B!TC# IT OUT!

I hardly ever rant on here, but this time, I feel I really needed.
So there is this supervisor at my boyfriend's workplace that is always causing trouble (and becomes the reason a lot of employee's quit). He is lazy, doesn't do much of anything, and when he does do things, it usually ends up messed up or against safety regulations. I've talked to several employees while visiting because they are all really wonderful people and no one has anything good to say about this specific supervisor. He has already been on investigative leave once in the past (a little less than a year ago, if I remember right) for sexual harassment and still managed to keep his job afterwards.
Recently, another girl was touched by him during work and reported it. He was put on investigative leave again and everyone was confident that it was a for sure thing that he would be fired or have to be supervised at all times while at work.

Today, my boyfriend comes home absolutely fuming and tells me that this supervisor got off completely free, without any punishment, and will be back to work on Monday. The girl who reported the incident practically broke down crying and everyone is just in complete shock about why this company keeps letting this guy off the hook! If there was one small sexual harassment incident at my job, they have already warned that the person in question would be fired.

I just don't understand it and I feel so sorry for that poor girl that still has to be around him everyday until summer break lets out. I wish there was something I could do about it, but I'm on the outside looking in at this point (I'm not even supposed to really know, I just have friends there) and my boyfriend really can't afford to lose this job before we move. The whole situation just seems strange and ridiculous. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth, especially for the company, but at least we'll be out of here soon. I just feel bad for any other girls he comes in contact with because it's obvious the company won't do anything to help them.:headwall:
Anyways, thank you for this thread, allowing me to vent this. Hope everyone's day is going better.

Lorelei, that girl can sue the company for allowing sexual harassment to continue in the workplace. Hitting them in the pocket book seems like an appropriate punishment for letting that wanker get away with his behavior.

It's not your problem so please try not to let it upset you though.


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Originally Posted by Meronica

Lorelei, that girl can sue the company for allowing sexual harassment to continue in the workplace. Hitting them in the pocket book seems like an appropriate punishment for letting that wanker get away with his behavior.

It's not your problem so please try not to let it upset you though.


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Thank you. I believe she is currently trying to take legal action, so I'm hoping for the best for her.
and it honestly doesnt upset me too much, it just really did in the moment and I needed a place to vent it out.

A repeat culture festival just emailed me telling me they didn't want my native Canadian mermaid because she is native. Let that sink in for a second. A multicultural festival.

You better believe I wrote one hell of an email ( that sean is now editing to sound more formal). They were a repeat client. They just became a past and never again client.

I actually want to vomit.

That is disgusting and ridiculous, wow. Good for you for dropping them and telling them off!

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A repeat culture festival just emailed me telling me they didn't want my native Canadian mermaid because she is native. Let that sink in for a second. A multicultural festival.

You better believe I wrote one hell of an email ( that sean is now editing to sound more formal). They were a repeat client. They just became a past and never again client.

I actually want to vomit.

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I wish I could say I was shocked... Native and First Nations people in our country are often treated horribly (unless it can be milked for money and "look how accepting we are" brownie points— see the grossness that was the Vancouver Olympics).

I'm so, so sorry you had to deal with that from a client, and I hope your native mermaid isn't too shaken up by it. :(

Good on you for standing up, calling them out on their bigotry and making the decision not to work for them anymore. You're an awesome person and a kickass employer. <3

FN BS. She has as much right to be there as anyother, as does anyone of any race! That upsets me so much!! I'm sorry that happened

How do such bigots get to run a multicultural festival??? That's just crazy. Kudos to you, Raina, for telling them off.

well I told them off but then Sean edited my email to be more business like and objective lol. The problem is that the sponsors of the events are all the main companies in our province so we have to be careful we don't cut off all our opportunities but still let them know this is why we wont do the event or recommend it to anyone. I think personally the sponsors would be horrified to see the email we got. It'll be interesting to see if it escalates or what happens. For now I think Sean did an excellent job of taking my book of an email and pairing it down to the important points and that we felt their email was very racist.

I am so mad. I wish I could just go mernetwork crazy and tell them off but I know we gotta handle it the right way. We did defend our mermaid very well (I didnt identify her though because I didnt want it showing up in google would you mind editing out her name?) I am trying so hard not to rage out here.

Wow! There is no excuse for anyone to ever act that way! That is absolutely ridiculous and I hope they're embarrassed with they way they've been acting.

So not too long ago my little cousins (girls aged 4 and 7) came to visit since they live far from here. They found out about me being a mermaid and were the happiest and most ecstatic kids in the world. They were asking me questions about it and the ocean and everything (who wouldn't be excited about having a mermaid for a cousin?) Then my grandma decided to completely ruin it. As I was talking to the kids she said "So tell the girls how you put your COSTUME on!" Then all of a sudden you could see how disappointed the girls were, I quickly replied "magic of course! Who told you it was a costume?" She then said "oh yeah you use magic to put on the costume, how do you wash it after taking it off?"
Are you kidding me! I honestly think she hated the fact that I had the girls attention and she didn't, she listened to me telling them I was real and about my life as a mermaid! So it's not like she just didn't know I was posing as a real one.. Goodness!!

All of my friends that I grew up with are now either no longer my friends, or married. One has a child. This specific friend just told me and another married friend that kids are the best way to remember your spouse should he die and that if her husband died, she'd be alone and have no one to take care of her until she died. Really? You're gonna tell a 20 year old girl who is barely married and WHO DOESNT WANT KIDS that because of her choices her husband is gonna die and she's gonna be alone for the rest of her life?! And of course she waits until I'm right there to rub it in my face too. I don't even have a boyfriend and they're both married! It makes me feel lonely enough when they talk about their husbands and now she's gonna say if you don't have kids you're gonna die lonely and unloved. WTH! And then she got mad when we asked if she meant to word it the way she did and she stopped talking to us. It's like she doesn't even understand how bad all of this makes ME feel. I'm not part of the couples club. I don't have a family of my own. I already have depression and I don't feel like I'll ever find someone to love me, they both know this, and yet she's gonna choose THAT as her topic of conversation?! And she wonders why we never hang out anymore. It's not because of her kid. I love her kid. She's 2 and already loves to swim, what's not to love? It's the loneliness I always end up with after hanging out with my friends, the few times they even have time for me anyway.

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Thank you. I believe she is currently trying to take legal action, so I'm hoping for the best for her.
and it honestly doesnt upset me too much, it just really did in the moment and I needed a place to vent it out.

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You know, your boyfriend can report this asshat to the Labor department if he's been witness to this guy's harassment as well. 'Creating a hostile work environment' is a legitimate complaint.

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Gem Stone, you need to get rid of those toxic "friends". My daughter is 30, and we (me, her, and her beau) had the kid conversation, and they are in no rush. I completely support them. I have several married couple friends that choose to remain childless and are very happy in their choices.

Don't feel lonely because you aren't currently in a relationship! Relax! You're very young, there's no panic to get hitched! You aren't on anyone else's schedule. It's YOUR life, don't let anyone tell you how to live it!

(BTW....I've had two multi-decade relationships, and I got third time lucky at age 47. Going on 8 years together! And we are extremely happy! It's never too late! )

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All of my friends that I grew up with are now either no longer my friends, or married. One has a child. This specific friend just told me and another married friend that kids are the best way to remember your spouse should he die and that if her husband died, she'd be alone and have no one to take care of her until she died. Really? You're gonna tell a 20 year old girl who is barely married and WHO DOESNT WANT KIDS that because of her choices her husband is gonna die and she's gonna be alone for the rest of her life?! And of course she waits until I'm right there to rub it in my face too. I don't even have a boyfriend and they're both married! It makes me feel lonely enough when they talk about their husbands and now she's gonna say if you don't have kids you're gonna die lonely and unloved. WTH! And then she got mad when we asked if she meant to word it the way she did and she stopped talking to us. It's like she doesn't even understand how bad all of this makes ME feel. I'm not part of the couples club. I don't have a family of my own. I already have depression and I don't feel like I'll ever find someone to love me, they both know this, and yet she's gonna choose THAT as her topic of conversation?! And she wonders why we never hang out anymore. It's not because of her kid. I love her kid. She's 2 and already loves to swim, what's not to love? It's the loneliness I always end up with after hanging out with my friends, the few times they even have time for me anyway.

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That is always awkward when people your age are already married and have kids. I am 21 and I have a boyfriend that I will probably marry, but so far I don't think I will want kids. Don't let them make you think you have to have a husband and kids to be happy and taken care of in life. I never had a boyfriend until the one I have now. I remember how lonely I felt and how I saw my friends get boyfriends and how a guy friend I really liked crushed my heart by finding a girlfriend that he kept saying, "Was just like me" and "Likes the same things I like" and of course I always had to see him with different girlfriends and kissing them and spending time with them while I secretly liked him the years I knew him. It was definitely tough feeling like I was not good enough or pretty enough. The only guys that would show interest in me were either creepy, really weird, perverted, or jerks. So then I thought to myself, you know what!? I can take care of myself! I don't need a boyfriend and I don't need to get married someday. I am perfectly fine living alone. I saw the drama people went through and the heart ache they when through in relationships so I decided I didn't need that and so finally in high school I was happy by myself. Once I came to this realization, it wasn't long after that a cute, funny guy in my art class started showing interest in me. We talked a little and walked to art class together and then one day he started acting really nervous around me and then asked me to be his girlfriend! I was 18 and finally had my first boyfriend. Looking back, I am happy I didn't settle for other guys I have met over the years. I don't think they would have been good boyfriends for me. Aaron is wonderful and loves me for who I am.

What I am trying to say in my giant paragraph is that perhaps when you least expect it the right guy will come for you and the wait will all be worth it. I never thought I would find anyone!

I hope this helps!

It really does. Thank you Mermaid Alea and PearlieMae. I think I'm gonna talk to her, let her know that next time she brings this up, to either do it when I'm not around or that I'm going to leave. If she doesn't want to take my feelings into consideration, I will go hang out with someone who will.

So me and a few friends went out this weekend, they were off work because of good Friday. So I spent the night Friday and Saturday, and left sunday morning.

A guy offering a job to me called my father at 1:30 pm friday, and asked if I had any plans friday at 2:30. -_-
My dad being the man that he is, told him "No! She doesn't have plans!"
The guy asked "are you sure? If she has plans already then we'll do it when she's available, no trouble at all!"

My dad once again, KNOWING I HAD HAD THESE PLANS FOR OVER 2 WEEKS, tells him "no! She'll be there!! Definitely!"

*cue me slamming my face into a wall*

So my dad calls, and tells me to DRIVE ALL THE WAY BACK, and be there, all ready, in an hour.
I told him where I was and that it was impossible, and he says
"FINE! I'll just tell him you aren't interested in the job at all!"
Me: "No dad! Just tell him I've had plans with friends that I rarely get to see, for a while and he'll understand."

*click*

So he calls him back, and tells him
"Sorry bud, she's not interested at all in the job."
*click*

WTF!?!?!?!?

So I get home Sunday morning, nothing to eat, and text my sister "hey is there any pancake stuff down there?"
No. (There was but she lied)

Few hours later she texts and says "if you're so hungry go to Aunt H's and ask her for food."

So it turns out, my family made a big huge easter meal, deserts and everything, invited everyone else, but literally told me not to come. V.V

I LITERALLY live not even a mile away, and they made it a point not to invite me.

It was honestly humiliating to say the least.

Ugh. Need to vent.

Spent the whole day arguing tbh, first with a guy who was adamant to not let go of his bigoted and ridiculous ideas...mainly being that "All homosexual men were abused as children in a sexual way, and that's why they're gay" okaaaaaaaaaay.
Then a friend of mine asked for opinions through facebook on circumcision as she runs a blog that discusses such topics, I gave mine...and was literally attacked by some psycho who believes it's her way or the highway. :mad: I give up with some people.

Then I decided I wasn't going to be a push over for the rest of the day, so I got up a list of things that were bothering me and went through them to sort them.

So here's the one that bugged me:

Back in January I asked a guy to build me a staff, he said yes and I paid a deposit etc so that he could start building it. I still haven't received it despite his claims it'll be done over and over again and so I'm getting a little pissed off...so sent him a nice little email, hopefully didn't come across to strongly. Now tell me...do these screenshots make sense? Am I misunderstanding him or is he just making excuses for his incompetence and lies? I honestly wouldn't mind if the staff took 10 months to build if he COMMUNICATED and told me of his dilemma's etc instead of ignoring me. Have a look or yourselves.

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Shimmer, oh mymer. That's HORRENDOUS. I don't know where your family learned their manners, that's not appropriate at all. I'm sticking your family up in my book of "not socially acceptable people" along with my grandparents. Ugh.. Just horrible. And Vaughan, I hate people like that. To me, it looks like something someone I once knew did, and this person has no intention of making the staff. That sucks.

Thank you Pickles. I love instead of oh my gosh you use mer!

Yesss, I use ohmyfishy too. XD