He's being very disrespectful to you in your own home. If he won't listen to you because you're a woman, I'd have a talk with your husband. At the very least he should be piping up with a "You can't talk to my wife like that."
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He's being very disrespectful to you in your own home. If he won't listen to you because you're a woman, I'd have a talk with your husband. At the very least he should be piping up with a "You can't talk to my wife like that."
I agree. It's really very frustrating in every way. But to be fair, my husband wasn't in the room when I got my confirmation that he was DEFINITELY manipulating us. And I never actually talked to him about it because it was so hurtful and disheartening. He was extremely disrespectful to me and to Lunette behind her back (I've already told her) because she helped me to realize his manipulation by helping me to remember that I had made myself clear in her presence as to how much the rent was. I told my hubby just a minute ago how I'd really like for us to ask his friend to leave and explained that it's because of how he treated me when I confronted him (about something only partially related to the subject - how he didn't listen to me when I told him how much rent was and that hurt my feelings. I said this because I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt still and hope that he really simply didn't hear me or something). So I really don't feel comfortable with him living with us anymore. My husband's response was entirely understanding and he's all right with us asking him to leave. I just don't feel that I can wait another two months with him here... I want to have peace with him since he's my hubby's best friend, but I feel the best way to acquire that peace would be to have him leave. Sigh... :(Quote:
Originally Posted by Celaeno
You definitely need your sanity. I'm glad your husband is backing you up.
Lotus... First off I'm very glad he is being kicked out, and that your husband is understanding.
Second... I think your husband needs to find a better friend :/
@Lotus Glad to hear he's moving out, that's a horrible situation to be in. :(
Thanks, all. I'm really glad my hubby has my back in this situation. He always does, but we've never dealt with a situation like this before so I got insecure. X-x
He pointed out something that I never realized, too. Evidently, a lot of our arguments over the years we've been together have been about this friend. (Only when we've been forced to interact often like when they lived together before). That is a bad sign! He always puts me first and he reiterated that tonight, but man... I would LOVE to never have to deal with this guy again. T-T
Anyway, thank you all so much for your support!! I'll let you know when the situation changes. Hugs and love to all!! :hugs: <3
yes! so glad to hear he might move out :D (it has been difficult to hold my tongue when i come over)
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I agree with what everyone else has already said about the matter.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lotus the Mermaid
This so called friend needs to move out of your house pronto!
I'm happy to hear that your hubby is on your side and is willing to ask him to leave, that must be such a relief!
Out with the manipulator and in with the peace and quiet!
Good luck! :hug:
For anyone of you who is thinking of taking someone in to stay.....here is a saying a friend of mine told me and it sure is the truth :" Guests are like fish, after 3 days it starts to stink."
My parents had guests in their house in Denmark last week and boy oh boy was that awful for them.
My brother and his wife were there and another couple....this is a tiny house they have and in my eyes not big enough for 6 people.
The couple did not pay for ANYTHING! and let my parents pay for everything. These were not my parents guests by the way but my brothers
My brother gave my parents money to pay for stuff.
On the second last day my brother, his wife and the couple played a concert together and when they got paid my brother said:" I will give the money from this concert to my parents to pay for the expenses ok?"
And guess what the couple said? The said:" No, we want our share since we still have to do concerts in Sweden and want the money for travels."
Guests are just lovely :thumbdown:
my anxiety level has been so dangerously high lately and I don't know why. I go back to school tomorrow and I don't want to. I'm thinking of applying for a job that I can't apply for until I have my drivers license. I'm bored with drivers ed, it gives me more anxiety because it makes everything sound hard and I'm scared of all these laws. I have to take the SATs this year and I just want to crawl under a rock and die. Also, if I took the job I'm thinking about I wouldn't be working with some of my lifelong friends and it wouldn't be my second home. I don't think I'd have to quit that job since its twice a week during summer and once every two weeks during the school year but what if I do? I don't get paid for that job but I would for the other one. I have problems with both facilities as well, one more than the other. I'd be working with more animals and cooler ones at that but is it worth it? I'm getting so close and climbing the ladder so quickly and I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I can give that all up, and if I started at a new facility I bet they'd make me start from the beginning which is so tiring. I'm going to probably be thinking about this for weeks now, which means I won't concentrate on important things like sleeping and school. I really don't like this whole growing up thing.
Yeah, growing up sucks.
I work at a library and I love it, but still. The added resonsibility of working is scary. You're going into your Junior year? I'm going into Senior.
Is there any way to keep both jobs? I wouldn't want to throw away progress either. Not that I've made much at my library. (I just shelve)
Good luck. I'm sure either or both will open up new possibilities and broaden pathways.
I hate having more adult responsibilities. I am going into junior year, even though I only was in actual school for a semester last year. I'm thinking I could keep both, because one isn't full time and the other says they have a flexible schedule. I think it would be good to broaden my horizons since I've had my heart set on an unrealistic job for years and it's time to break out of my comfort zone. Thank you
Both is good. New jobs are good for broadening horizons.
I was sure I was gonna be a cop for years, then I started working at a library, which meshes much better with the prospect of mermaiding. And my bibliophilic tendencies.
Yay.
they're both in the same department, just different locations. one of their animals is one of our animals' brother! I met him today which totally has me excited. I love certain aspects of both jobs, I guess I should check out pros and cons? this is new to me, I never really put thought into moving locations.
You actually get paid for working in a library?
In the Netherlands that is considered more of a volunteer job, meaning no pay.
I understand that growing up is scary.
Especially with all the responsibilities.
Usually when you live at home, meals are cooked for you, laundry gets washed, the house gets cleaned, errands get run etc.
When you are on your own it means doing it all yourself not to mention the stress of paying all your bills, working or going to school or even doing both.
It is very scary.
My hubby is 25 and still has trouble adapting to this life.
Even long back for the days where i could just stay in bed and watch cartoons as a kid, or play outside with not a care in the world.
Growing up sucks, but there is no way out of it, unless you marry a millionair i guess lol or become one yourself ;-)
As far as your job, if you need the money from the one job then take it.
It's sad to say it but money is what you need to survive, meaning pay your bills, pay for food etc.
If you can keep both, that is even better.
You can always choose later if needed.
The best of both worlds sounds perfect for you at this time.
I would suggest taking a day or afternoon of.
Like a Sunday afternoon and just do whatever it is that you want to do.
For me a Sunday afternoon means laying in bed and watching a long dvd with some chocolate.....aaaahh.....heaven :-)
Working in a library sounds so awesome!
I love books, i love reading, i love peace and quiet, i love being surrounded by books!
If only they paid you to work at them here, i would have definitely went for it.
Congrats on such an awesome job!
:: gently nudges pretty shinies and comfort food towards Nerine:: :: cautious hugs :: it will be glorious, and this is just a temporary setback.
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Ah but it's not just reading and putting books away :P *states at library tech diploma on my wall*
its a lot of cataloging new books, weeding outdated books, setting up programs for the community so guests can come back, shipping and reviewing books for inter library loans, acquisitions, promoting books and people, not to mention dealing with theft and hobos, and copyright laws....
What you described still sounds like an awesome job to me! :)
Love love love books!
Sadly I'm seriously considering leaving mermaiding. The thought alone makes me pretty depressed, but in the past two years I've seem in my tail maybe 3 times. I just don't get to use my tail enough to really justify it. I don't really have much of a pod near me, so no one to swim with. It just depresses me that I have something I put do much money into, only to never use it. I feel like it would be better off with someone who could use it on a regular basis.
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