of my parents house unless I find a way to get back into school or find a second job. I'm surprised that I haven't been beaten or stabbed to death by my father. Anyway my life is shit now. I feel like such a fucking idiot.


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*all the squishy mer-hugs*

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@Momo

All that Phaylenn and SeaGlass said. Preach gurls :hail:

@ KellyMermaid :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug::hug: I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time

I'm having a rough night and I don't know why. *cries and whimpers in her corner*

I'm sorry, Amphitrite

Sorry, Amphitrite

I'm sorry Amphitrite.

Here is a big hug :hug:

Apparently I need to find new hobbies and activities that are "age appropriate" because "if I want friends" then I need to stop acting like a child and grow up.
Loving words of advice from my dad.


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Whadda dick.

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Whadda dick.

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I know right!


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Remind me to go give my parents and family in general for being so supportive of my interests.

I'm sorry your dad is like that. *hug*

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Apparently I need to find new hobbies and activities that are "age appropriate" because "if I want friends" then I need to stop acting like a child and grow up.
Loving words of advice from my dad.


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Your dad needs to butt the f*** out and quit trying to squash your dreams.

It's your life. Make of it what you will.

Like, right?

Bibbitybop your foot up his ass

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Your dad needs to butt the f*** out and quit trying to squash your dreams.

It's your life. Make of it what you will.

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I'm turning 20 this year! I just want to live my life and have fun and make the best life I can ever have! But because of him I can't do anything I want, he's always putting me down telling me that I'm never going to get a boyfriend or have friends "the way your acting" and telling me I'm "extremely overweight" wtf who says that to their daughter!?!? I'm maybe 20 to 40 lbs overweight and most of it is baby fat and weight I gained was from depression and stress eating when I was in middle school and high school. I shouldn't have to explain myself to him every time I want to do something or defend my actions.
He doesn't understand that most of my friends I've met online and communicate though social networks. Well screw you too dad!


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I know it hurts hearing that from a parent, I have heard the whole "you will never get a boyfriend or have friends because of ___". Just be you and you will be happy. The way you are acting you will get a boyfriend and friends because you are being yourself and people will appreciate that. I still struggle to realize that my boyfriend loves me for me. He likes how I am into stuff 'normal' people aren't into and everything.