B!TC# IT OUT!

[Miyu]

Mizuko, that sucks. You are awesome! I'm glad your parents are ok with you distancing yourself from her. But by golly, you have fun swimming in Thailand, and pretty please bring us back some video/pics! If she's too mean while you're there, I would totally just ditch the wedding and go swimming, and maybe show up for cake at some point in the reception if you feel like it LOL!

Varshana - Really, sister, I totally know the feels. ((HUGS)) Uber suckage. No bueno. I pretty much agree with Frenchie's gif-laden reply. I can't explain why people feel the need to hurt others; I get hurt by almost everyone who's been in my life on a regular basis, and I've never been able to figure out why... I guess I'm a push-over? So I am of no help there, sadly. I can offer a sympathetic ear, though.

Frenchie: You and the gifs :P

[Anahita]

I have problems with my younger sister, who likes to bully me. She used to be physically abusive but I felt I couldn't fight back because she's smaller than me, younger than me, any excuse you could find. After she started hitting me in the head with shoes while I was sleeping, I laid into her and now she's not physically abusive anymore. She's got some issues but thankfully, our relationship is better now than it used to me.

My little sister used to be like that too. I think come high school for me I just got so pissed I lost my cool and punched her as hard as I could (I figured at that point I was only 14 years old and sickly, while she was ten or eleven and pretty healthy, so the playing field was even by my count). After the little squabble that ensued all serious physical fights came to an end. I got a busted lip and a few chunks of hair pulled out and she got a chunk of cheek scratched out. I honestly would have done it sooner if it weren't for the fact that my mother let her do it because I "did something to deserve it". :P

Thankfully now that she's an adult, she just thinks she's smarter/cleverer than me... So we'll see how that goes. I'm not laying in wait to laugh at her, but I am definitely going to tell her "I told you I knew better than you" when sh*t hits the fan. (Which it kind of already is since she's living in her car with her boyfriend that's 15 years older than her and refuses to get a job).

[Merman Dan]

I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

[Mizuko]

Thank you so much everyone <3 I really really appreciate it. I feel like I dont talk about the carp she puts me through, so its nice to be able to tell someone :3
What makes me sad, is how common this bullying within families is. Like, its NOT ok, no matter how they are related to you, but people seem to turn a blind eye toward it? I have friends who dont take me seriously because my sister is 'nice' to them. When I'm a parent, I'm sure as heck going to pay close attention to how my children treat eachother!!

[mermaidwhisperer]

ohmigosh I had to giggle at *carp* being that this is an ocean inclined site. I know. My sense of humour is a bit *fishy*

[Ariel-Starfish]

AAARGHHH!!! Now I just had it!! Here goes: Doday I went for a swim in my local pool, and after doing my usual laps I tried to ask the lifeguard if i could bring my tail with me next time.
He was really impressed and I told him how it looked like and how I swim etc etc. He told me I could try It sometime ONLY when there where not much people in the pool for safety. My mom stood there beside me with a face like 'omg here she goes again. ( She already tried to stop me from asking this, my parents won't let me use my tail in public places).

And later on, after dinner whe came back to subject and told my dad.

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

[Mermaid Varshana]

I have Aspergers too. It took a lot of resourcefulness and courage, but I moved out at the age of 25. I'll tell you...I can't even imagine moving back in again. It makes your relationship with your parents a lot less stressful, and you life all around improves.

[ShyMer]

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

They doesn't sound very supportive of things you care about :/

Do you have any friends that would be willing to help you? I think it would make the lifeguards feel better about you using the pool in your tail if you and the people with you are confidant about the whole situation.
This might help your parents see that you mean business and it's nothing to be embarrassed or concerned about as well.

That's awesome that you found a pool with a deep area to use your tail in. I bet they'll love you!
I'm looking forward to doing some serious swimming myself this weekend at a few lakes nearby. Super excited! The water's gross, but there shouldn't be as many people, so I'm looking forward to stretching my fins. Up until now I've had to paddle around in tiny backyard pools. I feel extra sympathy for fish in tiny containers

[Mermaid_Dominique]

He was a bit meh at first and he did not want to go with me for putting my tail on. Them my mom starts on how embarissing it would be , me laying down and putting on my freaky-ish mermaid tail for everyone to see.

So I just said nothing and went upstairs..... :/

Mom told me She would let me swim in a hotel pool nearby to take some pictures, but it's not the same. (my local pool has a really deep space in the pool and I really want to try my monofin's full speed)

My parents alway's have been over protective, (also becuse of my Autism) but still...why don't they support me in this for once?

I now feel like the 'annoying teenager' atm, even if i'm 24 0_o

I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/

[SeaGlass Siren]

I am the youngest of three brothers and endured my fair share of abuse from my brothers, in my youth.

I am patiently waiting for the day when they are in nursing homes. Then I shall put unripe persimmons in their tapioca pudding and order will be restored.

I must remember this method

[Ariel-Starfish]

I know how you feel, my parents divorced about 4/5 years ago and I live with my mother now. We are very close but she really isn't into mermaiding stuff and all that. I tried to warm her up a bit because I'm making a silicone mermaid tail at my boyfriends' house and I would love her to know about it and support me. I told her about the community and stuff and she wasn't really interested and found it all a bit strange. I decided not to tell her about it, or any other relatives because I know they would never approve, they're a bit old fashioned. I'm really irritated about it because it feels like they don't accept a part of me that I finally embraced after all these years. :/

Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

[Mermaid_Dominique]

Thanks for all the replays everyone! <3

my parents know I love my hobby, but they always think I go 'to far' with these things... They always have been very supportive for me and I'm thankful for that! But on the other hand they never let me go get a challange or how do you call it? I just think it's my weird combo of having Autism and really bad eyes...

Could be possible, I have a sister with autism and my mother was/is always very protective of her. I can imagine how it must be for you. It's wonderful that they are very supportive, I think it's a big step for them to let go because parents always want the best for their child, no matter how old he or she is haha .

[Elle]

On Wednesday we got a call from the hospital telling us that my fiancée's second youngest brother has been in a motorcycle accident. So obviously we all went down to the hospital that he was in to go see him. He had broken his leg in two place and fractured his pelvis. He also sustained a head injury and was concussed.
We got down there just after lunch and went in to see him. Kyle (fiancée) stepped out to make a phone call while I was talking to his brother. When Kyle came back his mother was with him, sporting a black eye with her pupils the size of dinner plates, and the first words out of her mouth her "You need to get out of here, this is for family only. You aren't a part of this family, you need to leave." I said fine and left. Kyle followed not before telling the security guard on duty to keep and eye on his mother because she's being a bit un reasonable. She also tried to stop Kyle's Son from coming with us, and caused him a bit of pain, that wasn't much fun
I told Kyle if this is how she's going to act, I don't want her coming to the wedding. Kyle agreed with me.
So I was sitting in the waiting room looking at photos and videos on my mobile with my stepson when dearest mother in law came out. She said sorry but "it's for family only so people who aren't family shouldn't be in there" while she was trying to get my partners son off the seat to take him back in to the emergency room. I told her I didn't care there where better ways to go about it rather than being that rude. That must have triggered something as she went off her nut, telling me I shouldn't be posting horrible things about her on my facebook, or texting her nasty things (which I think is interesting as she's not on my facebook and have never posted anything about her on it, I don't have her mobile number and I don't have any money on my phone.)
I asked to see the texts that I had supposedly sent her and she was unable to show me anything. She went to say that I "didn't have a son", and that "I didn't have a son in hospital". Now I know that Kyle's son isn't my son, but seeing as I have been that person in his life since he was 18 months old (he's almost 6 and a half now), he calls me mum, and I have had to go to hospital with him before so I was pissed, I wanted to hit her. But I restrained myself, told her to stop talking to me, to get out of my face and I turned around and refused to face her. At this point I was called a rude bitch, along with a 100kg Fat Heifer and how dare I turn my back on her. Now I know I'm a bigger girl, but I'm not 100kg (220lb) I'm more like 80kg (176lb) She then decided it would be a good idea to threaten my physical safety and my life stating "I'll get you bashed, they turn you upside down and inside out" "You won't be around anymore after this". I concentrated on shielding my step son so he didn't have to see her carry on like this, while a security guard that had been sent to follow her asked her if she like to step into a quiet room. Kyle was trying to move my mother in law away from me (with her screaming "don't you touch me") and I picked up my step son up and moved away as he was close to crying with his hands over his ears.

Kyle and I walked out of the hospital, while I was still carrying my step son and went around the corner to sit down and relax. He was so concerned about his Nana following us that he kept looking down the street to make sure she wasn't there.
We had to wait 2 hours before she left so that we could go back to the hospital. In that time my mother in law sent Kyle numerous texts defending herself, saying I was in the wrong and how dare I waltz in uninvited on a family situation.
Kyle and I both decided (again) that it would be best if she didn't come to the wedding (less than 2 months away now). Neither of us wanted her there after that performance. So now we're at the point of uninviting her to the wedding. What fun for us

[Mermaid Varshana]

Crazy people are awesome, no? I also had the unfortunate job of uninviting a rude crazy person who was close to us from our wedding. You made the right decision. It won't be pleasant and there will be lots of dumb posturing, but then you'll have a better, less drama filled wedding because of it.

[AniaR]

Elle, she sounds like a typical borderline personality disorder mom. I have one, and they are so much more common than people realize. This is a great forum for people who have someone with BPD in their life, but even if she doesn't have BPD (most are undiagnosed) the forum acts for people who show symptoms, which she certainly does. So check it out http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/ Check out this specific area, I bet you if you read some posts, they'll start ringing a bell http://bpdfamily.com/message_board/i...5f9&board=11.0 could give you great pointers. If you think this really applies to her I have awesome books for you! <3

[Miyu]

Hey, at least there will be no drama at the wedding! (everyone, ignore your phones! ) Good for you for making that decision. I know it's hard, but seriously that lady sounds pretty messed up, and it's just not good to be around that kind of stuff. ((HUGS))

[Joy&RaptorsUnrestrained!]

Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.

[New York Mermaid]

Stupid Thyroid!! I'm sick of this- I cant catch a break here, I train hard, walking/running miles, swimming or good ole' cardio for 1 -2 hours daily, I eat portioned high fiber meals and stay away from Starches and other fatty things. i drink lots of water and i gained 10 lbs in 2 months!!.

This is unacceptable, I'm trying to loose weight, I go to the docs today I get my thyroids checked (ugh needles :/ ) and once again they are acting up. I'm <---> this close to get them removed, but that results in taking a pill for the rest of my life. im about ready to put myself on a rice cake and soup diet.. cheese, this month keeps getting better and better

[Mermaid Momo]

Ok... I am really ticked off now, so I have to vent.

You know what?

In the time I took writing a thorough discussion and argument proving my points above and explaining my thought process on the mermaid tarot thread, I could've written a whole chapter of a book, another article, or fill in about a dozen of the cards and archetypes... and all some people can come up with is an eloquently worded "nuh-uh!"? I'm insulted.

Too bad. There are at least three mermaid oracle decks out there. They can go buy one of them.

I'm sorry you feel that way I really hope you continue with the tarot though, I really like where it was going!

[SeaGlass Siren]

Joy&raptors if it's about who I think you're referring to, I think you have every right to be upset.