B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Alea]

I don't normally talk much about what's happen but since I have no one to talk or even vent this too, here we go!
My sister got a rabbit from petsathome (UK pet store) to be a partner for her other rabbit, we got told she was fixed and was just being hormonal. Nope! Two weeks after having her in with our other rabbit, my sister and I went out to clean them out and found kits, baby bunnies, the jelly beans. Seven of them. We weren't happy and phoned up the store and got offered a free neutered for their mother, just their mother. She was meant to be neutered before we even got her! Our male rabbit was already neutered so he's not the father and it takes about 30 roughly days for a rabbit pregnancy. Any who, my sister was moving out and I got left to care for her rabbits while she was away, not a problem. I love them to bits since they are so small and fluffy (won't stay that size forever though. ) but, yesterday I saw and chased a kid out of the garden and found he had released all of the rabbits, I had to spend hours trying to find them all, still sadly missing one... When my dad got home we had also noticed that a lot of our stuff had been stolen from the back garden. I'm more amazed at how someone could steal a giant ladder... Any who, filing a police report and back off out to find this tiny rabbit.

Do you think the kid took the missing baby rabbit? That is really terrible my Grandparents had lots of their nice family heirloom silverware and tableware stolen by a neighborhood kid they were always nice to. They treated him like a Grandson and then he went and stole from them.

I hope you all get your stuff back and that the baby rabbit is found.

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Edited to add my complaint that I just had hehe. Uhhh so I have been wanting this bird called a green peafowl for YEARS now. They are endangered and I really want to raise them and help conserve them. Anyways, I was working on making an aviary for them but I keep running into setbacks. I thought I would be able to get them this year, but my Mom really doesn't seem to want me getting more birds. I was telling everyone on a bird forum that I thought this would be the year I finally get green peafowl. I felt like I was ready for them after years of wanting them and researching them. Now I feel like I can't have them. My main complaint though is that all of a sudden everyone on there is wanting to get green peafowl, even if they never had previously expressed an interest for them or asked any questions about them. I just saw a lady who is new to peafowl (peacocks) just bought a green peacock - and generally you should get greens after you have lots of experience with the regular non-endangered variety of peafowl. Anyways, I am happy for all the people randomly getting green peafowl this year, but I can't help but feel jealous that they can just get them on a whim and I am also a bit mad because some of these people don't seem to know that they need heat in the winter if you live somewhere cold, that they need more space than regular peafowl, etc. So I worry that they will get the bird of my dreams only to not know how to take care of it and have it die or feather pick/mutilate itself because of lack of space or stress.

I know I should be happy for these people after all that means they could sell me green peafowl and perhaps for cheaper since they know I love them so much, but since not many people seem to own them or take photos of them I wanted to kind of be a trailblazer taking photos and documenting the birds since not a lot is known about them. Now it just won't be as special. I dunno I am sad because I wanted them for years and now all of a sudden everyone wants them...I guess I feel like I have the right to have them first, but of course I don't. I just feel down about the whole thing.

Oh well I guess I sound weird talking about bird related stuff on this mermaid site, but I figure even if you don't have birds you can somehow relate to what I am saying I hope.

[Naufra]

I completely understand where you're coming from, MinxFox. I don't raise birds, but I have a similar problem in my doll collecting. My dream doll, or "grail" doll as the doll collectors call it, is the 2011 Ringdoll Frankenstein. He's the most beautiful doll and I want him more than any other doll on the market, but he was a limited run and I didn't have $800 to throw around at the time. I've been scouring the secondhand market for him ever since, hoping to buy one that needed a new home. Lo and behold, I found one one day! I contacted the seller about doing a layaway payment plan, which is common for expensive ball-jointed dolls, and the seller responded with the layaway terms she was okay with. I pm'd the seller again to accept her terms, but this time she told me she found a buyer who would be paying in full up-front and was going with that buyer instead. Not cool and not entirely kosher in the doll community, but it was her doll to do with as she pleased and there was nothing I could do about it. Later that day, I went on Facebook and checked the page for my local doll group only to find one of the group members, one who is notorious for being a brat and treating other group members very badly, complaining about how she found a Ringdoll Frankenstein for cheap but it wasn't the 2013 one she REALLY wanted. She went on to say that she bought it anyway and would use it to practice modding dolls. She ripped the doll of my dreams out from under me and now she's gonna mutilate it.

[Mermaid Alea]

My friend got her first BJD recently! I like BJD's I just don't need another expensive hobby haha.

Ooh Ringdoll Frankenstein is nice! I agree that you should have gotten the doll. You saw it first and you still would pay for it. That is so terrible that she will use him as a practice doll! That sculpt is too nice to test on!

Yikes the worst part is seeing her updates of what she does to the doll. That is what I am worried about as well. Once the lady gets this bird, I worry so much about seeing updates on how he does. I hope she knows more about the requirements than we think she does. If she doesn't have enough heat for this peacock in the winter, his toes and maybe even his feet will get frost bitten and fall off so if you don't know what you are getting into with these birds, the consequences can be terrible. She has only had peafowl and a few other kinds of birds for a year.

Unfortunately on the bird forum there are some people that buy birds first, then ask questions and say, "Haha so I just got these birds, and I have no idea how to take care of them! Tell me all you know about them lol." That always makes me upset.

[Mermaid Momo]

Do you know what I absolutely hate? When you tell someone that something they're doing is offensive in wrong and they start getting super defensive and angry even though you said nothing rude or mean to them. Earlier today in a cosplay group someone posted this question and this is the responses it got (I'm Laronda)






Sorry for spam of screenshots but I am livid right now.

[Mermaid Momo]

I just realized I didn't expand some of the comments. oh poo. I hope you can understand them well enough.

[Little_Orca]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

Do what makes you feel the most happy. Don't worry about what others think, they are most likely secretly jealous because they don't have to guts to do something so daring.

[Mermaid Silverlilly]

I feel so guilty asking for help on my facebook page with a gofundme account! I really do so much so that I can't even share it to any page buy my mermaid personality have just asked others to share if they wish.

Have basically lived 9 years with an ankle injury been through 3 surgeries and am now in a brace to make sure my ligaments etc heal after re tearing them late last year! And I have just discovered swimming and the water again which I love. So yes I do need the help as I won't be able to get work for quite awhile whilst I am in the brace but I feel bad asking for help.

If anyone wishes to share my page around I would appreciate it but I really don't expect anything to come out of it. I feel bad for even admitting I need help to get my dream tail. And still plan on doing all in my power to save as much cash as I can for it.

My dream for it all would be to be able to give joy to children and take up mermaid parties since there is nothing where we live and also get photos etc promoted and out on my Mermaid Facebook page about the majesty of our oceans and reefs etc.

http://www.gofundme.com/kuuzzg

Just needed to get that out as I really do feel guilty asking for help. And I know this isn't exactly a B!tc* it out thing but I just really needed to get this off my chest.

Thanks for listening!

[EnidDarkWater]

Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

One thing I've noticed about most alternative weddings is a lot of families want to relive their own personal dream weddings and butt in their own two cents. I can see where it would bother you that they don't support you but it's your wedding and if you want to be a mermaid for it you rock that tail like no ones ever seen. If you're going to have a typical reception then get a spiffy white dress to wear so they get their" dose of normal" and continue on. The only person that truly has to be happy with how they looked on the day of the wedding is you and personally you have a whole pile of people wondering how a mermaid looks when she gets married

[Mer-Crazy]

At Christmas, my aunt tried to convince me not to get married in a tail... Tonight, after working on my letter I'm sending to Merbella to get things started, my mom was trying the same...

I don't have the emotional stability at the moment to sit here and express how I am feeling about this... I just... I don't know. Such a lack of support in my family... hurts.

If it makes you feel any better my family are super supportive of my mermaiding but are also against the idea of me getting married in a tail (not that I'm planning on getting married any time soon but the subject came up once. I think we were talking about you actually). I think it's something not a lot of people who aren't into it, especially parents who grew up in a different time and expect everything to be 'traditional'.

[Yulia]

It's really f*cking hard to not care about this whole drama, when you drop in to random mermaidpages on facebook and se people referring
to as some sort of betrayer and such.
"blablabla I can't believe how someone would do that, and then blame others blabla bla the monofin is the most delicate part of the tail, don't bend it!"

ARGH
This was also from the same person stealing Hyli's picture for a contest.

[Imogen Finnly]

What do you do when your boss is horribly inappropriate? Like she always does and talk about the worst things. And i pretend its funny but now that has back fired and she is starting to get worse and worse. Like literally i am at work typing this and i just laughed at another bad joke.
She also hollers (not loud) at every single guy she sees. He could be a 700 pound man in a unicycle and still hollar. She always has to take note on a dog's testicles. (Im a groomer )and yesterday she grabbed one dogs testicles and giggled them and like ...it is disgusting. Then she always complains about everything and complains about her bff complaining too much. Than everytime some dude looks at her she thinks they wanna fuck her. And she just always has something mean to say about everything and all our customers. She is a nice person underneath all of it and does well to stand by me and all but her behavior is appauling. And to top it off she has no table manners and haulk loogies everywhere. Ugh

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Kelda]

Wow, this is probably totally inappropriate of me but... Everything you have written there sounds like something I could write about a lot of men I know. It's kind of refreshing to hear about a woman doing those things xD

[Mermaid Kelda]

Do you know what I absolutely hate? When you tell someone that something they're doing is offensive in wrong and they start getting super defensive and angry even though you said nothing rude or mean to them. Earlier today in a cosplay group someone posted this question and this is the responses it got (I'm Laronda)

Sorry for spam of screenshots but I am livid right now.

Sometimes people are just really not worth it. I know it's not about them - it's about all the people they might offend with their casual racism - but in situations like this, I often have to sit back and realise that I will not convince them and all I will get back to my salient points is insults.

I hope that eventually they realise how wrong they were after more and more people call them out.

[Mermaid Cascada]

I just realized I didn't expand some of the comments. oh poo. I hope you can understand them well enough.

UGH! I hate when people pull out the adoption card when it has nothing to do with the topic... Idk if it's for pity or what but being adopted myself, I find it extremely annoying.
If someone bleached their skin, used paint, or makeup to look white I'm sure she would be offended. No doubt that there would be backlash in the cosplay community for doing so. That woman must be not only ignorant but arrogant. Some people never learn. Don't waste your time on someone like her. She made an idiot out of herself and that is VERY apparent.
She even wants to define/tell someone when they should not, or should feel discriminated on because of their race. One of my pet peeves is when someone tells me when I should feel discriminated against or that I'm just sensitive. When I say they wouldn't understand, they just take it as nothing.
Smh. Not only that but she turns to profanity in a debate to get her point across (calling others names), so that about removes all credibility she HAD. Sad... really is. One day she'll learn... hopefully. Let's hope she gains some sense. Society is evolving and there is not any room for arrogant people like her.

[Imogen Finnly]

I mean she picked a pimple on her butt in public. I told her thats inappropriate but she was like "ill pick what i want when i want" than she puts her knee up at a fancy dining place, chews and talks with her mouth open. I literally just watched her pick her underarm. I hate that all these things get in the way of her REAL personality.
She cant seem to train me the same way and she gets upset when i do it the way she told originally. Than comes up and says "you need to do it better and complete." And when she is hungry or hasnt smoked or is in a bad mood i cant talk to her at all without her getting snappy. I mean she is the best boss ive had like in terms of treating my well. And i get paid alot i mean a l o t . But i also do all the hair cuts and most of the bathing and work 10-12 hour days no OT. So i have no time for my family, my husband, my pets or mermaiding. And when i do get a day off i work side jobs.
I finally relapsed and decided to go back to therapy. This is the first time in a year ive thought about how nice it would be to not be alive. And to hurt myself. Ive cried alone in my kitchen. The work never ends even when i get home i have to clean up pee and poo stains, i have to vaccum stuff my dog destroyed.
I have been considering moving upstate or out of state. I really wanna fall off the grid and live in a forest or beach bum it in Hawai'i and get killed by sugar spiders.

formerly jayy

[PearlieMae]

You have to weigh what you are getting paid against the toll this crass idiot is doing to your psyche. That said, you need to get another job.

I don't care how nice she is, deep down, she's toxic and your continued association with her is making you nuts! It's not worth whatever she's paying you. If you feel you have no choice but to work for her, put your foot down and tell her you won't tolerate her bad behavior. If she wants to behave like trailer trash, that's on her, but you won't let her drag you down to her level. Demand to be paid for your overtime, and make it clear you are in a professional relationship with her, and you are not 'pals'.

Can you start your own business and bring your favorite clients with you?

[Mermaid Momo]

I second starting your own business, sounds like you know the works and do most of the back breaking work at that place. Maybe start small, get a small space in a outlet mall (most of the places I took my dog were small businesses in outlet malls, or there was one lady who worked out of a barn on the side of the road. it was an adorable small place.) maybe just sneak into convo with clients who love you that you'll be getting your own place soon and would love to see them there (and maybe offering some kind of grand opening discount for your good clients or something) Your boss sounds so toxic and just really disgusting (like honestly, picking your butt in public?)

[Imogen Finnly]

I feel totally guilty for even ventung about it you know? It just seems like every place ive worked at has never worked out. The last salon was no better than this and i got to see the most abused neglected animals ever. I would love to start my own business, but i do have a client base of my own with my side job. So technically i already own a business. (Jen's jolly grooming.) Out of my mothers house. My real dream is to move out of cali, find a nice land area and start a boarding facility with a grooming area in site.
I realized at one point that i was starting to get like her so i had to push it all away because it was and is not who i am. Im no high class fancy person but j do have manners and ediquette.
For now i am stuck and just dealing with it until i can make a move with either a new place or new job. It would be slim to stary a grooming shop i the valley. Grooming is cut throat i. The sfv and ive seen dozens already go out of business. That why i would enjoy workibg somewhere smaller. But the pay is terrible. So its a gamble. I dobt even have workers comp. Or anything. Im a independent contractor. So i am f u c k e d if i get attacked by a dog. Those bills are all me.
I just really want to give up on this and really let everything go, but i know that is my frustration and anger talking.
Without my husband i dont know what i would do. City life isnt for me.

formerly jayy

[Mermaid Alea]

I would want to move too. I don't like city life. I am not really in the city now, it is more like a small town here, but still I want to live out in the woods with land and lots of animals and friendly neighbors who don't care about my peacocks calling. We have a maltese poodle mix and we have tried several groomers. Even the ones we use now are not that great as far as being friendly. They do a good job grooming but they don't like us (or at least my Mom) for some reason and get easily annoyed if my Mom calls to see if Seeka (our dog) is ready to be picked up. Past groomers were not good, took too long, we would pick the dog up and she would be covered in another dog's poo, etc. I think you would be great competition for dog grooming businesses since you have manners. I feel like many groomers love animals so much that they despise the people and thus are rude to customers (not all, but it seems fairly common here at least). I love animals a lot, and while I am not much of a people person I do like people and try to be nice to everyone.