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Rawr! Why must I get decently buzzed after one beer?!

Aww that is really lame Dylan. :( I don't really know how to make your sister less negative. Some people are just negative by nature. I am an only child so I haven't had to deal with siblings, but I definitely know what it feels like to be underappreciated. I try to be nice and do right but sometimes it feels like I get called out on even the tiniest thing and it turns a good day into a really bad day. My boyfriend has 6 brothers and sisters and he is the second oldest. He told me that he used to fight with his older sister all the time, but he said once she went off to college they became closer and now they get along really well. So maybe once you are able to leave and be off on your own everyone's opinions of you will change.

You don't sound lazy at all to me. To me it sounds like you deserve that down time on your computer. Sometimes I think it is hard for people to comprehend that others in their life work hard too and they don't exactly live a carefree life.

Here is my issue:
Recently it seems like my Mom has been treating me like I am an idiot. She tries to explain to me how to do certain tasks and I tell her, "Mom, you already taught me how to do this years ago." or, "Mom, I already know how to do that." and she insists on still explaining it to me. I have literally been shown how to sweep, mop, vacuum etc and I feel insulted that she thinks I don't already know how to do those things.

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Alea

Here is my issue:
Recently it seems like my Mom has been treating me like I am an idiot. She tries to explain to me how to do certain tasks and I tell her, "Mom, you already taught me how to do this years ago." or, "Mom, I already know how to do that." and she insists on still explaining it to me. I have literally been shown how to sweep, mop, vacuum etc and I feel insulted that she thinks I don't already know how to do those things.

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Dementia patients do that. They forget and then the next minute tell you the same things that they just told you.

Yeah my Mom has been worried about her memory. I think she just has a selective memory. She remembers everything business related really well but then family life stuff not so much. When I was little she would forget to pick me up after school, she forgets when my Dad is going on a trip he has been telling her about for like a month, etc.

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Originally Posted by Raayvhen

Rawr! Why must I get decently buzzed after one beer?!

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Are you joking? :D Think of the money you'll save! :lol:

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Originally Posted by PearlieMae

Are you joking? :D Think of the money you'll save! [emoji38]

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But its no fun when you're havinng a beer at home after work and you have to go upstairs for all the things.

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Originally Posted by Merman Dylan

I'm 20 years old. I can't wait until my mom helps me remodel my room. I'm thinking of cleaning it so I can get my room remodeled and lock myself in there. If my sister pisses off my brother again. I'm not going to get in a fight with him to help her out. I say this now, but I just know in my heart that I can't watch my brother harm her if he loses it again. You know, it's the funniest thing to me when I think about it. I wish they would realize that the only reason I might do less for them than before is because of how nasty they chose to be. I mean, I think it's amazing I still do anything to help them after being called all those insults. I probably have gotten a bit lazier but helping someone who thinks it's okay to walk all over you and take the my way or the highway attitude doesn't deserve my help. I won't sit by and watch a fight between siblings, but I'll be damned to hell before I go out of my way to help someone who insults me and tries to blackmail me like she did. I don't know how she got the pictures she got because there is no way I harmed her in a mood swing, and even if I did, I'm sure I was fighting within the prison of my own mind to stop myself. That's why I held back the last time she instigated a fight. The text I sent her had threats like I'll hurt you or your cat or I'll kill you, but I was angry. After a minute or two, I sent her a text that said that I could never do any of that, and I said I was running away. I actually ended up spending the night sleeping in my car until really late before coming back home to sleep in my own bed. I just think it was really low of her to try and twist me into some abusive person because of my mental disorder while pointing out as many flaws as she could about me. It took a lot of will power to stick to what I was asking her. It's like I said before. I don't ask for much. I just want them to respect my belongings and not do stuff that puts them at risk of getting broken. If they listened to me and left my computer alone while they cleaned, I wouldn't have this thought in my head that they could be responsible for my charger braking like it did. I was luckily to find one for 30 something dollars. That one was marked down because someone opened it. Obviously the universe isn't out to get me because I've done something wrong. You know, Karma. The only time I've ever gotten upset with someone enough to give them a hard time is because they deserve it. My bipolar doesn't spontaneously happen. For me to get angry in a mood swing way, it has to be triggered by something someone else does. It's never one sided. It's never just me that's the problem. However, if I get upset about anything, my family is all to happy to make up some kind of excuse to twist it into it being my fault. I sometimes can't even express my frustration about anything because my older brother tells me to shut up from another room when it doesn't concern him, and he threatens to get physical because he lacks the ability to argue his own view on things. It used to be easier for me to let this go, but now, the second they insist on me shutting up instead of letting me express my issues with something because they don't think I have any grounds or right to express them. I can feel a bipolar mood swing getting triggered. It isn't me, but they are provoking such negative emotions inside me without remorse that I can barely hold it back and under control. Last time I snapped out of a moodswing on my own, I was shaking like I was having a seizure. They are doing this so often, I think it could kill me to try and snap myself out of a mood swing. They won't let me express anything, and this negativity continues to build inside. My sister has no idea how exhausting it is for me to hold myself back when she tries to fight with me over stupid stuff. I moved my computer into my room to get some peace away from them, but I need a way to let this negativity go before I explode. I don't want to let it loose in a destructive way, but I can already feel it trying to break through. I think bits and pieces of it have already begun to surge out. I try to stay positive. I try to stay focused on the good things in life. I just can't escape the negativity surging toward me. I know life is full of ups and down, but I just wish I didn't have to deal with any of this.

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Dylan, it sounds like you're someone with a really sweet heart surrounded by people who do NOT have such a gift. That's a difficult situation to find yourself in. You can feel like there's something wrong with you because you can't help but help those who are hurting. You can also feel isolated and alone because it's difficult for your family to understand you or your feelings. Just know that there's NOTHING wrong with you. You're a sweet, caring individual and the world needs more people like you. But more importantly, the world needs YOU. Don't let anyone take that away from you and make you calloused like they are.

Now, as for your situation, it's tough, I know. But honestly, if there's anyone you can stay with even for a few days on the weekends or just every once in a while, it could help you to have some peace to yourself. Take some time for yourself everyday, take control of YOUR world and separate yourself from the chaos whenever possible. They may nag you about not being there for them or whatever, but don't let that get to you. If they're stubbornly bent on self-destructive tendencies, that's not on you. I know it's hard, because you have a sweet heart, but you're just putting a band-aid on the problem and encouraging those negative behaviors when you bail them out of it. Sounds really harsh, but it's true. Right now, it sounds like you're in serious need of some self-love because you've stretched yourself too thin caring for others around you. I'll be praying for you to get out of this situation as soon as possible, but I really hope this message helps in the meantime. If you ever need to talk or vent to someone, feel free to message me! No strings attached! :)

I've just had the most horrid event, just makes me angry. My singing group had a lovely day at the festival, singing and then we went to a wedding. We stopped singing after only a few songs in our set as they just weren't listening, they spoke over us and shouted and jeered. So very drunk.

I attempted to get them to join in and one of them turned to me and said 'Aren't you going to play us songs we actually know?" We're a sea shanty group, so of course we don't play modern music.

I said to him "Don't you know the drunken sailor, we're a sea shanty group this is what we do"

Just really irritated after a good day.

Trying to talk a Swedish girl out of wanting a basic.
Like just trust me, you don't want to deal with lying tailmaker!
"WOAH, your tail was crazy expensive, Mertailors basic only kosts 4000!"
That's because it's a thousand per swim you get out of it.

as long as you're an angel he won't be THAT bad. not every single tail is horrible, I've gotten two great ones but that might just be my luck.

Dylan, just be aware that with MerTailor, you could very easily be throwing away a large sum of money. I personally wouldn't risk it, but you do what makes you happy. I just wouldn't feel like a good mersister if I didn't mention it. Much love. :)

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Originally Posted by Merman Dylan

I read about all these problems and pestered him a bit about my tail, but I decided to drop it and leave him to focus on his work. I was just really impatient for my tail, and I was getting overly concerned about all these little details, and I should have just left it alone.

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I hope you will get what you paid for :thumbs-up:

Mertailor has certainly not changed to neoprene.

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Originally Posted by Merman Dylan

I already paid for it, so there isn't anything I can do about it. I'm actually very excited about getting it and trying it out. He's done some pretty nice work recently, and I walked into his shop to see what he was working on. I think it will be fine. I understand that Neoprene and Neoprin is different, and I understand what makes them different. I'm curious to find out how a spandex polyester mix works as a barrier in the tail. Since I can't refund it, I'll use it as a learning experience.

Here's a picture of one of the tails he's recently finished or finishing up with.
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I'm excited to see what mine will look like. I can't see myself using my silicone tail anywhere other than in a spring, and I don't get a chance to go there as often as I would like. It might last longer for me. They do a great job with the custom paint and if the only problem with it ends up being that barrier. I won't complain. I guess might start to stretch, but they use a very thick layer of this Polyester and Spandex mix. If nothing else, m curiosity will be satisfied, and I don't think that's a bad thing.

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The tail you pictured was sent to the Project Mermaids girls. They recently did a shoot with it; I love that paint job. I personally own one of his "basic silicone" tails with the neoprin and I haven't had a problem with stretching or major damage after a year of use. The communication thing bugged me too, and I emailed him in a very friendly way just to "check in" and always got a response in a day or two. Definitely stay positive and hopefully your tail comes out great. (:


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http://images.tapatalk-cdn.com/15/07...6edbc295d3.jpg is she being serious

Is it just me or is one side of the fluke bigger than the other? Creation Sirene tail that is.

Oh I just saw the Mertailor one... But isn't she already blacklisted? Why are people still paying for junk?

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Dylan that is really tough dude. I would have had the same idea to wrap the paddles in a towel and I am sure it would have worked if you had been allowed to do that! I understand what you mean about not wanting to be chewed out by your Mom. I have had times like that and my friend's boyfriend had his Dad chew him out today for the most petty thing ever and he ended up crying. :( We ended up being able to help calm him down and later he called his Dad telling his Dad where he was coming from and that really helped. I think most of us can agree that we have dealt with parents who don't understand or they might be too strict about certain things, etc. This guy I am talking about totally means well but he doesn't like confrontation with his parents, so he tries to just avoid conflict and keep quiet. Today we encouraged him to explain where he was coming from. Of course it sounds like you have already tried that, and no one wants to really listen. I have had that problem too.

What have your friends told you? When they come over do they see what you are talking about with family issues?

Dylan, it's easier said than done, but it sounds like you're giving these people too much power over you and you'll have to learn eventually how to not let what they say and do get to you. It's tough when it's family, but that's the only way you'll be able to spend anytime with them. Otherwise, you'll just want to move out and never look back, and you'll always wonder whether you could've had a relationship with them. Now, notice I didn't say a GOOD relationship with them, because I don't believe that's possible unless they change. But in the meantime, try surrounding yourself with people who will love you. Make friends, visit a church, go to conventions. Places where I've made friends and I know you will, too. I'll keep praying for you in the meantime and I'm here if you need to talk! Anyone can add me on Facebook. I'm Ashley Rodriguez. Same profile picture. I promise I'll listen and won't judge you! :)

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Originally Posted by Mermaid Jaffa

Is it just me or is one side of the fluke bigger than the other? Creation Sirene tail that is.

Oh I just saw the Mertailor one... But isn't she already blacklisted? Why are people still paying for junk?

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I don't think she's blacklisted, and I believe there are many european mers that don't care/don't know better.
(The european mertailor fits her so well sometimes)