B!TC# IT OUT!

[Rogue Siren]

Agree with Melaina. I'll start posting spoilers about a month later....if you haven't seen it yet I doubt you ever had plans to. Lol



And I'm totally pissed and knew I should have just let things be. *headdesk* So I apologized to this friend because yes, I knew she liked this show but complained about it anyway (then unfriended her with no notice though she had been being rude for over a month). Well she actually did respond. But what does she do? Bring someone else into the conversation that doesn't even have anything to do with it! This other person is my very good friend, and her friend as well. They live an hour from each other and I live three hours away. It seems like this crazy bitch (sorry, very upset. She's done this before), is constantly trying to make me seem like the bad guy. In her reply (which is a group post now) she exaggerates everything I've done about how /I'm/ the horrible person, then she goes on to a short little one sentence apology about blowing up on me. So my actual friend only knows a small fragment of the story. It's like this bitch is trying to take this friend to her side and make her hate me. Dx

I have no idea what to say, if I should say anything at all. If I do reply it will be to her ALONE, like it should have been! *beats her head against a wall* Therapy please! Someone get her help.....

[PearlieMae]

(I love you, Arion! )

[Mermaid Kelda]

I have no idea what to say, if I should say anything at all. If I do reply it will be to her ALONE, like it should have been! *beats her head against a wall* Therapy please! Someone get her help.....

If it were me, I'd (privately) message the other friend too, briefly saying something along the lines of "sorry she dragged you into this, you didn't need to be included in our animosity" or some such. Nothing harsh, not defensive, just letting her know you thought it was inappropriate for the other girl to randomly add her to the argument.

[Mermaid Adriel]

@PearlieMae I know, I'm trying to get my monofin for doing a fabric tail, beacause I think it's more comfortable starting with it, but I'd like to take off the itch (dunno if it's written right) to make a home-made realistic tail. Maybe I need to wait more time.
The fact that I feel excluded is something that I carry around for years, because I don't feel like the others, but I won't dwell too much about it.
However, thank you and @deepblue for the words <3

@Arion I often watch that episode, it reminds me of my childhood :'3

[SeaGlass Siren]

I have it so only certain people can see it so it's not exactly public. But that's besides the point. My point is this chick goes on a tangent about anything she wants and no one is allowed to say anything regarding her anti religious, anti homophobe, whatever-it-is posts and suddenly I am not allowed to post what isn't really spoilers anyway (and in the future if I do that's my decision) because its not "etiquette". Pish posh I think there's other posts on the Internet people need to worry about :/ that's the whole reason why I'm so irked about it. "spoilers" or what people consider to be spoilers in the grande scheme of Facebook things is very minuscule compared to hate posts.

[Vixy]

I hope nobody minds me putting things on here.

I'm resenting my ex boyfriend, who I still love and have feelings for. He couldn't decide on what he wanted, I wish I looked at the warnings signs, like him saying he liked being single. He's a commitment phobic, but it seemed to have worked for the first month before he started freaking out. No future, me having more feelings for him then he for me. His actions spoke differently to his words. Then he stopped talking to me for days, and then when I finally got him he told me he only thought of me as a friend. His actions still speak differently, he confuses me even after we broke up and I sometimes hate him for it.

Perhaps he freaked out, perhaps not. But he knew he was going into a relationship with someone who's previous boyfriend cheated on her. He knew I was fragile and yet he still went into the relationship with me, and he was helping me heal.

Sorry... but it helped getting it off my chest.

[Mermaid Kelda]

@Seaglass: For sure; I'm not defending her actions at all. Some people can just fly off the handle and it's so much worse when they're hypocritical about it. It's a necessary skill to be able to respectfully disagree with someone, rather than attack.

If anyone disagreed with my anti-homophobic statements on Facebook, I wouldn't get angry. I'd respectfully disagree, then un-friend the bastards

[PearlieMae]

Vixy, when you say his actions speak otherwise, do you men he still wants physical affection? If so, he just wants you as a fuck buddy with no responsibility of maintaining a relationship. Unless you are into sex as sport, get away from him, because that behavior rarely, if ever, changes. Sound like being involved with this guy could be pretty toxic. Not a life partner there. Ask yourself what you are supposed to learn from this experience, and move on.

[Vixy]

More he showed he cared by doing things like someone would if they had intense feelings and in love. When we broke up I cut any contact with him whatsoever. His actions that confused me, is that he was still keeping up on what I was up to and asking about me to mutual friends.

He's a confused boy not a man and I feel sorry for him. Letting his past interfere with his future.

[SeaGlass Siren]

wow i'm a retard LOL


i reread my entire post just now and i meant to say "homophobic", not anti homophobe LOL.. thats the last time i try to use my phone to quickly respond

back on topic.

It's a necessary skill to be able to respectfully disagree with someone, rather than attack.

this, i can agree with.

[Mermaid Kelda]

Well, I can definitely see your point then! She doesn't sound like the sort of person you'd want to keep in touch with anyhow :\

Though, did you mean anti-religion? Because I don't know if I've ever met someone who was anti-religion and also homophobic.

[SeaGlass Siren]

She's very anti religion ._.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Sadly I know a ton of people who aren't religious and are also homophobic (i dont talk to them though) . This girl and I were only friends because we had the same interest in music

People I know who fit the description are or were "high school gangsters". Oh boy. I remember the days ....

[Dacora]

I understand that most people wont find value in fish like I do, and thats understandable. But why do people feel the need to say such negative things about my hobby? Some of yall know I have been dealing with bullies who are being rude toward me and my fish. Sadly it happened again. I was starting a water change on my tank and my uncle asked why I do it so often, so I explained then he said "Why dont you throw them away and get cooler fish?" To which I replied, very nicely and calmly I might add "I would really appreciate it if you wouldn't say stuff like that about my fish. I have worked hard to get them where they are and they are important to me. I dont say rude things about your kids, so please dont say stuff about mine." He cut me off and called me immature and told me not to get so butt hurt over fish. I got really upset, said things not appropriate for this forum and walked off. The worst part is my parents, who know how much I care about my pets, didn't even stand up for me. They just let him talk down to me.

How should I deal with this?
Its normally very hard to get me upset but im really hurt. Hes not the type of person to stop either. He will keep on like this and its causing me to resent my parents for not stepping in and asking him to stop. He is over here every day too since he already killed his relationship with my grandpa, aunt and his ex wife and has no place to go since he has no money, Evan though he spoils his daughter with unneeded toys and buys cigarettes and alcohol with the rest. I just can't deal with it.

These fish are my kids. All my pets are, they help me emotionally and with my depression and the tank calms my anger issues. They are not just my fish, I rely on them just as much as they do me. :/

[Mermaid Tula]

Dacora, it sounds to me that he's jealous that you have something you truly care for. You have stability in your life, and he doesn't. So he's picking on you, making fun of your stability.
I would suggest talking with your parents when he's not around and let them know how upset he makes you when he teases / makes fun of you because of the care you give your fish. Like not just a "Mom & Dad, uncle is upsetting me." Have a full on conversation about what he's doing, how its affecting you, and ask for their support, because they have been pretty lax on not supporting you when he goes on the attack. Yes he may be a sibling, but you're their child. You're the one they should side with, especially since he's estranged himself from not only his other sister, but his own father and ex wife.

Just remember, that you're fish are awesome, you're awesome, and he's just a putz. <3

[deepblue]

I think what Tula said is right on. And you know what, when people say someone is butthurt, they're usually just dismissing that they have hurt someone. They don't want to take responsibility for their actions, and they negate the other person's feelings. I'm glad you stood up to him- esp if your parents won't, and it sucks when the child, adult or teen or younger, has to be the grown up when it comes to their own parents.

[Dacora]

Thank you guys. It nice to know I have some support. I did talk with them about it before, and I did after he left tonight. All my mom said was she wasn't on any ones side and just ignored everything else I said. Neither her or my dad really gives a shit. All they wanna do is kiss his ass, which is beyond me because he has started rumors when my mom and dad where considering getting a divorce about my dad getting a RV and taking my brother away. We talked to my dad about it and he never said that.

All my uncle is, is a liar,a bully and a mooch. And I get the brunt of it.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Instant karma is gonna get him! Gonna knock him right of his feet!

[PearlieMae]

When he starts in on you, tell him to go away and mind his own business. If he asks why you do anything with your fish, ask why he wants to know. He's only asking because he knows he can incite you into a conflict. Shut him out. He has no power over you.

He's obviously dealing with issues of his own insecurity and the only way he can is to pick on others - you. How old is this guy?

[Dacora]

Thanks guys, I'm feeling a lot better today. I talked with my grandpa about it today one on one and got it all out. Im just gonna ignore him all together upon my grandpas suggestion. My grandpa told me if he keeps it up he will kick him out since we all live on my grandpa's property. Apparently he has been pulling the same stuff at their house and my grandpa and aunt are sick of it. I dont want to see him kicked out but he has been causing a lot of isses beyond this and its causing my grandpa health issues.
@Pearlie he is 45, he acts abouts 4.

~The goldfish mermaid~