Gordon Shagene just liked my page with 4 different accounts this morning, I blocked them all
Gordon Shagene just liked my page with 4 different accounts this morning, I blocked them all
judging from his (unblocked and adult) content, i think that was a VERY SMART decision :\
After reading through the thread I just want to caution people that contacting friends/family of the individual could be seen as reverse harassment or revenge trolling. I think there's only a small space in which that would be appropriate and I think it falls under people who are underaged or suspected of having a mental disorder that makes them delayed developmentally. I have to strongly advise against it as per the rules we set up for the thread. The purpose of this thread is to identify who people are so we can personally block communication from them, and if needed, report them to the authorities.
Thanks for your understanding :)
Duly noted. (but, i do it anyway.)
I just wanna give an example of some comments I get. Not rude or harassing, but I always think it's weird some men think this is appropriate. It's like internet cat calling to me. You don't know me at all. I just find it weird and makes me uncomfortable. I wont respond to people like this. lol
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ah yes, I get tons of "conversation starters" like that.
Especially the "hi there beautiful" and such I really don't get.
What exactly is my incentive to respond to that? lol.
and the millions of "pokes", what's up with that?
Am I expected to look up the pokers, find them interesting, and poke them back, or what?
Do they realize how many pokes I get, and that I would be sitting on FB all day if I tried to react to them?
Recently me and Mermaid Diona (Mermaid Lorelie lucked out) had some trouble with merverts. For me, it was a guy who came up to our giant clamshell and asked if he could cuddle. Now, I'd been "spooning" people all day as they would lay across the clam in front of me so I assumed that's what he meant and was cool with it. Nope. He laid down and wrapped his arms around me and held me tight. It didn't last more than a second but if I'd had enough time to respond it would not have been very pleasant of me. I was very happy to see him leave. I also have a stalker-ish ex who kept coming up to the booth and acting completely inappropriate to both myself and the other mermaids. Oh, what fun!
Then of course Mermaid Diona was on display at the end of day two of Comic Con, and a drunk man and his friend came over and harassed her. So glad we have some tough pirates working for us, because otherwise us poor mermaids probably wouldn't be able to keep ourselves from being slobbered all over and hit on by drunks at a convention.
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Oh my gosh.. he held you?!
My face when I read that: https://31.media.tumblr.com/8f013f19...ljgho1_500.gif
That's just creepy... so crazy Merin! I wonder what makes people think it's okay to do these things. I bet they wouldn't consider trying something like that usually.. just because there's a mermaid around, people get stupid and try to push their limits. So direspectful! I'm glad you had Pirate Protectors on hand. I can only imagine the situations you'd swim into without them. Btw. I saw the giant clamshell on Siren Tide's facebook page. Where did you guys get that? So cool!
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Yeah, that was my face too. My pirate on hand at that point made sure he didn't try anything funny real quick after that. It was shocking AND creepy. Caught me off guard. Cat-calling I get, by hugging and squeezing was definitely a first.
That's a funny story. The clam was actually my bed when I was a little girl. c:
personally would've told him off. but i tell a lot of people off. mainly wolf whistlers, honkers, cat callers.. because why the fuck. i don't even.
Yes our merwranglers act like bouncers for us at events where people behave like that
Merwranglers=Mermaid Bodyguards.
That's not funny.. that is SO cool! Was it made for you? How special! So you've always been a mermaid at heart I take it? :DQuote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Merin
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Originally Posted by Mermaid Corabelle
My bedroom had an oceanic wall mural painted and I slept in a clam. As a redhead, I'm a bit biased in the fact that Ariel is my favorite Disney Princess. I blame her for the fact that ever since I was a guppy I've been dreaming of becoming a real mermaid. <3 Hehehe!
Yeah, our Merwranglers are our Pirates, and they definitely make the most intimidating bouncers. Mermaid Nautia especially. Hahahaha!
Merwranglers are awesome. In the past Gordon Shagene has liked my page with multiple accounts and I kept blocking him. Christoper Perry messaged me once or twice too. I have not blocked him yet, as he hasn't messaged me since. The issue I have now is this Midwest Merman Steve person who went one step further and is following my personal (non-mer) profile, plus he's tried to add me as a friend which I have ignored and deleted the request. I don't need those people in my life!
My partner/mer-wrangler is an ex-bodyguard. It helps a lot.
not mermaid specific but today my friend and i were walking back from the neighbourhood convenience store back to her place and these construction workers kept cat calling us.. and by their fourth attempt i'm already was pretty irritated so i told them to "EXQUEEEZE ME WE AINT YO DOGS OK DON'T FUCKING CAT CALL US OR WHISTLE AT US" aaand that stopped.... until another girl walked by and they started cat calling at her :\ WTF.
and then one guy honked at us AND ROTATED HIS HEAD a full 90 degrees instead of paying attention to the road... and that did it for me.
"oh HELL NAH. LOOK THE OTHER WAY, SON, WE AIN'T INTERESTED."
BAH.
Yeah, it's pretty ridiculous. My daughter and I were walking in a local park when a middle aged guy, in his 40s, I guess, yelled at us from his moving car "can I party with you lovely ladies?"
My kid was ELEVEN! I told him, in no uncertain terms, to go f--- himself. I would have ground his teeth into the curb if I could have caught him.
I get "screamers" all the time when I'm out... I'll be walking down the road and someone will lean out their car window to scream things at me as they drive by... Usually really quick, vulgar things like "SUCK MY D***" or "SUP B****"... Which sometimes triggers panic attacks because I have issues with loud, sudden noises like that. :/ This kind of stuff happens SO OFTEN to women around here.
Damn, I never realized how numb I am to that stuff. I don't even bat an eye anymore to cat-calls (mostly because it's SUPER easy for me to block out English since it's not my first language)
When I lived in Iran, guys cat-calling out of moving cars was so f*****g common place that I really just gave up trying to have comebacks to it. It was so much more of a *sigh* again dude? *head shake* thing. I mean, the god damned police used to do it to me. Not even kidding on that one. It happened three times I was walking home and the police tried to hit on me from their stupid green-sided car. The act of getting in a car and driving up and down the same damn street in a weak attempt to hit on girls is SO commonplace that we actually have a slang word for it.
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Although, I will say even in Iran, no guy ever screamed at me to suck his d*** or actually made any overtly perverse comments. Well, with the exception of one police officer... Like, most of the cat calling was saying "Pretty girl! Do you want to get married?" (which is hard to explain culturally, because they aren't offering you a serious marriage, they're offering you a temporary one, which is totally legal in Iran, go figure...) or "Cutie! Come here! I want to talk to you!"
I am ashamed to admit that a few worked on me because, well, the guy was nice looking and the car was a good car. And in the end I usually ended up at a mehmooni with a few thousand extra tomans and some illegal alcohol. Lol (I was a bad kid. A cute one, but a bad one nonetheless). Once I got a santoor out of talking to a guy in a car, so.... Turns out he thought I was pretty and asked if I wanted it? I said sure, and he handed it to me and asked which coffee shop I went to regularly, and I told him and then he met me there and bought me coffee. Idk, I would never ever, EVER recommend it to anyone, because it's a great way to have something horrific to happen to you, both in Iran and abroad as well, but I guess I just got so used to crap being terrible I felt I had nothing to lose.... :doh:
i was desensitized to that stuff too when i was younger. eventually as i got older i grew real tired of their shit. :\
I used to be a kissing wench at a renaissance festival. This is where I would kiss a guy's cheek to leave lip prints and I would usually get tips. Pretty harmless, actually. But I learned early on to get a death grip on the guy's head because there were the punk asses who would try to turn their head at the last second to get a real kiss. Nope. Didn't let that happen. I've been groped and pinched as well, but I firmly took charge of the situation and they would stop. That experience has helped me deal with perverts in other times where I've had to be 'on display' at an event or party. You take charge, tell them the rules and don't let them get away with anything. We didn't have any handlers when wenching. Usually I was by myself. But I had a good sense on who I could play with and who to leave alone. I know with being a mermaid, you can't move away from a situation so thank the gods for merhandlers! lol.
Wow, um.... Either I've never been one for looks, or I live in super-safe communities. I've never been cat-called or stalked by anyone online.
I get lucky too. I get a few creeps but I'm not harassed too often. It's not even about looks. Once I was cat called in sweatpants and a bun.... From behind. It's just about oh look a woman lets disrespect
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Agreed. It's not about looks. I'm not THAT pretty. But I do know (when I lived in Iran at least) that I looked very "rural". Which meant easier target. In America, I look foreign.... Which again translates to easy target.
If an Anglo woman is going to be harassed and cat-called, a minority immigrant woman stands even less chance because the aggressor already is aiming to dehumanize you, so when you're by-default dehumanized by the media... Yeah...
I've been harassed only a number of times in my life- every single time when I was sick/had a fever.
Never when I was feeling well.
Apparently (or so I heard behind my back), I have a "scary as hell"-look when not running a fever.
(not to mention, I'm perfectly capable of being my own merpunch-, er, wrangler.)
Or maybe, like Anahita said, it's about looking vulnerable, and someone who is ill certainly looks vulnerable.
I look mixed/ foreign :/ and regardless I what I'm wearing it happens. Though I've noticed it's reduced now since I've been wearing my weddings rings ..
I was explaining the other day to a co-worker of mine how I never swim alone for 'security reasons'. That I always like to have, at the very least another mer with me or my partner around She was actually shocked to hear of people acting anti-socially towards people like me and how deliriously stupid people get at the very notion of a simple mertail.
It's almost like seeing someone dressed as a mermaid triggers a synapse in their brain that reminds them of their Neanderthal roots or something.
That's why I really don't like events or crowds, preferring to swim during the week when pools are quiet (preferably early in the morning, with no children) and rarely ever/never during school holidays. Perhaps I just like my privacy. *shrugs*
Annwyn^ I think I remember you posting before about a guy on youtube who wouldn't stop with the gross comments? I remembered I had experienced the same guy too. If you get a chance I'd love to have any screen caps if you still have them or even just a brief summary/his user name that other people could add to. I can't find the thread we discussed it in before. I don't have his comments anymore on my end, but I remember he was like bboy or something like that and particularly bad.
Oh thank sweet merciful Poseidon for this thread... Raina this is a great idea, thank you so much for allowing a safe, calm place to list all this info for other mers to see... Gordon Shagene had "liked" my mer-page under three or four different accounts. I just removed them all and banned them permanently after reading this thread. Thankfully I still only have the one "photoshoot", so I haven't been attracting any pervy comments yet. I honestly don't care if mers are what floats your boat, but having a completely inappropriate profile and contacting minors is an automatic boot from me.
Craig Bohn apparently poked me on my personal account as well. I'm pretty sure that's the only contact I've had with him, but that's also because I have no in-water shoots yet, methinks.
Perverts aren't just relegated to modelling, either... I've gotten far, far more than my fair share of perverts harassing me for absolutely no reason other than the fact that I have mammary glands. It's kind of a regular thing, depending on where I'm at/who I'm with, but on the internet it happens pretty much constantly just because people can be jerks.
Anahita: You? Rural?!? :O_o:
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Originally Posted by AniaR
~Mermaid Sirenia~
Can someone show/tell me how to block someone off a page? I can't find him under my users that like my page but he keeps messaging me. It's Christoper Perry so any help ASAP would be appreciated.
For background I'm not sure if he actually "likes" my page but he messages me and likes my posts.
Blocking people on FB:
on your facebook page, to the right of your notifications, there is a padlock. if you click that, it opens up the privacy menu. Go to "how do I stop someone from bothering me?" and it will ask for his name. Once you type that in, it will open up a list of all users with that name. you can scroll through that list, and pick which profiles you want to block. Once blocked, the individual will not be able to contact you in any way (unless they create another profile)
But he doesn't actually like the page so it doesn't pop up :P
Like that's for just your normal facebook page this is on my mermaid page :(
it shouldnt make a difference.. however, you can also go to his page, via clicking on his name in one of the messages he has sent you, and there is an option to block/report from there (next to message, it shows up as an elipsis (...))
oh.. for a professional page, I'm absolutely of no use, sorry
I did that but he is still liking my stuff and I don't want him to have any access to it :(
Drake- it only works to ban them from the page. And if you block them personally, they can still comment on your page you just wont see it. You can only ban them from the page if they have it liked.