Good luck. The Catholic church can be really difficult to deal with when you're not Catholic.
It's a great system for Catholics, but...
Just try to find some middle ground with the MIL. They're her traditions, not yours, and maybe she can see that with some hard work and patience.
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Momo, you are a better person than I.
I am not saying to take my advice, because even as a Christian, I am not a fan of weddings, nor do I plan on having a "Traditional" one should I ever get married at all. But if it were me, I'd have laid it out as soon as it became a discussion. "This is who I am, this is who I'm not. This isn't the way I, or my fiancé, want our wedding to be. Sorry, and with all due respect, I want you all to accept me into your family, and you all into mine, but it won't be by forcing your beliefs onto me or vice versa. You can come to the wedding. Or not. But I won't be converting to anything or doing anything in general that neither me or my fiancé are cool with. I won't do any of this to even entertain you or make you feel more comfortable. This day has to be a positive memory for me, not one I felt I was forced to do. Now, I think you all should be apart of this, and I hope I can have your help, guidance, and blessing in this wedding and this relationship. But let's not get things twisted."
I can be a bit of a bitch (on the inside) but that is basically how I feel about it.
You and your fiancé are starting a new life together. And families are important. But, again, don't let things gets twisted trying to please someone else. This is YOUR day. This has to be one of the these you look back on and smile, not groan.
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I just fucking got kicked out of community college because I a D in one of my classes. I was on my second semester of academic probation and because I got one failing grade I'm kicked out of school. I'm such a fucking joke as a human being, I can't even function as an independent young adult/teenager. To make it even worse I insisted to take the same teacher again and refused to take a different teacher for Spanish. Maybe if I just took a different teacher I would still be in college right now. My life is over, I'm probably going to be kicked out of my parents house unless I find a way to get back into school or find a second job. I'm surprised that I haven't been beaten or stabbed to death by my father. Anyway my life is shit now. I feel like such a fucking idiot.
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Oh Kelly. I'm so sorry.
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@Momo
All that Phaylenn and SeaGlass said. Preach gurls
@ KellyMermaidI am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time
I'm having a rough night and I don't know why. *cries and whimpers in her corner*
I'm sorry, Amphitrite
I'm sorry Amphitrite.
Here is a big hug
Apparently I need to find new hobbies and activities that are "age appropriate" because "if I want friends" then I need to stop acting like a child and grow up.
Loving words of advice from my dad.
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Whadda dick.
I know right!
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Remind me to go give my parents and family in general for being so supportive of my interests.
I'm sorry your dad is like that. *hug*
Your dad needs to butt the f*** out and quit trying to squash your dreams.
It's your life. Make of it what you will.
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I'm turning 20 this year! I just want to live my life and have fun and make the best life I can ever have! But because of him I can't do anything I want, he's always putting me down telling me that I'm never going to get a boyfriend or have friends "the way your acting" and telling me I'm "extremely overweight" wtf who says that to their daughter!?!? I'm maybe 20 to 40 lbs overweight and most of it is baby fat and weight I gained was from depression and stress eating when I was in middle school and high school. I shouldn't have to explain myself to him every time I want to do something or defend my actions.
He doesn't understand that most of my friends I've met online and communicate though social networks. Well screw you too dad!
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I know it hurts hearing that from a parent, I have heard the whole "you will never get a boyfriend or have friends because of ___". Just be you and you will be happy. The way you are acting you will get a boyfriend and friends because you are being yourself and people will appreciate that. I still struggle to realize that my boyfriend loves me for me. He likes how I am into stuff 'normal' people aren't into and everything.
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