B!TC# IT OUT!

[PearlieMae]

Thank god for this place or I dont know what id do right now. Sorry for the bad spelling and wall of text. Its hard to see the screen when youre crying.

Im having the equvalent of a marrage ending fight wth my husband over his mom and her disrespect towards my parenting.

Long story short my daughters bio sperm donor is a crazy abusive control freak who used to beat me pretty badly. I left with our daughter thank god and have been fighting to keep him away ever since. I even got a court order of no contact. Because of this issue I dont post photos of my daughter online. He stalks me and my friends. He tried going for custody so he could get to me. He found my mother in laws facebook page where she had put a bunch of photos of my kid. She had asked me about posting and I said no. She went behind my back and did it anyways and blocked me so I couldnt see them. My ex did tho and he emailed them to me. He drives around my house on a regular basis and when he sees us in public he follows us. He now knows what they look like, where they live and the places they take her. Three years ago this started. She was asked to take them down and didnt. Even her daughter (my husbands sister) posted some and I lost in on both of them. O tried to forgive her after she said she removed them and I discovered last week she never did. She still hasnt after a week of asking and telling her.

She told me im making it up about my ex and its not that bad and what she did isnt a big deal. It doesnt matter that when he tried to physically take my daughter out of my arms and kicked me in the stomach to do so, or that the last fight he hospitalized me and I was literally black and blue because he repeatedly picked me up and threw me into walls and down stairs made of concrete. I have permanent shoulder damage and a permanently detached rib.

Im trying to protect my daughter from that abuse and she plasters her all over the internet so he can find her. Facebook wont force removal of the photos even tho its illegal to use photos of minors without parental consent. Im now out of iptions and my husband isnt helping. He just sits on his ass and doesnt say a damn word while his mother degrades me and calls me a bad and neglectful mom. Its everything I can do not to smother him with a pillow im so angry with him. He doesnt care and wont stand up for her and the worst part is he read the nasty stuff she said and then gave her my cell number so she could send it to me.

Im about to have my entire life turned around I dont know what to do. I just want whats best for my little girl. How is that so wrong, someone ease twll me because I dont see it. Artrgggggvg xbdjdjdnxjdifjxnssksdbcj

I sent you a private message...

[Prairie Mermaid Jamie]

Got it Pearlie, and thank you.

Thanks Lillium. Im trying to see it from my daughters point of view when its gets to the point of discussing this whole situation so hearing that helps. It re enforces my belief that what im doing is going to protect her and I hope she doesnt have to deal with that in the future. My ex doesnt seem as interested in her as he is me, but uses her to get to me. Children arent pawns.

[Echidna]

AIf they can't understand they're putting you and your child in danger they don't deserve to be a part of your child's life and should be told as much. Tell them to take the photos down or they will be cut out from your child's life because they obviously can't be responsible adults.

totally this!
If they don't get it, no photos, no visits.
I'd keep my address secret and try to relocate if possible.
Especially if there is no restraining order in place or acted upon.

It makes me mad just to think about how inconsiderate and irresponsible adult! people can be.

Even if it's "just" like Lilium mentioned, talking about stuff saying things downplaying the situation and generally just not getting it's serious

[Fun123joker]

this snow! we shoveled for along time, went to lunch. when we came back it went back to the way it was before! it didnt even look like we shoveled at all!
im not complaining for this next part but im noticing my hand is starting to get ashy and i've never been ashy. im not freaking out but looks like my time had come

[Starfrit]

So I've been completely drained artistically over the last... Couple of years, to put it simply, where I have had next to no inspiration or motivation to draw or do anything. It's rare that I get the urge to draw something (like, maybe once every four-five months or so), even rarer to complete something, and even rarer still to be happy with the end result.

I recently joined this MLP roleplay site, because I'm a dork who likes My Little Pony and wanted to roleplay my pegasus character. They wanted a visual ref of the character so I thought, "Sure! I can do that!" I didn't draw the pic, but I found a really good free .psd base to work with.

Two hours in PaintTool SAI. Two and a half, I think. I got so caught up in making sure all of the details were right, making sure I was saving copies in the right resolutions in .png format so that they'd be usable on the site, that I, like a total fucking moron, forgot to save the actual, full-res image in .sai format so I could keep all the individual layers intact.

So, after the fact, when I had the pictures done, character profile set up, I decided to clue up for the night, hit exit on SAI. Because I had a bunch of other garbage files pulled up in the program-- reference pics, colors swatches, etc., when I saw the prompts to save I just immediately clicked "no" on all of them assuming it was just the garbage files I didn't need to keep... and only caught a glimpse of the base's file name after I clicked "no" and the program shut down.

So it's gone. All I have is the one dumb low-res compressed file that's 1/3 the original size (less than that I think) and don't have the original layers anymore.

Because I'm an idiot.



It's taking a LOT of meditation and tea to keep me from just pitching my computer out into a snowbank right now.

[Mermaid Alea]

Ahhh I just got finished drawing in my sketchbook for one of my classes (I have to do a detailed pencil drawing a day, and I have skipped way too many days this week). I am definitely tired of drawing and losing motivation! I know how you feel about not saving your work. Many times that has happened to me where I was working on something and I was done or almost done and I forgot to save or the computer crashed, or I accidently overwrote another file because I forgot to re-name something. It is soooo frustrating!!! When that happens to me, I just say to myself that it is okay because now I know what I am going to do, so I can re-do it faster and also often when I do it the second time it looks better. That is if you go back and make it when you are not still pissed off. Usually I might just wait until the next day to start all over again.

[Aquatic Raider]

Had a professional conference in Denver, CO. Payed 400$ registration out of pocket. Flight got cancelled due to bad weather, and the soonest flight leaves here the last day of the conference. To switch airlines at this point would cost me an additional 700$. So I guess I'm not going. I've had this trip planned for two months.

I a'int here for it.

Thankfully the hotel I booked did a full refund but I still just lost a bunch of money from the conference registration.

(//wanders off cussing into the distance//)

[Rogue Siren]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

[PearlieMae]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

It's one of those things that happen under high stress...like a giggling fit at a funeral. You are a highly sensitive person (which is a good trait to have for the new position, btw), and in the context of being in a meeting with a superior (I hate that word...I'm talking about your manager), your emotions bubble to the surface. A good manager would know that this is what happened in your instance. It would take a thousand percent more stress for this to happen to you with a customer! (Same thing happened to me when I applied for - and got promoted to - managing a studio of 20 cutthroat art directors and designers in a New York ad agency!)

When you get the chance, talk to the manager again in a casual context and convey how passionate you are about moving up in the company and how you won't let them down. Your follow-up will show you are serious about the job. Good luck!

[Dancing Fish]

Don't know where to put this, but ugh. I feel stupid. I work at a craft store in their framing department. I love it. What I hate is people constantly telling me I would be a better manager for the department than the current one. Because the position just opened up, and I applied it for it, but I don't think i'm going to get it. I went to the interview and did okay, then at the end he asked what my motivation was, and I started crying. Why do I do that?! Everyone I talk to someone higher up than me about something important I start crying. And during the interview he talked about having thick skin and being strong and responsible and all, and I start crying. Wtf?! Ugh.

Oh, gosh, I do that too. Waterworks under the most inappropriate circumstances! And inappropriate giggling, too. And I never made the connection before but I think Pearlie's right-- it usually only happens when meeting a "social superior" who has power over you in some way, never under other equally stressful circumstances. I'm cool as a cucumber most of the time. Arrgh.

[Rogue Siren]

It's one of those things that happen under high stress...like a giggling fit at a funeral. You are a highly sensitive person (which is a good trait to have for the new position, btw), and in the context of being in a meeting with a superior (I hate that word...I'm talking about your manager), your emotions bubble to the surface. A good manager would know that this is what happened in your instance. It would take a thousand percent more stress for this to happen to you with a customer! (Same thing happened to me when I applied for - and got promoted to - managing a studio of 20 cutthroat art directors and designers in a New York ad agency!)

When you get the chance, talk to the manager again in a casual context and convey how passionate you are about moving up in the company and how you won't let them down. Your follow-up will show you are serious about the job. Good luck!

Oh, gosh, I do that too. Waterworks under the most inappropriate circumstances! And inappropriate giggling, too. And I never made the connection before but I think Pearlie's right-- it usually only happens when meeting a "social superior" who has power over you in some way, never under other equally stressful circumstances. I'm cool as a cucumber most of the time. Arrgh.

Thank you, guys. It's just so embarrassing, but it's nice to know I'm not the only one. He was really cool about it, so I'll do what you suggested Pearlie. The only thing I think might have hurt my chances is the fact I'm planning to move next year. I really want this position as I love my department and it would help me move successfully (hopefully to the same position).


On a completely unrelated note. I am so tired of all the splash inspired tails! :P

[Lily]

Warning: kinda gross.

I have been nauseated all day every day for weeks. (No, I am definitely NOT pregnant.) This seems to happen to me every few years, where my body just decides it hates me and wants to make me suffer. I actually threw up last week because I was stupid and didn't even think a hangover would make things worse so I went and got wasted on Valentine's day. Cue puking all the next day. Ginger helps, pulling my hair a little helps (pain signals override nausea signals), but cripes I am fucking miserable. Sometimes I can't even swallow, particularly if I'm trying to take a pill or something. It's like my esophagus goes NOPE NOPE NOPE and I gag it up.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

When im menstruating (right now, as of last night) I get sick. When I say sick, I mean vomiting, nausea, etc..
So last night we went and got fast food really quick to eat. I no sooner ate, and it left my body. I felt absolutely awful. I slept none last night, and didn't eat until just now.

I guess my body just decides "hey, you know what's fun?
Vomiting." *violently slams button that makes me puke*

[Lily]

Stupid button-mashing bodies.



Can't a girl just eat in peace??

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

That happens to me too.
In my case it is dysmenorrhea and I talked to my doctor to get medication for it.
I wouldn't be able to go to work if that happened on a work day.

[Mermaid Momo]

Warning: kinda gross.

I have been nauseated all day every day for weeks. (No, I am definitely NOT pregnant.) This seems to happen to me every few years, where my body just decides it hates me and wants to make me suffer. I actually threw up last week because I was stupid and didn't even think a hangover would make things worse so I went and got wasted on Valentine's day. Cue puking all the next day. Ginger helps, pulling my hair a little helps (pain signals override nausea signals), but cripes I am fucking miserable. Sometimes I can't even swallow, particularly if I'm trying to take a pill or something. It's like my esophagus goes NOPE NOPE NOPE and I gag it up.

This happened to me once, In March actually. I got nausea and intense stomache pains and then I missed my period for 3 whole months while still having the pain and nausea. My doctor had no idea what was going on, I wasn't pregnant, and there was nothing wrong that she could find. She did however press on my stomache after a while (since I wasn't eating anything but small snacks I could keep down here and there) and she thought maybe something was wrong in my digestive tract. Turns out I was really really constipated (she couldn't figure out why though, but she said that the stress and change in diet, aka, me not eating and throwing everything up, had affected my period and was why it disappeared for 3 months) maybe it's something to do with your digestive tract like mine was?

[Mermaid Enora]

I have trouble keeping food down in the morning if I'm super stressed or didn't get enough sleep the night before.
During nursing school I spent every test and quiz morning and at least one day a week crying over the kitchen sink and basically hung over (without drinking) and heaving my guts up after breakfast. Now that I've been out for 3 years it doesn't happen as much, but it still scares me that it might happen. Happens more often around my period than anything else. Not looking forward to being pregnant some day and having morning sickness.

[Aysun_the_Mermaid]

This isn't an overly bitch-y bitch, but I am so annoyed with myself.

I do not understand why I have such a fear of making phonecalls.

To any one.

Ever.

I freak out!
They might be busy.
It might be inconvenient.

I can't even call a store.
You know. When it is someone's /job/ to answer the phone.

It is ridiculous and I am getting myself so stressed out and worked up about making a phone call.

>.<

[Echidna]

^^ I hate doing phonecalls too. If there is any way to write an email instead, I always do that.

On that note;
I had dealings with the officials, who (I suspect purposefully) assigned me a clerk who I could barely understand. (Foreigner with a heavy accent.)
She would always call me and shout at me over the phone, and ask loads of questions in an aggressive tone, and I was desperately trying to make sense of her gibberish.

Then, the officials would send me letters where they claimed "you answered this and that wrong" and stuff.
I wrote and phoned numerous times pleading for a different clerk with better language skills, OR that the clerk in question would please write an email instead.

Each and every one of these requests was answered with...a furious phone-call with more furious gibberish on the end.

And don't get me started on "authorities" who ask for millions of confirmations and testimonies, and once you've collected and sent them all in, proceed to ignore every single one of them LOL.

[Merman Chatfish]

This isn't an overly bitch-y bitch, but I am so annoyed with myself.

I do not understand why I have such a fear of making phonecalls.

To any one.

Ever.

I freak out!
They might be busy.
It might be inconvenient.

I can't even call a store.
You know. When it is someone's /job/ to answer the phone.

It is ridiculous and I am getting myself so stressed out and worked up about making a phone call.

>.<

Same here. Hate talking on the phone. Yes I prefer to talk in person but if I can't do that I prefer text over phones. I think I get it from my dad.