True lol. Luckily i never had to go that far :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
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True lol. Luckily i never had to go that far :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
His little list sounds exactly like the tirade of texts one of my exes sent me when I refused to send him nude pictures....we'd only been dating a couple weeks.
He's a misogynist pig trying to manipulate you into feeling insecure/guilty and allowing him to continue this behavior. If he so much as looks at you weird or says another word to you, I'd report him to the housing authorities for your own safety. I'm sorry you have to share a hallway with that buffoon.
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So a few posts ago I told about how my biological mother is a pathological liar, child abuser, horrid mother.
Well, because of this, it has got us a house! We found it because of a family friend. I'm excited!
More bad news, my father has lung cancer, which I think I've said before. Well my step mother, who practically raised me and my sister, has skin cancer. It's not deadly, we caught it in time, but it's still stressful. >.< UGH!
I swear if it wasn't for my horses and being able to swim to relieve stress, I probably would have spontaneously combusted by now!!
And then you may have the jerks that say "Oooh, that turns me on, lets go someplace private and you keep doing that while I watch".Quote:
Originally Posted by Echidna
This seriously needs to be a shirt lolQuote:
Originally Posted by AniaR
It's really a shame that this is good advice :\ as a society we need to step back from the idea that women have to say those things to get guys to leave us alone. Why can't "I AM NOT INTERESTED IN YOU" be enough? Where is the respect for our decisions and agency? :gah:Quote:
Originally Posted by Adalira
I agree Kelda. As I said, asking for respect in not being "uptight" and I will not apologize or feel bad for doing so. I find it frustrating that a woman cannot turn down a man's unwanted advances without such things being said.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Kelda
Like, I am sorry that I don't feel safe with your drunk ass showing up to my door when I am home alone at 1 in the morning, but maybe you should think about that next time you feel the need to get intoxicated, visit me and be a complete creeper. I refuse to accept constant bothering and harassment. I live here (and have lived here months before he has) and I will do what I think is best to make my roommate and I feel safe. UGH.
Staff has been notified and if anything else happens, they are going to deal with it.
OMFG, KANTI I FEEL U!!!!!!
I just found out that in March I may lose my job. Stress ack!
:( how come?Quote:
Originally Posted by Amphitrite
Stupid fr***** injured ankle I wish it had never happened and I had never mentioned it! It has ruined my dreams of ever having a silicone tail and I hate it for it and even though sequin tails are beautiful its not what I want! I hate my Fr***** ankle I hate it and I hate how it always ruins my dreams stupid thing!
Why is my life always kicking me in the guts! Everyone else gets to have videos of them in a beautiful silicone tail and I get screwed over and my dream wreaked when I thought it would be okay so I am stuck with not as good a tails totally sucks! And I get to sit there and watch those videos knowing I will never ever have one it sucks!
Sorry just venting
There is physical therapy you can do to help rehab an ankle injury. If you cant afford a physical therapist, the youtube videos are almost just as good.
I hear you on that and trust me i have tried many many times in the past but some man simply do not want to listen to that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Kelda
Saying i was a lesbian has always been a last resort to get someone of my back.
It is very sad when it has to come to that.
Unfortunatly that is still the world we live in today.
I really feel your frustration here.
Thanks its not that I can't afford a physical therapist I was going to one its just they kept re-injuring it with what they kept getting me to do 2 or 3 times by taping and holding my foot the wrong way (re-tore the ligament) Doing the exercises to try and get movement back in the foot (re tore the ligaments) having my circulation cut off in my foot due to taping.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaidmechanic
Honestly after all this if I could avoid going to physios I would. I would never go to them again particularly after they caused me to have to have a third surgery and then also re-tearing it later after that causing me to have to have the brace to prevent more surgery!
So please excuse me when I say I will never go to a physio again and have a few exercises that work for me but walking is the best.
And most of these times too it was actually retearing my repaired ligaments which are now stretched out again cause of all the reinjuries and I will always have to be careful and have permanent wires in my ankles. Hence why I have decided to stick with sequin tails :)
I work in mental health in a unit that is sub-acute. We basically help persons who are in crisis, but are not usually a danger to others or who are a risk to themselves, ie recent suicide attempt with some ideation still, etc...
Tonight, I had to stay late to clean up the mess of a coworker.
I spent an hour with a person who was triggered by said coworker and became so fearful of them that they literally ran and hid in their bathroom when someone knocked on the door to their room. I was so sad for the person and so furious at the staff member (we'll call them E.)
E violated the patient's HIPPA (right to privacy) by videotaping them while they were in a video game dance competition with another staff member. When E was told they needed to delete the video, they did so but apparently made a stink about it and the language E used was, according to two people, very nonchalant. "I was caught up in the fun of the moment." ... Something you say to someone who has a traumatic past when they are feeling threatened. Perfect... :doh:
Eventually the triggered person calmed down with the promise I would be there the following day to 'protect' them from the other staff member. I was so mad, but I put that aside to help the person.
Later though as I processed this, I just kept getting more mad. E has had times where they do fantastic work and I am not going to put that down, but there are other times I am just not sure what to do. I have talked to my supervisor about situations where E was on the phone talking about renting a room when there were multiple people to help, referrals to take, and dinner to make, and I was doing it all on my own because they were too busy to be bothered. E also looks at nearly nude adults on their computer at work... Did I mention some of the people we see are victims of sexual assault and that could push them further into crisis? The people we work with can be very, very fragile.
About a week ago, E approached me in the kitchen and took a very domineering position. E said that we did not have to like each other but that we had to get along for the sake of work. I had never confronted them about what I saw them looking at online or that they did not help when I worked my ass off that day with the dinner and referrals (long paper documents we have to take down from hospitals to get new people into the facility, can take up to 40 minutes to complete just 1), and the only person I had told was my supervisor.
Now, I wonder if E is upset at something else or if my supervisor told E directly what I said. If that is the case, I cannot go to my supervisor should something else happen. I am not looking forward to working tomorrow because I have to see E and their best work friend (we'll call them F). The two of them together are hard to deal with at times. F on their own can be raunchy with humor, but in general is preferred over E. Together, it is a mess.
I am having severe anxiety (I have a disorder myself) about going in to work tomorrow. If the triggered person was not counting on me, I would call out for my own mental health day.
I talked with a trusted staff member about this all, and they feel the same way I do about E and are at a loss of what to do. All I can think of is to tell myself I only have to work there another year and a half and hopefully I get get into a graphic design career after I finish this bit of schooling. After that and I will be free of this. I really cannot take it anymore; E, the stress of the job, doing all the 'husbandry' work, trying to pretend everything is okay, letting people unload their trauma and issues onto me, ... I can't do it.
Okay, to start, I like to lurk. Just read forums without commenting. I don't usually have anything to say. Sometimes I'll comment when I really like something or when I have a question.
But I am disliking my lurking habit more and more. Something that is bugging me is all this talk of "OMG, X copied Y! I CANT BELIEVE THE NERVE". Sometimes I understand. Most of the time it is ridiculous and out of hand. Someone can think they have something completely original, what they don't know is someone across the ocean has the exact same idea. Sometimes they're across the street. Everyone is influenced by what they see and hear in one way or another.
I am finally starting to make tails! And guess what, I have an idea for translucent/blended waists. I made a top and sketched the idea out on paper from my own head before making it. I had someone sketch out and send me a fluke that looks quite similar to one of Finfolk's. Another person sent me Merbella's angler. Am I going to stare at Finfolk and Merbella's designs when I start sketching and sculpting things myself? NO. Will they resemble each other? Probably. And I have a great suspicion that I am never going to hear the fucking end of it.
^^
I rarely comment on the "copycat"-threads, most of them make me roll eyes,
but I can also relate.
When I first saw the picture of Hannah in her new black-white striped tail, my brain went "omg she copied ma tail!",
even though I bet she's never seen my krait tail pics/videos.
And there are loads of striped fish- scissortails, damselfish, and so on.
So I know it's not a copy at all, but I understand the reaction one has as a tailmaker, or someone with a personal, dear tail.
My consolation is that mine is unique as it's a snaketail.
Everyone else has a fluke of some sort.
Snaketails are crabhard to swim in, so if anyone else ever makes a snaketail, they'll do so because they love snakes, and then they're welcome. ;)
Honestly if it's not a blatant copy of their flukes we won't care. The only copying that so far I've seen the community up and arms about is when tails are copied down to a T. Like with that russian tailmaker who're making exact copies of other tails. As long as you aren't doing that, no one will really care.Quote:
Originally Posted by Milieu
Momo is right, Milieu— I definitely understand why you'd be nervous, but don't be! Personally I've found a lot of the "they blatantly copied [x]" discussions kind of tiring because ninety percent of the time, there's absolutely zero proof and it's just people crying wolf to stir up drama. Yes, copycats have been an issue in the past, but if it came out of your own head, you'll be fine. :) Don't let things like that discourage you. Coincidences happen all the time!
I finally tried on my monotail, the largest I could find, and its still not big enough for me feet :(