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Everyone is dofferent and that goes as far as self harm, some people self harm in secret while others need to confide in someone that they feel they can trust to tell that they do self harm and not to judge them and tell them that they are wrong or cowards for choosing their method of coping. Me personally i have attempted suicide 3 times and each time I have told someone either before hand or while i was waiting for the affects to take hold, it's a combination of a last cry for help and just plain reaching out to someone to talk to and you should NEVER diminish the reason why someone reaches out to you as them just seeking attention and playing mind games with you. NEVER.

And try not to call the police on people, especially mentally ill people or anyone in emotional distress, the police are not trained in dealing with mentally ill people and most of the time an interaction with mentally ill people, even ones who call the police themselfs because they fell they will hurt themselves end in the death of the mentally ill person at the hands of the police. If you're worried about someone, contact another friend who lives close by to drop in on them and check on them.

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^^all of that is true. My mother has called the police on me three times and someone online called them once. No one was prepared to deal with me.

In other news, my mother and stepfather are forcing me to stay and made me send my roommate a text that said I can't move in with him.

*sigh*


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How are they making you? I know its hard to not care what your parent's think but if its what you really want then do it! You are a grown adult and can make your own decisions. It took me a long time to realize this but once I did things were so much better. My parents (mostly my dad) gave me such a hard time about moving out but I did it and thought it was rocky immediately things are so much better now. No regrets.

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You need to tell someone if not the police they're threatening you. If you stay the abuse will continue and you'll never be able to leave.

Those threats sound pretty empty. My dad would say stuff like that to me all the time but he never actually did anything but yell and swear. I guess for a while that was enough, but when the time came nothing happened despite those comments.

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I'm sorry, You don't think it's abuse? Seriously?

Everyone here is telling you the truth, and it seems like you just wanna ignore it and stay. You need to leave, and they can do nothing to stop you. if you choose to stay, then you are choosing to stay in the abuse and things will never get better.

This is one of those times that my Aspies gets flared up and I am beyond agitated. I cannot stand when people ask for help, and it is given and then they choose to just ignore everything. I know what you are going through is rough Whisper, but you need to have some courage and do what is right by you.

That's definitely abuse. Get help.

Ok now that seriously sounds like abuse you need to get out of there. Just cut yourself off from them. Move out, and don't have contact with them anymore so they can't treat you like that anymore. Its not right for you to be complacent with that. Do what TheAutisticMermaid says its great advice.

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I think that getting that room is the best idea regardless of what your parents think. We care about you and don't want to see you hurt. If you ever want to talk/vent/get out of the house/have mer time/whatever just say the word and I'll give you my contact info. I'm not that far away and will be ready with a listening ear.

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Autism doesn't come in flares.

What "help" have you given me? Telling me to go to a homeless shelter is utterly useless. I wouldn't make it in one. I can barely take care of myself. I don't have it like your perfect life where autism is just a quirky side effect. It's disabling for me.

I suppose I'm done with MerNetwork for now. I'm sick of Abby jumping all over everything and knowing best. My four years don't mean anything, I guess.


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Don't let her get under your skin Whisper!! I've struggled with being told to go to a shelter as well and there was no way I could do it. I don't have any sort of disability,so that part...I cannot comment on...but I semi understand hunni :) And I sorta agree with you on the "know it all" lol I've seen way too much latley
I wish nothing but the best for you,I'll try to help you in any way I can :)

Maternity photos this weekend while my husband is off work, he wants me to wear my hair down for the photos, with either nothing done to it, or straightened because he loves how long it is.

I honestly don't know how I want it, and I'm making a bigger deal out of it than it really is I guess, but these are pictures of a pregnancy I never thought I would get to have....I want it to be perfect.

Never said go to a shelter, I simply have said you need to get out of there. My Autism is not a quirky side effect at all, and cripples me at times, so I find it very offensive that you think that.

I am not trying to jump all over or know best, and like what has four years on the Mernetwork have to do with anything? I am simply trying to give you life advice from a woman who has been in your position. Just like everyone else is.

And as for a "perfect life"? let me fill you in on my current life. My wife and I have been living in our car and couch surfing for the past couple of months due to be in a very bad situation with a roommate. We have had to put our stuff in storage, and survive as best we can. We both have no family to help us, and had to rely on ourselves. And during all of this I am working on my new business. It is hard? Of course? Will it get better? Of course it will. But staying in a situation that is detrimental to your health and well being isn't going to change anything, and until you realize that..No one can help you.

The autistic mermaid, you might want ti research why victims stay in abusive relationships/situations. It's not as simple as "leave". Do some research and let her work through it.

Mermaid whisper, is there any close friends you have that live nearby? A lot of people i know who were in an abusive situation eith either family or significant others planned to move out without telling their abuser. They planned in secret for months or somethimes years to get out with usually the help of a very close friend or 2 to sweep in and help them gather all of their things before the person they are trying to escape returns home. I would tell them i texted him, save up the money for the room and move in secretly, prepare a suitcase of things you can't leave behind and leave with a friend's help when gour family is out for the day. Afterwards you can let them know you're gone, or not and just leave without a word.

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Also no one ever chooses to stay in an abusive relationship unless they have a reason too. Google the hastag #whyistayed. Please educate yourself on emotional abuse situations before you get angry at a victim for what they can't help; a feeling of helplessness and attachment to their abusers (especially parents)

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Just an FYI, I have been in a very abusive relationship, and I do understand how hard it is to leave and why you stay..That's exactly why I am telling Whisper it's abuse and she needs to leave and get help. I just have a hard time when people reach out for help, and everyone gives it but they choose to ignore it,etc. Yes, she needs to leave in her own time, but that should be sooner than later, especially with what she has told us about her stepfather.

And family abuse is different than relationship abuse, so I know it is tough..But her stepdad isn't even blood, and sounds like her mom isn't a huge help. So she needs to help herself and get out. Even if that means taking her things in the night and fleeing to that apartment she had lined up.

Whisper, I apologize if I made you upset or hurt, All I was trying to do was give you some advice from someone who has been there and lived this. I am 32, and have a ton of experience with this and I hate to see someone as young as you struggle.

My main support at work quit and is moving out of state. I'm swirling in self doubt and thoughts I'm not going to openly talk about here. I've been working hard to pull myself out of this mess, and I get a rude spamming of messages on Instagram because it failed to notify me of a private message. Back into the depths I go.

100% sure my best friend has replaced me with a new friend who's more into the same things as her. I've never felt so alone, my life long family friend has gone away to college, my best friend hates me and replaced me and now I'm all alone. To make things worse she's been posting nonstop on Facebook and Instagram of her and this other friend. I'm probably acting greener than the wicked witch right now, but I'm still beating myself up over what happened. I'm sooooo afraid and embarrassed and upset at myself to call or text her which is probably why she's moved on to this other friend. Just ignore me, I'm feeling sorry for myself.


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