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Sherielle, I'm so sorry about your friend. I can't imagine how difficult that must be. I'll be praying that you can find the strength to keep living life for her and to remember all of the best times with her. If you ever need to talk to anyone, let me know. *hugs* :(
I just got two teeth pulled out :D
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I worried about my friend, she told me that every morning she wakes up and wishes she was dead. I know that she was depressed, but I can't even think about her being depressed or killing herself without crying. I'm always telling her that she can text or call me, but she's always feels like she's bothering me even though I keep telling her she's not. I don't know what else I could do to help her other than just talking to her and being able to be there for her. I'm super worried she's going to start cutting herself again too. She stopped cutting when she moved out of her parents house. She talked to a doctor and got antidepressants but I don't know if she's taking them or not.
Talking to her and being there for her is definitely good. Maybe call her on the phone and just talk to her too so that she doesn't get too distant from communicating with anyone. Right now she is probably only thinking about everything negative in her life, the mistakes/failures she has had, and the stress in her life. Tell her all of the great things she has accomplished and what makes her special and important. I don't know how busy both of you are, but try to go see a happy/funny movie together or just go do something fun to get her mind off of how cruddy life feels right now. She needs to realize that there are people in her life that love her and would be devastated if she were no longer on this earth. She needs to know she is needed and she makes a difference in this world and she isn't just a tiny insignificant speck on this planet.
I know I just made a huge bitch a few hours ago but I've got so much on my mind today and I just need to rant and bitch.
Excuse my bad language! Fuck people!!!! I'm trying to do what makes me happy and being happy is really hard to be sometimes, so if you are think that something I'm doing is weird then shut the fuck up and keep your comments to yourself! All I want to do is be happy and make kids happy and inspire them to keep believing in make believe while also trying to teach the importance of ocean conversation! Also what I'm doing is extreme art and takes a lot of dedication and time and planing and also believing in yourself and trusting yourself. 'Cause sometimes it's hard to show or trust your true self and I'm just fucking tired of people treating me like I'm only focusing on mermaiding and ruining my life, I'm only 19 I barely even have a life or a set future yet. I'm trying hard and sometimes I cannot keep up with balancing work and school and other life issues and I'm just having a super hard time finding my way in life and finding my place and figuring out where I fit in. I'm beginning to feel like I don't belong here because I'm totally not a normal person, I'm always being told that I'm not going to have a good future because of one or two failed classes and that I'm fucking up my chance of a good job and that I'm going to be working in a shitty job being paid minimum wage my whole life, it's like nobody has any faith or hope or believes in me. It's also super hard to manage work, school, depression and anxiety and major stress and having too much going on at once. I'm trying so hard but nobody believes that I'm trying my hardest and my best to make everyone happy while trying to juggle a billion tasks and stuff at the same time. I'm not a fucking octopus, I don't have eight arms I only can do so much at once and deal with so much stress and conflicting emotions and tasks at once. I'm just so fucking tired.
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Hang in there babes, lots of us have been there! Sometimes it helps me to make a list of things I actually have to do and prioritize them, I feel like it lessens the burden/anxiety, even if it is still there. I know someone who failed four classes and she's still in college on the track to becoming an anesthesiologist. You can do *anything* and I firmly believe that a life lived for your passion is the best kind of life. We believe in you, don't let the naysayers bring ya down!Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyMermaid
I purchased silicone about two weeks ago. When I got home I opened the buckets up to get to work because I was so excited. When I opened part B though the amount looked lower then part A. With the silicone being Dragon Skin a 1:1 ratio it didn't seem right. I thought maybe I was overthinking it or the bucket had weird shadows making it seem lower so I ignored it and got to work.
I finished off the first pack (I had to buy two 2 gallon kits) with about an eighth of a gallon of part A left over. Though I was disappointed, I thought well maybe I mixed wrong.
When I opened up the second kit it happened again, Part B had less then part A. This time I swore up a storm but took a breath thinking I could get though the mermaid tail project with what I had. Now I'm at the end of Part B with a total of about a quarter gallon of part A still unused.
I'm so close to be finishing the project but I sadly don't have enough.
I finally got the courage to call Smooth On and explain the situation. I mean I purchased 4 gallons of silicone and I only received 3 and 3/4th of a gallon with a 1/4 of it that can't be used. meaning in total I lost 1/2 gallon. In my opinion not fair at all.
So I called Smooth On and spoke to a representative who explained Smooth On couldn't do anything about it because I purchased the product though a vender, the lady asked for the silicone parts number and it turned out the silicone was past the shelf life. GAHHHHH. At this point I'm freaking out, not only did I purchase and use about 3 and a half gallons of silicone, it turns out to be past the expiration date.
The lady then calmed me down after another anxiety attack, she explained that the dragon skin is almost like milk. the company must express an expiration date so customers cannot return spoiled milk, but its usually okay to drink 1 or 2 days after the fact. Dragon skin has a shelf life but it is okay to use a couple months after the fact.
depressed and still out of silicone I decided to contact the vender with who I purchased from. I asked for the manager and got down to business explaining my predicament.
right away the manager apologized and told me he needed to speak to his distribution people to see what could be done. 5 minutes later he called back and asked me to measure the amount of Part B needed to complete the gallon.
Anyways to wrap up this rant I just want to say thank you to Industrial Paints and Plastics (where I got the silicone from). And though I don't have the silicone in my arms just yet, I was promised new silicone ASAP.
Gahh I just want to cry and scream and cheer. this has been a stressful adventure.
Good luck!
That's rubbish, but at least they're fixing it! I hope it all works out!
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So, a body was found in the bathroom at the main branch of my local library monday.
I work at the south branch exclusively, but a lot of my co-workers also work at the main branch.
Monday and Tuesday are my days off, so I'm going into work this evening and I'm not quite sure how to handle the situation.
My mom works in a retirement community and has since I was about 9, so I'm spectacularly desensitized to death and I tend to forget that not everyone has that background. I don't know who was working Monday or if any of my particular co-workers were among the group that found him so I'm just nervous.
Oh my god that is traumatizing...
Right? I'm really worried about the lot of them!
So I'm in Florida right now and I've gotten yelled at by my parents a lot because I haven't been swimming safely. Like I will swim way far out into the ocean and they are getting pissed at me because they are nervous I'm gonna get eaten by a shark and they won't be able to save me. But I'm a really good swimmer. So they know I love mermaids and want to be a professional mermaid when I'm older. So my siblings and parents make fun of me a lot! Like every day someone makes fun of me. And they are like Carly are you going to go talk to Sebastian? Or Carly your going swimming? Are you going to find your mermaid friends. And then they embarrass me in front of people. And I showed my mom The tail I might want and my dad flipped his shit but like I have thousands of dollars saved up so I could have paid for it. He was like "you need to grow up and stop living in fantasy land, I'm seriously worried about you! This isn't healthy!" Then he went about saying how I need to stop thinking I'm a mermaid because real people drown. And I wanted to punch him in the face because this is my passion. Also it makes me happy. And everybody is just ok with making fun of me. But I see it differently. I wish they were less judge mental. Then they say if I talk about being a pro mermaid they will say "no Carly I think you will be homeless instead." I really don't know what to do they put me down so much!
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Show him info about raina, hannah and all the other professional Mers. Tell him it's not fantasy, you are not deluded and know you are not a mermaid and that its fun, great exercise and people pretend to be Mers as their job.Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid_selene
Or if all else fails, tail slap him. I'm sure pearlie will back me up on that option hehe
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Oh girl, families can be messed up. It's not your fault their inner-children are dead. As a professional mermaid, I have met tons of adults that say those kind of things, especially to little kids.Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid_selene
Do what feels right, but stay safe. Your parents do worry about you, but it is because they fear for your safety. The ocean is scary, and the waves can definitely put your life in danger if you don't take the right precautions.
I showed him everything about pro mers he even saw weeki Wachi in the news paper. I tried to tell him since we live in ct I would be hired more since there is no other one like it. Maybe a nice tail slap would get him on board with my ideas, I like it!Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Lilium
Yea that's true but I do wish they would understand that it's not a phase because I'm 17 and I've loved mermaids since I was 6. I do have to be more careful though I do crazy shit sometimes and I usually get in trouble.Quote:
Originally Posted by MermaidCelesteFL
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That SUCKS. Like wow.
But he is worried about you. Maybe show him some of Raina's videos? I think she has one up specifically for the parents of aspiring mers that she made with her father.
And saftey IS important. It's always good to have a spotter. Even strong, experienced swimmers can drown.
Can I assume Dr. H. is a psychologist?
That's not okay. Wow.
Yes she is.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sabrina the Selkie
Well. Try that parent video of Raina's.
She is also just gonna tell the doctor I'm acting out and tell her to raise my risperidone. She really doesn't get it at all. It's a normal human feeling to feel frustrated after a while. She thinks it's because of my bipolar.
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Ok I will sabrina
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I'm 20, married, and have a baby on the way hun, and my dad, 72, still says to get it out of my head and that its crazy.
Once I got my fabric tail, and saw me swim with it, he kind of calmed down, I showed him rainas video also. Bringing up the fact also that there is PLENTY of other, actually bad things you could be doing other than training to be a mermaid, also sometimes helps.
I feel your pain! ��
Did you show them the CNN article about NC Mer-Mania? Perhaps if they saw that lots of other folks enjoyed mermaiding as well?
A: Stop swimming dangerously. IMMEDIATELY. Number 1, you can die. Number 2, you're making it look like your parents are right.
B: Ignore the taunting. They know you will react, so they keep doing it.
C:Yes I will.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Lilium
Trust me shimmer ! I'm new! But these guys have really looked after me! Use this place to talk! And if you need a shoulder Pm me ! I'm not going to tell you that I know how you feel! But we have very similar backgrounds and im happy to chat to you, take care x ��
Shimmer is been around the forums for quite some time XD
heres my bitch. For some reason I've been developing pain in my left eye and I think it might be because I'm exposed to a screen too much. So I have to keep wearing my glasses. I know. It's a small bitch.
I've been mermaiding since I was 11, I'm 16 now. I'm also not mentally stable, but my mermaiding has nothing to do with how sane I am. I really hope your psychologist connects with you, and if she doesn't then you need a new psychologist. I hope she's on your side and can help you out.
Like Raina just had, I had a really bad concussion when I was younger, it caused my right eye to REALLY get screwy, I get migraines and its usually right behind that eye, and it caused my perfect vision, to be destroyed because of my right eye. I got glasses, but they just cause more problems. 😐
In other news, my step mom was making a yellow cake, we are very southern and plain yellow cake is a delicacy 👌, anyway, I got super pumped about this cake, and she covers the thing in really REALLY overpoweringly sweet icing.
*groan*
Why must the good die so young?!? 😖
Mermaid Selene how old are you? Did you have a spotter when you went swimming because that is dangerous to be in deep water alone so your parents are right to worry about your safety. From the texts you sent it seems like they won't even hear you out at all, but that could have been them reacting to the energy you put out in your messages. I'd say try again, but this time send one very long text (or if you're up for it sit them down in person ) to BOTH parents because to me one parent answering a message you sent to another is not only rude but digging into my privacy but that may be because of the relationship my mom and I have where I'll tell her things that should only be between me and her and my dad reading the messages will be crossing a line, back on topic tho:
Calmly explain in the text how you feel ex:
You two never seem to want to hear me out, and it's really bothering me. You don't believe in my dreams and don't want to even spend the time trying to understand my dreams and about it, you're so set in your stubborn beliefs that you'd rather chastise me about it and poke fun at it instead of listen to me. Not to mention that you poking fun at me, you, the people who should support me and love me no matter what (because I can go to school and be bullied and chastised, I expect my family to have my back and support me with unconditional love) you instead make me feel like the black sheep, like I can't rely on you to be there for me.
Also you insult my intelligence when you assume my getting upset at you chastising me for something I love is due to my mental illness. My dream has NOTHING to do with my illness in the same way someone liking dogs has nothing to do with them getting a cold. Please do not try to correlate the two.
I want to open up a discussion on why the two of you act this way towards me, and I want a discussion that isn't you avoiding the question or talking over me. You will listen to me as I will listen to you, it will be a RESPECTFUL discussion."
Something like that.
I fully second this! The wording is very respectful, and is very mature sounding
Another pregnancy bitch:
I'm trying to sleep, but I keep lactating to the point that its soaking my shirt.
It. Won't. Stop.
Mermaid momo I think I'll do that! That's great advice. My parents are very old school parents, my dads a businessman and my moms a teacher so they don't always accept stuff out of their norm. I'm 17 and they have every right to be worried because I don't always think things through but I will try to get through to them on mermaiding. One way or another they will understand.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
Good luck!
Thanks everyone
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I have a 17 year old daughter. She tells her classmates that her father is a merman. How's that for role-reversal? ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by mermaid_selene