Oh my god, same situation here. Absolute story of my life... -__-
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Oh my god, same situation here. Absolute story of my life... -__-
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Originally Posted by Kailani
Thanks for the good advice :) I guess she is doing fine. Whenever she does chew on something it always ends up in tiny TINY pieces. He's been feeding her bread pieces I guess. I basically did tell him he couldn't handle kids because he couldn't watch a year old dog, and he didn't like me saying that but I had to say it. We have a long time before we will actually have kids so he could turn around but I basically had to say my peace. He did understand and he is trying to cheer me up and all that; he will text me sweet things and let me know how my dog is doing. So far she is fine. I told him that the only way to make sure that she passes it is to watch her poop for shards and things. Thanks everyone for their suggestions and sympathies.
I knew that animals always tended to eat odd and strange things. And I'm glad that someone understands that coon hounds and malmutes can digest different things in different ways. I am shocked that it seems black n tan coonhounds are "rare". I never would have guessed that.
In laws...im so fing sick of in laws..cabt they just leave us a lone for a few days? Granted my fiance is a mommas boy but good grief I had my rents off my back by the time i was 18..plus his mother is a psychopath good grief it really boils my gills!
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Why.....WHY do people languish around in shitty goddamned stupid idiotic abusive relationships? I have a friend whose girlfriend forbids him from hanging out with friends, has cheated on him, controls his FB, goes through his phone daily, but he's still giving her "one more chance" and that he's "settled" for now. Why do humans allow this?
Dear people coming into the bulding- that's a fecking bedroom window and it's 11pm. STFU and keep walking. Morons, inconsiderate DOLTS.
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Originally Posted by Kakarotte
that's their relationship. you should probably stay out of it and concern yourself w/ your own man and his fb acct. If they are in a relationship or married why are you still clinging on to him :rolleyes: Fix what's wrong in your bedroom instead of peering in windows of other folk's br across town!Quote:
Originally Posted by Kakarotte
That is my vent... ishes who are all up in your relationship with the excuse that they're looking out for your man for you . :lol:
have gun will deal with you... so get a life or lose the excuse of a life you have... your choice.
This is kind of a strange pet peeve, but I get annoyed by people who hate people. Weird, right?
The other night I was visiting my best friend and my gay "friend" at his house, and at one point we were talking about how some punks broke into his car and stole his stereo system, and he was just ranting away about it. I mean, I can understand getting seriously upset about stuff like that, but he seems to have lost all hope in humanity and swears that he hates EVERYONE (except for me and his other friends of course) and would like for them to all burn in hell. o_o
I'm just sitting there like, um, okay then. Sh-t happens, sometimes people are idiots and jerks and what have you, but what are you going to gain from going around being the ultimate pessimist your whole life? Never expecting anything from the worst from people? You're just going to be lonely and miserable and cranky for the rest of your days. Now, I've been called "innocent" and "naive" on more than one occasion, but I'd rather be childish and optimistic than jaded and pessimistic. I figure I'll go a lot farther and be a lot happier in life, so yeah, it kind of pisses me off when I come across these people who are just like "omg I hate everyone argh" and put a damper on the mood. Seriously, they just ruin it for everyone. Just put on a smile and move on instead of dwelling on the bad parts of humanity.
Besides, the best way to deal with angry/mean/rude people is to annoy them with your happiness. XD
I like to take cues from my grandma. One time there was a car tailgating her, and there was only one lane so nowhere for her or him to move. He was getting pissed off, swerving behind her, etc. etc. When eventually there were two lanes and he passed her, he was glaring at us, but she just smiled and waved at him, lol. Also, apparently she's had people break into her car a lot to steal her groceries, even breaking her windows to get in; she doesn't live in the greatest part of town. But even so, she doesn't seem to get mad or hateful. Instead, she's said to me "well, I just leave the car doors unlocked now because I don't want them breaking my windows. They probably need the food more than me, so even though it's annoying because I have to make another trip to the grocery store, I try to not let it bring me down."
I think that this is such a great, positive attitude to have, and I really admire my grandma for it. It's not easy to be forgiving, but I think that it's worth it in the end. You might get taken advantage of, sure, but people will be people. It's best to just not let them affect you too much. After all, there's nothing you can do about it, right? So what's the point in screaming and throwing a tantrum? Just smile, wave, and move on. Keep your heart light and your glasses rose-coloured. Just keep swimming, right?
So yup, that's my rant. I don't like people who always ignore the silver lining and prefer to preach hate and anger and revenge. I can't say that I always do it, because like I said, it's hard... but more often than not, I'll try to kill them with kindness instead. :)
Looks like someone got their MerNetwork and 4chan accounts mixed up.Quote:
have gun will deal with you
1) go back to 4chanQuote:
Originally Posted by merline
2) you should sort you sh!t out before telling other people what to do. Stop being a douche and I seriously suggest not threatening people with GUNS or people like me will go apeshit at you, cause we don't let that stuff fly on here.
3) Fix your own bedroom issues. Sounds like your own insecurities are clouding how you see others.
4) Unlike you seem to do, you will notice that Kakarotte is caring about the safety and well-being of a friend, something that any decent human being does. She at no point said or hinted at being jealous, just that she couldn't understand why her friend was staying in the situation. You are the only one who said that sort of thing, so again - perhaps this is a reflection of your own insecurities.
Well, since there's a screencap of this, I will point out the following:
1) The Internet isn't anonymous.
2) Death threats are extremely illegal. Even over the Internet.
3) Forum rules are clearly posted for every soul to read.
4) She did something highly illegal and against forum policy, and she had to fill out personal information to join this forum.
I swear, some kids don't think these days. You can't just go anywhere on the net and take out your hostilities on other Internet users. Your IP address and login history basically says, "I broke the law."
Kakarote I dont know you so I was not threatening you personally. I dealt with one female who did stalk my ex and said the exact same things to him. "oh you should hang out with old gfs again" "Oh you should not let her have control of you fb acct" He liked staying home I never prohibited anything and since we were married I did not think he should be writing other women. So yes I do think your meddling attitude is inappropriate and Yes I do intend to deal with it head on next time I confront it. Not a threat to you personally because I do not know you but yes I DO think it is inappropriate to be meddling in another couple's relationship. This man probably LIKES being with his mate and doesnt feel like hanging out with old females he used to know... it is called trying to be faithful. I dont know what a 4 chan acct is. So my pet peeve is meddling people i do think it is inappropriate to meddle in the relationships of others. You are assuming he is being forced to be with her. My thought is he would not be there if he didnt like it... accept that and move on with your life.
may I refer you to this line:Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
<- This is directed to kakarotte (you even quoted her above your threat), and not only totally out of line to say to a young woman whether you know her personally or not.Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
also for example florida state law says.... "anyone who writes or composes and also sends or procures the sending of any letter, inscribed communication, or electric communication that threatens to kill or do bodily harm to someone commits a felony in the second degree. The letter or other form of communication can be signed by the composer or anonymous. The threat to kill or do bodily harm does not have to be directed at the recipient of the letter." http://www.ehow.com/list_7433231_law...s-florida.html
as someone who has been married, this suggests that you are of a slightly older ages and as the majority of members on here are very young women, some of which are still Minors, this is TOTALLY rediculous for you to say EVEN if you say you didn't mean it or intend to direct it at kakarotte specifically. Re-read your post from the point of view of someone who can't see your thought patterns, and is possibly young and vunerable.
yes but not everyone should immediately be branded a stalker by you and treated 'as such' by you. Kakarotte sounds like someone genuinely concerned, not obsessed or stalking. She wants to still see her friend. Doesn't mean she wants him for herself *rolls her eyes*Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
And I will say this next bit for the benefit of both you and kakarotte seeing as kakarotte was struggling to understand why someone would stay in an abusive situation:
I have been in abusive situations myself. I have watched my Mum deal with my dad and his mental abuse. Abusers tend to be controlling, restrict freedom, put victims down and make them believe they deserve it, they say sorry and then do it again - they're often charming and persuasive at first and can convince the victim to stay through that, also people are fools in love. They stay and give people more chances than they deserve and even I am currently guilty of that as my husband has cheated on me online repeatedly over the last year. But having fought for 7 years to be together, it's not something that I am going to instantly throw away. A great deal of money and emotion has been invested in my relationship but I'm not a fool, I know I shouldn't put up with this because it will 'just happen again' but I still stay because I have my own reasons - perhaps Kakarotte's friend has his too, he just needs to know that no matter what he has a friend there looking out for him.
So yeah, I can see things from both points of view but Merline, you are way out of line to state things the way you have done.
ummm... I think everyone has this thing called human rights where they can talk to anyone they want to? I don't see much distinction between being FRIENDS with a woman or a man. My two best friends are a 42 y/o man and a trans guy who is a year or two younger than me. And my husband's best friends are either gay guys or girls, because that is just who he gets on with the best. And I stand by that even after he has cheated on me. So no, I don't think it's meddling, I think it's being a concerned friend venting frustration on a neutral forum. Just like I'm being a concerned friend defending a fellow member.Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
I will refer you back to my statement about why people stay in abusive situations. Yes he may 'like' being with her but that doesn't mean he's not in an abusive situation that he is 'putting up with' when he shouldn't neccessarily be. And kakarotte never said that her friend didn't want to see her anymore, she said that the girlfriend had told him not to be in contact with others. Classic control-freak abuser tactic there btw. Something that you seem to say you demanded in your own relationship... that's quite telling ya'know?Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
And you are assuming that he isn't being abused, which basically does force people to stay until they get the strength to leave. And again I refer you to my explanation of why people stay in abusive situations. You saying 'he would not be there if he didn't like it'... well I can tell you've never been in an abusive relationship. Well, at least as the victim anyway *rolls her eyes*.Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
P.S. Learn to type/spell.
Might I add: my friend DESPERATELY wants to hang out with his old female friends and is terribly lonely now. Not for sex, not to cheat, but because he still loves those people as friends. 95% of all his friends are female. Now he has to sneak around behind her back just to talk to his old friends at all. It's taken an enormous toll on him. That's part of why he contacted me over the whole ordeal in the first place and vented for an hour and 5 minutes. He wants the strength to leave, but doesn't have it yet. I'm married too. My husband and I have numerous friends of the opposite sex that we hang out with individually. We don't go through each other's phones or know each other's passwords for anything. Because we trust each other. I'm fucking awesome and so is he. There's no need to suspect cheating. Virtually all of my friends' relationships are like that, 'cause that's healthy.
my statement was addressed to the next meddler who enters my life. Interesting the concept of your "right" to meddle with men who are in relationships is so important to you ... :lol:
Kakarrote, I think you should tell them to go to couple's counseling and let them sort it out on their own. There are professionals for that.
Each time I got married, I left other men and their problems behind. I concerned myself with my spouse and his problems from that point on. One person's view of healthy is another person's view of hell, decadence, skankiness, etc. There are various socio-cultural variables to consider so there are no rules that all must adhere to. What works for one is not one size fits all.. Just let them sort it out.
PS Karkarrote, I wish you the best. When I got married last time, one of my ex male friends continued to call me and tell me how bad things were with him and his gf and begged to see me. I refused. I could see through it that he wanted to BE with me again and wanted to put me in a position to cheat so I cut things off with him very decisively. Many do not and that is why marriages last 2 years tops these days. Each person must deal with this the way that suits them best and deal with the consequences that will follow.
again with the idea that she's 'meddling' what the hell. Did you even read what she and I have posted? :doh:Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
You at no point in your original post stated that it was for 'the next meddler' and the context of the original post, and the tone of the over-all post, most certainly made the comment a threat towards kakarotte to those who didn't know your apparent intentions. Maybe you should learn how to write properly next time you want to post a statement like that. Plus do remember that posting online does constitute a written threat.
I really do feel sorry for 'your men' if you control them like you seem to do and accuse any female friend of theirs as being a 'meddler'. :crazy:
I think your view of meddling is VERY skewed but that's just my opinion I guess. And you're allowed your own opinion, but when you use your opinion to attack others who are just venting in what is supposed to be a safe and neutral thread, that's wrong.
And as someone who is very familiar with D/S and BDSM and have been for about 10 years, I get what you're trying to say but if you actually read what kakarotte explained, that does not apply to this situation.
I like how you tried to use long words to avoid the fact that you've totally ignored every single point me and kakarotte have made/put to you. *rolls her eyes*
I could add in plenty of 'impressive' words to prove my point, but I don't need to :lol:
Then you're a really immature person.Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
Stop trying to wiggle yourself out.
You came here and dropped a damn death threat.
You probably feel secure because you think "oh, internet, anonymity trololo".
Well, let me tell you: you are NEVER untraceable.
Just because you made yourself a new account here doesn't mean people don't know who you are.
You should:
1) get a grip
2) grow up
3) stop making yourself new accounts here each time you get banned, if stuff like this is all you have to say.
"Just because you made yourself a new account here doesn't mean people don't know who you are."
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I dont know what d/s is Kat Arnold. You are injecting things that refer to you that I don't even know of. I never meant to offend anyone. I totally meant that you should leave people's relationships to them to sort out period. That is just my opinion. I have been a seductress and I have also been a faithful married woman. So I do see both sides of this argument. Single skanks will always feel they have a right to slide on whatever man they want. And married women will always feel that skanks are disease infested scum. Cheating men will always USE the scanks for a moment and cast them aside. So it is what it is.
PS I have never had an acct here before nor another one. And yes skanks can be either married or single.
it's along the lines of people liking people to control them, which you seem to refer to without naming d/s or knowing what d/s is, as it is somewhat widely understood within society to varying degrees.Quote:
Originally Posted by merline
you say you don't mean to offend anyone and then you say 'single skanks' as if all single women are 'skanks', you speak apparently on behalf of all married women when myself, kakarotte and apparently yourself, are all married women and you are the only one who thinks this way.
I also hate the term 'skank' or 'slut' or anything that borders on 'slut-shaming'.
Also to be honest, none of this actually has anything to do with anyone cheating/seducing on anyone. The only reference to that within the posts has been saying that the girlfriend has cheated on the guy, and within your posts. So I don't think you actually see our side of the argument. Not everyone is cheating or wanting to cheat with everyone else 0.o' Sheesh.
You really do have a sick and twisted view of the world, darlin' :crazy:
*shares kakarotte's popcorn*
I'm sorry if I'm interrupting something, but I just came off of two days of complete and utter chaos. Now, my boyfriend is a lifeguard, yes? Yes. So at the pool he's guarding for is a woman, a woman who is nearly ten years older than my boyfriend, yet still thinks it's okay to try and be sexual with him. Fine, whatever, my boyfriend's a cutie, but if his girlfriend tells you to stop, you stop. Now, my boyfriend is not the brightest bulb in the lamp and he didn't really get it, he just thought she was being overly friendly (yeah, but he's a lovable idiot.)
Anyway, this woman just happens to be an alcoholic and she gets into an accident with her three year old in the car. Naturally, her husband throws her out. Now she takes complete advantage of the fact that my boyfriend (To hell with it, his name is Bryan) is such a nice person. She manages to sucker him into bringing him to OUR home to stay the night. Now, one night. Not such a bi deal, I can do this..... OH MY SWEET HARLEM SHAKING HONEY BOO BOO!!!!!! First, she gets completely trashed off of alcohol I was SAVING to drink for myself! Espresso flavored vodka. I barely got a shot of it. She downed the entire bottle. She didn't even ask if it was okay, just went into my fridge and grabbed it. She didn't even apologize when I told her I was saving it. I gave Bryan "the look" and he nodded, but it was 1am, there was nothing we could do.
Then me and Bryan go out onto the porch to light a few small light show-y fireworks because....just because. And she comes out and is all "let me light one". And she is trashed. I mean she's so drunk, she's one sheet to the wind. Now, this dumb woman decides to hold the lit firework in her hand. Guess what? It goes of, she gets third degree burns, and we have to go to the hospital. We are at the hospital for three hours. She's screaming and hollering and making all this fuss and even tries to hit the doctors helping her. Three. Hours. Finally we get back home and we all pass out.
Fast forward to 8pm the next night. She gets under my best friend's skin. We get back home and she wants to dye her hair blue. Now my tub is blue. My tub. is blue. And right now, nothing I use is working to get it out. the dye job goes screwy.And we have to make sure no dye gets on anything else. Now, she's still all upset because she has nobody else but us and yada yada yada. The only good thing to come out of this was that Bryan and I got to have a huge private talk about where we were going and stuff like that and it went well.
Now she's off to rehab for six months, Bryan is at work, and me? I'm busy cleaning up the junkyard of a house that was left after. Mountains of soda cans, my blue bathroom, pizza boxes and all kinds of other stuff...I...I just.....I'm at a loss. Why are we so nice that we just suffer in silence with a house guest like that.....