B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Aika]

Someone said I lied about who made my tail lol

Wow... just.... wow...

[MermaidCelesteFL]

I just wanted to say, Thank you, Naufra! Your suggestion to sleep in the middle of the bed works wonderfully! I finally got a good night's sleep, and my cat can now sleep on either side of me! I'm starting to feel better as long as he cuts off contact to me. Next week, swim team exercises! And this time, I'm doing it for myself!

[SeaGlass Siren]

so my mother in law's father (my husbands grandpa) might be passing tonight. everyone of his children was called into the hospital and they are spending their final moments with him. it's stressing my mom in law out so much that she's not thinking properly. it got so bad that my father in law was actually yelling at her as soon as they both came home. i can't understand Cantonese but it was terrifying for me.
it's stressing my husband out a lot too.
quite frankly i kind of don't know how to act or behave. both of my grandfathers have passed back at home but i was never able to actually go see them due to flight cost + distance, and i never really got to spend as much time with them. and i never really received or gave much sympathy either because i have never seen or was put into a situation like this. ever. 3 of my friends have passed away in my lifetime and it was a traumatic thing for me personally because i spent most of my time in school, like i literally grew up with these people. my family on the other hand, well....
so when i heard about this, i... really have no idea how to react.
i talked to my mom about it and she said it's part of life, she'll get over the pain eventually. she's sad, so just provide comfort. but i can't really provide sympathy/empathy because i really don't know what it feels like to lose a member of your family. (i mean i had a pet hamster die, and she was like family but i am pretty sure it's not the same. i grieved over a year and i'm over it now..ish..)

guys.. i have no idea what to do :|..

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Just be there for your husband. Whether he shows he needs the comfort or not, be there for him. You don't have to talk to him about it if you don't want to or know how to, just show him that you're by his side no matter what.

[deepblue]

This is one of the reasons why I have no immediate ambitions to become a professional mermaid. If I were to advertise myself as a mermaid, then everybody would expect me not only to have a tail but an expensive, "realistic" one at that. And that would mean having to invest a lot of money right from the start.

Gotta tell you, though, many pro mers use tails that aren't silicone and they do great. MeduSirena's tails are fabric, and she does great. I hear about her all the time, see her gig vids show up here and there. People who demand a 'kind' of tail over a good performance are just wasting your time, and their protestations are pretty pointless. Ignoring them is anyone's best bet.

[Miyu]

MermaidCeleste: Wow, what a scumbag! You get that awesome anime body pillow and cuddles with your cat <3 I'm sorry that happened, that's just wrong. There's someone better and more understanding out there for you.

On the topic of fabric tails: If you haven't seen Stella the Siren's youtube videos yet, you should totally check them out! She makes the most beautiful, flowing, realistic fabric tails, and somehow she seems to have a really neat way of moving in them to seem like she's swimming side-to-side, like a fish! I would absolutely hire her as a pro mermaid. Just because tails are made of fabric doesn't mean you can't be a quality pro-mer!

[Adalira]

I just wanted to say, Thank you, Naufra! Your suggestion to sleep in the middle of the bed works wonderfully! I finally got a good night's sleep, and my cat can now sleep on either side of me! I'm starting to feel better as long as he cuts off contact to me. Next week, swim team exercises! And this time, I'm doing it for myself!

Celeste i am sorry that your ex treated you this way. You did not deserve that at all.
I will tell you a quote my brother has used for scumbags in my past:' Put a stamp on him" in other words: get rid of him asap.
That is the same advice i would give you. Do not take him back. He is the kind of guy that deserves a stamp on him, send him on his way

[Adalira]

Even though we live in the Netherlands we celebrate Thanksgiving since my husband is from the US.
It is getting colder and colder here so i wanted to wear a nice warm sweater...went into the closet only to find all my warm sweaters (they are a bit in the back of the closet) to be completly smelling of mold!
So i packed everything in bags and my mom will wash it out this weekend (we do not have a washing machine)
Today i decided to go through the closet only to find 2 more sections to have clothing that smelled like mold GRRRR
Had to take those out....all the shoes in there were covered in mold as well.
So i had to clean it all up tonight. So sick of this damn mold everywhere!

[Merman Chatfish]

So, my live-in boyfriend (and only mertender) broke up with me last night. He said that he can't handle my mood swings (I'm bipolar, and do take a TON of medications to balance my moods), and all I do is drag him down whenever I have a major meltdown. His family urged for him to break up with me, so he did.

He also told me that he MAY consider getting back together with me in about 6 months if I have lost weight, take fewer medications, and can function normally.

Never mind the fact that I came home from a 13 hr shift and find half of his stuff unexpectedly packed up in his car before he explained anything.

Its so sad how the public in general have a negative attitude towards people with mental illness. I also suffer from mental illness, anxiety and depression, and when I have a bad night it can be hard to find someone to talk to or support you. Some of my friends would go out of their way to avoid me if they knew I was down. I know I have freaked some out when I am laying on the ground under a playground curled into a ball crying. Most people expect that from a child, not a 20 year old 6'4" man.

[Naufra]

I just wanted to say, Thank you, Naufra! Your suggestion to sleep in the middle of the bed works wonderfully! I finally got a good night's sleep, and my cat can now sleep on either side of me! I'm starting to feel better as long as he cuts off contact to me. Next week, swim team exercises! And this time, I'm doing it for myself!

I'm glad that helped. ^_^

[SeaGlass Siren]

Well bit of an update not really a bitching..
he passed away yesterday morning (12 am ish). It was really sad during his final moments. It seemed like he had so much to say but couldn't say it because he was physically struggling. All he kept doing was move his mouth and cry.
Funeral is on Tuesday.

[PearlieMae]

I'm so sorry you are going through all this...my condolences to you and your family.

[Lucinda]

My condolences, SeaGlass Siren.

[Mermaid Galene]

I'm so sorry for your loss, SeaGlass.

[Lucinda]

Gotta tell you, though, many pro mers use tails that aren't silicone and they do great. MeduSirena's tails are fabric, and she does great. I hear about her all the time, see her gig vids show up here and there. People who demand a 'kind' of tail over a good performance are just wasting your time, and their protestations are pretty pointless. Ignoring them is anyone's best bet.

Actually, what I'm trying to say is that I don't want to throw myself into something that I'm not ready for. It's not as such about tails and their materials, but about various issues. My swimming\diving skills are rusty after 14 years of only a few stray swims per year. My sewing skills are rubbish too. And I have social anxiety. So, the last thing I need at the moment is to be tackling trolls who complain about petty things like what kind of material a tail is made from.

[SeaGlass Siren]

Thankyou Lucinda, pearlie and Galene.

[Mermaid Aika]

I'm sorry for your loss, SeaGlass Siren.

[Merman Chatfish]

My dad moved my bike from the garage to one of our barns, the one that has a crazy number of pidgons. And he puts the bike right under where they roost. Now my bike is covered in shit and its an absolute mess. He is always complaining about not being considerate. Had he told me it needed moved I wouldn't have put it under the birds and I would have used the bike cover I bought this summer but didn't use because I thought it didn't need one in the garage. And I can't say anything about it because he will be pissed at me. He got angry at me the other night because I forgot I put my pop into the fridge and drank from my brother's can.

[Miyu]

...I am trying to come to terms with the fact that I probably have an eating disorder (orthorexia)... and unfortunately it's not one of the usual ones, so most therapists/doctors don't even know how to treat it... Not that I'd want to "recover", because then I would just be giving in and eating all these bad foods all the time, because I just know that if I'm suddenly not "OCD about food" anymore, then everyone's just going to go balls-to-the-wall giving me artificial colours and flavours and things cooked in Teflon (which is what started the confrontation this morning).

I really don't know where to talk abut this, because it's not even technically a diagnosable disorder right now, and I'm not sure if it falls under the "vent about your health" thread or the "living with mental issues" thread, or here. So if I need to move my talk to another thread, just let me know. But I would like someone to talk to about this who doesn't just tell me about the starving kids in Africa who would be happy for the food that's in front of me - because all that makes me think is that someone should find me a way to send my breakfast to them and THEY can eat it and we'll all be happy.


On another note, I'm getting really sick of the housemates/my bf's family who just barged in here and are totally disrupting everyone's lives, and keeping me and my mertender from being able to do any crafts or take photoshoots, so we can't make money. Also, they like to just sit in their monster gaz-guzzler with poor emissions and just LET IT IDLE FOR AN HOUR while he smokes cigarettes... and of course the fumes all waft into MY room, because I live on a porch with a door that won't close.

[Mermaid Lilium]

so sorry for your loss SeaGlass *huge mer hugs*