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Im sorry hun. Grandparents are so special. In my family i only talk to my grandma as my grandpa passed when i was in high school. Without my grandparents unconditional love i would not be here today!
Yours sounds like he played a huge role in your life too. Best wishes and sending love <3
I'm sorry, my step grandpa died this week and my grandma died the week before! lots of people leaving this world right now
I'm hella pissed off right now. I do me and if I dont need to involve others, I dont. Recently, I've been under the scrutinizing eye of my extended family. Usually I dont give a flying fish, but the gossip and talking behind my back is getting INSANE. I've been used primarily as a target against my immediate family from the extended family. Simply stated, my dad, his brother, and two sisters are in a huge fight and I keep getting brought up as the "family failure". Why, might you ask? Because I did an "implied topless" shoot and because I'm pagan/wiccan. I usually dont let it get to me, but the two things I absolutely love are falling under attack and it's really dragging me down. More backstory~ after some college I enlisted in the USMC. I did a fair amount of time, but due to a severe mental health crisis, I had to get out. I turned to mermaiding as a coping mechanism and its helped me gods only know how much.. it saved my life at least once. It was shortly after beginning my mermaid career that I turned to a combination of paganism and wicca as I found even more comfort in that vs the religion I was brought up in. I've been improving daily ever since my discharge, holding steady and equally impressive jobs, becoming more tolerant of my body and my self image, and I figured if I'm comfortable, why not try a shoot that empowers me? Plus, it's not like anything explicit can be seen anyway. But someone in the extended family found the image on my personal Instagram and took offense to it. And now I'm the "disgusting whore" that "doesnt believe in (their) god" and I'm "going to hell". I wouldn't let this bother me, but I'm at a low point right now, struggling to balance school with a full time and part time job, as well as trying to not let my inner demons return. I'm going through the grieving process as I just lost two of my very close residents (I'm a CNA) and one of my school mates all in the same day. The last thing I needed was this bull from the family. I'm just really upset right now and needed a safe place to rant. Attachment 43663
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Hugs! My family treats me like that too. I'm "the satanist druggy" because I'm HINDU and have to use medical cannabis for my extreme pain conditions!
You're not alone, and you are not bad just because you found a different path!!
Also, that's a gorgeous picture <3 i really like the way the lighting came out and the high level of contrast in the composition ^_^
*hugs both* Sorry to hear that your own family has the guts to think badly about you. You are wonderful people, never forget that
I really love the picture
Aww thank you but that's water under my bridge a long time. I'm also technically a bastard, which is actually the real reason my parents both hate me. Its sad bc i have almost no connection or ties to my huge family but... I've made a much better one ^_^
OMG that sounds so rough! Don’t let it get you down, you should be so proud of all those things you are doing!Quote:
Originally Posted by MissLunaBelle
If someone thinks it’s ok to tell you that you’re going to hell for not believing the same thing as them, they are the one with the problem. And that photo is not even remotely slutty, it is beautiful and artistic! It’s only showing your back which is something that would be seen when mermaiding normally!
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Don’t hate me for this, but if I see one more video of a mermaid blowing kisses I’m literally going to throw up lol.
Btw I think Luna’s photo is gorgeous
:lol:Quote:
Originally Posted by Imbrielle
I can so relate.
However, if you're doing some kind of show, sometimes you're starved for ideas what to do.
And smiling, waving and kissblowing is so much easier than other things, not to mention it might go down easier than menacing snarls or gestures :rotfl:
When you finally use your monofin, love it, and then somehow blow out discs in your back (based on my symptoms, omggggg)
I'm convinced some of y'all are really good with mermaid wishes due to the fact that so many mers post videos of themselves in gym pools but they are THE ONLY ONES IN THE POOL. Or at least the only ones on camera. My bitching about that isn't at them, it's at the chronically crowded state of public/gym pools where I am. Seriously. I need some of that fairy dust you all must be sprinkling in your pool's water.
Coming back from Hawaii my tail bag (with the tail inside) disappeared.... I am so pissed and scared. Its a Merbellas and i was wondering if anyone has tips for what i can do. i have already filed a missing bag report with the airline but i have to wait until the wednesday to file a repot if they have not found it.
the worst thing is that it says it arrives at the baggage claim, i didn't see it even though i was the first person there and it didn't show ups at oversized (where it usually come out) so i don't know where it could be...
Omg I cant believe its lost. A couple things could have happened dont panic just yet, (I'm saying dont panic, I would have been crying my eyes out and screaming like a mad woman) I'll be hoping it comes back to you. Keep us updatedQuote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Vee
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Better? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Imbrielle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8x-NXdLZV1g
When you finally can pull your monofin out of storage (linden) and the bags all ripped up and the tips are chewed to heck ... #livingwithpetsAttachment 43702
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Maybe they go on days and times when there aren't many people. That's how I do it, anyway.Quote:
Originally Posted by deepblue
Today I saw a girl swimming in what I am pretty sure is a knockoff tail...without a monofin. Ok cool, kid, you can get around the pool in a tail and no fin with your kick. Still made me a bit concerned. She also struggled to get the tail on far from the pool edge, and DRAGGED herself to the water.What kills me is she had TWO knockoff tails...and the kids flocked to her. Like hello what about me in my good, expensive tail? She kept trying to stealthily swim around us but never said a word.
A girl about 12-14 showed up at my pool the other day (I’m a lifeguard). Her mother proceeds to tell me (while laughing about it) that she can’t swim. And then not ten minutes later, the kid is putting on a knockoff tail with no monofin. I don’t understaaaand why people doooo that.Quote:
Originally Posted by Trade Winds
Do they seriously have no clue how dangerous that is? *shakes her head and sighs*
;) I hear your pain. Yeah yeah we have more time and experience, but we might not have the same experience. I know plenty of young people who are friggin brilliant. But I also occasionally get that same sort of condescending thing from them...
so bottom line is you never know what someone might know...
Once in a martial arts class, the sensei asked a question... even the black belts stood around going...eh...uh.... then a kid with a white belt answered it. "See, you can learn something from a white belt..."
A. the pic is fabulous (I commit art and photography and storytelling, that's good storytelling there, and leaves the right amount of info hidden and mysterious, also tasteful.
B. I don't know if you do pick your relatives before you incarnate here (some think you do) or if they just give them to you to show you something... or show THEM something. Basically pick your pod and keep boundaries around your DNA family. You are who you are, be that, don't let them put you in a bowl.
Wise. Not everyone can do their hobby or passion as a trade. Sometimes we balance our passions with what we do to make a living. Keep doing what you love, but know what you're diving into before you begin a business of any kind.
This could be a teachable moment if approached properly and positively... especially if you are a lifeguard at the pool. You could educate the parents... hopefully...
We strive to make sure we’re educating while maintaining a firm stance in our authority to make sure everyone is safe. Luckily, the girl didn’t attempt to leave the very shallow water (one of our pools has a shore-like entry)...Quote:
Originally Posted by swordwhale
You would be surprised at how little parents like to listen to lifeguards. It’s incredible at how quickly they are to forget that water is dangerous!
Yep and crap like this ends in tail bans which ruins it for everyone else
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Yeah, it really sucks.
Where I work, we have a specific test for swimmers with tails to take before they’re even allowed to leave the water that’s a couple inches deep. I wish more places would implement something similar.
Me too I'm fighting with our local council who own the pool to allow monofins and tails for those experienced to do it but it's not, not gonna happen if that makes sense. Not gonna be an overnight fix either
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When I cant cuss on a discord server because kids could/are in it. ugh.
There a nsfw tab for thatQuote:
Originally Posted by ChibyNerieda
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All of the issues people are having lately with public pools makes me feel very fortunate to live in Florida. Most springs allow tails, and my apartment complex doesn't care what I do in the pool so long as it doesn't involve alcohol. I guess so long as we aren't being a Floridaman (or even if we are) people are generally very lax.
I've used 'because I'm in Florida' as my reason when people ask while I'm dressed as a pirate in public and everyone so far is satisfied with that answer. I've even open carried a functional sword and nobody says a thing. =/
I really wish my state had more good, natural swimming areas.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlueCorvidae
ergh! sad but true!
Though I just had a random story from a cousin... when they were little, their dad would take them to the local state park lake. He'd turn them loose in the water, and go sit under a tree reading the paper. He was a farmer so hated being in the water, but the kids loved it. There were, at times, lifeguards there, and the water was (until you got out by the floaty buoy rope) shallow. And we never wore helmets either... I have no idea how we survived...
I would have removed her from the pool. I had to fight soooo hard to get my pool to reallow adults with monofins bc these idiot parents trying to drown their children. I dont get it...kids are soooo expensive if nothing else! Sheeesh
my B it out is definitely the knockoff sets and stupid parents ruining everything and trying to murder their own kids while doing it! UUUUUUUUUUUUGH
Hahahah love your ra t but your totally right. Its irresponsible people who have made it so hard for us to be able to use monofins it's taking the mick now. This is why I'm having a right fight on with my local council to allow me to use one once I've done my mermaid training. Do you think it's worth me doing some free diving lessons to
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If this is about my story about the kid in a knockoff and no fin...people who go to a local mermaid school frequent that pool, thus the lifeguards probably didn't bat an eye. She did get around perfectly fine in the pool with no fin tho.Quote:
Originally Posted by SirenGita
That makes sense. That dang video of the viral half drowning kids makes me crazy bc its always referenced...i don't get why swim tests arent more common in more pools?
They don't seem hard to administer and sure seems to prevent a lot of potential drowning attempts? I'm no lifeguard though so maybe there's a reason I'm missing
Maybe they think it's more trouble than it's worth? I dunno either.Quote:
Originally Posted by SirenGita
OHHH MMYYY GOOOODDDDDD I went to the usual pool we swim at and ANOTHER kid had a knockoff tail! No telling what knockoff brand it was but I know it was one because it had scales on the fluke. That's fine if the kid can swim well in it, but I have seen vids of adult mers testing knockoff tails and STRUGGLING to swim, and god it makes me nervous. this is a very merfriendly pool but I know once something happens with those cheapo tails, we are done for
argh!
I've had such a good time with my Fin Fun stuff, and so have other people. They are so affordable I can't imagine trying to save a buck and getting something unworkable.
We need to educate them.