B!TC# IT OUT!

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Originally Posted by Seavanna

Well, it looks like mermaiding may have lost me my job. If you've noticed I haven't been around, it's because the freshmen football players who have been bullying me found out about my kids party stuff, found my FinFolk tail unboxing video and spread it all over the school district, and got me in serious crap with the admin. I'm not so sure they will be renewing my teaching contract next year. Beware of who finds out about your hobbies. :(

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Ouch. :( That reminds me of the Brony who was fired simply for being a Brony. Here is an article where a lawyer discusses the legality of that situation. It's an interesting albeit sobering reminder that people can be legally dismissed for no reason whatsoever. Granted, I also recall the many cases where teachers have been dismissed for appearing scantily-clad on their Facebook pages.

Would any of these freshmen have been in the class that disrespected the substitute teacher, recently? Perhaps they are retaliating for having to write an apology for their actions?

And to clarify - football players?!? Don't they dress up in costumes (uniforms... same same) when partaking of their favorite pastime?

Sports fans often dress in ridiculous attire when attending games. Civil War reenactors go to elaborate ends, to dress appropriately for their hobby of choice. Would someone who dresses up for a Renaissance Faire be in danger of termination if their employer had no sense of imagination?

What a world... what a world.

^ THAT.

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Originally Posted by Merman Vaughan

I'm just curious but...is that bad? Why would they not renew your contract over you being a Mermaid? Surely that's discrimination of some sort...?

So long as your work life and personal life don't mix, I don't see why it's such a big deal. You didn't ask for the video to go round the district, you didn't ask the football jerks to bully you. Wow this is horrible :( I'm so sorry for you. If you need anyone to rant at drop me a mail I'd be happy to listen.

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Ugh. Seavanna, that SUCKS. My kiddos know about my obsession, but I can see where, if you've had issues with some kiddos, that they could try to use this against you. My question is how are you in crap with your admin? I mean, it's not like you posted anything sexual, or offensive, etc. It is a HOBBY for pete's sake.

Unfortunately, with teaching, if you do not have tenure they are not required to give a reason as to why they are not renewing your contract. I was transferred to another school and they didn't have to give me a reason, but they did anyway--it was because we lost over 200 students and I was the most recently hired teacher. I would assume that it's the same way where Seavanna is.

This REALLY stinks. I had a really bad group of kiddos my 2nd year of teaching (cussing me out and shoving desks at me, for example), and instead of offering support, my administration blamed me and put me on an "assistance plan". and then the next year they praised me for being such an "awesome" teacher when I got a new group of kiddos.

Seavanna, if you want to talk, let me know! If you want to talk on here or facebook (if you have one), I'm willing. I went through a pretty rough year and (barely) came out alive.

I hate being forced to be someone else and have to have the true me hidden behind closed doors.

Allie, let it go, let it go! Turn away and slam the door!

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Originally Posted by Seavanna

Well, it looks like mermaiding may have lost me my job. If you've noticed I haven't been around, it's because the freshmen football players who have been bullying me found out about my kids party stuff, found my FinFolk tail unboxing video and spread it all over the school district, and got me in serious crap with the admin. I'm not so sure they will be renewing my teaching contract next year. Beware of who finds out about your hobbies. :(

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that sucks :( I hope things will be better.
However, I think they're just jealous of your hobby.

i dont think it's jealousy, its more like "picking on someone because youre just an asshole." because i'm 100% certain that they dont want to be seen in a tail


"LOL OMG LOOK HOW CHILDISH THIS IS, SHE THINKS SHE'S A MERMAID LOLOL OMGSOGAY *Insert other sexist, childish, homophobic, & incomprehensible gibberish here*
HASHTAGLAMEHASHTAGHASHTAGHOWOLDDOESSHETHINKSHEIS"

ok how about hashtagshutthefuckup.

seriously i hate assholes like that. seavanna, you could move up to canada! i had an art teacher at my highschool who's an ARGOS cheerleader! you'd get to be a mermaid AND be a teacher up here. edit: and you'd be a second raina :P teacher/mermaid

I seriously don't think they have grounds to terminate you. They don't really have grounds in my opinion. This is what you do on your free days as a hobby, I mean its harmless and give you cash from the parties.
If you were say a porn star on days off or a drug dealer then I would get where they are coming from, but being a mermaid is nothing near those two things.
If they do fire you, I'm sure you could sue for it, take it to the media. So on. I mean honestly. Kids now are more terrible than I ever remember them being.

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^amen to that. they get worse every year. back in my day *omg i cant believe i just said that*

we were fucking terrified of our teachers! we were loud, yeah but they ruled our grades with an iron fist. and none of the parents being all like "why did you give my kid so low a grade?" now everyone questions the teacher? like wtf.

Yea I mean I know teachers who say their kids are pure evil and never listen, if these kids are the ones taking care of me when I'm old, id rather die young.
Like in high school we had a teacher who was a teacher who was a dealer for years and she used to give kids an A if they gave her drugs. She finally got fired when the principle caught her, but she was strung out and drunk for years before they fired her.

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holy shit. you kinda have to wonder how the kids are being raised at home. if it isnt the parents, its the kids acting up.

Yeah my high school was nuts some times. I think it has to be either parents that don't care or are so oblivious to what their kids actually do they assume everythings okay. Thank god my parents weren't stupid.

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there's a saying in vietnamese that my parents kept telling me; respect your teachers, they take time out of their schedule to teach children how to be smart, and they teach you how to grow and be a better person for tomorrow.

this want part of it: but if teacher hits you, tell the principal.

Vaughn, Surly Sea Nymph said all the things I wanted to say, but much more eloquently that I could have!

People come and go from your life for a reason. Ask yourself 'What am I supposed to learn from this person/relationship/experience?' And when you can honestly answer that question, you won't have to repeat that particular scenario and can move forward with your life.

Some people are a hard lesson to learn.

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Originally Posted by PearlieMae

Vaughn, Surly Sea Nymph said all the things I wanted to say, but much more eloquently that I could have!

People come and go from your life for a reason. Ask yourself 'What am I supposed to learn from this person/relationship/experience?' And when you can honestly answer that question, you won't have to repeat that particular scenario and can move forward with your life.

Some people are a hard lesson to learn.

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You are so right! I had an experience where I had to go through this and even though I learned from the experience, I am glad I got away from that school

Family crap is the worst.

Dealing with my mother in her insomniac fits is like dealing with a drunk, only worse, because she's not drunk. But still, when someone does something over and over, and it's totally predictable, and each time they end up apologizing, the horrible things said were already said, and I just cannot deal with this anymore. Esp when I deserve none of it. If I was hearing honest things about myself, even if it were hard to hear, I'd be open to it. That's how I evolve. Honest self-disclosure. But this? It would be allowing myself to be abused to put up with it.

And she knows she's doing it. She told me in her last 'apology' that she was sorry, she guesses it's just her resentment built up, but it 's in the past and she should let it go. Seriously. She resents me. Me? What the hell have I done? I've been wracking my brain trying to figure out in what way this is possible, and you know what? It's not. I haven't done anything worthy of resentment. I'm the only daughter who hasn't ripped into her, disrespected her, etc. I'm the nice one- the one who tells her I forgive her for the things we went through because she stayed with my dad so long, I'm the one who tells her I understand, who knows how easily she is hurt, who has listened as she cries about the way my sisters have treated her. If there is any resentment to be had, it would belong to my sisters and I and be against her.

And I get this crap... she does not do this to my sisters because she knows they'd destroy her for it. I'm done. Other than if I need a sitter I can trust with my daughter, my relationship with this woman is over. I just need to figure out how to get groceries and appts with no car, because public transpo doesn't go everywhere and is not an option for some things. I don't want to borrow hers anymore.

But it hurts, so bad, in my heart. All the depression I've ever dealt with and all the heart break anyone ever does, all the pain in the past, none of it really equals this. Thanks, mom. Hope you're happy you finally drove me away, too.

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Originally Posted by SurlySeaNymph

I'm the only daughter who hasn't ripped into her, disrespected her, etc. I'm the nice one

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it's often the nice, kind, forgiving people who get all the resentment, because the abusers think they can get away with it there.
in such cases, it's better to stop being nice and kind to people who obviously don't deserve it.

but I know it hurts.
especially when said people, who know how to push buttons, will then rage and tell you how cold and cruel you are, because you stopped being nice and forgiving all of a sudden :p

^I agree. I most certainly have stopped at this point. I'm always so concerned about her pain- I tend to be very concerned with suffering in general, it's just a thing with me, and usually not a bad thing. But concern for myself must come first.

being betrayed by family hurts so much. how low do you have to be to lie to your own daughter for a "birthday present" and then yell at her for picking out the wrong bday gift when she's just going to regift it behind you back? so many things wrong with this scenario

basically my mother told me to get a 300 dollar netbook (which is outdated so they dont sell anymore) so i buy an adequate sized nice (white because racist towards black anything wtf??) laptop, 3 year warranty for the works because she wanted a nice laptop for her birthday. when i bring it home my sister asked how much? i say 700 including the carrier case. she then proceeds to tell me she heard she was gonna regift it got my snake-viper family. they lie to get money out of us and they never work a day in their life. so we're basically their crutch. WELL. MOTHER WAS ALWAYS COMPLAINING about them about how they lie to get money out of us. but now she turns around and doe the same thing to me.

when my mom looked at it she was like omg why so much money?? and then i asked her if she was going to regift it or use it because if it was supposed to be a birthday gift, she's supposed to keep it, not give away my hardearned money to some bitch i dont even talk to. so then she starts yelling at me for even buying such an expensive laptop.

UH HELLO? did she not realize that she just LIED to me? if she had told me the truth that it was gonna be a regift i wouldnt mind but wtf my HUSBAND chipped in to the laptop too because it was supposed to be birthday gift.
i'm feeling o upset and hurt.. and betrayed to much. how can my own mother do this to me? her other two daughters dont do jack shit in this house' no chores, no bill paying contributions.. and I'M the one who gets treated like shit. wtf. i have worked hard all my life. i sacrificed my childhood for this woman... i stopped going out with friends, i only focused on school work, now i'm just straight working. all the while having to babysit my neice while her mother and my younger sister whore themselves for fun. WHAT THE FUCK.

this has happened before when she wanted a clinique bonus because it was on sale and there was a special. and she flat out yelled at me because i didnt buy the right sized bottle. LIKE WTF she gave me the ad for the items IT WAS IN THE FUCKING AD.

i just feel so under appreciated right now, and is constantly treated like garbage.