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Yep, to back up what others have said, I've learned the hard way that if you put things off until you loose 'enough' weight then you will be waiting for the rest of your life. Life is too short. Live now rather than later when it might be too late.
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I'm in the same debate right now too! I've decided to custom make a "perfect" for me fabric tail that I will spend a lot of hours and resources painting- When it starts to fail, I'm moving to silicone, and that's that. Right now, I'm going with fabric simply because there's a down payment for a house in my future, and a starter home in my area is easily 350,000 USD and up... crud, my parents' starter home in this area was purchased for 300,000 and sold at 460,000... with nothing upgraded. Weight is weight. If a tail gets me moving more often, then my waist will shrink.
I have a painted neoprene tail as I know initial weight loss is usually the most dramatic. The plan is that when I can't take it in anymore without spoiling the paint job, I will turn it into a sequin tail to use alongside my silicone tail I'll be starting after Xmas :)
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I was in a similar situation but the problem is I was severely underweight. it really sucks hearing your parents nag you. I'm sure she means well, but parents just don't get it. hang in there, it will get better!
Soooo... I hate talking on the phone.
Hate it.
If I have to, and am prepared, I can do it, but I called a previously automated phone number and a person answered and I freaked out internally.
It was the right number and she did the same thing the system use to, but I was not prepared for that :|
It also means I cannot call at odd hours anymore to pick up stuff the next day.
Blah.
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Aysun, I hated to call people to, and I still don't like it. But due to the work that I'm doing I get called constantly to help people in the company. It helped me to get over this hate/fear of calling people for a huge part, but I still try to avoid it.
What I always try to remember, when I call people, is that they are there to help you and get odd calls all the time. It also helps to have a little list of points that you want to ask or any other information that can help you.
I hope this helps a little :) *hugs*
Yeah I had anxiety over phones... I now work in an inbound call centre. Mostly over it now as a result.
But now my reluctance to answer phones is either legit (like mum trying to put me on to her church friend who I barely know and don't really get on with amazingly)
or cause it's the last thing I want to be doing after answering phones all day. Lol
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Yeah I used to get the whole "You really need to exercise if you want to lose weight" so when I started Fencing, and then Tae Kwon Do, suddenly they're all "Just, go slow, take it easy" and I'm all like 'ROUNDHOUSEBACKKICK!'
Sweetheart, I'm 5'4" and I weigh over 320lbs, and I'm no less of a mer than anyone else on this forum. You, at whatever weight you carry, are no less of a mer than anyone else on this forum. Your mother probably doesn't realize that she's bullying you, she means to help but she doesn't get it. Just like those strangers who like to tell me all about their new weight-loss diets and how I should totally try it because it would obviously change my life. I know it hurts, but you can't let it get you down. Chin up, Kelly, time to give the haters a mental middle-fin, or a literal one if you're so inclined, and go kick some ass! Make that tail in *your* size, whatever size that may be and cultivate your confidence, and you're gonna be the most beautiful mermaid in Sacramento.Quote:
Originally Posted by KellyMermaid
So.....i am going through some sort of a crisis.....i am all over the place.:help:
We had a show this week and my brother barely talked to me, most likely since i told him i do not want to sing at my dad's party.
I am the creative one in the family, crafting, painting etc....so at the show my brother gave my mom a white card board storage box for the baby's room and told my mom to paint it any way she wants for the baby. He said they had more of them and were giving them to people to get creative for the babies room as a nice memory for later.
And guess what.... i did not get one.
I am pretty sure he did it on purpose, giving it to her in front of me because my mom has been over there a few times now (even the day prior) and did not get it, but he gave it right in front of me.
Not sure what his deal is.
Like i said...i am going through a crisis..... i used to love everything related to performing....i just don't like performing with my family or in the setting it is done.
I just don;t like it. The family stress and drama....i cant take it. I am too senseitive to it. I also hate performing on parties/events/special occasions...never liked it since it was me performing and i was not a character...someone else.
Today i had a rough day with my hubby....we had a pretty big fight.
Now i am thinking back on my ex boyfriend who was an artist.
I was on tour with him when we were together and i loved it.
I even performed with him once and it was so awesome and exciting.
Don't get me wrong here....i do not want to get back with my ex, he was a cheater.
But i have to say even though he was a cheater and a lier, we did have really great times and he showed and taught me so much.
I will always be thankful for that.
If it wasn;t for him i would still be living at home with my parents since my mom kept saying i could not leave her with my dad, she would not let me move out.
He helped me to stand up to her and actually move out.
The few times that i really loved performing were always the times when i was not doing it with family.
LIke the one time i had an actual paid job as a mermaid....boy oh boy that was such an amazing time! I absolutly loved it and wanted more of it!!
It did not help that my family was against it and making sure i new they did not like it.
They brought me down, talking me down and making me doubt myself.
So many fights happened, one where i even said to my mom" How come when my brother starts something new for himself you and dad are totally behind him and supporting him in every way and now finally i found what i love to do and you do nothing but bring me down and work against me? Is a mom not supposed to always support her child, and especially if she has found something she loves to do?"
Her reply was that being a mermaid was never going to bring in money, it was a waste of time blah blah blah.
We had so many fights and the stress was so high that i got Meniere's disease and the doctor told me it was a risk to swim :cry:
My voice has gotten worse and worse over the years and it is because of stress.
I went to the hospital for it years ago, they gave me a note to see a vocal coach.
My vocal coach was wonderful and such a sweet woman.
One day she told me that she needed to talk to me and asked me if i even liked performing with my family.
I opened up to her and told her how i felt and she told me that all that stress and those emotions are what is causing my voice to be so unstable.
since then it has gotten worse and worse every year.
My vocal coach told me to quit the shows as well, talk to my family and i have but my mom refused to let go and kept on talking me down so i felt so insecure i did not dare to leave the shows anymore.
In a month or so our new season officially starts and i have at least 2 songs to sing (maybe 4 in total), i gave my dad the music and he wrote lyrics to it.
The lyrics actually turned out very nice and i am excited to sing the songs now....just not excited about the show and the time i spent with my family.
I know it will be super stressful and tense, i know it will drain my energy levels completly leaving me exhausted for days.
Now i am wondering...maybe i am a performer at heart just not with my family.
Maybe i need to be on my own and actually have the chance to shine on stage without my family trying to over shadow me....my brother always wants to be the center of attention and be the star.
Last show i was talking to a woman and my brother just grabbed a guitar and started playing on it loudly, and singing and he can't sing at all....i could not even hear the woman anymore and just nodded and smiled when i thought i was meant to do so....i mean...who does that? Who is so rude and such an attention wh*re that they grab a guitar and start playing loudly while people are trying to talk?
I ended up walking out and calling my hubby to blow off some steam after the guitar playing, the card box thing and my borther just talking over everyone about himself.
Maybe all i need is to be away from them and perform on my own.
Problem there is that they have been talking me down so much on me performing by myself that i am way too scared and insecure now to do so.
Even if i would leave the show i think it would take years for my voice to get back to normal.
I think that i am too late in this life time to be able to do so.:sad eyes:
To top it off i am stressed out beyond belief about the new house situation.
I called a company to ask if they could build a house before decembre and they said probably not but they would call me back.
They called me back and said they had an opening in novembre and that building the house would only take a week or so (depending on how the weather is) but we had to come by asap to talk things over, design the house on the inside etc.
So we are going to do that on Tuesday.
The stress of having to get everything ready before Decembre is insane. The fact that we can't get a loan but need to loan the money from my parents is an awful feeling....it really is.
Not being able to pay for the move yourself makes me feel like a loser, all these years of hard work and not even having any savings in the bank.....
I know that we are doing very well with our business and all and simply had to invest our money to be able to grow, which we succeeded in, but still.....
Now my parents have something to hold over our heads if i would want to leave the show, and i don't like that one bit.
Besides that...the house we are getting is smaller then the house we have now for all our stuff so we need to come up with very creative ways of storing everything.
We also had to get all the paperwork ready for my hubby for the dutch immigration office to get his permit to stay renewed.
I called the immigration to double check some things and turned out they had us fill out the wrong paper work so we had to redo everything last minute!
Luckily we got it all done in time but it was so stressful!
To top it off....after all the bad days i had....on Wednesday a damn wasp decided that the calf of my lower leg was the perfect spot to inject his poison!
My calf has been red, swollen and itchy ever since.
Today is the first day it is not so red and itchy anymore, but still there.
I made a new pact with myself to keep the weekends free to do crafting and realxing, maybe play some harp etc but then my hubby started to fight with me, ruining my relaxing time.
We talked it all out, but i feel all weird inside.
I have such a hard time getting over fights.
I know it is best to forget about it, turn around leaving it behind you and move on, but somehow that is almost impossible for me!
I have no idea how to change that about myself.
Forgot to mention that my mom said this week that she will need me to help 2 hours a day for the move, since they have to move a lot of there stuff, and i have no idea where to find 2 hours a day in my schedule! I simply don't have that time, especially not when we are going on tour again in octobre.
And then last Tuesday i found out my hubby was not doing the work he was supposed to be doing.
He had not done any of it the past 12 days! And all that while i was working my ass off every single day!
I found out because i thought it was weird how much free time he had to play video games when i barely have any free time so i checked it out and discovered it.
Now i am starting to feel as if i can't trust him, since i feel it is not my job to watch over him to make sure he does his work.
That should come naturally when you are an adult and have responsibilties.
I guess it is one of those times where you just want to crawl into bed, pull the blankets over your head and not get out untill all the sh*t is over.
Sorry about the long rant...really needed to get it off my chest....
They call it "stop and frisk" in NYC. Part if the "Broken Windows" policy...they feel if they pursue petty crimes, it will deter bigger ones.Quote:
Originally Posted by -Annwyn-
All they found was that it unfairly targets minorities. Note they are going to hand out "receipts" telling people why they were stopped, hoping it will cut down on complaints from people who claim they are being stopped unfairly.
It's all bullshit.
Ugh just annoyed. I had a argument with my sister about proper fish care. My older sister made such a big deal about it even though i know more about it then she does. I hate when the only way i can stop. Fights is to just accept thier bullshit before it goes out of hand.
So I post my thoughts on my blog. II only post little fights, not the big ones. My other sister who was in the same room who follows me pointed out my post kinda shaming me. For venting on my own blog. Like I was already over it but thanks to sister #2 for announcing that I post whats on my mind on my blog in front of my dad (thankfully not in front of sister #1 who was involved with the fight)
I thought today would be a good day but so far it's 4:00 and I think my thumb is broken and I want to press charges against two different people
My girlfriend convinced me we will use our tails in front of my family Monday. Wonder when her family gets the same show?
Whats up with all these new profiles popping up, and just saying "make me a tail, please." Or just spamming and being totally rude or thirsty.
It bugs me so much.
Or "can you post videos of every step? Im 8"
As if a parents would be like "3500 for a tail he/she will grow out of in a year?" Sure.
It sounds mean but it cloggs up the forum too
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So glad I haven't really noticed any of this since I'm hardly on the forum anymoreQuote:
Originally Posted by Imogen Finnly
Well the one member who was bugging Pearlie was banned.
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Last week we moved from the house I've been living in for 16 years.
It feels weird, but it's bigger and next to the forest so that's great.
BUT NOW I CAN'T GET MYSELF TO A POOL SO GOODBYE SWIMMING
4 km to nearest busstop, and I don't have a driver's license, or the 1300$ to get one, and I can't get a job without the ability to get out of the house.
UGH UGH UGH
And everything is such a mess, I don't have room yet, so I don't really have a place to sit down with all my stuff and create things I could possibly sell.
It will probably be better in a few weeks.
Ouch.
wait, it's 1k to get a driver's license there?!