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If you need someone to talk to, or talk video games with, or heck, just to be there, feel free to message me. :) I'm here.
This guy is insane and you definitely need to report any past activities to have an official record of some kind. Even if you just talk to your RA (though given his response I strongly suggest you talk to campus police about all of this. Even if they won't take a report they will be aware). I dealt with a similar situation in college and the man in question got very vengeful after I set boundaries and him responding eerily similarly to this guy you're dealing with. I also didn't want to get to the point of reporting him but I finally had to because he became violent and did things like slash my tires and leave anonymous VERY threatening notes on my room door.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Nessie
Please bring it to someone's attention just in case he's crazier than you think. You have to think of your safety #1, politeness be damned!
That's horrible! I seriously don't understand some people. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. :<Quote:
Originally Posted by Shimmer Mermaid
Thank you so much for your offer to talk! You're awesome. You'll definitely be getting a friend request from me! :)
Sorry to hear what happened lotus Blooming I would offer to help you out but with my ankle I really don't know that its possible :) But I am here if you ever need to talk etc! So sorry this happened to you! I could never do that to my friends! Hope you can find someone else to make the tail for! Best wishes!
I'm home all of the time, I game, plus I'm a mermaid, lol so we should have plenty to talk about! :) looking forward to it.
Definitely!! Me, too!! Thanks so much! <3Quote:
Originally Posted by Shimmer Mermaid
Your 'friend' sounds like an inconsiderate jerk. Maybe they'll break up and she'll leave.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lotus_Blooming
I hope so. To be honest, I pray for that sometimes.Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
*Vent needed, apologies in advance for what I may say as I'm just gunna get everything out of my system, I hold no responsibility if I say something offensive as I've been drinking a little and I'm pissed (as in angry not drunk) to the max, so please understand it's the anger and frustration talking not my actual opinions"
So I've auditioned for three dance schools now...as I'm reaching the end of my foundation training and moving on to finish my training in a place of higher education. I didn't get into my top school in London, but I did get into the two others...I had no idea which to choose, but then a sign came and I received a letter saying they had re-evaluated my application and audition and come to the conclusion I was an 'exceptional case' and worthy of an unconditional offer (this means I am eligible of joining the school regardless of the grades I receive in my current college, even if I fail they still want me) Now of course I'm over the moon about this at first and I accepted the offer almost immediately.
The only thing is, is that my dream was to go to London, but I somehow managed to let it go and know I can move to London after my training is done and that this school is where I need to be for the next three years. But now, a few of my friends are getting their acceptance letters from schools...and about three of them are in London and tonight I was having just a bit of self pity, which I almost never do! I got jealous and upset and I was in a proper funk. This was apparent to my "closest" friends in college...but their reaction? No support, no cheering me up, not even a slap and someone telling me to stop being pathetic and petty and to just move on and be happy with what I have...they literally just ignored me and pushed me aside to talk about something else.
Now this was the final straw for me because I've been feeling as if no one really cares in my friend circle about my actual feelings or about who I am, and tonight they pissed me off so bad that all these feelings just flooded.
I'm the only boy in the group. And, in a group of about eight of us, that can be hard.
I'm not girl enough to be accepted as a 'true' friend, because I can't 'understand' periods, or know what it's like to really be a girl.
I'm not boy enough for the guys at college to see me as a 'boy', they literally see me as the pathetic little gay kid who hangs out with the girls and can on occasion be a bit of comic relief to a situation.
My relationships and boy troubles aren't seen as 'real' so it's fine for my best friend to go off with the guy I had major feelings for during the last party even though she doesn't like him. And it's okay for me to have to listen to her ramble on about how annoyed she is at herself for doing it...I'm sorry, but bitch, I don't even stand a chance with 98% of all the guys I've ever liked, at least you have a chance with him, and he likes you...he wouldn't even see me as a contender. But no, snog his face off in front of me even though you AND him clearly know how I feel about him...though apparently you don't and my feelings are just made up and not important because he's straight and I'm clearly not a girl.
Basically, I'm not good enough to have true friends because I'm on some weird cusp where I'm not considered boy, or girl enough. And gay friends? Or friends in a similar situation? Basically non existent even in a dance/performing arts college...as I live in the middle of nowhere, where the only gay guys are either deep in the closet, or raging queens that only want to know me for one thing only, or that I'm not 'good enough' for even that reason.
I just wanna leave, and go live somewhere far away, start over, make new friends...ones that actually give a shit about me. But no, I'll have to wait and go to my second choice school. Ugh.
I just want a real friend, I have online friends...but it's not the same.
And now on Monday when I get back to college I'll have to either decide to be alone or hang in the background with these false friends just to have some company.
I am so sorry you had to go through that, hon. The thing is, you call them your friends, but what you're describing sound like enemies. They may act like they'll be there for you, but if they don't follow through and do things to hurt you, they're no friends of yours. I promise you that not all women are like that. If you ever need to talk, let me know.Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Vaughan
Reminds me of this Bible verse:
"Wounds from a sincere friend are better than kisses from an enemy." - Proverbs 27:6
I've found that's so true. If a real friend hurts you, they're genuinely sorry and they probably had YOUR best interests in mind to begin with! I will be praying you find friends who truly understand and care for you. I know it would be another online friend, but I'm totally up for being one of those! :)
Love, your mersister,
Lotus <3
Ok normally I'm a little more professional than this but HOLY CARP when will it end!!!!??? I am a team leader (basically an under thumb manager) at my job and recently had a team member that walked out and quit on us. When she worked with me there was no hostility, no smart ass comment, and honestly she acted like we were best friends. Even hung out outside of work and had fun. But soon before she quit my GM came to me saying I need to "manage me team better" and proceeded to tell me that my entire team thought I was lazy and good for nothing based upon the words of this one person.
Now me being me I approached each of then and inquired if they had any complaints or greivences (sp) with anyone at work or anything I've done because I want to "make this team run smoothly so we're all on the same page." I received a few mild complaints about other team members and one or two on how I run the store. But nothing on the scale that I was told. So I finally approached said team mate and clearly asked about what she'd told my GM. She just laughed and shrugged it off saying "I just told her what I heard."
Ok it's been about 2 weeks since she out right walked out and quit making me pick up all her shifts (as not to stretch my team thin) sometimes even working doubles. I find she not only went to my GM she said the same thing about me to the repair tech that works on our machines at work. Honestly! If you have that much of a problem with me please be adult enough to say so!
No she has bad mouthed and trash talked ABOUT me to everyone! People who don't even know me give me odd looks mentioning if I'd heard about the "lazy ass" in the store that they'd heard about form someone who was "fired because she spoke out against that worthless worker".
She hasn't contacted me since leaving explaining anything, but she constantly complains that I haven't contacted her to inquire as to what 'forced' her to quit. I can't seem to go a single day at work without SOMEONE bringing up how she'd spoken about me.
I very much dislike double scale people and even more so if they're a gossiping gabby and trying to ruin my reputation. I've worked for 8 year at this company to be where I am and I'm trying to get Manager in my section of the store, but if these rumors and stories keep going I'm afraid my chances may drop drastically.
Whew sorry guys and gals but I really needed to get that out.
Aw thanks Lotus :) I'm just overly frustrated but I'm glad to hear kind words trying to cheer me up! I'm in a much better mood now, thankfully haha, but your post really made me smile and be thankful that a place like this even exists to restore my faith in humanity and let me know that even if I can't find the people I need right now I will eventually. I think I honor my mer-family and friends a lot more than most of my real life friends haha. Wonder how sad that makes me sound ;) lolQuote:
Originally Posted by Lotus_Blooming
Not sad at all!!! I'm so glad to have been able to help cheer you up!! You deserve it!! :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Merman Vaughan
Thank god for this place or I dont know what id do right now. Sorry for the bad spelling and wall of text. Its hard to see the screen when youre crying.
Im having the equvalent of a marrage ending fight wth my husband over his mom and her disrespect towards my parenting.
Long story short my daughters bio sperm donor is a crazy abusive control freak who used to beat me pretty badly. I left with our daughter thank god and have been fighting to keep him away ever since. I even got a court order of no contact. Because of this issue I dont post photos of my daughter online. He stalks me and my friends. He tried going for custody so he could get to me. He found my mother in laws facebook page where she had put a bunch of photos of my kid. She had asked me about posting and I said no. She went behind my back and did it anyways and blocked me so I couldnt see them. My ex did tho and he emailed them to me. He drives around my house on a regular basis and when he sees us in public he follows us. He now knows what they look like, where they live and the places they take her. Three years ago this started. She was asked to take them down and didnt. Even her daughter (my husbands sister) posted some and I lost in on both of them. O tried to forgive her after she said she removed them and I discovered last week she never did. She still hasnt after a week of asking and telling her.
She told me im making it up about my ex and its not that bad and what she did isnt a big deal. It doesnt matter that when he tried to physically take my daughter out of my arms and kicked me in the stomach to do so, or that the last fight he hospitalized me and I was literally black and blue because he repeatedly picked me up and threw me into walls and down stairs made of concrete. I have permanent shoulder damage and a permanently detached rib.
Im trying to protect my daughter from that abuse and she plasters her all over the internet so he can find her. Facebook wont force removal of the photos even tho its illegal to use photos of minors without parental consent. Im now out of iptions and my husband isnt helping. He just sits on his ass and doesnt say a damn word while his mother degrades me and calls me a bad and neglectful mom. Its everything I can do not to smother him with a pillow im so angry with him. He doesnt care and wont stand up for her and the worst part is he read the nasty stuff she said and then gave her my cell number so she could send it to me.
Im about to have my entire life turned around I dont know what to do. I just want whats best for my little girl. How is that so wrong, someone ease twll me because I dont see it. Artrgggggvg xbdjdjdnxjdifjxnssksdbcj
I'm sorry you are going through that hun. :( I have no words of wisdom, but know that your fight will not be in vain. My mother went through something similar to protect my sister and I; we were even court ordered to leave the state we lived in for our protection. We were fortunate, though, that after a while, my biological father didn't give two shits about us anymore so we don't have to look over our shoulders anymore.
Wow. That is absolutely something NO ONE should have to deal with. I'll keep you and your daughter in my prayers. I'm so, so sorry you're having to deal with all of this, and without the support of your husband! You're really strong. If you ever need anyone to talk to, please feel free to message me. I've definitely never experienced a situation like that firsthand, but I'll help however I can.Quote:
Originally Posted by Prairie Mermaid Jamie
Thank you both! It helps to not feel so alone. I cant sleep since I cant shut my brain off. But I have at least cried everything wet left in me. So maybe I can just get so exhausted ill pass out and pretend today didnt happen.
The worst part is my husband says he agrees with me and he said hes told him mom to stop with the pictures. Ive only ever had one major rule when it comes to my kid and that's no photos. I dont. A lot of people I know on my fb think my kid is a toddler because the only photos on there I have are when she was 2 and her bio thing had been on my fb so he already seen and had those ones. My family doesnt do it and if they did they know I would kick their ass and they would lose my kid in their life. Id love to share the pics of my kid swimming in monofins with everyone I know but its not safe. I dont want my marrage to end but I dont know if I can live everyday with him knowig how he dealt with this last situation. Apparently I need to find the photos the cops took for the police report and shove them in their face so she can see what hes capable of. My ex used to be really really mean to his nephew and was very emotionally abusive to him so he doesnt care if its an adult or a child.
My husband defended his mom saying that she would keep my kid safe. Shes over 400 pounds. Theres no way she could get to my kid on time to save her. If my ex showed up at their house, he would have no issue beating her and her husband and taking my kid. Hed probably kill their pets just to spite them for trying to stop him. Hes the poster child for sociopathy. And now that ive mentioned him in public hes gonna start emailig and driving around and telling me he misses me and still loves me and wants to be a family.
Im am so sorry Orca. I was so busy being upset I didnt say anything in response to you. Im usually not so selfish, I swear!
I think you can help. If any of this is to personal i understand. How was it for you growing up like that? How do you feel about him then and now?. If he had other kids now would you want to see them?
I honestly dont have any idea how that would be but it sounds a bit heavy for someone young to deal with. We moved alot when I was young so I know doing that just sucks.
:hug:
Oh Pealie that is just terrible. I can't even imagine the day to day struggle you must endure for your baby girl. Thoughts and prayers to you. I hope it all ends well
prairie I'm so sorry you're having to go through this =( it's hard enough dealing with abuse and then have people doubt you or play down the danger of the situation. I keep my address private everywhere, and keep my personal facebook entirely private to stop my dad from finding me, this is 13 years since we last saw him. For years we had to deal with my gran (his mum) whom he was astranged from, not understanding how bad he was, and would still say stuff like 'you got that from your dad' as if that was an actual compliment and she would regularly bring up stories about him not understanding that we didn't want to hear or think about him at all, or that it was traumatic for us to do so. Not quite the same situation as you but I do understand somewhat. All I can say is that your kid's safety comes first above all as you know, cause appeasing family members and not stepping on a few toes is no where near as important. If they can't understand they're putting you and your child in danger they don't deserve to be a part of your child's life and should be told as much. Tell them to take the photos down or they will be cut out from your child's life because they obviously can't be responsible adults.
Chatfish btw you should talk to special fins! - Marla (Weeki Wachee Marla) has long narrow feet and they did a custom foot pocket for her! Tried that fin on too at merfest and zomg they're freaking amazing, better than the competitior and less than half the price!
and Vaughan.... they aren't real friends. I might just bring my tail to wales and finslap them in the face. Hard.
And never fear you shall have your mer-family nearby soon <3