B!TC# IT OUT!

[Mermaid Wesley]

this thread is old but so what. I hate when people try to force their choices on other people. I cant stand bigots. It makes me want to be violent and i am usually for nonviolence at all costs

[seagirls626]

I hate it when these stupid girls post a thousand pictures of themselves that look EXACTLY THE SAME. And then they put these stupid comments on it like "Fallow your dreams <3" when it has NOTHING to do with fallowing your dreams at all! UGH!
If I EVER do something stupid like that, I want someone to slap me.

[SeaGlass Siren]

I hate it when these stupid girls post a thousand pictures of themselves that look EXACTLY THE SAME. And then they put these stupid comments on it like "Fallow your dreams <3" when it has NOTHING to do with fallowing your dreams at all! UGH!
If I EVER do something stupid like that, I want someone to slap me.

duly noted.

[Mer_Adella]

Okay, so I came into work this morning (its always an interesting topic every different day between boss and workers [non-work related]) And they were talking about how "times have changed" they go on to talk about how kids now a-days don't have respect for elders and grandparents. I am the youngest worker here and my boss asked me if I would ever say "shut up" to my parents or grandparents. I said no. He was shocked. But thats how my parents raised me.

Fast forward 1/2 an hour. My boss sends me to the store to get a few shop supplies.

In the store I witnessed a little girl, about 7 years old, with her mom and a baby in the cart seat in Wal-mart. The little girl was walking around throwing stuff in the cart that she wanted. The mother was protesting saying that she didn't have the money for all these things and she was told that she could have one candy bar at checkout and that was it. The little girl turned around and looked right at her mom and said "fine, I will just ask daddy to buy me this stuff because he loves me more." I was shocked, but then it got worse. The mother looked really hurt and said "I love you just as much, I just can't afford all this stuff A----y". The little girl then plugged her ears and repeated "you dont love me, whatever and shut up" over and over. I listened ,but didn't watch to avoid giving the mother a pitiful look.

In my opinion, I do miss the old days. I don't mean to say that parents need to BEAT their children...that is not what I am saying. I am saying that there was a way of doing things. When kids would act up, the parents would swat them on the butt and sit them in time out. I remember my dad always yelling at me for leaving my toys around my room and how they were always broken. He warned me that if I didn't pick them up every day that he was going to break them all and throw them away. I looked straight at him and said "whatever". He walked out of the room and came back with a large garbage bag and a baseball bat. He smashed three toys and I was rushing aroudn the room picking up all of my toys as fast as I could. Why can't parents do things like that now a days?

My mom is a 1st grade teacher. She has a little girl that thinks that she is the light of the world and should be treated as such. Always thinking that she needs to be first for everything and that no one else matters (like "show and tell" days. there is an order for whose day it is, this little girl thinks that she needs to bring something in that is cooler than what the other kid has and believes that since her item is cooler that the other kid just shouldn't "show" his/her item) My mom wanted to discuss this with the parent. When the mom came in, it was clear that the mother was teaching her daughter that. When my mom started to talk about her concerns with the little girl, the mother would always interrupt and hold her hand up as if to silence my mother.

Does anyone watch duck dynasty? The mother and father (Phil and Kay) are the kind of parents that I want to be. There was an episode on last night that I watched where Phil was basically talking to the camera and said that if his boys didnt listen to what their mother said to do, then they would have to answer to him. Another part was Kay said to her two sons, "Don't make me go find my wooden spoon."

DISCLAIMER::: I do not believe in beating a child....PERIOD. Punching, slapping, throwing, etc things like that are NOT ok with me. My views are also a little asque though. I remember one time when I was three, I crossed a busy intersection (a three lane road) across from my house. No cars were driving on it at the time, so I crossed the road and waved at my mom. (NOTE: I was never hit by a hand or by a belt or any object on my butt at this point in time....and I did some bad things) When she saw me she rushed over, looked both ways and then came and got me. We walked into the house, she turned me around and gave me a resounding "whack" on the butt. I cried because I knew that my mother had never slapped me on the butt before. She told me what I did wrong, what could have happened to me, etc.

Now that I am older, my mother said to me one day that she slapped my butt because it was a lesson. She had never slapped my butt before because she wanted me to know that I had done something REALLY bad, such as endangering my life. And to this day, I never cross a road (walking or driving) without looking both ways three times.

2nd DISCLAIMER::: please understand when I said that I did some bad things earlier I mean things like this (in numerical order)
14months old====learned how to crawl out of my crib. repeatedly climbed onto the railing and rocked back and forth
15months old====took diaper off and pooped on carpet, then "cleaned" it up with my fisher price vacuum
17months old====climbed onto my mothers bathroom counter and used all of her makeup to paint my face, walls and eat
18months old====after the crib thing, I got a water bed, at this time I pulled the plug out and flooded my bedroom on purpose
18months old====pushed screen out of window so I could stick my head out in the thunderstorm outside
18months old====put playdo in the sink and tub drains and turned on the scalding hot water while standing on the toilet singing
3 years old======threw 4 toys at the wall in my room to see which one would cause a bigger hole
3years old======crossed a three lane road and waved to my mother


all that and my mother never spanked me until I crossed the road....
Now please remember that I am not saying that I will beat my kids (if i have any) but I do believe in what my mom did. When a child does something that may endanger their life or another persons they need to know that they have done something very VERY wrong.

sorry for the long rant, but its just been on my mind lately and today was kind of the breaking point after watching that little girl in the store

[Ashe]

^ I totally understand Adella, and completley agree, too! I was just so shocked when you told us about the mother and daughter in the store, that was just horrible! But the thing is, the little girl was raised to think that. Maybe if the parents were a bit more stern on the subject of not being able to afford things sometimes, and not get her whatever she wants when they can afford it, she wouldn't have acted up like that.

[Mermaid Cascada]

Adella I have to agree with you. I'm 14 now and if I ever told my mom or dad to shut up... well lets just say I don't know what would happen because I have never been disrespectful. Lol. My cousin on the other hand loves to tell his parents to shut up and he loves to call them names, but at this point I can't really blame him because his parents don't put a stop to it. In fact, my mom was just telling me that when I was 1 years old I bit her really hard and she bit me back (not hard of course) and from that day I never bit anyone back. I don't think it's a matter of spanking or yelling at them but finding a good discipline method like standing in the corner or something.

[Mer_Adella]

Adella I have to agree with you. I'm 14 now and if I ever told my mom or dad to shut up... well lets just say I don't know what would happen because I have never been disrespectful. Lol. My cousin on the other hand loves to tell his parents to shut up and he loves to call them names, but at this point I can't really blame him because his parents don't put a stop to it. In fact, my mom was just telling me that when I was 1 years old I bit her really hard and she bit me back (not hard of course) and from that day I never bit anyone back. I don't think it's a matter of spanking or yelling at them but finding a good discipline method like standing in the corner or something.

Oh i forgot that my mom did that to me too. I actually bit her right on the ankle. So she bit me on the back of the arm...and let me tell you that that smarts. I learned all sorts of disapline at the daycare I worked at. I watched one lady have trouble with a 6 year old. She wouldn't sit down in a timeout chair. So the other teacher said alright we're going to try something different. She made the little girl stand in the corner of the room and lift one foot off of the ground. She needed to hold that position for one minute (which really isn't all that long, but to a 6 year old it is) if she put her foot down another minute was added. After 3 minutes she was so sad and sorry that she never acted up again.

[Alveric]

I was given to understand, without having to be told or threatened, that I would be gone if I yelled at or struck my mother. My parents would simply make another kid to replace me. As for doing that to my father, it would have been safer to poke a grizzly with a pointy stick.

It was a different era.

[Spindrift]

This is of course, a very situation-based case, but it's possible that the child is just acting out due to familial circumstances like divorce or a situation in which a parent who has never being around suddenly appears and tries to make up for it, etc.
Children can easily pick up on tensions between two adults - more so than people realize. The kid may just be acting out if, for example, the mother was never around as a parent, was never around for the developmental process, etc, and then recently tried to return and make up for it. Of course the child will be upset - they felt betrayed. Acting in that manner would then be considered normal - it's a way the child may have developed to cope with conflicting feelings of hatred, love, betrayal, and confusion.

Of course, it's much easier to say something like, that woman is a pushover and no one knows how to raise children anymore.

I think that in general, many kids across the nation are not being raised properly. But it could be due to circumstances like, the parents having them when they weren't ready, weren't financially stable enough, did drugs, weren't responsible, media/social influences, etc. Or each isolated event could just be that - isolated events that although are coincidentally similar to other isolated events, doesn't necessarily mean that they are related or due to a cause/effect relationship. I don't think it's fair to think that way.

[Mermaid Allie]

This isn't exactly a bitch it out, but here I go. Last year, my freshman year, towards the end of the year, I got really frustrated and stressed with school, and personal problems (my aunt had lung cancer). The culmination of this stress happened one night, June 1st. I was really unhappy because my friends were turning into people I didn't want them to be. One was trying to be a slut, one was clinging to another so terribly that i never got a word in edgewise, and one didn't care about ANYTHING. Like she was so careless about school and everything. it was really annoying. So i talked to my best friend, who actually happened to be the careless one (lets call her beth), about how i was really sick of all the drama throughout the year and how everyone was being such a bitch. I got a bit carried away. It wasn't all that bad, i just said that i was really unhappy with this one girl (who we'll call Mary). Mary was pretending to be a slut and betraying everyone left and right. She ruined my relationship with two of my close guy friends. I decided that I was done with her. All she'd ever been was bossy to me anyways. Beth got beyond pissed, and began to tell everyone that I talked about what I said. I saw every single one of my friends turn on me. I tried to apologize. So much. To no avail. I ran away for about 2 hours, which resulted in my parents getting VERY pissed. Before freshman year, I had no friends. Middle school was hell. Finally in freshman year, i felt, for once, a part of a group of friends. It was a great year, until this incident. Anyways, I just really need some support right now, because its really hard to go through school as a teenager with nobody to talk to, and people that you have nothing in common with at your lunch table. I'm really reminded of this incident tonight, because its charity ball. Its a dance for high schoolers in my city. Last year, we all went together, and it was one of the best nights of my life. I had nobody to go with, and you really can't go alone, its not safe and you look like an idiot. So I'm sitting here, at my computer, alone again with nobody to talk to. Some girls that I thought were my friends didn't invite me to go with them when I dropped hints. I'm shy, so I don't want to outright say, can i go with you? Plus those girls were friends with mary and beth. I just need some support right now because I feel like nobody cares.

[Mermaid Celissa]

Oh gosh, Allie! I'm so sorry! Wanna talk on the ChatBox?

Okay, here's my rant on myself. I hate my attitude. Whenever two of my best friends (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3tmT6yhQrQ0 white and yellow shirts) do something irritating or just don't feel like talking to me, I get upset and/or ticked off. But the thing is, it's ME who's irritating. I hate it, but I bother them. Then when they get frustrated with me for it, I get mad at THEM. Ugh. The girl in the yellow in the video is on the forum. If you're reading this, B, sorry I act like that >_<. Also, I am SPOILED. And I HATE being spoiled because I get mad at my dad if we're at Wal-Mart or something and he doesn't buy me something I want. He really can't afford it, but does it anyway. I just hate taking advantage of my dad, I don't want to, but I'm spoiled into it. Anyways. Moo.

[New York Mermaid]

Highly upset at the moment, I've been having on again/off again knee pain in my right knee for a week now. Yesterday my knee kept buckling and i kept losing my balance everywhere. This morning i could barely move my knee and the pain went up to my hip. I went to the doctor for them to do a check and an X-ray, they prescribed me some meds and i got to go to an Orthopedic doctor thursday. December 6th because theres a "chance i tore my meniscus tendon" - and that is not good.

On December 29th, i have a Really Important (i mean their all important, but still) mermaid swim party whose mother is a big time promoter, she even offered to take me on. Im hoping its nothing big.. i really want to do this party.

[Thalassa]

Wow, hard times! Be warned, I might now start sounding like a fortune cookie or something. XP

Allie: Drama is so hard. High school drama just sucks. It's not easy to not worry about it, but it does get better. It's hard to be alone, too, I know. Just know you're not alone...in being alone, does that make sense?

Celissa: A little while ago I realized I wasn't a very good friend when my friend called me on it. I was really upset and first and it almost broke our friendship, but I realized she was right! I started to think about the things I did that weren't what a friend would do. For a while I was really upset with myself and wondered if I even deserved her friendship. But I started working on improving when we're together, and now I'm doing better. I'm not perfect, but better. So don't let yourself get stuck at the "I'm mad at me" stage. Make some small improvements, they'll lead to big changes!

Lanai: Yikes! I'll keep you in my thoughts, sending good wishes. I hope you're able to do your party!

[Mermaid Allie]

I would mermaid celissa, but I have to submit this huge AP European history essay by midnight, and I have yet to revise it. Thank you for your support )
Awww mermaid Lanai stay strong! You'll do the party don't worry! Just remember RICE Lolol and stretching! that worked great when I had tendonitis!

[New York Mermaid]

thanks for the tip allie,

im being tough about this, just upset cause man this little girl im doing the party for doesnt even know im coming! im the "suprise" for her because their celebrating her birthday and her achievement of getting over her fear of water and learning how to swim!. And she's nuts about mermaids. So i want to do it so bad. I'll keep positive thoughts here. thanks for the good vibes..

[mermaid wolf]

Abbz, Your not annoying. Your my best friend and always have been! I love you like a sister! Even when we hit each other with shovels in pre-school. If i ever act like im mad at you im not, I just have things on my mind that i need to talk about but, just cant say. Your not spoiled. Your amazing, beautiful, talented, have a great voice, The list could go on forever! I love you Abbz! Your special! If anything happened to you i would never be the same. Your a very BIG part of my life! I will always be here for you, through thick and thin, No matter what .Just know, you can always come to me for anything, even if im not in my brightest mood. Ill be here for you!

[Thalassa]

That's so sweet, Lanai! I can see why you want to do the party so badly. *fingers and fins crossed for you*

[New York Mermaid]

Brace yourself this is going to be a long one,

My sister who has two very spoiled little girls (im serious, 20 gifts per girl, minimum spent $200. each) Who spends $1800 on a bag, $500 bucks on a dance school for my nieces, who hate going. and Buys nothing but "fashion trendy" clothes while she doesnt work and her husband works 2 jobs. Has me at my end rope here. She stole and i mean stole, my mothers identity and bought $1,000 in MACYS and left my mom to pay the bill. My mother is fuming, because she barely has enough money to survive. I even help her when i can. She only does baby sitting jobs (shes 65 yrs old) And is trying to get some money to pay this thing off. Meanwhile my sister is complaining that she doesnt have enough money but spends about 30-40 a night every other night at a nightclub, while her husband works at night. I told my mom to press charges on my sister for doing this, but my mom being my mom she doesnt want to. I cant really help my mom with alot, but when i can I do. . My Sister LOVES to take advantage of everyone and is a cheap.... *not so nice name* Person. This ticks me off so much cause my mom isint in her best at the moment they took off her medicaid and she is sick but refuses to go to the doctor. Im just like so stuck between a rock and a hard place.

My mom did and has done everything she could to help me through my life even insisted help my husband pay for the wedding, when all we asked her to do is pay for her dress. She even helped me get this apartment. She even got super excited when i told her i was doing the mermaid parties (cause she secretly wanted to be a weeki wachee mermaid- and now she has a mermaid in the family lol) She loves to proudly tell everyone Im a mermaid. (shes awesome at word of mouth, because of her i got my first 3 gigs, i cant thank her enough about it) I wish i could help my mom do something and i cant. *Tail lobs angrily*

[Mermaid Crystal]

I HATE RUMORS! I told my PE coach that a kid threw up and then he thought that i threw up. Some people need to clean out their ears once in a while

[Shivice]

So in 2010, I ended up dislocating my kneecap. Thankfully I didn't tear anything, almost but didn't. Last year being in the colorguard for marching band, I was expected to not show any pain when my knee was swollen and irritated. Then some of the team mates come up to me one day and ask me " Stephanie, you shouldn't wear your knee brace because you can see it from under the uniform." Seriously!!? I need it for a reason. Unless you want me needing surgery. Some people don't understand, and it's so frustrating. Ghah!!!