Originally Posted by
Sabrina the Selkie
And on another note: a friend I used to tutor in Japanese asked me to prom. I've been debating my answer for weeks now, and he's been incredibly sweet and patient.
There's this other guy who has been extremely passive about relationships. He asked me out months ago, but aside from vague flirting we've done nothing. And he's too chicken shit to make a move. ON SOMEONE HE ALREADY ASKED OUT WHO SAID YES.
I know he isn't going to ask me to prom. I just do. He's the sort of gamer dude who probably thinks he's too nerdy/off beat/cool to go.
So. Today, I tried to tell him that someone asked me to prom and that I was going to say yes. But then I needed to educate the lunch table about feminism. So I couldn't, because he'd think I was just rejecting him because of some of the ignorance I've had to stomp out of him - and the entirety of the table.
That is not the issue. That was never the issue. He's smart, funny, and I never have to correct him twice. But he lacks cajones completely.
And I couldn't just keep stringing along the guy who asked me.
So I finally said I'd go with him.
So now the sentence has gone from "Someone's asked me to prom and I think I'm going to say yes," to "I'm going to prom with someone else."
And he's going to be hurt, and he's not going to understand, and I really did and DO like him, but I just can't keep waiting for him to grow a pair and stop being so damn passive.
So. I'm terrified about how to handle this. But I'm telling him tomorrow. I will. I won't be that bitch who unintentionally two-times because she's too awkward to say anything. I won't.