I'm sorry about your mom, and your friend.
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I'm sorry about your mom, and your friend.
I wasn't able to post this in the chat box because it's too long of a story so I decided to put it here.
So it happened last weekend on Saturday and Sunday. The one on Saturday happened at one of the beaches in la jola. My husband and I were going to meet up with his friend to go snorkeling but we couldn't find him we waited for two hours and no shit walked over three miles looking for him, me in my long sleeve wet suit so that was exhausting. After we couldn't find his friend we decided to get into the water and look for him out there. So we got in the water and the waves were really strong there were a lot of large rocks about knee high and lower back high. Well the fins I bought were hard inflexible about medium length cheap fins while I was trying to get out to open ocean all the rocks were between me and the open ocean.
The waves knocked me into these two rocks and one of my fins got stuck in between them so I had to use a bit of energy to get it out that was scary on its own but then the waves treated me like a pinball and knocked me back and fourth between every rock a few times over really banging up my knees. Which made it to where I couldn't stand on my own without help and no one would help me stand up so I could get out of the water, so it just kept dragging me over every rock back and fourth until Finally it dragged me a few feet away from all the rocks. The sand that the waves were carrying was really thick it got into the snorkel and fucked up the little breathing ball thing and made it harder to get air in. ( I found that out after I got home. Full face mask/snorkel)
But after being dragged across the rocks so many times I had started to have a panic attack so my husband had to hold onto me and help swim me to shore and help me out of the water. I almost passed out on the way to shore.
(I know because I've had panic attacks before and a lot of them I have also passed out from them before. None of my panic attacks have ever happened in or around water before.)
But finally I got out of the water and was able to calm myself down. The entire lower half of my body got bruises all over it.
Then on Sunday my husband wanted to try again but at one of the Coronado beaches because there were no large rocks in the way and the waves are calmer. Well my fins were moving from side to side too much in the water I guess they weren't on properly that time so we decided to leave the fins on the beach and just walk out till the water was too deep to stand and swim out.
Well he held my hand and every time a wave came we either braced or jumped. At one point he decided to hold onto my hips with both hands. Then a really large wave came and it went over my head completely. I decided to swim to the top to get air but my husband wouldn't let go of me so he was effectively holding me under water the entire time. I hadn't gotten the chance to prepare for the wave before it came so I only got like a half breath before it engulfed me. I ended up with a lot of water up my nose and some down my throat. When it passed I decided I was done and just wanted to lay on the beach for awhile.
I'm very sorry this happened to you. Definitely not the bonding time you wanted. I'm glad you are alright. I'm still dang about all that serious of bad events. I agree with your decision to lay on the beach for awhile. All the fun and relaxation from it was already taken away and no longer enjoyable :(
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Originally Posted by Khaleesi Daenerys
I just put my cat to sleep. I miss her so much.
Rest In Peace my princess
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I'm so sorry to read this sad news. They leave a cat shaped hole in your heart when it's their time to go. :hug:Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Clara
I'm sorry for your cat passing. It's one of the hardest feeling in the world :(
I'm so sorry to hear this. Its hard when they find their way into our hearts in only ways that they know how to do. She was loved by you, and she most likely loved you in return.
<3
~Kaylin
So my dad is being a major dick again. He's constantly yelling at me since last Sunday. He's insulting me and calling me an idiot and telling me I'm an addict. Saying I can't stop spending money and can't stop eating like wtf! I know I over drew my account once by accident because it was the gym membership fee and the second time was an accident as well because I doubled checked my account before I spent any money. I understand that I have a spending problem sometimes and I need to save more money and spend it better but he just started ripping into me about my eating problems. Even though I shouldn't be surprised about him being a jerk but the fact that my cat just go put down 2 1/2 days ago has left me raw and unguarded. Idk wtf his problem is but I can't handle this shit anymore!
Your dad is a dick and is projecting some of his own issues onto you, for whatever reason.
Your money is not his business. Neither is your eating.
You are an adult now. Save your money up and get the fuck awway from that toxic asshole.
I'm sorry about your cat :( your dad is such a jerk. I agree with pearlie you need to get the heck out of there. It feels so much better being away from that toxicity you will be relieved. Hope you get to leave soon.
Not quite a b*tch, but annoying. I did a really awesome non-mer multimedia advertising photo/video shoot for a VERY well known company recently, and I can't talk about it until the material comes out (IF they even use the pics with me, they had 15 people there). If they do use my likeness, you guys will be the first to know!!!
Now for the actual (continual) b*tch post: the roommate that I hate announced yesterday that he is going with my friend and a few other friends to Europe by the end of the year. I guess he's not getting a car any time soon, is he? I guess he's okay with leeching off of my friend forever.
I have officially disowned my only best friend. It hurts me so much to have to do it, especially since it isn't really her fault; but I can't take this torture anymore of thinking that she's my best friend, and then she doesn't share ANYTHING with me or talk to me anymore- even if I live in the same house as her. I feel so lonely whenever I'm at home with the two of them present. But oddly enough, I feel just fine around any of my other three roommates.
I keep telling myself that it's another year left of this mess before I can move out. At least I'm gradually making new friends at my new job to replace all of the ones I lost thanks to aforementioned roommate.
A dear friend, who recently died suddenly, once said to me "friends aren't forever. Remember, there's 'end' in 'friend'."
People come into your life, and leave your life, in an endless parade. People also come into your life to teach you something...ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from these people that are making you feel so badly.
Once you figure that out, you'll be able to move forward, and you'll be stronger and smarter, and you won't allow that situation to make you feel badly again.
Also remember, ask the same question - what are you supposed to learn - from situations that make you happy, too, so you can recognize and repeat them in the future.
Life is a journey. You learn something new every day...if you pay attention.
I hope you feel better about things, soon. :hug:
Thanks, Pearlie. I needed that.
Aww i didn't need that but it warmed my heart ❤️ Pearlie is like Super Mermaid Mae-El to me!Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
Ps the above is a reference to Kal-El aka Super Man...
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Um yeah i guess im going to write this, this should be the right place, dont come at my neck for this and dont take it as instigating or rude cause people usually read rudeness in some things i say...
So today i had a discussion with some great mermaids about piracy and design or arth theft, i dont consider it to be such a big deal and the fact that people report the pages and what not will not change anything unless the artist takes proper measures.
My question to you guys is Does the Disney company go around suing the tail making companies that have been asked to recreate the little mermaid tail or the Dory tail even the people from Splash and how many people have splash tail recreations some of the most renounced Mers in our community have a splash tail yet no one complains about how the design was stolen or taken without permission right, at the end of the day no one is making original tail designs because they are based off of nature no one can brand the blue tang or Dory tail because its something that already existed, you dont see fish throwing lawsuits around either, this is the way i view it theres is not one thing created by man that can be considered an Original nothing, everything made is simply a copy or a update to the previous design like davinci and his aircraft glider and the invention of the first flying plane the Brothers and Davinci copied or enhanced the already existing design created by nature (birds) even now this is happening in every aspect of life coping is part of the creation cycle.
Again no need to come for my throat im just trying to convey my point of view in a more double thought type of way cause i usually type what comes to mind without filter and sometimes i sound rude but its just my nature.
I as an aspiring tail maker would never steal anyone's designs not because art theft bothers me but because i am more than capable of creating my own copies of nature.
I just wanted to get that out my chest cause every time im seen as the bad guy or Devils advocate and im not im just stating the truth and people get offended.
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Yep! They do, it's why princess companies work under the radar, why you can't use anything licensed by the Mouse. Ariel tails take design liberties, as in they aren't exact copies for little mermaid images printed out onto fabric and sold for profit, that would get you a Cease and Desist from Disney and ultimately being Sued (being in a group for princess party companies, I have seen it happen once or twice to people who advertised their characters with exact names like Elsa and Anna, or Tiana.Quote:
Originally Posted by Marinus Mortimer
The creator of the original Madison tail is aware that people have made reproductions and actually welcome it, that's the difference between stealing and sharing content or building on it.Quote:
even the people from Splash and how many people have splash tail recreations some of the most renounced Mers in our community have a splash tail yet no one complains about how the design was stolen or taken without permission right,
Except the problem isn't a blue tang tail, or a clownfish tail, we know those can't be copywritten and are seen in nature, the problem is a)stealing an actual literal photo of someone's creation. and b) The tails that are stolen are NOT seen in nature, finfolk or the customer came up with a unique design, the fluke, the fins, everything is unique to that one tail, these tails aren't blue tangs or clownfishes or man o war tails, these are one of kind tails who's exact likeness is just pulled and plastered lazily onto a cheap item.Quote:
at the end of the day no one is making original tail designs because they are based off of nature no one can brand the blue tang or Dory tail because its something that already existed, you dont see fish throwing lawsuits around either,
You aren't seen as a "bad guy" because you're "stating the truth" you're seen as a bad guy because you advocate for theft of someone's hard work, and are very vocal about it, even getting to the point of being straight up rude and petty about how much you are right, you also wave around that you're an aspiring tail maker, yet you can't see the wrong in the stealing of someone else's design and property straight up even to the last detail, and even blame the creator for having their content stolen (which someone else pointed out reminded me sickingly of the things people say to survivors of assault or trauma, and your response to that is a whole nother rabbit hole I will not be diving into.)Quote:
I as an aspiring tail maker would never steal anyone's designs not because art theft bothers me but because i am more than capable of creating my own copies of nature.
I just wanted to get that out my chest cause every time im seen as the bad guy or Devils advocate and im not im just stating the truth and people get offended.
Another one of your usual arguments is that it isn't taking any money out of FF's pockets because they charge so much for items, and that is simply wrong, as someone who will be going into the business you should realize how much of that cost goes into their pockets, usually far less than what is charged. I charge $500+ for my custom made costumes and items and you know how much goes into my pockets? $100 or less, usually more around the $75 range. Why? Because for one I need to price my items at a competitive pricing in order to compete in the market, 2: most of the money goes to materials, upkeep of my machine, advertising, rent, etc. all until I end up with the meager paycheck for me to spend on myself, usually spent on food and textbooks.
I am curious, do you have any background in art? Have you ever sold any of your own art creations before? Because if you have I can't fathom how you can argue FOR art theft.
Did not know thatQuote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
Did not know that either.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
But at the end of the day people draw up their inspiration from nature usually they see a cute fish or a butterfly and they recreate it to their likeness. Thats what i do i search the web for inspiration and a color pallet then draw from there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
But im still the bad guy. Ill be Ursula then thats fine with me. [emoji23][emoji23][emoji1434]Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
I grew up not very wealthy, the best example was when me and my mom had to steal a whole chicken so that our family could have a thanksgiving dinner, we've had to walk in to a shoe store with old broken shoes and walked out with new ones so that me and my siblings wouldn't be bullied at school for not having the new kicks,
My whole life I've had to steal not because i wanted something but because i needed it and couldn't buy it, and don't think we stole for pleasure i remember my lil bro once took a toy and didn't say anything until we got to the car my mom scolded him on why it was wrong to steal something without the need and took him back to the store and he had to apologize and got grounded, with that said I've never stolen from a person only from big stores that wont see a difference in income from a stolen pair of shoes or a bag of rice. Im not saying that stealing is the right thing but sometimes its required to survive.
And about the survivors of trauma thing i said again it wasn't meant to sound that way, but i still think they are partly to blame and i said " partly" because the Sisters know this is happening this stuff gets discussed on their Pod group all the time and um sure people inform them the same way they posted it here, they know how to avoid this and still do little to nothing.
You have a great pint, but your telling me that two pectoral fins require a gallon of silicone? A gallon of Dragon Skin is like 200 and something bucks if im not mistaken but most extra fins by most tail makers range from 150 to 200 dollars or more when to make those fins you'd require only a portion of a gallon especially with comercial tail makers they make their sculpts as thin as they can be while still looking beautiful to save on materials, they are not spending 2500 in silicone and pigments alone?Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
They make money because if there was no profit they wouldn't be doing it and live off what rocks?
Ive never sold anything but i once made a script in high school for theatre class it was a project in group my job wasn't to write but to decorate the scene and control the sound effects but i decided to pitch in my idea and even wrote the script for our play because the assigned writer was a slacker, then one of my good friends the slacker that was supposed to write the script but instead was the lazy rock dragging the group project down took my script and said it was him who did it, i couldn't do anything because he didn't say anything until the end, the grading was not individual so if he failed to do his job the whole group grade would lower so i let it slide for the greater good and my grade. Point is I've been robbed of my art before a learned that it wasn't a big deal, at least not for me theres an old Spanish saying i like but does not qualify for FF it is " A thief who steals from a thief deserves a hundred years of forgiveness " it sounds better in Spanish lol.
Im glad you took the time to write this response i learned from it nbs.
Also im glad you didn't come at my neck like everyone else you actually were nice about it so thanks momo, i dont remember if i apologized last time for how i talked to you but ill do it again sorry for sounding like a womanizer last time and thanks again for being nice this time!
I guess next time i express my opinion on something and people dont like it ill probably be banned as im on thin ice like the forum king [emoji146] said but ill gladly accept his wrath because i will always express my opinion on stuff even if is not shared with the res of the fishes...
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I don't think it's the actual opinion you're voicing that put you on such thin ice but like I said, the way you say it, you're quick to get defensive and argumentative instead of voicing your opinion in a calm and respective way and because you get so defensive so quickly and start making quips and smart ass-y responses it comes off as very rude and hostile.
And I get where you're coming from, I grew up poor too, taking toys from the trash cans, eating one can of chef- boyarde a night for a family of 5, and cooking over a tealight, and yes I have stolen a few times to get by but one thing my parents taught me was that I steal to survive, I don't steal because It's something free because someone else somewhere will probably suffer consequences because of my stealing, whether that be a job, or cuts in their paycheck for missing merchandise, so people stealing just to gain a buck doesn't sit right with me at all.
And as for pricing, you also have to factor into the time it took for them to master their art, and to sculpt things. I charge $60 for a custom sewing pattern, it sure as heck doesn't take $60 to draw a pattern on printer paper and scan it in, but it pays for the time I spent learning how to draft patterns, the time I spent to learn how to use my software to make it into a digital pattern for the customer, and the time it took for me to do all the math required to draft that pattern so while the actual pattern took minimum supply costs, my talents and abilities to make that pattern will bring the price up (which is why they say you can't get something cheap and well done, because if it's cheap then probably they haven't put in the blood, sweat, and tears required to learn that craft well)
For another example about why I hate art theft: I have been an artist my entire life, I have sold my art since I was 12 years old when I got my first artist alley table, My art doesn't sell for much, $30-$50 from me directly, but it's still not enough to live off of, heck, I eat ramen noodles most times and more often than not I'm having sleep for dinner (strangely I somehow gained weight from a diet like this..) but recently I made some Steven Universe artwork to sell, a poster of a character named Garnet, now In my shop this poster was selling for $15, each, but someone contacted me telling me that someone stole my artwork and was selling the posters, shirts, and mugs for insanely cheap, I'm talking $3/poster cheap. This shop had hundreds of reviews for MY artwork on things, they were producing for cheap and selling cheap meaning they were selling more than I could ever dream of, here they were rolling in dough off my artwork and I was looking forward to another night of shut-eye for dinner, something as simple as a stolen drawing on a mug could be taking food out of someone's mouth, so I personally know what it's like to have art theft effect me negatively, and can be more empathetic to people who have had it happen to them too, even if their products are an arm and a leg, I don't know if that's how they feed their kids, or stay alive.
And, profit to companies other than the original creator aside, can you imagine how utterly devastating it would be for the customer who's tail they pirate? I know how hard Raven worked on my tail, how much time, effort and love she put into it and I know how upset it would be for me and for her is someone stole my design. The design she made especially for me, and mass produced it. Tails, especially silicone tails, tend to be very precious and personal to their owners (not to mention the creators). They're not just stealing from a company, they're stealing something incredibly precious and personal to a person.
Yes in the first piracy tread i has a jerk but this time that was not my intention i even asked Selkish several times to please stop arguing with me because it still wouldn't change a thing, but she ignored it and kept on.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Momo
I thank you for taking the time to discuss this with me i do admit your pints have swayed my view point but im still am and will be a pirate my self, not the tail stealing pirates btw i wouldn't steal from other people.
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