But he just agreed we can keep it platonic for the time being. Oh thank the gods.
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But he just agreed we can keep it platonic for the time being. Oh thank the gods.
Hi Sabrina! I don't know you at all, but I have to tell you, the exact same thing happened to me in my junior year. I was going to be a senior, the interested party was going into the air force academy two states away. It didn't work out for us, haha, but it sounds like you've got a good, confident head on your shoulders. You'll handle things maturely whether y'all end up making a go of it or not. Good luck to you and your friend.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sabrina the Selkie
Thank you. I have a feeling we'll end up keeping it platonic for now, and end up together for at least a little while when he's back. Who knows.
And ANOTHER issue: he's also my dear, dear friend's ex boyfriend. (The one I was talking about in my Ohio rant about being useless to help my friend with her Ohio troubles and her littlest brother against the rampages of the middle child. That's a few pages back on this thread)
Oh wow. That is quite a complication. Good luck again!Quote:
Originally Posted by Sabrina the Selkie
Taking things in a totally different direction, I am sick TO DEATH of mansplaining and the general fragility of “masculinity”.
I train in powerlifting three days a week, and have for about the last year. One of my friends mentioned in a FB status that he was having trouble getting a bench at his gym because it is so busy there. Some guy posted a meme about chest day v. leg day. Chuckle chuckle, hardee har har. No advise, no pertinent information. So I told my friend what I usually do when the benches are stacked six deep in dude-bros… I roll a moveable bench over to the power rack and do my bench press on that after I do my squats. You get some weird looks, but no more so than you do for bringing boobs into the weight room in the first place. Anyway, he said he’d never though of that, that the power rack is usually not as busy as the benches at his gym and that he’d try it. We proceeded to have a nice little equitable conversation about the subject. All of a sudden, here’s Mr. M’lady McMeme, back with information about what exercise my friend should do instead of flat bench/any of the things I’ve said. Mind you it’s an hour after his original comment, and we’ve had a whole conversation about lifting that he decides to pretend hasn’t even happened, and certainly didn’t spawn his sudden burning need to be helpful. DO YOU EVEN LIFT, BRO?! DID YOU JUST GOOGLE THAT, BRO? I will fight you.
Ugh. Feel that. Used to take Karate, and gyeeeeeh.
!!!!!!!!!
(Mr. M'lady McMeme is now my favorite thing lol)
Right?
They shoved me off over the interview, and said they were full, even though a day before, said they were hiring.
Went to GameXChange yesterday, and the gentlemen in there and i had a 2 hour long convo about pokemon, then they proceeded to tell me "you are the hottest nerd we've ever met. We're hiring!" I got the app and am turning it in this week.
Im not worried about being hit on by them, because i am used to it and can handle it, but i dont have "real" job experience.
It sounds to me like you already have the job and it's better than the Xian pizza parlor! Good for you!
Ha! lol, love that. And yes, I similar with anything to do with Linux. Guy asks, "Hey who all uses Linux?" I answer, and a few guys, and next thing I see is replies to the guys, with no acknowledgment whatsoever of what I just said, as if they have a filter on that doesn't allow them to see women in the thread. Very annoying.Quote:
Originally Posted by Elodea the Mermaid
Except among my friends. I don't associate with numbskulls, so my guy friends are not the sort to don those blinders, or to mansplain an hour after a conversation was had.
Considering he's a few years older than you, and pulling the whole sympathy thing to get a date, please, please please, don't fall for that. If he makes you feel uncomfortable in anyway, get out of there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Sabrina the Selkie
Oh my, I didn't take that as literal when I read it the first time. Definitely a HUGE red flag if he wasn't joking.Quote:
Originally Posted by IllynReaver
oh gosh, SPEAKING of mansplainning, i was talking about comics (well specifically ant-man and the wasp) so i should have expected it considering fake fan boys just cankt help themselves) and at first he throws a bunch of shit comic facts at me like that automatically means he is right and of course i argue right back but i notice he is basically ignoring my points and just keeps talking about things that happened in the comics that at this point are irrelevant.
luckily he eventually realized him throwing random comic book scenarios wasn't gonna make me stop so he eventualy did. thank god, it was still annoying as heck though, like he couldnkt just leave me be, like he HAD to try and tell me why it was ok that ant man is getting a movie while the wasp is basically being killed off, which as you can guess is bullshit.)
I've dealt with guys who have used that tactic before. I just want her to be safe. Even if he agreed to be platonic, personally I'd still keep my guard up.Quote:
Originally Posted by Elodea the Mermaid
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Oh no, he was DEFINITELY joking. And I don't fall for that shit anyway. I was just annoyed that he'd even joke like that.
The point is, we've been friends for years, and we're both comfortable with keeping it that way for the time being..
And good luck Shimmer!
But just so you get the context, we were being piratey and Davy Jones Locker came up, and then he made a joke about going there and that we should subsequently go on a date. I glowered and said he wasn't going nowhere. And then we talked about potential relationship crap and he was understanding about the whole thing.
Lyrique posted an amazing picture of her and some others swimming in Hawaii and I feel jealous because I haven't been able to do stuff like that and might never.
It'll happen Chatfish. I'm sure it will.
I am so frustrated.
For the past few days I have been overwhelmed with emotions and mostly consternation about things that really are not a big deal when put in perspective.
I sobbed because of year long heartbreak.
I sobbed because I won't get to swim before I leave CO
I sobbed because I had to choose if going to Ohio for a job was financially reasonable.
After a day of that nonsense, I told myself the next day would be better. Those things were thought of and finished and I would lay in my tent and read and not worry.
But no.
Today one of my old bosses (whom I have a fair slew of problems with, though I will not get into those just now) tells me that he has a gig for me in another state if I want it.
UGH
UUUUUUUAAAAARGH
I cannot accept it for /so many reasons/
The very least of which is that I don't have a tail (which is not the purpose of this rant and don't worry Pearlie, we are good)
And I am 99% sure it is a nonpaying gig where I could get tips but I cannot rely on that to pay my bills
AND
I am pretty much also sure that he expects me to be his assistant 4 times a day and mermaid in between.
How is that feasible? How do I get to my location, mermaid for a bit, shoo people away so I can change, magicly not be seen, take my makeup off, work for him, put my makeup on, and get back in the tail /without being seen or having my stuff fucked with while I am gone/, and then get back in the grove before doing it all again?
Plus the drive there is inordinately stressful and since I would be arriving a week late, there would not be a camping spot for me.
I just hate to have to say no and shoot myself in the foot for that job in the future. Well. Part of that job. Mermaiding there.
Just.
I know I have to say no. I just don't want to deal with all this consternation right now.
(And no, this is not a gig I can pass along so please, don't ask)
I can't just ignore him and when I tell him no, he will inevitably guilt trip me.
How are you ever going to be a great performer if you don't perform?
People would do so much for the /privilege/ to work for me
If you had managed to book a gig, your tail would be done by now (not how it works, ass)
Why don't you just borrow or rent one? (Not how it freaking works. And spend what money I do make renting a costume?!)
Just...
:(
I just needed to get that off my chest before I wailed aloud and disturbed the neighbors...
:(
No fun. That sounds really wail worthy.
Hey Aysun_the_Mermaid, that’s truly frustrating. Your not alone, many have swam that stream before you. As for your old boss, well he’s a part timer in your life. A Mermaid does need a wrangler, a wrangler needs a Mermaid! And what Aysun_the_Mermaid needs is smiling faces awestruck/inspired and more money.
As with any business you’ll need to get the word out and build a referral base. I can imagine money’s tight, lets start with Craigslist. You need a jpg version of a business card. This piece needs to be right, it’s the only way they have to judge you until they call. The card has to have an image or likeness of your Mermaid self, hair done right, poised such that they want to meet you. Guessing children would be the largest party market your likeness is for them. We need the categories you want to work- greeting, posing for photos, party entertainer, model. Where you can work “Giving them ideas”
Poolside, lakeside, birthdays, anniversaries, business functions, etc.
Titling your add “Meet A Real Mermaid-They do exist!” Play the part, be an actress.
You can create large postcard ad with the business card image on it, anywhere someone leaves a business card, you leave your ad card. Vistaprint.com is what I use.
Every opportunity to talk with a parent is an opportunity to send your message. Be persistent! Business comes in waves. If someone can’t afford a Mermaid today, they have friends- hand out the cards.
Keep your message alive, a seashell hair beret, mermaid neckless. You are your own Ad.
When Aysun the Mermaid is with people you are making the world a happier more wondrous place. You can be a motivating force for a person’s whole life.
Show special, because you are!
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oh wow, yesterday was a full year since I was admitted to treatment. I think I'm getting a headache, I miss it so much.
Stuck hiding being transgender and pagan. Just the other day I got told that being anything but catholic is not allowed in my house! I can't even see a therapist because my parents think that I shouldn't be complaining and that I should respect god more. I'm tired of suffering with no way to see a professional! O well off to college in the fall, I'll be able to see help there hopefully
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On behalf of Christians, I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. I hope you know not all of us Christians are like that. If you ever need someone to just vent to, please feel free to message me! :hug:Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Muir
Like Raina said, it really bothers me when people use their religion to hate on people. They completely missed the point of what Jesus called us to do. Oi... :'<
While I can't say I understand what you're going through being transgender (while sympathetic I am not transgender and it doesn't sit well for me to claim I know what you're going through because well, I don't) I COMPLETELY understand feeling fearful/wary/frustrated/all alone in the pagan department.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid Muir
Living in the south and being a pagan is difficult sometimes to put it lightly and downright dangerous at worst (no offense to any Christians, I <3 those that are tolerant and awesome). I've been spit on, threatened, stalked, assaulted, and discriminated against either because someone found out I was pagan or they recognized a (very small) piece of jewelry that I (ironically) wear as both protection and as a symbol of my faith.
That being said, Unitarian Universalists tend to be super awesome and open, as well as Buddist temples. I've found both to be safe havens and have had members physically protect me before until police/authorities were called to the danger had passed. Also, there are usually A LOT more pagans in your area than you'd think (at least in the south).
College is awesome and you should TOTALLY take advantage of student services. Also, college towns are generally MUCH more open-minded to just about everything.
If you can get to a Unitarian Universalist church and explain your situation, I have found they will help. I have seen Unitarians pose as friends for people in your type of situation to throw off the scent of their families so they could get help (of any kind) and just be themselves.
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@muir like others have already said, take full advantage of help and support you can get while at college. Growing up in a strict Christian home I can relate to that and I'm also pagan. Best of luck, and know that getting away from home helps a lot.
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I'm really pissed off to see so much hate on the internet over Caitlyn Jenner's acceptance speech about the award she received. Why can't people just fuck off and go on with their own lives?! It makes me so mad to watch all these trolls throwing shade and hate behind a computer. I'm thinking about Jazz and I really find her inspiring and brave to put up with all that crap. I hope her show on TLC will work.
Rant done.
Yes. Arion. Feel.
And Muir, I'm not transgender, but definitely Pagan. My mom was totally supportive of that until she realized that it wasn't a faze and the altar wasn't going away.
She's from a Mexican Baptist family, so while she's denounced any religion whatsoever, she has a vague sense of a singular God. As well as that end of the family's talent in passive aggression. *sigh*. Oddly enough, I got more support on that front from my Dad, who calls himself "selectively" Christian Scientist and minds not at all that his wife (my step-mom) is selectively Catholic and his daughter is a traditionalist Pagan.
But enough about my fairly good fortune in that regard. The point is, Muir, you'll find support in the places you'd least expect, and as others have said, your town probably has a lot more Pagans in it then you think. You just need to find them.
Beyond that, there ARE Christians like Lotus_Blooming who will accept you whole heartedly.
CheshireKat is TOTALLY right about Unitarian Universalists. And about Buddhists too. They WILL accept you, and help you if you need it.
Good luck!
I hope you've flat out told him NO! Leave that manipulating fool behind. He is not worth your time or energy. There are plenty more gigs in the sea (once I finish your tail!).Quote:
Originally Posted by Aysun_the_Mermaid
Hugs, hugs and more hugs!
Honestly, in my scramble to not deal with him I told him that I couldn't accept because my tail was not complete and tried to leave it at that.Quote:
Originally Posted by PearlieMae
He told me to throw more money at you and pick it up on the way to the gig and so a few hours later I told him that that was not possible. Then he told me to borrow the one from work and I told him that was not possible and he should know better and somehow it went from him asking to me asking so I called my other boss and confirmed that it was a no and hopefully he will leave me alone for the time being.
Cheshire, IllynReaver, and Sabrina, I'm so sorry you've had such horrible experiences with these "Christians," but I'm darn positive they don't know the Lord if they're not loving. That's a verse, actually. 1 John 4:8. Ugh, I'm just so sorry! :hug:
So I got fired from my job because I "didn't seem happy in the job" and I would "freeze with clients and it didn't seem like I cared" so now I need to find a new job because I'm starting college soon and I want to move out. The bosses were crazy. Apparently another front desk girl got fired for the same reasons and was hired back soon after. Also they were interviewing people in the room next to where they were firing me.. At the same time. I worked at least 20 hours in the past 2 weeks and they only paid me $90. On the bright side we'll probably get a puppy and I'll have more time to work on mermaiding and modeling. That's my rant for the day.
:: hugs :: thanks hun, it means a lot.Quote:
Originally Posted by Lotus_Blooming
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Oh yeah, New Jersey is SO on the way.Quote:
Originally Posted by Aysun_the_Mermaid
No problem. Really. Message me anytime!!! :) <3
@lotus_blooming thank you for that :) I really wish more people were accepting and loving towards others.
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