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I've given up on Dance now as well :) It's wonderful as a hobby, but as a career it makes me feel worthless. And so I'm finishing my studies here at the dance academy, and going on to putting my head down and becoming a Nurse ^_^ I love helping people, and I'm not squeamish so I thought why not haha :') Plus my friend is studying to become a Nurse now and I'm so interested in everything she talks about...I even read the student nurse handbook and am well and truly interested to the point of trying it.Quote:
Originally Posted by caltuna
It's true no job or dream is worth killing yourself over, ever.
So check this, I travel for work (almost a weekly basis) and now my co wants me to travel 2 1/2 hrs (round trip) to a site EVERY DAY and the site want's me there by 6 am. This means that I have to be awake by at least 4 am!!!!! They will also probably want me to stay until at least 5 pm everyday. This means not getting home until 7-730 pm. They are only paying me for my Breakfast and lunch so if I get dinner it's out of my own money until I turn in my expense report and won't get that money until a week later.
No sleep + no food = one pissed off mermaid!
So it's been a few days since I contacted the seller again, and still no word back from them at all. They did add new items to the store, so hopefully they already sent it off and it should be here soon. Either way, it's making me nervous because I need the top for a pirate festival. I'm also nervous about the festival, because my tail is kind of wrinkly at the fluke and my stressed brain makes it seem like it's this huge problem when it's just fine. If anyone asks about the wrinkles I can say that some humans have wrinkles and so do some mermaids, but I still can't shake the feeling that it's a big deal. Arg! I just wish my brain would stop over thinking everything and let me enjoy a lovely weekend at the festival with my fellow mermaids! Rarg!
Are you speaking about the Pirate Festival in Oregon? My step mother told me about that. How awesome you get to go!! Also, fish have wrinkles in their caudal fins and occasionally cetaceans get wrinkling too :) Just makes you authentic
It's the Rusty Scupper Pirate Daze in Washington, actually! They sadly cancled this year
technically cops aren't supposed to as for your ID unless THEY have a license to check you. my teacher got into that rut and when asked for her ID she threw it back at them and he backed off.
They absolutely have the right to ask to see your license. You have the right to refuse as well but why do that and make everything harder for everyone involved?
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And the fact that he didn't give you a ticket suggests that he's been asked to hang out there because people are speeding by the school and he's been tasked with discouraging any kind of speeding in the area. If residents of an area call the police station they'll do that.
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different rules in canada i suppose. over here they can still ask for your license, but not a lot of drivers know they can refuse to show it unless the cop shows you his license to check you.
Had to delete it cause I'm gonna take it up with city council.
But overall, he was profiling and targeting me because he thought I was under aged/teen going for a joyride in what looks to be an "adults" car and without make up, I guess I look barely legal on the good days :/
Plus he threatened me when he said that he'll be watching out for me from now on even though I didn't do anything wrong in the first place.
No way a non-sports car can go from 0-47 in 20ft (we were at a red light before I turned, got into the other lane, and he turned his lights on). If I would have gotten ticketed and I fought it, which such circumstances he made up upon, he wouldn't have been able to win with his dash can recording and technical evidence.
I may be small but my actions aren't. The smallest fish give the biggest fights :p
I hate people who abuse their power on others just because they can.
You just don't pull someone over and ask things like what he asked me. It was rude, condescending, uncomfortable, and he had gotten to the line of prying into my personal life to make me justify a cause that he thought was a fake I.d. just because of the way I look
^ don't mess with This mermaid, she's vicious. Good luck with the city council thing!
I'm tired of being too nervous to speak up and to show the real me.
Good for you! :mermaid kiss:
So guess who got terminated from her job the other day? :D
I work at a call center, and to clock in for work you open a program on the computer and once you sign in to the program, the computer shows you're clocked in and you can start making calls to customers. Well the program was broken the day I came in to work, so when I logged in I didn't get the 3 startup tones that show my program was working. Found out the program is down all across the board and 300 agents are all just sitting around waiting to see what happens next. Turns out the problem wasn't on our end of the program, it was with the server itself so there was nothing our IT guys could do. 4 hours later they start sending agents home, including me.
Next day I try to come into work, but my badge won't unlock the door. I ask the front desk and they call my supervisor who comes out and tells me that they have me as a no call no show, the computer said I hadn't clocked in at all the other day so she terminated me. She wouldn't even let me get in to get my stuff from my desk, I had to wait in the lobby for her to bring all my stuff out to me. I told her she saw me there, she was the one who sent me home. She said it didn't matter, I could have been just sitting at my desk not logged into the program. I didn't want to burn bridges or argue with her, I wanted the termination to be clean and friendly, so I apologized for any errors on my part, said I understand that a no call no show is indeed grounds for termination, and then I took my stuff and left.
Yesterday someone from the company who I've never met called back to say the person at the top of the chain, the big boss demanded that someone call me back and apologize for wrongly terminating me, so she was calling to say sorry and that they would like to have me back. I told her I'd think about it and then give her a call back. They won't be hearing from me again. I would have probably gone back if the supervisor who terminated me called back to apologize, but someone I've never met called me to say sorry. It was the most half assed thing ever. I don't want to work for a company that fires agents, asks questions later.
Amen sister! Go get a job where they appreciate you! I believe in you!
That is one of the oddest way I've heard how they handle an IT problem by firing people who couldn't help it...
Vacation season is arriving soon, so everybody has planned their vacations and stuff without any problems, cause they are people who draw things in the programs and there are always enough around to switch work to another if he or she isn't around. But for me it's a different thing... I'm the only one, atm, who keeps their drawing program running and make sure people can work were they need. So naturally I asked for my vacation weeks too, then I get an e-mail back, that if I couldn't find someone who is going to do my jobs I can't take days off... It's now like it's my fault they haven't a second person who can do my work. What if something would happen to me, they would all just stare at their screens and then run around like headless chickens? Lucky for me, I found 2 people who are willing to do the basic of basic things I do so that work can continue.
Okay so I kinda need the support of my fellow mers right now *sigh* I know previously I've posted about the drama with paul my mum's ex (he's finally collecting the rest of his crap and we're moving house in a few weeks [the week of my degree graduation X_x] into rental accom temporarily for a few months while mum pays off some of her debts to fix her credit rating)
well there's been other bullshit amping up since around the time paul left at xmas, that took its place. My husband doug is suffering from severe depression and has been since early/mid december. He tends to take it out on me. And his depression has only been getting worse. He's been waiting 6 months to get some kinda therapy and though he finally started on the 16th it's fairly useless as it's CBT training he's had before in the past.
About a month ago he walked out the house (luckily mum saw him putting his coat and shoes on so we knew he had actually left) and lied to me telling me he was just on a long walk... at 10pm. Fastforward to 3am and turns out he'd gotten on a train to the airport. We ended up driving to go get him. Next day I got him to the doctors and they put him on strong meds.
with that kinda incident in mind, and also if I tell you something I've not admitted here before - that Doug cheated on me about 2 years ago, several times - a week and a half ago, the morning before my graduate show he turned around and told me he'd been having an affair. That he'd been in contact with this girl since all the others two years ago and that he'd been sleeping with her for the last few months. I understandably went apeshit and was kicking him out. 10/15mins later he turned around and said 'you know I'm lying right'. That he'd lied to get me to end the relationship. But he still won't let me see his phone so I still have no idea what is true.
Emotional Whiplash is an understatement. I'm STILL trying to process what the fuck happened, what the hell I feel and think and what I want to do. He knew exactly the perfect way to hurt me and went for it full throttle, so I don't know what would be worse, him having cheated or him purposefully hurting me this deeply.
I know i should just walk away, and that I should have done a long time ago. But I know he's extremely unwell right now and as his wife I feel a certain responsibility to make sure he's going to be okay, I mean no matter what happens I want him to be well because I will always care. You can't be with someone for 8 years and not care. But I also know that plenty of people are this unwell and don't hurt others the way he hurt me, that being mentally ill is not an excuse for his behaviour.
I just... I don't know what to do *curls up into a ball* I just spent this last week in London on my own, helping set up our london graduate show (we had one up north in manchester as a more local one the week before) and was supposed to be using the time to figure out what I want to do, but I still have no idea.
I don't even know if any of this will make any sense but I just finally had to tell you guys what was happening. Mermaiding and MN was what helped me through the horrible depression I sank into after the last time I discovered doug had cheated on me (my birthday weekend actually, feb 2013). MN has been my escape and the dream that kept me sane through a hellish period in my life.
My life has just been one thing after another for the last 2+ years -_- :'(
The fact I have actually managed to make it to graduation is a fucking miracle.
Lilium, I totally get the "for better or for worse" you'll be there as his wife. But tbh if it's not reciprocated thn you should just leave him.
Wow Lilium, You poor thing, that is rough...seriously rough. Okay, let me think of the best way to put this...
You are a wife yes, but you are not his doctor, you are not his therapist, you are not his babysitter. He has absolutely NO right to drag you down with him. That is incredibly cruel. I Don't care if he is sick, I am sick...I have an anxiety disorder, OCD, and depression and I would NEVER think of doing something so downright malicious to my husband. Even if he does frustrate, and anger, and simply not understand me. Just because a person has depression, does not give them the right to demean or hurt others. I think he needs to be on his own a bit. He needs to take responsibility for himself and perhaps in doing so he can garner some insight into why he does the things he does. If you keep nursing him, he may never really figure out exactly why he does the things he does because he is being enabled in order to continue being well...an ass...no offence. It is incredibly hard for the families of people who have any sort of mental illness to know what to do to help that person. Sometimes it is support, encouragement, a big hug...and other times it is giving the person the space to find themselves and learn to help themselves. I am not saying cut him out of your life for good. I am saying that maybe a separation might be best. If not for him, then for your own sanity.
I hate when people just have a problem with you for no reason. Today when I walked into work, this female (though I would love to call her another name) smiles at me, but when I turned I saw her make this nasty face behind me (she thought I couldn't see but I did). It sounds petty,I know, but ever since she started working there me and her always clashed. I hate having to be partnered with her sometimes. The only reason she is even there is cause she is sleeping with ATLEAST one of the bosses -.- her nasty Kim kardashian looking ahh >> she acts like she is better than everyone else who works there and I hate when she is placed as supervisor. I'm not saying I hope she falls down the stairs and breaks her nose, but I hope she trips on a Lego going down some stationary escalators >> I have never said anything to her and yet she acts like we have an issue. Maybe its because I don't give her attention like all the other guys and I never will
Or maybe she's just dealing with stupid people every day of her life and she takes it out in people unreasonably? People have that same assumption with me. I'm an administrator and technically my position is higher than certain departments but people always treat me like crap and when they ask me "wtf is wrong with you" well geeee you would think that after dealing with a bunch of sexist/Ageist old men that a youn woman trying to stay employed in a male dominated office would get freaking annoyed by all the sexist behaviour and remarks.
And seriously, that last comment? Dont assume women only want attention because they want To get into bed with you.
I just mean that if I, like the few males who work here, came in everyday, doing her work for her, buying her food, taking over for her while she goes and talks on the phone (which is very prohibited here) then she and I would be best friends. But I'm not gonna do that and she knows it. She has the same position as me yet she gets special treatment. Why? Because she is being...*ahem* extra friendly with the higher ups. This isn't rumor. This is something I know for a fact and I'm not the only one. She comes in everyday, does nothing and gets others to do everything for her and gets paid for it. That's why I hate being partnered with her. She will literally leave to go do whatever while I have to pick up the slack. And I can't complain to the boss because of obvious reasons. So is it fair for me to say she doesn't like me because I don't give her attention? In this case, yes. Because if I came tomorrow and started swooning over her, and doing her work and all that other stuff she would act like we've been friends for life. Sorry to sound b!tc#y but it's true.Quote:
Originally Posted by SeaGlass Siren
so if a guy does the exact same thing and orders people to do his job, what then? is anyone gonna bat an eye if he's sleeping with a female higher up? certain male bosses i know order people around to go fetch them their coffee or donuts and no one bats an eye. coming in everyday and does nothing and gets paid.
just saying from an outside perspective.
She's not the boss. She can't do whatever she feels like nor can she boss people around, it's their business if they choose to follow her commands as if she were but I won't. And yes, if a guy did the exact same thing then he shouldn't have a job. If he is the boss, whatever, but she's not. She's in the exact position I'm in. If I have to do work for myself, so does she. If I can't use my cell while I'm on the clock, neither can she. If I'm not allowed to be away from my post for more than 10 minutes, then tell me why the heck can she be gone for her whole shift and no one says anything? The thing is if anyone else does what she does then they'd get an earful and probably fired. It's simply not fair. And to back up this point, I'm at work right now where someone is actually calling her out on her BS to the boss. Everyone else sees she isn't doing what she is supposed to and isn't getting penalized for it.Quote:
Originally Posted by SeaGlass Siren
I get what you are saying, Siren Glass, but still. My whole thing is simply that she has an attitude at me for not being one of her foot men. I don't get my paycheck from her, I don't get paid double for doing her work, and I don't come here for her approval. She can sleep with whoever she wants, and play her games with all these other dudes out here but I ain't got time for that.
Well if she got called out for it then that's good I suppose. Don't you guys have an HR?
The YMCA where I go raised its day fee from $5 to $12 since the last time I was there. Guess I actually have to join now.
So I found out tonight that one of my friends, who had completely dropped contact with me last year for reasons I don't understand, has been talking to all of our mutual friends about how we totally hang out all the time and do all this awesome stuff together.
In the last eight months I've seen her twice. Both times, we shared light chit-chat about nothing important, and then went on our separate ways. And apparently, she's been lying to people saying that we've been hanging out all this time? What the fuck?
This is hitting me way, way harder than it should be because my social life in the past year has been shit. The number of times I've actually managed to go out and hang out with my friends, I can count on one hand and still have fingers left over-- I've lost count of how many times I've tried to get my friends together to go on some sort of adventure, like we used to, only to be met with "Sorry I can't, I'm busy"... And then within the next few days find photos on my newsfeed of all of these people going out and doing this stuff... without me.
I've been lonely as fuck for the past year, and dealing with my depression, and because nobody seems to want to be around me, all I've done outside of work for the most part has been to hide at home and stare at the internet and not talk to anybody. And then I find out tonight that it's to the point where people who I thought were my 'friends' would rather lie about hanging out with me, than actually try to hang out with me.
It fucking hurts, and because I am the way I am my first reaction has been to blame myself for why things have gotten to this point-- maybe it's because I really am screwed up, maybe it's because I haven't been doing enough to try to go hang out with them... I've got myself convinced that it's entirely my fault somehow, and I'm so fucked up right now over it that I left work early, came home, and have been crying off and on ever since. I don't know what to do.
It's bad enough that I'm trying to get into mermaiding here and there's nobody local to help me out, or try it out with me. I've been feeling totally alone for the longest while, not just about the mermaiding but about literally everything, and tonight's just made everything feel so much worse. I haven't bothered to go to the pool to practice swimming in almost two months because of it, even though I have a totally gorgeous tail on order and in the works right now.
I posted a rant on my Facebook about the situation earlier, and naturally, people-- not all of them the ones I was talking about in my rant, mind-- started coming out of the woodwork with "Oh, I'm your friend, you can totally come hang out with me at this thing I'm doing on [insert date here]!" and... Honestly, I feel so burned and so bitter that I don't know who to trust at this point. Part of me is convinced that these people, who I've barely spoken to in weeks, really are sincere and have just been busy with their lives the same way I have and genuinely want to make it up to me in some way, but... Then there's the part of me that feels like they're only reaching out to me now because they think I'm calling them out specifically in my FB rant (hell, a few of them even suggested that I made my rant specifically about them, when it wasn't the case) and that they're only making contact now because I made them feel guilty, and they need to try and do something to shut me up and pat themselves on the back to make them feel better about it. I'm so skeptical about it all and I feel like I can't trust them no matter how sincere they are.
I don't know what to do. Admittedly I've always been kind of a defeatist, and have been taking this whole thing tonight as a reason to just... give up on trying. Every time I try to make plans with my friends, it crashes and burns and I end up shafted, excluded, whatever. I keep telling myself that if I basically just go silent and stop bothering with it all, the people who really do matter will notice and sort of come around on their own... But I've been so lonely and depressed for so long at this point, that I'm terrified that if I go that route, nobody will come at all and I'll be left totally alone.
I was supposed to be going on a trip to Toronto in September with my boyfriend and a group of his friends who are attending a YGO card tournament there, but as I'm not participating in the tournament (and don't care all that much for kids' card games, tbh) I'd basically have like 10+ hours each day there to kill by myself. I tried to find someone to go along with me, but then it occurred to me... I don't have any friends close enough to go on a trip like that with me anymore. So I opted to drop out of the trip altogether and stay home, because without a friend to go with me I didn't feel like I could justify spending $800+ (that I could barely afford anyway) to go hide in a hotel room by myself for a weekend. Which sucks, because I'm desperate to get off this fucking island because it's honestly killing me to be stuck here, but that's a totally different rant for a different time.
IDK. I don't know what I'm doing and I don't know how to even fucking interact with people anymore. All I want to do anymore is hide.
There's probably nothing I can say to make you feel better, but from reading on here, I have the impression you're a very nice person.
Forget about the guys who aren't reliable and just post this and that on FB without ever following it up.
They might not be interested in a genuine friendship, more in a superficial "oh look how many cool friends I Have!"-kind of way.
I know it can get lonely. I wish I had more real life interaction with other mers and more gigs and stuff with likeminded people. That's the result of being stuck in the middle of waterless territory, I guess.
I don't feel quite as alone because there's MN though :)
even if I seldom meet and perform with other mers, there are all on here, and that's great.
Damn you sciatica!!!
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Ok, so Saturday my husband was sitting on the porch. Either the neighbor didn't know he was outside, or she wanted him to hear. She starts yelling to her husband that "If those blankity-blank neighbor cats step one foot on my property again, I'm poisoning them!!" Here's the thing: I've had 2 cats disappear already in the 3 years we've lived here. Now I'm starting to wonder what happened to them. The worst part is that my neighbor is completely hypocritical: Her little yorkie spends half its time in my yard, barking at my cats. I've never complained about it, (I mean, dog are dogs, they're gonna do what comes naturally) nor have I complained about all the garbage that their bratty grandkids throw over my fence. I've actually seen this neighbor chase my cats, and she kept chasing them after she was in my yard, and threw garbage at my house!! I have all 4 of my current cats in the house at the moment, but that's not really a permanent solution. I'm about ready to go knock on her door and give her a piece of my mind.
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Originally Posted by Aziara
Squirtgun (or long-range supersoaker) full of lemon juice for the dog; video the kids throwing garbage into your yard, then throw it back; video the neighbor chasing your cats and file a complaint for harassment and trespassing, and keep the cats inside.
I've had neighbors who've poisoned cats and the police won't do anything about it.
My cats only go outside when I'm out and they stay where I can see them. Yeah, it's weird, but I've trained my cats to come when I call them. Plus, they're old and not into exploring much.
If it keeps up, go on Craigslist and advertise that there is a free beer party for bikers at her address (just kidding!).
Wow, what a terrible person. And pearlie, that's actually a pretty good idea lol
I'm so pissed today...I'm currently the wardrobe manager for an operetta company's latest production and I have a REALLY hard job, keeping track of 125 costumes, a ton of actors, doing tons of alterations and fittings and last-minute additions and staying up all night sewing and fixing stuff.
So this no-nothing stage hand decides he's gonna flirt with me last night. he's loud, obnoxious, he won't stop TALKING backstage even when we're on live mics for the rehearsal and the stage manager has already told him to shut up. He just apologizes, talks quietly for five minutes, then goes right back to his giant booming voice, talking at actors who are trying to change or memorize lines. His jaw gets more of a workout than his stage hand abilities.
So he walks up to me while I'm doing some fast alterations and starts off with, "Sooooo, you must be one of the costume ninjas!"
I am not "one of the costume ninjas." I am the damn WARDROBE MANAGER. The same way that the director is not "one of the script monkeys." Even after I told this guy I had a (fictitious) boyfriend, he wouldn't stop gabbing at me the whole show.
I don't want to talk to the stage manager and get him kicked off the show, but I kinda do. He's disruptive and loud backstage and clearly has more time to lean and talk at people than do actual work. he keeps telling all the actors "good job, you're doing a good GOOD job" and clapping them on the back after every scene, to their extreme annoyance. They're professional actors, they don't need some dumb stagehand clapping them on the back like it's a little league baseball game.
Plus we are at an outdoor ampi-theatre...any talking backstage on show night will be heard by the audience, and this idiot clearly can't keep quiet. I myself have a LOUD voice that carries, like his. But I make an effort to control it and talk quietly. He gets warned, starts whispering for five minutes, then gradually goes back to full volume. And he needs to NOT TALK at ALL backstage. He has no reason to talk back there anyway! He's treating the show like we're all putting on this very large and expensive production purely for him to walk about and make new friends and get a few phone numbers. Like it's his personal match.com or something.
But I'm new with this company and don't want to complain to the stage manager, whose job is already hard and she's already annoyed with half the stage crew as it is. Maybe I will mention it to the director.
report him.
If he's that obnoxious, everyone else will want him to be gone too, plus no company needs such an a$$.
The neighbor problem is more tough.
What Pearlie said was good counsel, but even all that won't change them and they're plain pains in the behind.
My cats are indoors always unless I walk them.
Many people think they're kings of the earth and lords supreme over life and death of everything that isn't human.
It's not worth risking.
Keep an eye on your pets always!
i had a problem with another guy like that recently. i told him to go back to work and he still comes to bug me. eventually the boss fired him.
If you can get the stage manager and director together at the same time, tell them that, despite your best efforts, you can't get this guy to be quiet during the production, and for the GOOD OF THE SHOW he needs to be reassigned to another position in the front of the house or further backstage. If they choose to terminate his services, it's not your fault.
Thanks Mae, I will talk to the stage manager tomorrow at rehearsals, and then the director if I need to! XDQuote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
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