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    Quote Originally Posted by Mermaid_Izzy View Post
    So I guess I am kind of interuptting a conversation here, but I need to let something out.

    My boyfriend of a over year left me for one of my friends. Who was claimed by him to be a better person than me. (and trust me she is rude, hateful, and many people have claimed it)

    I'll admit it wasn't the best relationship, but it was my first real relationship and at the end things were going better than they had been.

    We have know each other for over 2 years and we grew so close to on another; he was basically my best friend. He was my first kiss and my first love. However I learned he was arrogant, egotistic, and basically a narcissist.

    I tried to seperate myself from him before, but I thought something had changed. He kept making me see how everything was my fault and though I resisted that belief, I eventually started to believe it all.

    After a year of arguing and us not talking to each other for over a month, we tried to work things out and it was going really well. Until I got really busy for about a week straight and he didn't get enough attention.

    He blamed me for creating excuses when I tried to fix it and finally that weekend he told me he was tired of dealing with me.

    Throughout the next week, my friend dumped her boyfriend and go togther with mine.

    I thought I was fine being without him and at first I was. But now, I can't remember how frustrating I felt or how much he hurt me. Every day is a toss up on whether I am going to be an emotional wreck or strong.

    I knew I was on the edge of breaking down when I went to a local festival to sell raffle tickets, but I thought it would help me not think about everything. When I showed up he was there with my friend, arms wrapped each other. They went to watch the bands at the stage, but they kept parading back and forth past my booth and they always made sure to at least hold hands when they'd pass.

    I just feel very betrayed and hurt and a slight bit angry.

    Especially at the fact that I knew his mom wouldn't take pictures or a video of him at graduation so I did and sent it to him. I knew that he would want something to remember him getting his diploma and walking across (I knew his new gf would do it, but I didn't see her there). I saw he had seen it and I didn't even get a thank you in return. So I commented on not getting a thank you and he looked at it and never said a word.

    So again even slightly more upset.

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    Mermaid Izzy, I feel you. I was 100% where you were a few years ago. I had a friend that I started dating, the relationship lasted for 4 years, he too was my best friend, first love and first real relationship.

    He also would blame me for some his choices "but you weren't available that day." though he was more of a narcissist and pushover.

    We had good and bad times, I had also separated from and gotten back together with him, but at the end he just told me not to call him.

    I frequently saw him with his girlfriend who I knew and previously tried to be friends with although she was just acting nice toward me while trying to get closer to my (now ex) boyfriend.

    She would hug/kiss/cuddle him whenever I was around, it broke my heart so much I had to leave whenever she came by and it caused me to practically abandon my friends because my ex and I shared friends and therefore so did she.

    I felt heartbroken, alone, betrayed, depressed and angry (at him, his girlfriend, one of her friends and myself).

    I was depressed for so long after that, I had my strong days and my emotionally wrecked days.

    Also I think that it was beyond nice of you to take a video for him.

    Mermaid Izzy, you are way better off without either of them (even though it may not always seem like it). It may help to distance yourself physically from that situation and definitely from them while you heal. This will sound cliche but even though it may not be easy it is possible and there will definitely be better days ahead of you. If you ever want anyone to talk to I'm happy to lend an ear, just PM me.

    Also, people aren't lying when they say karma's a b****, i just sat back and smiled myself as his new girlfriend cheated on him and then dumped him for another guy that I was a close acquaintance with. He then came to me heartbroken and wanted me back, though the one in my case doing the shutting out was me > (I feel I should say this, I did try to speak with him years later and "just be friends" but he was only interested in using me to make himself feel better and offered almost nothing in return. People like that rarely change.)

    Again, if you need a friend I'm here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sea~Phoenix Savannah View Post
    Mermaid Izzy, I feel you. I was 100% where you were a few years ago. I had a friend that I started dating, the relationship lasted for 4 years, he too was my best friend, first love and first real relationship.

    He also would blame me for some his choices "but you weren't available that day." though he was more of a narcissist and pushover.

    We had good and bad times, I had also separated from and gotten back together with him, but at the end he just told me not to call him.

    I frequently saw him with his girlfriend who I knew and previously tried to be friends with although she was just acting nice toward me while trying to get closer to my (now ex) boyfriend.

    She would hug/kiss/cuddle him whenever I was around, it broke my heart so much I had to leave whenever she came by and it caused me to practically abandon my friends because my ex and I shared friends and therefore so did she.

    I felt heartbroken, alone, betrayed, depressed and angry (at him, his girlfriend, one of her friends and myself).

    I was depressed for so long after that, I had my strong days and my emotionally wrecked days.

    Also I think that it was beyond nice of you to take a video for him.

    Mermaid Izzy, you are way better off without either of them (even though it may not always seem like it). It may help to distance yourself physically from that situation and definitely from them while you heal. This will sound cliche but even though it may not be easy it is possible and there will definitely be better days ahead of you. If you ever want anyone to talk to I'm happy to lend an ear, just PM me.

    Also, people aren't lying when they say karma's a b****, i just sat back and smiled myself as his new girlfriend cheated on him and then dumped him for another guy that I was a close acquaintance with. He then came to me heartbroken and wanted me back, though the one in my case doing the shutting out was me > (I feel I should say this, I did try to speak with him years later and "just be friends" but he was only interested in using me to make himself feel better and offered almost nothing in return. People like that rarely change.)

    Again, if you need a friend I'm here.
    Thank you, that makes me feel a lot more hopeful. And thankfully he graduated this year and I probably won't see him unless we bump into each other in this small town. Plus my friend, well ex-friend, doesn't hang out around me because I talk with people she doesn't like.

    And speaking of cliche, after telling my ex about some of the cliche stories I have written, he said that I should use my life as a story. So for once I will take his advice and I am currently working on my story with him and warning others of the signs of bad relationships (esp. With narcissist people)


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    Quote Originally Posted by Mermaid_Izzy View Post
    Thank you, that makes me feel a lot more hopeful. And thankfully he graduated this year and I probably won't see him unless we bump into each other in this small town. Plus my friend, well ex-friend, doesn't hang out around me because I talk with people she doesn't like.

    And speaking of cliche, after telling my ex about some of the cliche stories I have written, he said that I should use my life as a story. So for once I will take his advice and I am currently working on my story with him and warning others of the signs of bad relationships (esp. With narcissist people)


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    Of course, and I'm glad. That's great to hear. Why? 'Cause they're real? XD But seriously I'm happy to hear that, less drama to deal with makes for a happy/ier life.

    I've written cliche stories too, though I like them and that's all that matters. Yeah, go for it! And in addition to helping others avoid and recognize bad relationships and "interesting" people it can also help you in your healing process. I'm actually considering doing this myself.

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    I wanted to reach out to my friends and talk about what happened to my family on FB but my feed was filled with happy announcements(like my friends are going to have a baby, my other friend got promoted etc) and I didn't want to rain on their parade so I'll let it out here because this seems like a appropriate thread for it.

    My grandparents own a pet food factory in Korea. Yesterday it burned down completely. The firefighters were very brave and tried to put the fire out for 15 hours but they couldn't save it. Thankfully nobody was injured but we lost so much. To make it even worse, Korean insurance is different from here so they aren't paying for anything. And to top off that, they also have to pay for the damage the fire caused to the nearby factory. My mother is in Korea right now while I'm in the US so we are communicating through messages but she said the police said it looks like someone set the fire to the factory purposely. They will look through security cameras that were in the nearby areas but it will take them at least a week to identify the person.. if we are lucky It makes me very upset that someone would do such horrible thing. I'm glad nobody was working when the fire started though.. but this even is so upsetting. My grandparents have worked very hard for years and when they are just about to retire, this happens out of the blue. I just don't even know what to say. I've had a headache since yesterday but at least writing this out here seemed to help me a bit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Slim View Post
    I'm not mad but this super annoys me. The facebook drama I thought from the previous month that kinda divided the community isn't apparently over. That person decide to start hitting up different mermaid pages leaving bad reviews (which involve comments made from the drama at the end of April) under a fake name. I already figured out who she is and disappointed she sent her friend to do her dirty work. Claiming for someone to be something without proof is just bad but to bring that drama to their business page is pathetic. Keep drama among yourself but don't bring it to person page business page. If you really want to take business away from another mermaid, can do do fairly by being a better mermaid which can be done with good work ethic. Making a fake profile to leave a bad review and that fake profile will get taken down. As usual I got screenshot of the person review before it was removed and the person's private message that has the SAME exact wording as the person real profile page. If anyone else business page gets affected by a fake profile, let me know and I'll work on getting the fake profile closed. Enough with the cyber-bullying everyone. We are all better than this.

    Edit: I just realize this is meant for the drama topic. Sorry I posted this in the wrong thread.
    No, this is the right place post this.

    I am so sorry to read this terrible news! I hope your family can bounce back from this tragedy. I'm very glad no one was hurt!

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    I really hope things calm down around here for y'all

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freckled Kisses View Post
    I really hope things calm down around here for y'all

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    Quote Originally Posted by JadeSparrow View Post
    I wanted to reach out to my friends and talk about what happened to my family on FB but my feed was filled with happy announcements(like my friends are going to have a baby, my other friend got promoted etc) and I didn't want to rain on their parade so I'll let it out here because this seems like a appropriate thread for it.

    My grandparents own a pet food factory in Korea. Yesterday it burned down completely. The firefighters were very brave and tried to put the fire out for 15 hours but they couldn't save it. Thankfully nobody was injured but we lost so much. To make it even worse, Korean insurance is different from here so they aren't paying for anything. And to top off that, they also have to pay for the damage the fire caused to the nearby factory. My mother is in Korea right now while I'm in the US so we are communicating through messages but she said the police said it looks like someone set the fire to the factory purposely. They will look through security cameras that were in the nearby areas but it will take them at least a week to identify the person.. if we are lucky It makes me very upset that someone would do such horrible thing. I'm glad nobody was working when the fire started though.. but this even is so upsetting. My grandparents have worked very hard for years and when they are just about to retire, this happens out of the blue. I just don't even know what to say. I've had a headache since yesterday but at least writing this out here seemed to help me a bit.
    I'm so sorry that happened! I hope they find whoever did this and they're brought to justice.

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    I told myself I wouldn't post here yet just because I'm still quite new-ish to the network, but F*** that I just reached my breaking point.
    So first off, I realized I don't actually have a lot of friends and worse I don't really know how to keep them, at least not since I got out of high school. I can seriously count the friends I have on one finger, being an introvert with CPTSD doesn't exactly help (I'm working on managing the latter). I'd love to have more but social situations... One person who I thought was a better friend didn't even tell me when/where/ invite me to her WEDDING! So much stuff happens in their lives that they don't bother to tell me about it's ridiculous! I'm like 'you have my phone number it's not that hard to text me.' I've decided to start calling them my close acquaintances. But it still hurts and enrages me to see that they couldn't be bothered to even say "hi, it's been a while."

    My left rotator cuff is starting to bother me again and I always have to be careful about my right, my knees still hurt if I'm on them too much/ in odd positions.

    I have a $500 dollar certification test to save up for and what if I don't pass?!? I now need to go to the chiropractor again, the raise I got (at a job that pays less than my last job) recently was laughable. My last job I was at for 4 years, which during the last one was abused by one of my coworkers (constantly scared for my safety) and the management did nothing! They demoted her, but wouldn't let her go because they "don't want her to have a bad experience." Are you &$$#^@% kidding me?!? She added 4 new triggers to the list. Additionally I wasn't even the only one she was rude to (though I got the worst of it). I've got a new job now thanks to another acquaintance, so that's good.

    Unexpected cost ate up 1/3rd of my finances this month. All my car expenses are going to come one after the other, and next month of all times. My (eventual, though it could happen next year) moving costs increased by $1,000.

    Scheduling conflicts in August for two events I really want to go to.

    Catcalls. 'Nuff said. Been dealing with harassing texts from an ex, I'm going to the police about that, it's gotten crazy.

    My family (my mom & aunt in Georgia excluded) is flipping insane. My grandma is living with my oldest aunt who's vindictive, two faced & just plain rude and because of that has taken on behaviors mimicking Alzheimer's (if not having actually developed the disease). My aunt is also has power of attorney for my grandma, despite being the worst person for it (and may have actually committed fraud!) she has rebuilt and refurnished her house with my grandmother's money and probably more that I don't even know about. My other aunt meanwhile (who if you ask me is the most deserving of it) has only gotten maybe $10,000 if that. My mom has gotten maybe a couple hundred, I, have gotten $100 wtf? And if I heard correctly my aunt's adoptive daughter (I don't know why she decided to adopt, she's not very maternal and that's me restraining myself. Bored? Trying to compensate for having raised two kids that have both gone to jail numerous times? Whatever.) may be on state assistance even though my aunt is retired and uses my grandma's money. If I did hear correctly I will report that, without hesitation.

    I don't mind being single until I go on social media and literally almost all I see is "engaged!" "just married!" "it's a boy/girl!" which is the reason I stopped using Facebook in the first place, I will only get on it for the mer page I'm making.

    *Exhales loudly* I think that's it, had to say it.

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    I'm BACK

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    Ugh. I'm so bugged that this bugged me so much. lol
    Someone asked me if I'm my daughter's grandma. I realize that technically, I easily could be. I had her when I was 39. And I am used to people thinking I'm younger based on looks, which proves it doesn't mean much. Still, health issues (bad asthma stuff happened late last year and early this) and learning how to eat entirely different have me not at my best, and this did not help! I'm really not ready to be mistaken for my child's grandma. When I am, I will go full Sea Hag. But I'm not there yet!

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    When you are happy and excited about all things good and some party pooper comes along and starts ranting..... then you question what they are doing as it makes no sense and they ask you to back off as if you have stalked them endlessly - that twisted mentality doesn't make me mad but it sure does upset me.... I do not like manipulators - feeling genuinely really hurt...

    ok, so I have kindly been advised to clarify that the initial point of my post was due to the fact is that my friend and I were on fb and this very thing was happening to her and so we were wandering how others deal with it - perhaps I miss interpreted the point of that thread(?) soooo now that I have made my huge signature smaller hopefully my link to me swimming wont appear like a sales pitch
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    Really? When someone comes into a thread to stomp around and just sell sell sell, and implies that everyone else is stupid or irrelevant, and then when someone calls them on it, they turn things around and act like the other person is the crayfish. Sure. Narcissist.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ocean View Post
    When you are happy and excited about all things good and some party pooper comes along and starts ranting..... then you question what they are doing as it makes no sense and they ask you to back off as if you have stalked them endlessly - that twisted mentality doesn't make me mad but it sure does upset me.... I do not like manipulators - feeling genuinely really hurt...
    Nicely putting it, your responses did come off as your trying to switch the topic to your product almost every time. I thought a couple times I accidentally clicked on your your thread. To make a product is exciting. It does lose it excitement to the customer when it's almost included in ever other response.

    Sorry for the brutal honesty here but to be confused about a person response, I can understand. However I can't figure out how anyone is a manipulator and we have a drama thread if you feel that way. I personally will not buy your product for this reason: I now know I could be a manipulator if there was a disagreement. That the impression I get.


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    oh dear..... I thought this was a sort of fun, supportive B it out thread... I genuinely dont get what I'v done wrong here, I have not pointed at anyone and said anything because this comment was in general, people do that and it makes me sad - I am not trying to push my product today at all - I made a couple of posts about it the other day and that is it - I am adjusting my profile as my pc will allow - my signature is WAY too big - it doesn't seem to want to stay smaller when I have tried.... very slow network this early am.... If anyone thought I had crossed lines I am super happy to have a pm dropped in my box and I will sort it out like that, that would be cool.

    ok, so I have kindly been advised to clarify that the initial point of my post was due to the fact is that my friend and I were on fb and this very thing was happening to her and so we were wandering how others deal with it - perhaps I miss interpreted the point of that thread(?) soooo now that I have made my huge signature smaller hopefully my link to me swimming wont appear like a sales pitch
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    Look at it in my way and keep in mind that I'm not trying to upset you. I want people to succeed. I saw the thread in question and I think it would had been best to end there. Frustrating by all means but you accidentally gave yourself a bigger audience here. This thread is the last place you want people to see. People do have twisted mentality because of the fact they been burned by new items makers that are here today and gone tomorrow. Can't waste your time with shrimps. Mistakes and misunderstandings happens but people will forget in no time. Once you been around a bit, you'll see how supportive this community really is.


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    A ridiculous amount of pools and beaches in my area keep getting shut down ("temporarily") because of bacteria making a lot of people sick. This combined with the fact that I now work full time means even if I had a tail or monofin I wouldn't be able to go swimming. I love mermaids and designing tails but I'm never going to financially be in the situation where I can get a pool let alone a tail. I live paycheck to paycheck so it's not like I can just steadily put money aside. I've had horrible things happen to me in the last several months and I feel like this is just the icing on the cake.


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    @Hydra1337: Bacteria is the reason why chlorine is added to the water. The more bacteria is inside, the more chlorine must be added, however there is a minimum and a maximum proportion (at least in austria but it should not be different in other countries).

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