B!TC# IT OUT!

[SeaGlass Siren]

But I'm also gonna echo why both of you said.
Fuck the old cunt.

[Mermaid Mystery]

the only logical solution is to find the asshole and brutally murder him


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[SeaGlass Siren]

i swear on my life i thought i saw him today this morning as my husband and i were going to the craft store.

[Mermaid Alea]

Some people have tiny, uninteresting lives and they try and fill it with things they can buy at the mall. They are all too afraid to deviate from what they think is 'normal'. Priorities? I have a full time job, a side business as a tailmaker, a loving beau, my bills are paid, my pets are taken care of, I'm close with my family who supports my wacky hobbies, and I'm happier than a speckled pup in a red wagon.

I'll bet those people who are judging your priorities have dvrs full of tv shows that are pretty high on their lists of important things to do.

Know what? Screw them.

Oh Pearlie I just love your reply! You go Pearlie Mae!

Yep people who want to make fun of mermaiding or cosplaying or whatever unique or different hobby someone has just don't realize how much fun these hobbies are, the great communities you get to be a part of, the friends you make, the things you learn to do, etc. A lot of things in life suck, and why be boring trying to conform to society and be 'normal' when you can have fun following your dreams and trying different things. If it were not for my hobbies I certainly would be a much more unhappy, boring person.

As for the deer that is really sad. There are some people in this world who have no regard for animals. Some people will even speed up to hit an animal. There was a guy in high school that I kinda liked. He was talking to me one day saying there is a house by a road that has chickens. He said he likes to run over the chickens that try crossing the road and he started laughing hysterically and I told him that was mean and not funny and I never talked to him again. I have seen so much roadkill in my lifetime that it hardly phases me anymore unfortunately.

[Mermaid Mystery]

i swear on my life i thought i saw him today this morning as my husband and i were going to the craft store.

this calls for a murder most foul


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[Sabrina the Selkie]

It really does, Labyrinth. Gods, SeaGlass, I wanna hit him! And the driver that hit, then didn't get out to help that poor deer!

[SeaGlass Siren]

To be fair though the driver had a broken windshield so they must have been traumatized. They stayed though. There were a few people that also pulled over to make sure the deer was alright first. They kept their distance.

But uuugh the old bastard.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

True. Sounds like a generally awful situation.

[Naufra]

Most people who give others a hard time for cosplaying/mermaiding/going to renn faires/otherwise enjoying nerdy hobbies, it's because it makes them uncomfortable to see other people having fun doing things that they have been taught to shun. I have a co-worker who says she has never worn a costume, not even on Halloween growing up. When I talk about my cosplay around her, she becomes visibly uncomfortable even though she doesn't say anything mean about it. She doesn't want to rain on my parade, but it seems like highly deviant behavior to her because it's so foreign to her. Most people don't like to be made uncomfortable, so a lot of people who are uncomfortable with others enjoying themselves through behavior they see as deviant will want the fun-havers to stop doing the deviant thing and will disparage them and their fun-having. Misery loves company. People like that usually don't have any fun because they're too busy being uncomfortable with the idea of other people having fun, even with non-geeky hobbies like sports.

Sucks to be them. Seriously.

That said, give those blowholes the middle fin if they try to bring you down. If they can't pull the stick out of their asses enough to let other people have a little fun without bothering them, it's not worth it to waste your time pandering to their idea of what's important or proper. They're crazy jealous of you and all the other fun-havers and they can go shove rocks up their noses.

[Naufra]

Time for my bitch. I ordered a doll in February from an established, respected manufacturer of ball-jointed dolls with a reputation for great service. Since the doll was made to order, I knew it would take a few months. The company generally refused to answer any of my messages during that wait. Three months later, a week and a half ago, I finally got a doll-box delivered to my door. YAY! Except that it wasn't the doll I ordered. At all. It was the wrong color with the wrong head entirely. I emailed them that very night at the email address they told me to contact them with when I placed the order, explaining what happened and including pictures of the doll I actually received and asking them how "we" could fix it so I would have the doll I actually purchased. No response at all. I tried to contact them by every way listed on their contact page at least once. No dice. Finally, I sent them one last email saying that if I didn't get a response from them by the end of their current business day, I would contact Paypal and dispute the transaction. Nothing. So I did it. The ball is now in their court, and I'm sick of being jerked around. If they don't respond to the Paypal dispute soon, I can and will escalate the matter. I don't like being a problem customer, but for the amount of money I spent on this doll, I should at least get what I friggin' ordered! Even a response to one of my messages would have gone a long way towards keeping me docile, but this is just ridiculous. Lucky for me Paypal has a 180-day window from the time of purchase in which to dispute a transaction.

[Starfrit]

I feel ready to tear my hair out, and I have no idea what to do with myself.

My younger sister got busted back in the end of February for fucking off from her very important, super-serious political job and feeding multiple different people (including her boss, both of our parents, her best friend and her boyfriend) a different story each about her whereabouts so she could go feed a cocaine addiction in the makeshift sex dungeon of the creepy sketchbag older cokehead "Dominant" she's been cheating on her boyfriend with for forever. She spent that weekend on lockdown at mom's house, where all of her drugs were taken out of her purse, she was subjected to drug tests, and told that if she ever went back to her "Dom"'s house again the cops would be called to tear the walls out of that house and arrest everyone in it for drug possession whether my sister was there or not, then spent the following three weeks after that on lockdown at our dad's house, not allowed to go out with her friends, only being driven to work and home. She swore up and down that she wasn't going to get involved with that shit anymore...

Naturally-- and totally unsurprisingly-- she lied. Her first night of freedom, where she was allowed to go out on her own again, she went straight back to her "Dom"'s house, and then lied to everyone about it.

I don't think my sister knows that I know, or at least that I know as much as I do, because I'm not sure that she realizes that her "Dom"'s live-in partner, who moved in with him not long before my sister got found out, is a friend of mine who I met in college, works with my boyfriend... And is very open about the things that go on in that house, from the kink parties to the cocaine usage (this friend doesn't do any herself, but knows and is very open about her "Dom" having a huge coke problem.) Through the things that she says to my boyfriend when they're working together, my sister goes over to that house all. The. Time. And, obviously, she's still snorting coke.

It wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't aware of the pictures she plasters all over the internet. We used to be fairly open with each other about our respective sex lives, so we had each other added on FetLife (My account had basically been abandoned for years; I'd made it to learn more about BDSM, then dropped off it after I realized just how awful the local kink community is)... Not that long ago I decided to log back in, wipe my page completely... And my newsfeed was full of pictures of my sister-- including her face, so anybody would know it was her-- in really compromising positions. It sort of blew me away because she puts on such a professional front about her job, acts like she's so careful about what could potentially get her fired... And then she has nearly a dozen photos of her that would get anybody fired if the wrong person saw them. That said, FetLife is set up so that a person's profile won't show up on Google, but even still. No matter what she thinks, she's only one fuckup away from her drug addiction and everything else winding up in the wrong hands and destroying her, socially, professionally, politically.

The worst part is, she won't listen to me.

I'm not the oldest sister, and so she's always just sort of disregarded everything I said. She doesn't take me seriously and just writes me off as an idiot, like I don't know what I'm talking about. I've been trying to get her to meet up with me and talk, but she always has some excuse for why she can't see me.

It's a tricky position, too, because even if she did decide to meet up with me, would it even be a smart idea to tell her what I know? If she finds out about mine and my boyfriend's connections to the girl living with her "Dom", she'll just put pressure on her to stop talking to us, losing my one way of being able to keep an eye on her from afar.

This wouldn't be anything knew. She's always lied, always walked all over everyone's trust, to be able to go do what she wanted whether it was dangerous for her or not, because she thinks that she's never going to have to face the consequences. And every time she's been caught... Instead of learning, she's just started burying everything else under more lies and tried to be even sneakier. So she'd probably shut off that one channel I have through our mutual friend, then just start pushing further away from me and shut me out completely.

It's so frustrating, and at this point I have no idea what to do. I'm trying to be a decent sister and at least try to talk some sense into her, but at the same time I'm almost tempted to call the cops on her "Dom" and send those incriminating photos off to her boss myself because I know that's the only way she's going to learn. I don't think I would-- I ultimately want to help her, not ship her off further down the destructive path she's already on-- but sometimes, the situation is so agitating that I can't help but think about it.

I know there's nothing that I can do for somebody who refuses to accept help. But I really don't know what to do at this point-- Do I do anything? Do I still try to talk to her, do I just keep the rest of the family updated and hope they have better luck? Should I call the cops about her "Dom" and the drug stash he keeps in his house? Or do I just give up altogether?

Uuugggghhhhhhhhhhh I hate this. I've been losing sleep over it for weeks and it's actually driving me up the wall. DX

[Merman Arion]

I don't mean to be rude but I honestly think you should sell her out to the cops and tell everything. Obviously, nothing is working to make her understand so it might be only when she will hit the rock bottom, 6 feet under, that she might finally get it.

Just saying. People tend to realize their mistakes when they hit their most desperate moment.

[SeaGlass Siren]

it's a hard situation to be in, but i agree with arion. if there's no serious intervention it can get way worse for her.

[Shimmer Mermaid]

I lived with my "vagina doner" and her husband most of my childhood. And then again after i turned 15.
Anyone who is on any drug, or lies that much, and refuses to take any advice, has to hit rock bottom and actually be reprimanded for their actions before they can change.

Its hard. I know. But i had to turn in my own mother for using anf abuse.

You sometimes have to overlook the family aspect to it. And just look at them like a friend.

Sometimes they have to go to jail. Or prison. But a lot of the times, they will "see the light" while they are away from the real world for a while.

Its a hard situation, and there is going to be some tears. But sometimes you either have to cut yourself off from those people completely, or give them some much needed tough love.

If you dont interfere, and get her away from it all, it can get much worse. We had a girl who lived close who ended up being a "forced escort" because she was high on coke at the wrong time, at the wrong place, around the wrong people.

[PhaylennMurúch]

I agree with Arion and SeaGlass, call the cops and tell them that your sister is once again using coke. If the kink community is THAT bad and she's using again then it's only a matter of time that something worse than losing her job happens.

[Mermaid Mystery]

Now I KNOW this is not at all the same thing, but I myself have an eating disorder which is somewhat like a drug addiction in ways and can actually turn into drug addiction depending on the case. She won't get it until she hits rock bottom. I myself and a lot of other girls I know in similar situations didn't get it until we went through hell. Rehab, prison, and inpatient have a few things in common, and it's hard but it's necessary. It's a shitty thing to do but it has to be done.


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[MermaidAine]

Let's please be careful about blaming an entire community for these actions. I am part of the kink community, matter of fact I am a known leader in the kink community and honestly we do not condone drug use. Matter of fact we don't even allow alcohol at our parties in my area. Some do allow alcohol, but usually a 2 drink maximum. Our motto is Safe, Sane and Consensual. There is nothing safe or sane about drug use, or using alcohol to the point of not making good decisions.
Please do not stereotype all of us just because we may do some things that you don't understand.
There was a point in time when "all gays" were considered drug using sexual deviants too, and that could not have been further from the truth.
Same goes for the kink community.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I think she just meant her local kink community, not the entire community. otherwise I'd be a little defensive too


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[SeaGlass Siren]

i read it, she did specify that it was her local kink community.

[MermaidAine]

I have gone back and reread it, and yes she did say it was the local kink community. Although I dare say not everyone in that community is a drug user. However, it only takes a few to make the entire community appear bad. That is part of why I get defensive I suppose. Also, what really got me was the threats of sending her sisters pictures of her in "compromising" positions to her work to get her fired. No matter how compromising those positions are, she most likely chose to be in them. Now if she is drugged that could be questioned, but I bet she willingly put herself in those situations, just like I do. What I choose to do outside of work is not their business. As long as I am not hurting my work. Again, the drug use could be considered as hurting her work, and that I understand.
All in all, I know the desperation that comes along with knowing someone you love is doing drugs, and wanting to do anything to get them away from them, and the people that they are doing them with. I get that. So I did not intend to come off as super defensive or mean or anything. I just wanted to put a reminder out there to not judge or accuse an entire community of doing drugs when you probably don't know that entire community.
None of us like being stereo typed. That's like someone saying that the entire Mer community is crazy, just because someone has met one crazy mer.
Again, I apologize if I came off too harsh, that was not my intention at all.