B!TC# IT OUT!

[SeaMansa]

Just want to vent. Again.
I am quitting my job. Been working there for like 4 days and I am preparing to call in today and tell my boss its not working for me. I have never done anything like this but I just can't.
I feel so shitty. I was telling my mother that I wanted to quit a few days ago and she gave me a whole "You are 21. You are not a quitter. Just do it." speech but she doesn't really understand. I hate everything about this place. I know they talk about me behind my back and in their language, and yesterday it was confirmed to me when one of the other workers told me what the boss was saying about me and worst was that she told me out loud in front of other customers and employees. I felt so freaking embarrassed it took everything in me not to cry for the rest of the day. She didn't mean any harm by it, I know she was trying to help, but still.
Anyway, its too much responsibility because I work my shifts alone even though I just started, no one is trying to teach me how to do things properly and when I ask they act as if I am being annoying but then get upset when I don't know how to do something or when I do it wrong. I literally don't know what i am doing there. People talk about me behind my back. And just all around this isn't a good atmosphere for me.
I keep beating myself over it because I do feel like I'm a quitter. But I can't put up with this for a min wage job.
And this is reason #326682086420 why I should have majored in something that would pay bills instead of something I enjoyed. I'd probably have a better chance at getting a good job by now (yeah, I know I'm still young and I'm not even done with college but I keep thinking I have wasted most of my time for nothing)
:/ never in my life have I contemplated being a male stripper so much (I'm partly kidding...but hey.... xD) Too bad I don't have the face, body, or moves for it, eh. But yeah, I really want to get back out there on the employment scene but it's so hard. And I hate feeling like I'm a burden for my mother (I know I am not but I like being independent and having my own money). *sigh* Life, am I right?

[Merman Chatfish]

its frustrating…I have so much to look forward to towards the end of the month (mer-mania and christmas)…and right now I don’t care about life

[PearlieMae]

So wait it out. You said yourself you have things to look forward to. It's more than some of us have.

[MermaidSandie]

Pearlie's words ring true!! Don't worry, I've found that time passes faster than you think it does, the good things will arrive in no time! Do something that hypes you for those events, go Christmas shopping, or find some cool stuff for mer-mania!! Or look at stupid stuff on the internet, that always cheers me up


Also, some small bitching, my previously mentioned boyfriend [I guess he's my ex now] is being a little frustrating. He said himself that he wanted to be friends, but now doesn't talk to me unless I talk to him. He's being super awkward and quiet and it's freaking me out.

[Mermaid Lorelei]

For anyone curious, I got my Nexplanon removed! (This is a great thing, but I figured I'd post it here considering this is where I brought it up originally.) I'm already seeing improvements and it's only been two days. Thank you to everyone who posted kind words for me the other day. C:

[rivermermaid]

This probably has nothing to do with what everybody is talking about but can we talk about Stereotypes for a minute?

Now I'm Australia, born and breed and from Victoria.

I've been asked so many times why I'm not blond. Like "Hey, you're Australian, Tan and Female, why don't you have blond hair?" or something a long those lines.
Or if I'm *insert any nationality apart from Australian* based on the fact I don't sound like somebody from the Gold Coast and more of a weird mix between British, Greek, Japanese and with a twang from the "Australian accent" which if you grew up near Melbourne or Adelaide you would have a version of!

Don't even get me started on BBQs and shrimps.

Do any of my other Australian Mers gotten things like this from people from other countries or is it just me?

[Mer-Crazy]

I've never had anyone ask me why I'm not blonde... then again I'm a bit pudgy and not tan enough to fit the aussie beach babe stereo type, and I know sometimes my accent gets a bit americanish (I watch too much YouTube and tv) so I guess that's it.

Side note are you living on the Gold Coast? Cause if so they yey more south east Queensland mers!

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[PhaylennMurúch]

I think you'll find that people from everywhere get those questions from people NOT from there, or it's just questions because people have a preconceived idea of who and what you are supposed to be and it freaks them out when you're not.
This is a list of actual questions I've gotten from people (not mers, just people)

"Why don't you say 'like' all the time?" <--white,blue eyed so obviously a Valley Girl
"Why are you not tan?" <--California
"Do you surf? Why not?" <--again, California
"Why are you not gay?" <-- born and raised in San Francisco
"Why don't you smoke pot?" <-- went to Humboldt State University
"Where's your accent" <-- Scots/Irish, apparently we get the accent in a care package or something
"Why don't you like Patchouli?" <--... I don't even know about this one

[cletusk20]

Sounds familiar. When I moved to Washington state from Texas, I got many strange questions as well.

Why don't you wear a cowboy hat?

Them: I thought people from Texas had an accent like this. (makes bad doc holiday impersonation)

Them: Did you have to sell your horse before you moved? Me: No, never owned a horse

Them: Can you teach me to line dance? Me: No on multiple levels. Don't dance and don't like country music.

I could go on but .... yeah I get how you feel.

[IllynReaver]

@ Chatfish, what Pearlie said. You have something to look forward too, focus on that instead of all the negative. I know it's hard to do, personally I've had problems focusing on anything positive with my recent job loss. Just take it a day at a time, you'll get through this. You've made it this far!

@ Lorelei, congrats!

[Mermaid Lilium]

On the subject of stereotypes, people assume I live in London. Cause all Brits live in London. *nods*

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[Starfrit]

So I just got off the phone with my mom. She's on her way to my dad's house three towns over, because somehow my little sister showed up there so fucked up on cocaine that she can't speak coherently or eat anything.

Assuming she doesn't wind up in the hospital (or the morgue, if I could get my hands on the little shit myself), she'll be shipped off to a detox clinic tonight.

The worst part? None of us are surprised. At all.

We caught her back in February, she was put on lockdown at Dad's house for a week. Given a huge goddamn reality check. Since then she'd acted like she'd smartened up. Over the last ten months I'd been checking up on her, seeing how she was doing. She'd convinced me she was off it, that she was in a much better place in her life. And from the way things were going with her political job, her overall moods... I gave her the benefit of a doubt. I trusted her.

And this shit is exactly why I just don't trust people anymore.

I was gonna give her a variety basket of homemade fudge for Christmas. I bought eleven pounds of the best goddamn raw chocolate on the island.

She'll be lucky she doesn't just get it all shoved up her asshole and a boot to the face for Christmas. Fuck's sake.

[Spindrift]

So I just got off the phone with my mom. She's on her way to my dad's house three towns over, because somehow my little sister showed up there so fucked up on cocaine that she can't speak coherently or eat anything.

Assuming she doesn't wind up in the hospital (or the morgue, if I could get my hands on the little shit myself), she'll be shipped off to a detox clinic tonight.

The worst part? None of us are surprised. At all.

We caught her back in February, she was put on lockdown at Dad's house for a week. Given a huge goddamn reality check. Since then she'd acted like she'd smartened up. Over the last ten months I'd been checking up on her, seeing how she was doing. She'd convinced me she was off it, that she was in a much better place in her life. And from the way things were going with her political job, her overall moods... I gave her the benefit of a doubt. I trusted her.

And this shit is exactly why I just don't trust people anymore.

I was gonna give her a variety basket of homemade fudge for Christmas. I bought eleven pounds of the best goddamn raw chocolate on the island.

She'll be lucky she doesn't just get it all shoved up her asshole and a boot to the face for Christmas. Fuck's sake.

That's horrible. I feel for you and your family. One of my exes used to be brilliant and incredibly smart and just an extremely kind guy. I last saw him around July 4th of this year. Since then his entire mental health has deteriorated due to drugs. In just a few short months he went from being a really kind and patient person to someone who makes incoherent statements, doesn't follow logic, thinks he himself has the answers to the universe and humanity's race problems, and genuinely wants to see more people "exterminated" because none of us are following the divine path. It's scary.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Oh Tieri. I'm so sorry.. addiction is so hard, amd it just leads to lying about how you're okay. Just general betrayal to the nth degree on all levels. Sending warm wishes to you and your sister.

[PhaylennMurúch]

Don't feel an ounce of guilt over believing your sister, Tieri, addicts are accomplished liars. They can and will say anything/do anything in order to feed the most important thing in their life (to them) which is the acquiring and using of whatever drug they are in a relationship with.

Take that wonderful chocolate and make the best damn fudgey fudge and share it with people in your life who make you smile

[PearlieMae]

Addiction is insidious and chances are your sister feels at least as bad for not being able to control her addiction as you do feeling betrayed. You can choose to write her off and let her try and deal with it on her own or you can try and help her overcome her addiction. Speak with someone at AA or Narcotics Anonymous and see if they can advise you on how to deal with this.

[Mermaid Mystery]

so we were supposed to have a nice night at the little mermaid but as soon as I leave my room my mom starts bitching. I wear my adorable jewelry from my secret Santa out into the living room and she starts going at me. "you look like you're 12" "you look like a little girl" So I take it off and she starts bitching at me to put it back on but I'll still look twelve. now we're on the car and she's bitching at me for not eating much today. she probably hasn't eaten anything either but do I scream at her? no. She's bitching at me for not finishing my homework and not being done studying for finals but she wasn't home to wake me up or feed me so whose fucking fault is that? I'm so sick of her.

[Sabrina the Selkie]

Well, in her defense, Mystery, you're getting older. You need to be able to autonomously wake up, do your work, and take care of yourself.

My mom and I have this fight a lot because she worries about me, my health, and my ability to take care of myself when I fly the nest this fall.

And I have a job, know how to cook, love vegetables, cook them too, eat regularly, continually dress like I'm twenty five, continually talk like I'm twenty five (if not forty), etc.

It's her job to bitch.

[Mermaid Mystery]

I get what you're saying but they left me home alone knowing that because I also have a sleeping disorder I don't wake up early, and then having an eating disorder on top of that they should know that I don't get up to eat. I just don't, and it's not something I control. I did do most of my work, but again I have multiple learning disabilities, and didn't finish everything. I'm not trying to blame everything on mental illness, but it's there, and when they leave me alone I'm not in the right place to function completely. They know this.

[Mermaid Jaffa]

Sounds like your Mum is trying to live her life through you.