Hello everyone~ I'm a new mer who just joined the forum today (my introduction post keeps getting denied for some reason...so I figured I'd skip it for now I guess.) Anyway, I bought a FinFun Rainbow Fish tail and monofin (oof, that advanced monofin pro is tight lol). However, I haven't actually told my parents about my wanting to do mermaiding, or having bought a tail.
I have a lot of general body anxiety and anxiety about telling my family. I don't think they'll kick me out of the house or anything, but I know they'll think it's weird. My family was at Sea World this year, and FinFun partnered with Sea World and was selling stuff there. They had a video playing of people mermaiding and my dad said it was weird, which has only increased my anxiety.
I think I'm worried about...part of me being denied? Like, them finding it odd or questioning my wanting to do it would be like they were going against part of who I am. I don't know how to explain it exactly, but I think you all get what I mean. The thought of me telling them and them giving me an odd look or really anything but approval terrifies me so much I get physically ill thinking about it. Also, I'm 18+ so they can't exactly tell me no, but my family is really close so their approval is important to me, and I live at their house (also I'd have to use their car). My sibling knows, and would be up for going to pools with me and is totally supportive.
Similarly, my body issues make me terrified of using a public pool. I don't like people looking at me all that much, and if I were using a monofin or tail, that's going to attract attention. I've watched Courtney Mermaid's and Nerdmaid Faith's video about pool anxiety multiple times (great video that I definitely recommend), and while they make good points about people being more focused on themselves than strangers at the pool and what not, I just can't not think people are staring at me even when I know they probably aren't (plus having a monofin or tail amps up the odds someone actually is looking at me).
Basically I'm a bundle of stress and anxiety and have been ever since I decided I wanted to do this LAST SUMMER. I've been holding back that long due to this stress, and I really want to stop being this stressed, I just don't know how. I've went on a diet and have lost 50 pounds already, and that has helped my anxiety a little bit, but not much. Any tips, advice, other's experiences or really anything is appreciated!
(Also, if this isn't in the right section, please move it! I'm still figuring out where everything goes |D).
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