The ban is killing me on the inside

[brynnwiens]

I always went to swimming as a mermaid as a passion and an escape of my everyday worries. It made me find true joy in life now because of the ban I don't have any pool where I'm allowed to be myself and it's taking a toll on my mental Heath. I'm having dreams about it and everything I have avoided even using the gym of my local community centre because of the acociation with the ban. I'm angry upset and depressed and I feel like I have an empty hole that I cannot fill it's been around a month since it was banned there and my pass is still being paid for it makes me even more upset. I don't know if they will take me seriously though because everyone is so uneducated about the use of mermaid tails. It's so stupid like they told me because some girl on YouTube with the idiot mother almost drowned. And that may happen at their pool ug kids have gotten injured on skat boards and trampolines like have you seen the amount of people come out of sky zone injured and it's still allowed it's just so dumb. All the pools have banned tails every single one were I live now it has spread like wiled fire and become a trend to just do it because the other pools did it to. I am actually personally offended it's like they want to take away a piece of who I am. And before you suggest I go to a beach I live in Canada and it's winter like 80% of the time here so I can only mermaid one time a year. Sorry for the long rant I just need to talk to some other mermaids reach out and hope some other have advice or comfort and know what I am going through right now because I feel very alone in this matter and like I'm battling Goliath alone and if I don't win I will hold an emptiness in my heart forever sincerely a bath bound mermaid.


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[AniaR]

which province are you in? I got the bans over turned in NS. I can send you some of my resources and media coverage and you might be able to convince a pool to let you swim

[AniaR]

Here's some of my resources:

http://rainamermaid.weebly.com/blog/...uts-down-girls

http://rainamermaid.tumblr.com/post/...-banning-tails

[MermanJamie]

Awww....I'm really sorry. I'm not going to say that you have it better than me, but it sucks for me as well because I get the mental thing. After my mom died, I re-discovered my passion, but was too afraid to talk about it with anyone, including past trauma involving being called things like "gay", "stupid", and "weird". I still feel like I can't work things out, nor can I use the fact that I know what my passion is, because my family would just laugh at me.
So, I get what you mean, about the longing to do something, but not being able to do something.
Love to the bath bound mermaid from the landlocked merman,
Jamie

[brynnwiens]

Awww....I'm really sorry. I'm not going to say that you have it better than me, but it sucks for me as well because I get the mental thing. After my mom died, I re-discovered my passion, but was too afraid to talk about it with anyone, including past trauma involving being called things like "gay", "stupid", and "weird". I still feel like I can't work things out, nor can I use the fact that I know what my passion is, because my family would just laugh at me.
So, I get what you mean, about the longing to do something, but not being able to do something.
Love to the bath bound mermaid from the landlocked merman,
Jamie

Hugs back thanks for responding and telling your story as well I don't know many mer people so it's nice to talk to someone
Ps hope we can meet some day at mer fest or something I really need to get talking with others like me I don't feel so alone.


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[Aurelian]

If you need any help, just ask. I don't know you but I know that I and several others will do anything it takes to help you out. We're here for you.

[Galilee]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's really tough to be denied something that you are passionate about: especially when it plays such a vital role in mental health. I think your examples of skateboarding and other activities are a good example of how everything we do has its own set of risks, but guidelines have been implemented in order to reduce these risks. When you find something you enjoy, it's certainly worth the risks that come with it. I'm a Canadian mer as well, so I can certainly understand your frustrations of only being able to visit lakes when the whether is nice enough, which is certainly not as often as we'd like. I think it's awesome that you were able to reach out to the community here, and, as Aurora Celestia said, we're here for ya! I know having support from behind a screen is much different than having support from others who are physically present, but I hope you don't feel as though you're completely alone in this. Those resources Raina shared look super informative, and I have a lot of hope that with a little bit of education and banding together, we can slowly lift the tail ban. We've got your back for sure!

[brynnwiens]

Here's some of my resources:

http://rainamermaid.weebly.com/blog/...uts-down-girls

http://rainamermaid.tumblr.com/post/...-banning-tails

Thank you so much idk if I can convince all polls because most have liability issues to lean on. But I will try my local community centre where you sign a waver to swim there anyways and see if they get on bord.


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[brynnwiens]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It's really tough to be denied something that you are passionate about: especially when it plays such a vital role in mental health. I think your examples of skateboarding and other activities are a good example of how everything we do has its own set of risks, but guidelines have been implemented in order to reduce these risks. When you find something you enjoy, it's certainly worth the risks that come with it. I'm a Canadian mer as well, so I can certainly understand your frustrations of only being able to visit lakes when the whether is nice enough, which is certainly not as often as we'd like. I think it's awesome that you were able to reach out to the community here, and, as Aurora Celestia said, we're here for ya! I know having support from behind a screen is much different than having support from others who are physically present, but I hope you don't feel as though you're completely alone in this. Those resources Raina shared look super informative, and I have a lot of hope that with a little bit of education and banding together, we can slowly lift the tail ban. We've got your back for sure!

Thank you so much for reaching out I only wish they could see the points as well as we do.


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[Mermaid Kassandra]

I'm so sorry to hear that!
I understand your feelings, mermaiding is my way to express myself and feel free from ordinary life (after all my bad experiences of people bullying me), but here in Italy, even if we don't have a ban, pools really don't want us to swim even with just a monofin to practice. It's awful and depressing ��
I am near you dear!

[fabianfrz]

@Kassandra: Can you explain that a bit more? I know that in vienna the public pools owned by the city disallow fins in general, but I have never seen any public pools which explicitly bans monofins or mermaid tails. It's sad to hear people are bullying you, for your hobby - it never happened to me (maybe it will happen some day; at the moment I am just asked if it is easy/hard etc.).

[Mermaid Kassandra]

@Kassandra: Can you explain that a bit more? I know that in vienna the public pools owned by the city disallow fins in general, but I have never seen any public pools which explicitly bans monofins or mermaid tails. It's sad to hear people are bullying you, for your hobby - it never happened to me (maybe it will happen some day; at the moment I am just asked if it is easy/hard etc.).

In Vienna you're luckier!
When I train with my free driving instructor they have no problems with it, but if you want to go to the pool to train with your monofin for mermaiding they make you always leave the pool.
I don't know if it's because when I train the pool is closed to the public and when I go for mermaid trainings (always with my diving buddy ) they have it open to other people but I always train in a lane where no one is swimming so I really don't understand why.

Fabianfrz I experienced bullying since I was a child... It's ordinary administration for me now, and I knew I was going in thus duration starting mermaiding but you know, underwater you can't hear people talking so as Sebastian always say: Life is better under the sea!

[Sea~Phoenix Savannah]

I feel your pain. We struggle with tail bans in America too, because yes one person making a stupid mistake truly does ruin it for those who not only know what they're doing but love the activity/ lifestyle. I love mermaiding and would be in the same position as you if it were altogether taken from me, I was at a private pool swimming and someone was talking about tails and how pools wouldn't allow it, when i thought he might be talking about the pool i was in (thankfully I misunderstood and he was talking about a city run pool) I kind of shut down and was heartbroken that at any second he might have me take off my tail and get out. Mermaid is who we are, it's a part of us and it makes others happy. Luckily you do have have Raina in your corner though being that both of you are in Canada and she has a multitude of resources and experience. That being said if you ever just want someone to talk to about this, or to excitedly share progress with just PM me, I'm totally here for you.

[Imbrielle]

I am going through the exact thing in Edmonton AB where mermaid tails are banned at all pools. It is making me miserable

[MerMatt]

In Calgary and area we have a few pools that allow mermaid tails. In fact I was at one this afternoon and had a quarter of the entire pool to myself.

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