B!TC# IT OUT!

Brine, I've had the hair dye issue as well. Ajax or Comet helps a lot. Spray your tub down and coat the living hell out of the tub. Let it sit for a while. Like at least an hour or so. Then take a rough scrubby sponge and put in some elbow grease.

thanks Tula. I need to go out and buy some. :)

@Brine; That sucks! I had a friend like that once upon a time. she'd come over, order herself food so she could eat while she was here, drink anything she could find, emptying rubbish out of her bags and car here (and forgets where the bin is when she does it) and get under everyone's skin. She even broke our shower screen (had to get the whole thing replaced) once because she was mad at her mum and supposedly couldn't control her anger. :(
I lost my shit about 3 months ago, told her what I thought of her and her behaviour, told her to f*** off and haven't seen or heard from her since. And my life (and house) are so much better for it

@Merline, I'm sorry that you have such a bad outlook on relationships from every time you got married that you need to resort to criminal violence (guns are not toys). all marriages last 2 years tops? My husband and I have been together for 5 years. My parents have been together for 30. lots of my friends are married or in serious long term relationships and they've been going for a minimum of 4 years.
Your basically saying most (if not all) men are asshole who want to just get with anything and everything with boobs. and most (if not all) women are skanky sluts or whatever. I think you need a knew out look on life. We don't want your terrible out look on here.

Also, guys are allowed female friends, just as girls are allowed male friends. it's rude to be that bitch who tells her husband/boyfriend you can't hang out with that chick anymore. If you aren't secure in the relationship, why are you in it to begin with?

@Merline My husband and I have been together for a little over 10 years. I have male and female friends, and my husband has male and female friends. Neither of us has cheated. We talk all the time. I don't go through his cell phone, or control his facebook or anything like that. He has the same respect for me.

From what I've gathered from all of the posts you have made about relationships is that your relationships haven't had mutual respect. There are several things that make relationships work, and work for a long time. Respect and communication and trust are three of the biggest in my family.

I hope you can find someone who has at the least those three aspects, and I hope you can find happiness in your life, with or without a significant other.

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@Merline My husband and I have been together for a little over 10 years. I have male and female friends, and my husband has male and female friends. Neither of us has cheated. We talk all the time. I don't go through his cell phone, or control his facebook or anything like that. He has the same respect for me.

From what I've gathered from all of the posts you have made about relationships is that your relationships haven't had mutual respect. There are several things that make relationships work, and work for a long time. Respect and communication and trust are three of the biggest in my family.

I hope you can find someone who has at the least those three aspects, and I hope you can find happiness in your life, with or without a significant other.

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I wish there was a "like" button for posts. That was very well-put. :)

Thanks SeaSister <3

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Vent:

Why.....WHY do people languish around in shitty goddamned stupid idiotic abusive relationships? I have a friend whose girlfriend forbids him from hanging out with friends, has cheated on him, controls his FB, goes through his phone daily, but he's still giving her "one more chance" and that he's "settled" for now. Why do humans allow this?

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He may not know how to leave, or he may genuinely love her or believe she loves him. Like Kat Arnold said, abusive relationships are very tricky. Because sometimes the person in said relationship doesn't think it's abusive at all, mostly because their abuser candy coats things and sucks up to them. One second she could be yelling at him and throwing things at him and verbally abusing him and the next she could be in his lap feeding him icecream and whispering sweet nothings in his ear.Not saying that that's what he's going through but its how most abusive relationships are. Maybe you could tell him how you feel and how worried you are about him? or see if some of his other friends feel the same way.

Oh, he knows how I and pretty much everyone he knows feels. He hates living this way. One friend told him it was like they were 15 and he was grounded. I hope he finds the courage soon. It's really unfortunate and a bit terrifying how much humans are willing to live with.

If it gets so bad that you can't stand to see it, you might have to step away. For your own sake. I had a friend who went back into an abusive relationship she was OUT of over and over, and finally I told her I love you but I can't watch this anymore, watching her be hurt all the time, the madness, it was more than anyone who loved her could witness. Two years later, she found me, and we're friends again. She had to take stock, get away from him, and it took another year for her to approach me. But she is married to a wonderful man now, her life is very different. She told me my leaving out of love was one reason she got out of the abusive relationship for good.

In this case, there wasn't a thing I could do, and she was already isolating with him, my stepping away was in no way going to make it worse nor was it abandoning her.

For one, I agree with ALL of the posts that have been said by Kat and Kakarotte. You seriously need to get some perspective.

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You are assuming he is being forced to be with her. My thought is he would not be there if he didnt like it... accept that and move on with your life.

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As for this ^ up there... It's not always that simple. My most recent relationship was great and dandy, but then it became emotionally abusive and I WANTED to leave. My gods, did I want to leave, but he was helping pay my rent and groceries. I lose him, I lose a place to live. I hated that. I felt horrible that I had to lie to him about where I was and who I was with because he was terrified I would cheat on him or that I was ignoring my responsibilities. (I would go out on a weekend to relax... Rest of the week, took care of what I needed to.) I am an extraordinarily loyal person, and I would never, ever cheat on my significant other. So, lying to hide from his anger just... That wasn't right, but I had no way out at all...

So, yeah, I was there and didn't like it. It f***ing happens. I couldn't leave until someone reached out and offered help to me. Get off your stupid high horse and meet people and learn their different stories.

Also:

med·dle

[med-l] Show IPA
verb (used without object), med·dled, med·dling.to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation;interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in mypersonal life!

sup·port

[suh-pawrt, -pohrt] Show IPA
verb to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage,etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.


Two very different words. Try to remember that. She isn't meddling with his life, she's supporting a friend.

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med·dle

[med-l] Show IPA
verb (used without object), med·dled, med·dling.to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation;interfere officiously and unwantedly: Stop meddling in mypersonal life!

sup·port

[suh-pawrt, -pohrt] Show IPA
verb to sustain (a person, the mind, spirits, courage,etc.) under trial or affliction: They supported him throughout his ordeal.


Two very different words. Try to remember that. She isn't meddling with his life, she's supporting a friend.

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HAHAHAHA. Kailani you're awesome!

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crocs annoy me because they are so ugly. like, who would let their kid out in public wearing those?

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But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

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HAHAHAHA. Kailani you're awesome!

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I love dictionaries! ^_^

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But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

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Those Dutch wooden shoes need to be EXACTLY your size and shaped to your feet to be comfy ... other than that they are soo nooooooot comfy, crocs may be comfy. o.o

Bought a house. Oh wait that's not bitching.


We bought a house and theres still muh work neede to be done that cuts into our work hours. Like physically driving to the sales place and picking up our heck because they didn't tell us it had to be made out to heir full name and they told us to get a replacement but the bank is saying they have to return the check and RAGH !!! So inconvenient!!!

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But... but they're just so comfy ( Q A Q )... They kind of remind me of the wooden Dutch shoes in an incredibly vague way, too. Why does everyone hate crocs? Haha ha...

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Dude, I have had my crocs forever. I love them, so comfy. <3

My friends keep forcing me to watch scary movies. It really scares me and I hate it.

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My friends keep forcing me to watch scary movies. It really scares me and I hate it.

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Meh.
Can't you just say you find such movies boring/unentertaining/uncool, whatever?

Or is it a "group thing", where there's the unspoken rule "we do this, and that, and watch this kind of movie...
you're either with us, or without us?"

It's a "group thing" and it's getting hard to get out of.

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This is kind of a strange pet peeve, but I get annoyed by people who hate people. Weird, right?

The other night I was visiting my best friend and my gay "friend" at his house, and at one point we were talking about how some punks broke into his car and stole his stereo system, and he was just ranting away about it. I mean, I can understand getting seriously upset about stuff like that, but he seems to have lost all hope in humanity and swears that he hates EVERYONE (except for me and his other friends of course) and would like for them to all burn in hell. o_o

I'm just sitting there like, um, okay then. Sh-t happens, sometimes people are idiots and jerks and what have you, but what are you going to gain from going around being the ultimate pessimist your whole life? Never expecting anything from the worst from people? You're just going to be lonely and miserable and cranky for the rest of your days. Now, I've been called "innocent" and "naive" on more than one occasion, but I'd rather be childish and optimistic than jaded and pessimistic. I figure I'll go a lot farther and be a lot happier in life, so yeah, it kind of pisses me off when I come across these people who are just like "omg I hate everyone argh" and put a damper on the mood. Seriously, they just ruin it for everyone. Just put on a smile and move on instead of dwelling on the bad parts of humanity.

Besides, the best way to deal with angry/mean/rude people is to annoy them with your happiness. XD
I like to take cues from my grandma. One time there was a car tailgating her, and there was only one lane so nowhere for her or him to move. He was getting pissed off, swerving behind her, etc. etc. When eventually there were two lanes and he passed her, he was glaring at us, but she just smiled and waved at him, lol. Also, apparently she's had people break into her car a lot to steal her groceries, even breaking her windows to get in; she doesn't live in the greatest part of town. But even so, she doesn't seem to get mad or hateful. Instead, she's said to me "well, I just leave the car doors unlocked now because I don't want them breaking my windows. They probably need the food more than me, so even though it's annoying because I have to make another trip to the grocery store, I try to not let it bring me down."

I think that this is such a great, positive attitude to have, and I really admire my grandma for it. It's not easy to be forgiving, but I think that it's worth it in the end. You might get taken advantage of, sure, but people will be people. It's best to just not let them affect you too much. After all, there's nothing you can do about it, right? So what's the point in screaming and throwing a tantrum? Just smile, wave, and move on. Keep your heart light and your glasses rose-coloured. Just keep swimming, right?

So yup, that's my rant. I don't like people who always ignore the silver lining and prefer to preach hate and anger and revenge. I can't say that I always do it, because like I said, it's hard... but more often than not, I'll try to kill them with kindness instead. :)

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Why does it matter, in this story your "friend" was gay?

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It's a "group thing" and it's getting hard to get out of.

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Ah I see.
This is unfortunate :/

When I was in school, I plain out refused to do any of the dumb things my class mates considered a must to be cool and "one of them"
(alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc) and consequently became the outsider.
I didn't mind, but it was sometimes very difficult because the hip kids decreed I couldn't be spoken to, and had to be made fun of and molested, even in class.
It was pretty ugly.
Once, they asked me when the hell I'd commit suicide at last?
I just laughed at them and said they were in for a long wait if that was what they wanted.

The funny thing is; they grew up eventually, and seemingly don't remember a thing now :p

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Ah I see.
This is unfortunate :/

When I was in school, I plain out refused to do any of the dumb things my class mates considered a must to be cool and "one of them"
(alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc) and consequently became the outsider.
I didn't mind, but it was sometimes very difficult because the hip kids decreed I couldn't be spoken to, and had to be made fun of and molested, even in class.
It was pretty ugly.
Once, they asked me when the hell I'd commit suicide at last?
I just laughed at them and said they were in for a long wait if that was what they wanted.

The funny thing is; they grew up eventually, and seemingly don't remember a thing now :p

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Ah, I always got in trouble at school for being a bully to the bullies. My family instilled a very strong sense of justice into me and I can't bear to watch something unjust go without punishment. I would have beat the crap out of those kids if I saw them being unkind to you (and probably would have gotten in trouble for it too). D:< So I guess my rant is I can't stand it when someone thinks it's okay to mentally and physically harass others that are either too kind, timid, or scared to protect themselves from such abuse.

Another vent, I must say: I despise the rampant demonization of the poor. It's one of the things that saddens me the most. Justifying it by using ones self as a golden measuring stick for why it's their fault or how something must be inherently inferior about a person if they're poor.

Oh wow that's so mean! I kinda get it though and that's great that you rose above it all.

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Oh wow that's so mean! I kinda get it though and that's great that you rose above it all.

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Well, I'm not sure I've "risen" above it.
I tend to expect nothing good from people until they prove to be nice, for example.
And I have little to no patience for those who are impolite, inconsiderate of others, rude, mean, and so on.
I also hate it when people- mostly girls and women- slander and gossip about others (who are generally not present),
especially if done in a malevolent fashion.
I can't stand that, no matter whether it's true or not.

@VisionaryBri;
whoa, with such a backstory, no wonder you won't let people mess with you!
I tend to just ignore stuff, and only get physical when it's impossible to ignore any longer
(when they hold on to me, lol).
I probably would have ignored a guy slapping me as well, as long as he didn't repeat it;
depending on how insolent he came across, I might have slapped his hand or something.
Or not.
And then I would have gone for days and months being angry with myself for NOT doing something :D

On the other hand, such things are varying a lot depending on country/culture.
I've never seen a man touch a waitress inappropriately in Europe, much less in Asia;
unthinkable!
Whereas (as seen in movies :p) in the US, while not considered terribly gentleman-like, it seems to be common.

At this point, I have another thing to vent about.
I was looking for a new bathing suit yesterday, and I'm really miffed about how the models presented some of the stuff.
On a decent site like amazon, no less.
Seriously girls.
Do you HAVE to pose like that?
We want to buy the bikini, not YOU. *angryglare*

pic here (kids don't look :p)


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....it looks like they're advertising for Vivid Entertainment.

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Why does it matter, in this story your "friend" was gay?

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Interesting how, out of that entire post, the thing that you pay most attention to is that I specified that the person happened to be gay.

Honestly, there is no meaning to it whatsoever. I just didn't want to use names and so I identified the people in the story by they're relationship to me - the best friend and the sassy gay one. If there was another girl there, she would be identified as my girl friend, or a male friend would be my guy friend. The reason why I didn't just stick with "guy friend" for him is because he's a tranny/cross-dresser (not sure what the "preferred" term is here) and actually prefers to be referred to as a girl in most cases, like in RuPaul's Drag Race (which we like to watch a lot). I just didn't want to bother explaining all of this as well as why I'm sometimes unsure of whether to refer to him as a guy or girl, so I thought that "gay friend" would just make things simpler. If using that term comes across as offensive or homophobic, however, I'll be sure to choose my words more carefully in the future.

I need to vent!!
I hate it soo much when people take the things of others and then are not careful with them!!

Just returned from my usual swim exercise, there was lots of traffic in the roped off area,
where the coast guard were training their swimmers.
I had my monofin and a weight belt, and was swimming laps.
Since I spent so much time under water, the coastguard trainer comes over and starts being all nosy.
What did I train (freediving :p), where did I learn to dive that long, etcetc
(he was horribly garrulous and obviously had never seen a decent swimmer before :rolleyes:).

After my usual 3 hours were up, I came out of the water, and he was there, extends his hand and says:
"Can I see the monofin please?"
I didn't want to hand it over, so I kept a hand on it, and he took offense
("I'm not going to break it"), so I let go reluctantly, and (what else)
he starts bending it lengthwise like crazy.

I could have screamed.
Turns out he doesn't know &%$ about monofins, but thinks he's supersmart because he's the coastguard trainer.
I snatched it back and left, but I was fuming all the way back, and I found a small scratch on the fin's underside
that wasn't there before the manhandling.

I am so furious!!

Omg Catluna! I would have been furious! I wouldn't have stood there quietly while he bent my monofin. I probably would have gotten super bitchy "Excuse me, Will not you do that? If you knew anything, monofins shouldn't be bent that severely at all." kind of moment. Plus I probably would have demanded an answer from him in the first place about why he wanted to see my monofin. Then again, I've become really touchy about certain things and my monofin is one of them. (I've had a lot of stuff that even friends have broken because they were mishandling it.) I would go back when he was there and demand to see something of his and manhandle it.

My turn to vent.

So I love my daughter unconditionally. But she's pushing buttons like crazy lately.
Yesterday, I had a plate full of cookies in the fridge that were supposed to last the week. (snacks and lunch treats)
So I dozed for about an hour, thinking my daughter was dozing next to me. Apparently, she got up while I was out. She snuck into the kitchen, got into the fridge, and ate all but about 8 cookies. Now there was probably about 3 dozen cookies.
So I was pretty steamed about that. But here's the icing on the cake.
She had the gal to ask if she could have a cookie.... Like I wouldn't notice that almost all of the cookies were gone.
Of course, she was wired the rest of the day. We went to the store, she got to push one of the mini carts at least until she crashed it into a display. So after that incident, she was put in the cart so she couldn't wreak more havoc. We went out for dinner, I'm surprised she didn't knock anything over.
About 9pm, I was wishing for a a treadmill attached to a generator so that we could run her and power our house for a week!
So after picking up the hubby at 10pm, we got home, sent her to bed and thankfully she crashed.

So yeah. Kids. Some days I wish I could just ship her off to a reform school or something. I love my little monster, but damn it! She at all my cookies!

Yikes... that's a lot of cookies....

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After my usual 3 hours were up, I came out of the water, and he was there, extends his hand and says:
"Can I see the monofin please?"
I didn't want to hand it over, so I kept a hand on it, and he took offense
("I'm not going to break it"), so I let go reluctantly, and (what else)
he starts bending it lengthwise like crazy.

I could have screamed.
Turns out he doesn't know &%$ about monofins, but thinks he's supersmart because he's the coastguard trainer.
I snatched it back and left, but I was fuming all the way back, and I found a small scratch on the fin's underside
that wasn't there before the manhandling.

I am so furious!!

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Holy criminy- I'd make a complaint to his superiors, I really would. CG is military, and he had no right to behave that way- his superior officer needs at least to be told, "Look, your guy approached me and I don't know why, but then he bent my property." He had no reason to talk to you in the first place- sounds like a way to talk to an attractive gal- or to handle your monofin. A complaint might not do you any good, but if someone talks to him and about that behaiour, it could save the next gal from his approach. What a jerk!


I'm just peeved. Why do people offer help if they're not going to give it- especially if you don't even ask for help! They offer, and offer, and you say okay, and then nothing. I think they want to help, and then really, they don't or can't... but people, helping is not helping if you get someone's hopes up and then don't come through. GAH.

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I didn't.
I yelled "do NOT bend it that much!!" and he gave me that disbelieving "geez, hysterical girl, sheesh"-look.
Some people just lack any kind of sensitivity.

I had a friend once who ruined my laptop's keyboard by hammering the keys like he wanted them to come off despite my entreaties to press them like a normal person.
He just said, "what's the problem? just buy another keyboard, geez. No need to fuss about an object lol!"
(note: we're no longer friends :p)

So...I'm kinda touchy when others mishandle my stuff. grrr....:mad:

Oh geeze and he kept bending it. How rude! I agree with Deep on finding out who is superior is to have him get a talking to. It's not much, but maybe it'll help some.

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Why do people offer help if they're not going to give it- especially if you don't even ask for help! They offer, and offer, and you say okay, and then nothing. I think they want to help, and then really, they don't or can't... but people, helping is not helping if you get someone's hopes up and then don't come through. GAH.

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Oh yeah, that's another annoying thing.
It's common with people who like to pretend they're oh-so-generous and helpful, but only as long as they know you won't take them up on their offer.
And as soon as you give in to their incessant, "well, we've TOLD you you can at any time...blabla..your own fault if you don't partake of the offer", and ask them to actually do what they offered...dead silence.
And sometimes their "better half" is sent to speak on their behalf, and berate you for "demanding" something all of a sudden.
Yep.

I just got back from the beach... yesterday was a big beach day here, great weather and a Sunday. The beach has an unbelievable amount of trash on it. Plastic everywhere. If people don't care, I wish they'd stay off the beach. It's horrid.

Today I hate self entitlement.

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W3rd.

I know it's old news and I haven't been on the forums in FOREVER but I've been inactive because I am SO upset about not having my fishbutts tail by now. I ordered it back in october and I have been avoiding the forums cause its just reminds me how upset I am that I don't have it yet. I can't even stand to see their updates on facebook... *sigh* Tails aren't cheap and it's really shoty of Fishbutts to note even let their customers know how many other orders in front of them so they can even get SOMEWHAT of an idea... instead they offer only silence and will send you an update ONLY when your tail is ALL DONE T_T

I just want my tail...

*warning... foul language*



I fucking hate it when my roommate turns into a sorry pathetic little shit. Now, I get she has health problems, and I am understanding of them, but constantly using them as an EXCUSE not to do things is just fucking stupid. She does it ALL the time. It wouldn't be so bad if ahe actually TRIED to make things better, but she doesn't. You can practically fucking hand her a magic pill to fix her problems and she would find some reason why it wouldn't work.

I am getting so fucking sick of pulling her dead weight around. I can see why her mom is done paying for shit for her. Also, she doesn't even make any comment that she's upset and then later gets ALL pissy that she felt left out or whatever when she barely made an effort to speak up or participate. Instead she rests her head against the couch and finds excuses. Then later she gets all "I was in a bad mood... blah blah blah" How the fuck am I suppoaed to know that when you don't say a fucking word?! Now, her solution is to sleep. Which she will deny that she's sleeping. Oh! And she slept pretty much all day already. So, she was only up and about for maybe an hour?

And! She complains about being sick all the time, but when peoole tell her ways to get better (eat healthy, lose weight, exercise) she just gets pissy and repeats "I KNOW." Until you shut up.

UGH I'm just fucking DONE.

**I'm sorry if this hurts anyone, I just need to get it off my chest.**

I absolutely hate it when people don't use proper punctuation. What gets me fired up even more is when they don't use punctuation at all! Yeah, okay, a few mistakes are fine, everyone makes them, but not using punctuation at all? Seriously?
Punctuation was designed to be used so that people could read something and understand it, not so that you could just toss it to the side! It makes it easier for the reader, too.

What also gets me annoyed is when people use punctuation in the wrong way. Like sometimes, people will use an ellipsis for every single sentence. You are not restricted from using other punctuation.

Once again, I'm sorry if this offended someone. It was just annoying me and I needed to say it.